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When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Get... Healthier?

• Rosalind Tapper

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Why do we abandon our health goals the moment life gets challenging? This raw, passionate episode tackles the number one reason most people fail to achieve lasting transformation: the myth of perfect timing.

The hard truth is that many of us claim to want better health, stronger bodies, and more confidence, but we only work toward these goals when conditions are ideal. Monday mornings feel perfect for starting fresh. The first meal of the day is easy to control. Motivation runs high when a special event approaches. But what happens when life inevitably throws curveballs? Illness strikes, work demands increase, family needs attention—and suddenly, health goals get shelved until "a better time."

This pattern reveals something crucial about our priorities. When we only focus on ourselves during easy times, we're not truly committed to transformation—we're seeking quick fixes and external validation. Real change happens precisely when we continue showing up for ourselves despite difficulties. Those challenging moments we typically use as excuses to quit are actually the most powerful opportunities for growth.

Looking back at my own journey, the hardest periods of my life ultimately provided the greatest evidence of my capabilities. Each time you overcome a struggle while maintaining self-care, you build unshakeable confidence that extends far beyond physical appearance. You prove to yourself that you're capable of hard things—perhaps more than you ever imagined possible. Ready to break the cycle of starting and stopping? Join our community of people committed to feeding their health year-round, not just when life feels perfect. Your future self is waiting.

