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Navigating Summer Holiday Food Challenges
Ever noticed how summer holidays turn your carefully cultivated nutrition habits upside down? Those weeks when kids are constantly home, snacks are everywhere, and social outings revolve around food can feel like nutritional quicksand. But what if these challenges are actually revealing something much deeper about your relationship with food?
This powerful episode tackles the uncomfortable question many parents avoid: If certain foods aren't good enough for you to eat, why are they acceptable for your children? We explore how our childhood food experiences shape our adult eating patterns and—most importantly—how everything we do around food and body image is being observed and internalized by our children, whether we realize it or not.
Rather than offering quick fixes or restrictive rules, this conversation digs into the emotional roots of our food challenges. From using food as a substitute for connection to viewing treats as expressions of love, we uncover the hidden dynamics that make summer nutrition so challenging. You'll discover practical strategies like creating "posh picnics" instead of defaulting to soft play cafe visits, planning your social calendar with intention, and finding non-food ways to show love and create meaningful experiences with your family.
The ultimate question isn't just about surviving summer without weight gain—it's about the food legacy you're creating for your children. Do you want them struggling with the same eating patterns when they're 40 or 50 years old? This episode provides a compassionate framework for breaking generational patterns and modeling the healthy relationship with food you want your children to inherit.
Whether you're a parent, grandparent, or caregiver, these insights will transform how you approach not just summer eating challenges, but your entire relationship with nutrition and the powerful messages you're passing to the next generation.
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I put up a story a week ago asking about the summer holidays and your biggest struggles and challenges. When I was bringing up my children, when they were very, very little, I remember the summer holidays being quite a source of stress for me. I didn't have loads and loads of caregivers and because I worked in the evening, it didn't feel normal or natural for me to ask for help in the day because I was available. And what I realized in hindsight is how much I expected of myself, because there's not a lot of people that would work a full shift in the evening and then also spend all day with their children. It's usually one or the other. Now, that's not to say there aren't people doing that for sure, and it's not to say that, you know, my situation was any particular magical unicorn snowflake situation. But I also do realise that at the time I thought that that was a really normal thing to do. Whilst it was very, very stressful, I didn't feel I could ask for help, and it all comes back to my limiting beliefs of caring too much about what people would think of me if I couldn't handle it all and do it all myself. Now I reflect on it. I was asking a lot of myself. So the fact that I've been able to come out of the other end of this unscathed somewhat is a miracle, and I really want to share a lot about what I've learned and how I think I would do things differently now was I, you know, given the chance, I asked you on my stories what you felt were the biggest challenges for you and I gave a couple of options. Now, obviously, there's not limited to these options, but these are the key things that I could imagine a lot of people would struggle with, and they were nutrition, they were exercise, there was stress and also eating in social situations, and one of the biggest, biggest, biggest things I mean each one of those things had people who were open to vote and share their struggle, which I'm so grateful for, because it gives me a really good insight into how I can help you more. But also, you know, putting yourself out there can feel sometimes quite vulnerable. So I really, really appreciate you you sharing that with me.
Speaker 1:But I thought that I would make a series to help you, if you are open to it, on how I would potentially do things differently if I could go back in time, and maybe these little nuggets will also help you, because I think that the summer holidays, they are one of those times in a child's life that you can either really look forward to or really not look forward to, depending on the game plan, the expectation I feel like for me. I don't really have amazing memories of my own summer holidays, which is awful to say, and it's not to say that the people in my life didn't do the best that they possibly could with the resources and the means and all the rest of it. So I'm not it's not to say that at all it's just that I feel like in today's day and age, what parents feel that they need to give their children in order to feel how do I put this? I feel like parents want to give their kids everything, and I just remember a time for me where we were kind of left to our own devices in terms of making our own entertainment, but also we were, we were looked after by child minders and things, and I remember that being something that I didn't particularly enjoy, if I'm honest.
Speaker 1:We were we. We used to have a babysitter or, sorry, a babysitter, a childminder who would was also in charge of the local play school, so every day she would go and set up this play school, and I think we ended at about midday, if I remember correctly, and so my job, with my sister, was to actually go and help. So essentially we were looking after little kids all day setting up this play school, and then in the afternoon we would maybe go with her to do her food shop or whatever else, and then in the afternoon we sat and we watched soaps until we went home, and I just kind of remember that being a routine in our summer. That's not to say that that wasn't the right thing for us to be doing at the time, it's just. You know, what I'm seeing now is lots of parents stressing and agonising over giving their kids the best summers ever, and often that can mean that they are worrying about finances, they are putting their own priorities on the back burner, and that always comes down first and foremost to their health, because I feel like a lot of people think of their health as a nice to have. You know something that I can do when you know so and this was me as well, by the way like this was exactly how I thought about things. I always had that mindset of things will be easier when my kids are at this point. Things will be easier when my kids are at that point. Things will be easier when my kids are at that point.
Speaker 1:Rather than seeing my health as the most important thing, the thing that should be in sole rule of my day and everything else fits underneath that and for anybody who feels the same way that I did, I want to give you that permission now just to actually decide that you are the most important thing and should be the most important thing in your life and that actually, whilst it can feel uncomfortable maybe if you aren't used to putting yourself first or creating a day around your health whilst that can feel very uncomfortable, it's really, really necessary, not just for you, but for your children and for your partner and for the people in your life, because as soon as I started making it a priority, I became a nicer person. I was a nicer human being. I was nicer to be around. My only regret really is that I didn't do it sooner and I felt like I didn't deserve that.
Speaker 1:So this is all to say, that today we're going to be talking about nutrition, and I want you to think about the struggles that potentially you have as an adult now when it comes to your nutrition and what you would do differently if you could and what you don't want for your children. So I'm talking predominantly to the woman that has children and is looking after children, whether they are three months, three years, 13, or even 18, whoever's still living in the house, if you are responsible for them and, actually, if you are a grandparent. This is also a really, really key thing, because if you're a grandparent, then you're likely have had children of your own and what would you want your parents a grandparent, then you likely have had children of your own and what would you want your parents, who grandparented your kids, to do differently, you know? So this can all intertwine and if you are a grandparent, maybe you can share this with your child and maybe you know your other grandparent friends just to help them to see, maybe, things a little bit differently. I'm not saying that my way is the way or the only way, but sometimes it can be nice, maybe things a little bit differently. I'm not saying that my way is the way or the only way, but sometimes it can be nice to have a little bit of a different perspective on things. So let's get into it, let's think about your situation.
Speaker 1:Okay, a lot of parents are struggling with feeling like when the kids are at home, they have lots of different kinds of food in the house. Maybe there's lots of snacks, there's lots of kiddie food and temptation is there, and that can be a real source of struggle for a lot of people. Similarly, if you are at home, you may be a little bit bored. Let's be honest, you know, if you are around little people as much as that, you know you are on your feet all the time and busy doing stuff it can be emotionally and mentally draining because you aren't speaking to adults and, honestly, that has a massive, massive impact on your happiness generally. You might also be organising a lot of social things, whether that's soft play dates, whether that's pop play dates of local farms, theme parks, camping. You might also be socializing a lot more with your own friends. You know there's lots of things going on. Maybe there's a lot of hen do's or meals out or drinks with colleagues or what else holidays.
Speaker 1:There's so much going on over summer and we all want to get stuck and involved in them and it's really hard to feel like, well, okay, how can I? Let's say, weight loss is your goal? How can I still lose weight? How can I maintain my weight? How can I make sure that the things that I really want to do every single day for my health can still coincide with this new schedule? Okay, now, a lot of the things that I'm going to be talking about over this series are going to actually coexist together, so scheduling, for example. That needs to happen, whether we are talking about nutrition, we're talking about movement or we're talking about any healthy habits in general. So there will be a little bit of a crossover, but some people don't listen to every single episode, and so I think it's really important that I go into the depths of each of those things regardless.
Speaker 1:So, first of all, let's talk about what it is that you experienced as a child and what you would not want for your children. So let me break this down into simpler terms. Let's say that you spent the majority of your childhood being told that you must eat everything that's on your plate, or being told that you can only have a sweet treat when you've been good, or you know if you've noticed that you were rewarded with maybe you fell over in the playground, or whatever. You got rewarded with something tasty or typically off limits. Let's imagine that was your situation. Or, on the other side of things, let's imagine that you grew up in a household where your mum or people in your life were constantly on a diet. And I want you to ask yourself right now, of those experiences, which one of those, maybe all, maybe one, which of those do you feel has impacted you the most now as an adult? And the reason why this is so important is because everything that you are doing right now is going to be impacting the little people in your life.