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I want to talk about something today that I'm incredibly passionate about. And I feel it's never ever going to change. But I definitely want to make my feelings very, very clear on this topic because honestly, it is the number one reason why I held myself back so massively in the days when I was really unhappy with how I looked and actually how I was as a person. And I am seeing this over and over and over again. And I even think honestly that the people that do it as well, they know they're doing it. They just think it's normal and they don't know what else to do. And I want to show you and I want to tell you what needs to be done in these situations. So what I'm talking about is this idea of wanting to change, wanting to be healthier, wanting to be stronger, wanting to be, you know, have a lovely, strong toned body, want to focus on great health. I don't want to be a burden to anybody when I'm older. I want to live life to the fullest. All of these amazing things that you're saying that you want. And then you say that, you know what? I've tried everything. I've tried every single diet going. And when I say you, yes, I'm talking to you, but I'm also talking to me, the old me, because this was me. And actually, if this is you right now, I hope that you are a little bit bit triggered by what I say. Because then maybe it will hit home a little bit more to you, and you will see where things are holding you back, but also the very easy shifts you can make to progress. So I really want this to be useful for you. And sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. And I feel like the cruelness in this episode is more in the tonality that I'm using and the passion that I have behind what I'm about to talk about. But I want you to know that everything that I talk about is because I know that you can succeed. I know that you have more to give. I know that you are not the best version of yourself right now, and I know that you can be. And even if you don't believe you can be right now, I know that you can be. I know it for a fact. So it's all said with love. One thing that I used to do over and over again was only focus on myself and my health and my happiness when the time was perfect. Now, perfect is an impossible standard. There's no such thing as perfect in any situation. And when people use the word perfect, it's a very flippant word. It's a very broad thing to say, because nothing ever is perfect. But we bound this word around like there is, and it and it is, it is, and there should be things that are perfect, right? But there never is. And the problem is when we think that there is a perfect time or a perfect scenario, we are always waiting for it. And we're waiting for it to stay around, and it doesn't do that. So then, of course, what happens? We stop looking after ourselves, we stop looking after our health, we stop making ourselves happy because perfection is not there. Certainly not for more than five minutes, anyway. And this is exactly what I would do. So I would set up my week to be perfect. I was highly motivated on a Monday morning, so that felt perfect. You know, the first meal of the day is always a lot easier, isn't it? You know, even the second meal of the day is easy because typically lunchtime you're fending for yourself, you're not necessarily having to cook for the family or whatever. So we start things off in an easy way, and it feels perfect. But what we don't allow is situations to arise that are far from perfect and just still focus on us. And I've had women join Feed My Health many, many, many, many times, and they will say to me, I want a lifestyle change, I want to do this properly this time, I want to, you know, change my life for myself, for my kids, for my grandkids. I don't want to do any more fad dieting. And then guess what happens? As soon as life gets difficult, whether that's an illness, a family illness, a holiday, financially, I don't know, an event that they were motivated to work towards is coming or going, something difficult happens for their mindset, whatever. As soon as that happens, bam, guess what? Not bothered anymore. It's too hard. I can't work on it anymore. And that isn't making it a lifestyle, guys. That is not. That is only doing it when the stars are aligned. And that is so contradictory, and that is what is holding you back. That will continue to hold you back for the rest of your life. You need to learn how to look after yourself and prioritize yourself and make you important and make you happy when everything hits the fan. Like, really, think about it. Imagine if whenever life got difficult or challenging, you continued in some shape or form to care for yourself. How much better would you look in a year's time? How much better would you feel about yourself in a year's time, or even in a week? When you overcome something, when you overcome a challenge, in the moment it feels like shit. I get it. I have been there so many times. The amount of times I have felt like just throwing my hands up in the air and going, do you know what? Son it all, maybe it's not worth it after all. Maybe I didn't want it that much anyway. But that's just an excuse. That's just you soothing yourself. That is just you patting yourself on the back, putting an arm around your shoulder and going, Well, maybe you're okay just as you are. Bullshit. It's an excuse because you don't want to have to do the hard work. And you don't ever have like you've never gone through that before. So you feel like it's going to be impossible. You think that change is hard anyway. So imagine trying to change when like things around you were difficult. Well, but what if you actually got through that? What if you actually overcame the struggle and the challenge and you came back like over the other side and you were still successful? Like, give yourself the flipping opportunity to prove yourself wrong. Stop quitting every time something gets in your way. You are not doing yourself any favours, and you are certainly not doing the family that you say you love any favours. You are letting yourself off the hook time and time again, and it is ridiculous. And this is me talking to old me right now, because I was ridiculous. I was a wimp. And that's the reality of it. If you are only focused on looking after your health when you have a social event, like a wedding or a party or a holiday, and then after that you think, do you know what? I'm gonna create loads of different reasons as to why I can't continue looking after my health. You didn't really care about your health all that much. You actually just cared about whether you looked good in a dress and whether people give you a compliment. Genuinely. I know, because that that has been me. That has been me. If every time the scale doesn't shift, you think, well, what's the point this isn't working, and blame everything else and everybody but yourself, an excuse. You're patting yourself on the back again, you're putting your arm around your shoulder, you're letting yourself off the hook, and it will feel good in the moment to blame something else or somebody else. But long term, you know deep down it's you. And there's only one way in which you can prove yourself wrong, and that is to do the goddamn thing regardless. Do it regardless. The other day, I so I was working with, or I yeah, I I am working with a company in one area of my business, and I'll be brutally honest, I invested a lot of money into this, take a lot of risks, like took a lot of risks, I should say, took money away from things that are closer to me, family, kids, etc., in order to put my money into this thing because I believed it would allow me to help more people, move things forward for me, and ultimately move things forward for the family, right? But what I realized over time was there was no return on investment, it was really not going the way I wanted it to go. And so I was faced with a choice, right? Do I continue with this or do I, you know, throw it in the bin and call it a day? And after a bit of thought and some kind of consideration, I realised to myself, do you know what? I am expecting a fabulous result from this after a relatively short amount of time, and I've probably only done about 75% of the work that has been asked of me. And I'm moaning that I haven't had a return on investment. And I would say that of all the people that I know, I'm one of the most relentless, risk-taking people, in you know, what I don't know, in my circle, certainly, but in a lot of people's circles. And even I could see where I was making excuses, and I see this so much. So if you aren't a client right now, and you are thinking about becoming a client, please do not join Feed My Health if you do not care about learning how to feed your health, regardless of what's happening in your life. Because where is the point? Where is the power? Where is the transformation in that? You are gonna have so many situations happen in your lifetime that are gonna come and challenge you. Stuff that is really obvious that's gonna happen, us getting older, us maybe having moments of kind of like more financial difficulty than others, you know, stuff that we can kind of predict, but there's gonna be so many other things that you can't predict are gonna happen. But you get to choose whether you care about yourself and your happiness and your health in those moments. And I just see so many people not care. And it blows my mind. And the kinds of people that, you know, maybe don't really care about their health very much and don't really care about their future and their longevity and creating a rock solid mindset, they would be better suited to like a quick fix, quick win, eight-week shred kind of a program. And I would be so happy for you to go and do that because that would align more with what you actually want. But don't kid yourself and tell yourself that you actually care about your health and then quit after like a month or quit when you've got your social occasion out of the way, or any of that stuff, because that is such a waste of your time and as it's not what we do, it's not what we do. I've done it so many times. I wasted so many years doing exactly that, chasing the next social occasion, chasing the next holiday, chasing the next outfit so that people could go, oh, you look amazing in that. Like you don't get anywhere. There's so it's so surface level, so selfish surface level. So just remember that sometimes the messages that trigger you the most, affect you the most, make you feel a little bit pissed off the most, they're the ones you really need to hear. And if this is one of those messages, maybe it's because actually I've touched on something that you are currently doing or you have done, and you don't want to be that person anymore. And if you don't want to be that person anymore, genuinely, then I'm here to help you. Feed My Health is here to help you because we want people at Feed My Health who are dedicated to being the best versions of themselves, who really, really want to learn how to prioritize themselves and show up for themselves, no matter what is going on in their lives. Because when you do that, you can do anything, you can overcome anything. I look back at some of the hardest times of my life, and I thank my lucky stars that I had those moments. In the moment, it felt awful. It felt like I was basically walking in Trickle uphill. But the hardest moments of my life have been the best because they have given me the biggest lessons, the biggest things to be proud of, the evidence that I need to show myself I am capable of hard things. And you are also very, very, very capable of hard things. You're very capable of doing things that you've never done before. You are very capable of doing things that scare you right now. You are very capable of doing things that you can't even imagine that you could do. I know that you can do that because I have done it myself and I've helped so many people do exactly the same over and over and over and over again. The question is, do you want to be that person? Or do you want to be the kind of person that continues to avoid mirrors, that continues to feel dissatisfied in their clothes, that continues to buy bigger size clothing because then you can kind of cover up all the sins, you know? Let's not live a life where we are half of who we know we can be. You have so much more to give, you have so much more potential. And it's time, if you're serious, that you start feeding your health year-round and not just when you have an event, not just when life is easy. Because life isn't easy most of the time. And maybe you're not happy with your body, your self esteem, your confidence most of the time, and that makes sense. So if you are ready, if you are serious, you need to read the show notes, you need to get on get involved. It is an absolute no brainer. You need to join us, join the people that will cheer you on and support you every step of the way.