Speaker 1:Bottom line, whether you think that you are hiding things from them really well or not, everything that you do they are watching and soaking up with a sponge. So even if you hide what you eat, let's just say you hide what you eat and you think, well, there's no way they could possibly know that I do that. They are going to be looking at you, looking at how you carry yourself, looking about looking at what you wear, looking about how you look at yourself or not in the mirror. They're going to be listening to your conversations with your friends about how you feel in certain outfits. Let's say you meet up with a friend for a coffee and your friend says, oh, that top's really nice and you aren't particularly great at taking compliments because you feel self-conscious about yourself or how you look. They are going to take in all of that, all of your mannerisms, the lot. So I want you to first of all think about what it is you want for them when they're your age. Once you start to have that kind of in your mind, it's much easier to then decide how you need to show up, and often how you need to show up for them is how you need to show up for you.
Speaker 1:And that is the first critical piece of the puzzle and, honestly, for me this was my main driving factor. I did not want my children growing up in a world where they saw me always on a diet or saw me disparaging of myself, saw me looking in the mirror and hating what I saw me like talking about myself badly to my husband or to my friends. I didn't want them to ever be in a world where that was a thing ever, and that really, really helped me to make some smart decisions and get out of a bit of a black hole. So I really want that to be. The first piece of advice I can give is to really look inside and think, like what do I want for them when they're 30, when they're 35, when they're 40, 50? What do I want for them? Do I want them to be a 60, 60 year old woman who is constantly trying to lose weight? Is life too short? What do I want them to be doing? What do I want them to be enjoying and experiencing at that time, and what can I do to help pave the way? That's the first thing.
Speaker 1:Once you've understood that, that is going to be the catalyst for your next few moves. So, based off that, what needs to change? Does your nutrition need to change? Does the way you bring food into the house like the choices you make around? What food comes into the house like the choices you make around what food comes into the house? Does that need to change? My question would be and this is probably going to irritate a lot of people so if this is going to irritate you and you know, put you back up then maybe this isn't the podcast for you, but I'm just sharing, like, how I feel.
Speaker 1:There's a lot of women that struggle with not snacking on their kids snacks and my question would be why are you bringing food into the house that doesn't support your health. Are you then saying that you don't care about your kids health? Do you see what I'm trying to say here? So let's say you have loads of kids snacks in the house. They're always asking for crisps and biscuits and whatever else, and so you bring that into the house and your issue is well, it's really hard, because when the kids are at home and they've got all their snacks and stuff, I really want to get into it as well. Why would you not eat those things? Why is it such a challenge for you to not eat those things? But why is it so okay for your kids? Does that make sense? I'm not. I often wonder if it does. So this all kind of stemmed honestly, like I'm gonna be cards on the table.
Speaker 1:I used to suffer massively from FOMO, fear of missing out. So if my partner, my boyfriend, my husband, my kids were eating anything that I really wanted to eat, I would sit there and be just really resentful, like why are you eating that? Like that's not okay. And it's because I really wanted the thing and I really knew that if I had it I would just eat the whole lot. And this is a really common thing Suffered massively, massively with it, and at the time it was because my why wasn't strong enough, the reason why I didn't want to eat that thing wasn't strong enough. It was because I just wanted to lose weight and I decided that, you know, weight loss was eating less, it was eating, quote unquote. Clean. It was eating was eating. You know, good food versus bad food all of the phrases and terminology that I now no longer believe in because I think it sets you up for a lifetime of a bad relationship with food. But I would sit there and I would feel like really begrudging and really annoyed that I couldn't have.
Speaker 1:And, by the way, like I chose the rule, like I said I couldn't have these things nobody else said that to me I decided I couldn't have these things, and so what I started doing was making sure that anything that was brought into the house was stuff that I didn't like. So, for example and this is a really great place to start, by the way what I, what I started doing, was I would bring things in that I didn't like. So if biscuits were a thing, I would make sure that I only brought in biscuits that I absolutely detested. Custard creams is one of them. Crisps right, weird crisps that my husband likes are space raiders, for God's sake. You know, you think you're marrying a man, but you're actually marrying a little boy. But stuff like that I do not like at all, so I would actually bring in things that I didn't like and it would prevent me from actually wanting them, which was a really helpful first step. I'm not saying it's a healthy step to go on with, but it can help right. If you are living in a household where you've got a partner who's really, really stubborn and really really wants the thing, then that can be a really good solution.
Speaker 1:I also took control of the food shopping, like if I was the one that had the boundaries and was the one that wanted to make sure that we ate really well as a family. I was going to take responsibility for that and, to be honest with you, that's always been ever since. That's been the thing, and I'm really pleased with that. What I find is, if me and my husband go to the supermarket which is honestly quite rare these days. We tend to do a lot of food shopping online he will put stuff in the basket or trolley that he just likes the look of, and I think that that's typical. To be honest, I think that's how supermarkets make a lot of their money off selling you stuff you don't really need or want, and with online shopping, it's a lot easier to be more strategic and planned and thoughtful and that's why, honestly, we moved over to online shopping.
Speaker 1:But I digress, I'm going down a whole different, a whole different railroad here, but that was the first kind of step for me was bringing in foods that I didn't like, that they were okay with. Then I realised that, actually, why would it be okay for me to think I want to be the best version of myself, I want to be really, really healthy. I want to age really, really well. I want to avoid medication for as long as possible, but not also treat my children and my partner now husband with the same respect. Now, at the end of the day, they will choose to eat however they want to eat.
Speaker 1:So if I make my, if I bring in loads of really healthy, nutritious food into the house and my husband decides that on his lunch break he is going to go to Burger King, well, that's his prerogative. Like he's his own person, he can do with that what he wants. He has his own set of values, but I don't have to agree with those values. To be honest, we do typically tend to agree on a lot of things, but that's a really key point to make is that we're all individuals. Similarly, when my kids leave home and they've got their own money and their own mouths to feed, they are going to make their own decisions and that's absolutely fine.
Speaker 1:My prerogative is that I set them up for success. I set them up without disordered eating or any of the challenges that maybe I feel that I faced or any of the challenges that maybe I feel that I faced. So that's really my why and that then helped me to transition over from okay, what are the most horrible snacks that I can bring in, so I don't eat them to okay, what food can I bring into the house that's going to teach these children what good nutrition should look like most of the time, without giving them a complex of. We only eat healthy food and you know, if you want bad things quote unquote you have to go out and find them yourself and give them another. You know, complex and what's actually going to teach them how to be independent and look after themselves? Because, ultimately, if you are a working mom as well, you really need to be getting into the mind frame of helping your children be self-sufficient. And it goes back to my values of I am raising independent adults. I am not trying to raise dependent toddlers. So everything that we do and every decision that we make is a question of how is this going to help move my children forward and remember that independence for a child is the greatest gift that you can give them. It's very, very empowering to teach somebody how to do something for themselves.
Speaker 1:So, for me, cooking for the children and teaching them how to put meals together in a really healthy, balanced way was my priority from pretty early on. It's something I'm really, really proud of, because that, for me, was something that I felt I gained from growing up, like we didn't have snacks in our house. We didn't grow up with bags of crisps in our house. If we were hungry, we had a choice we had apples, we had fruit and veg, we had sandwiches that we could make things like that. I remember being a teenager and making a lot of food. Yes, I made a lot of pasta and cheese. I think most teenagers do go through that phase, but I was given the gift of independence in that way, it was something that I really was grateful for and very grateful for.
Speaker 1:Now I want something that I want and do pass on to my children. So for me, the first thing, beyond thinking, how do you not want your children to grow up with? What limitations and mindset problems do you want your kids not to have to? Okay, what do I now need to do to ensure that we are setting great foundations for how I'm going to eat over the holidays, but ultimately, how they're going to eat over the holidays? And a lot of that is going to come down to what you're willing to do and what you're not. So one thing that was a struggle for me would be things like play dates, soft play, stuff like that. So if you are quite lonely, quite bored and that can happen as an adult you get quite bored taking your kids here, there and everywhere you can find yourself just looking for food just to entertain you and to soothe you. And I think once you kind of understand that and you get yourself in that mind frame of thinking is this what I'm doing? That can really help.
Speaker 1:For example, last week I had got a lot of work done and finished early for the day, but I didn't really know what else to do. Like I'd been for my walks, I'd read my book, I'd done all these things, and I just found myself standing in the kitchen thinking what can I eat? And I just asked myself am I actually hungry? And I realized I wasn't hungry at all. I was just really, really bored. And it actually took quite a little bit well, quite a little bit that doesn't make any sense, quite a lot of self-talk to move myself out of the kitchen because default was okay, I'm bored. What can I eat? What can I drink? Right, and I think that's a common common, a common thing for a lot of people.
Speaker 1:So you're, you imagine that you're at home for the holidays, the majority of the time. What is there to do? Eat and drink, you know. And then you are around people. You want to socialise with people and you want to relax, and a lot of people eat and drink to relax, you go to a soft play area or you take the kids out for the day. You want some source of enjoyment. Maybe you're sick to death of food, shopping and cooking and all the rest of it and you think, oh, let's just order a lunch, or let's just order a takeaway, or let's just have some cake and coffee. You're going to do that because you're overwhelmed, exhausted, a little bit stressed, a little bit fed up, a little bit burnt out, and it makes perfect sense, and this is exactly what happened to me. So what I would say is planning is everything. Planning, planning, planning.
Speaker 1:Look at how the best version of yourself wants to show up, and if you've ever been in a situation, this is a really good example If you've ever been in a situation where you got absolutely blind, drunk, like you drank way, way, way too much, and then the next morning you wake up and you say to yourself I am never going to do that again. Okay, when you think about that, yes, it's always a bit of an over-exaggeration because guaranteed like you'll do it again, right, but what I'm wanting you to do in that moment is focus in on the person that you are being in the moment. When you decide you're never going to do it again, you are speaking from the version of yourself that is really wants to take control. So I want you to take that example and I want you to use that to your advantage now. So, when you think about when you are your most empowered, confident, decisive self.
Speaker 1:Maybe that's on a Sunday, right? You know that typical start again on Monday cycle where on Sunday, you're like, right, I'm eating like crap all week, enough's enough. This week is going to be different. Right, it's probably not going to be different, but let's just say it is. When you start to make decisions from that vision and continue to make decisions from that vision, it can be really, really helpful. So use that to your advantage. So, rather than thinking okay, how is Monday going to be different and then start cutting back and cutting out and doing all the restriction, plan your entire week.
Speaker 1:So think about okay, on the basis that I don't want my kids to grow up with any kind of feelings about food or dieting or any of that stuff. On the basis that I know that these situations typically trip me up, ie social occasions getting into my kids, snacks, all of the rest of it. Think about all the things you struggle with. How can I now move through this and do things differently? What do I need to put in place? Okay, well, let's just say you struggle with not wanting to eat kids' unhealthy snacks. Don't bring healthy snacks into the house. Bring things in instead that will complement that. Do not take them out completely and not replace them with anything else. Replace them with great things, okay.
Speaker 1:The second thing is to think about your social calendar for that week. What social things have you got coming up and how in the past have you got coming up and how in the past have you typically struggled with that? So let's take a trip to the local farm. Okay, the local farm is broken up with a coffee and a piece of cake or a panini or whatever, and you're not happy with that decision. Okay. Now there's lots of other reasons we can talk about why you might not be happy with that decision. And should you not be happy with that decision? And that is what we teach inside feed my health, because I genuinely believe that people shouldn't take things out of their diet. However, there are nuances to this, but I won't go into it. Let's just say that you don't like the fact that you go out, you plan to be all quote-unquote good and then you sit down at lunch and you order a big slab of chocolate cake, a milky latte with two sugars in it, and maybe you had a panini as well.
Speaker 1:So what can you do differently. Well, what can we start thinking about? What lunches are going to look like over the week Can we start thinking about? Are we going to eat before we go out in future? Could we maybe take our own foods with us? Could we make a nice picnic? One thing that I absolutely adore doing with friends and family actually is making posh picnics. So, getting a lovely posh picnic bag, making like my favorite sandwiches ever which, for anyone that's interested, is an egg sandwich. Having, like I love a bottle of fizz, I love strawberries there are so many amazing foods you can pack into a posh picnic and just make a whole event of it.
Speaker 1:Also, making the activities that you're doing support your mental health, because eating, like I said before, can be a source of loneliness, boredom, all the rest of it. So what can you do to help mitigate those things? Well, let's just say you haven't spoken to an adult all day and you really want that human connection. Somebody on your level. Organise a lovely long walk, maybe in a woods or to one of those stately homes you know, like chats with house, or somewhere like that. Or do something where you are in a situation where you're walking and you're talking, so you're all moving your body. You're having that kind of intellectual conversation. Get the kids to go and hunt for things they've got to find stuff, all the rest of it and then sit and have your posh picnic and it's all foods that you've pre-planned and picked and that you really enjoy, and I can guarantee that you'll probably come home from that feeling really uplifted and motivated and productive. You won't be thinking, oh, I need to like, chill out from that.
Speaker 1:I used to go to soft play centers, right, and I would come home and be actually exhausted because I was so bored out of my mind and so annoyed at myself for ordering two sugary lattes and a piece of cake. I'd come home and I'd just feel really miserable and just like, oh my god, that was such hard work. The kids are now going to go off and have a nap and I just need a break. Like the whole point of going to a soft play area is, I feel, now for the parents to have a little bit of a break and for the kids to be in an environment where they can chill and run around and let off some steam without you having to be, you know, worrying about them all the time. For me, I just it was a totally oxymoron. I was doing the complete opposite.
Speaker 1:Other things as well kids' birthday parties. Right, let's say you go into a kid's birthday party and you've got to sit there and your board is stiff. So maybe they say, oh, you can have some of the food. Or maybe your kid has piled his plate with the food and you've, like, been handed the leftovers. This is where you have to tap into your why. Right, right. So there are some strategic things that you can do eat before you go so you're not hungry, take your own food or just have that internal boundary that says, when I go to a kid's birthday party, I do not eat the food, like, just make that a rule, but also tap into your why. What are you teaching your child in that moment when you take their plate and you eat their leftovers? Go back to the why of why you even care about good nutrition for you and good nutrition for them, so, so important. So they're the social things and the key thing is here A lot of parents will make decisions about food based on, and grandparents based on, how they want that child to feel or their projections of what they you think that that kid wants.
Speaker 1:Okay, there was I don't know if you guys remember back in lockdown. Everybody was on TikTok, making just the stupidest little TikToks. And I remember my son, harrison, right, he's so into his food like he should be a food critic for a job and he just loves food and we made this silly little TikTok where we said something like food is love or something like that, and obviously it was jestful, like I don't believe that food is love. But a lot of people produce food and create food and give food because they see it as a way of giving love, showing love or being loved, and that's a lovely thing as long as it doesn't affect you in a negative way, which I actually believe it does most of the time, because there are lots of ways to show somebody you love them without giving them something, especially something that is potentially going to be harmful for them later on down down the line. So it's fear of judgment and it's fear of not being loved and not being liked.
Speaker 1:So typically, if you are the kind of person that gives food because you feel it's the way you give love, it's probably likely that as a child, when you were given food, you felt that it was somebody showing you love, but it's not the giving of the food that's showing you love. It's what weren't you given the rest of the time when love could have been shown? Does that make sense? So if the only time you ever sat with your parent and had a conversation with them was around the dinner table and you associated that with getting some attention, feeling seen and heard, then of course you are time outside of mealtimes and again, this is all things that we can think about on a deeper level and think actually, yeah, that makes sense. Okay, what am I doing to show love for my kids? What am I doing to show love to my grandkids that doesn't involve food? What am I doing for myself to show myself love that doesn't evolve around food?
Speaker 1:So there's lots of things to think about here, but the bottom line is you are fully in control of your choices. Fully in control Even if you are going to somebody else's house and they are providing food for you. You are fully in control as to whether you want to eat that food. You are fully in control of whether you communicate want to eat that food. You are fully in control of whether you communicate with the host about the food ahead of ahead of time, and a lot of the reason why we feel that we don't do that is because of fear of judgment and what people will think, and so you can see, can't you that? Actually? Yes, nutrition is a challenging thing because nutrition is a massive part of our lives and we have to eat. But a lot of the reason why we struggle with food has nothing to do with the food per se. It's more to do with what we think around food, and just, I really think it's something to think about.
Speaker 1:So the first thing that you can be doing from a practical standpoint is asking yourself why do you want to make these changes?
Speaker 1:What's the lessons?
Speaker 1:What's the message you want to give to the small people in your life? How can you plan to ensure that you're setting yourself up for success? Think about all of the things that you've done in the past where you've typically struggled around food, and ask yourself what you can do differently and actually action it. And then share your goals and struggles around nutrition with the people who care about you most, because, number one, they're probably also struggling with it too, and, number two, they will probably understand and help and want to support you. And finally think about. Actually, is it the food that's the issue or is it my associations with the food? Is it emotions that I'm trying to block out, emotions that I'm trying to numb down, or emotions that I'm trying to promote, ie, love and showing somebody that you love and care about them? And I can guarantee that, if it is that you want people to love you and to have a nice time, that there lots of ways that you can do that, and it probably doesn't involve food. So I hope that this was helpful.