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No More Quick Fixes

• Rosalind Tapper

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Ever had a few amazing weeks where everything just clicks — your meals are on point, your clothes feel better, your confidence is back — and then life gets busy… and it all slowly unravels?

You’re not alone.

In this episode, we dig into that exact cycle — the early wins, the creeping complacency, and the quiet “I’ll start again Monday” that follows. More importantly, we’ll map out how to break it for good.

We’ll talk about what really creates lasting results: turning healthy actions into part of who you are — not just something you do when life is calm. No hacks, no extremes — just habits that actually pass the real-life test of holidays, kids, work, stress, and chaos.

I share what I’ve seen inside Feed My Health over the years — why some women “fly the nest” and thrive long after coaching ends, and why others end up back in the same loop. The difference? It’s never motivation. It’s identity.

You’ll learn:
 ✨ Why short-term strategies (like fasting, endless cardio, or injections) make maintenance feel impossible
 ✨ How to create daily routines that feel natural — steps, strength sessions, sleep, and balanced meals that fit your life
 ✨ How to use a “minimum viable plan” to stay consistent even on your busiest weeks
 ✨ And how to move from guilt and all-or-nothing thinking to calm, confident autopilot

This episode is your reminder that slow is fast when it’s built to last.

🎧 Tune in, share it with a friend who’s done the yo-yo, and ask yourself:
 What’s one small non-negotiable you can commit to today?

👉 We don’t just help you lose weight - we help you keep it off for good. If you’re serious about breaking free from quick fixes, my team and I will transform your daily habits so your results last a lifetime.

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One of the big things that I see happen over and over and over again in the health and fitness space, and this is certainly something that I am also a victim to, is the idea that once we start to see success with weight loss, that we have got it, we've grasped it, we know what we're doing now. And I think there is a lot of confidence that comes with obviously getting the results that you're you're working really, really hard to get, and that's really important and necessary. However, we can get a little bit cocky and a little bit complacent as well. So the cockiness comes first. We're nailing this, we're doing it, we've got it, right? And then because you feel so confident that you've got it, you start to then let yourself off the hook, get a little bit complacent, and things start to unravel again, especially if you are in a position where you feel confident again, you feel good in your clothes again. And I'm gonna be the first person to say this, but we've had clients who have joined Feed My Health, and we've had many of those clients leave and return. And it's because they are getting to a place where they are so confident in their ability, or they feel that they know what they're doing now, that they think, Well, I've got this, I've got it, I know I'm doing, of course, of course. And I think to myself, like, you know, like I have been in the game long enough now to realize, both for myself and for others, when somebody's really got it and when they haven't. If we haven't taught them the necessary skills or they've been through the necessary phases, I know at a glance whether somebody is going to be able to continue on that path themselves or maintain what they've achieved. I know that for a fact. And it's really hard to say that to a person because you don't want to burst their bubble, you don't want to be the one that sort of says, Look, I know that you've done really well and you've got some great progress and you've seen some great success and you're feeling really good, but I just don't feel confident that you will be able to maintain this or continue this on your own just yet. It's a really hard thing to have to say to somebody. However, if a client asked me, I'd be very open and I would tell them I'd be very, very honest. The challenge is as well that the challenge, well, it's a trick, it's a tricky one, and the reason why I've paused is because I'm currently driving down the M1 trying to get home, and I've now just taken the wrong exit, and I have no idea where I'm headed, but it looks like we're going to London. No, we're going back to oh, where are we going? I don't know where we're going. We're going somewhere and it's not home. Anyway, I digress. So where was I? What was I saying? What was I saying? Ah, yes. So this last week, one of Feed My Health's long-standing clients has flown the nest. After three years of working with me, she has flown the nest. And of course, when you build such a great relationship with somebody and you watch them thrive and go from a place of like real unhappiness and dissatisfaction with their themselves, bodies, with their confidence and everything, and watch them flourish and go through three years of somebody's life together. It's quite difficult when somebody leaves because you know, we aren't just you aren't just a number when you join View My House. We we build a relationship together, and that's it's difficult, but you have to let people go, right? You do, you have to let people go and fly the nest. And we had a call together, and at the same time that this lady left, flew the nest, we had another client, previous client, return. Now, she didn't leave because I think she I think initially she left several, you know, several years ago for personal reasons, so a different scenario. But in the client's mind who left or isn't was leaving that week, she just sees a client coming back. And one of the things that she doesn't want is to feel like she needs to come back. Now, obviously, people come back for lots of reasons. They come back because they want to lose more weight, they come back because maybe they didn't know how to do things on their own. They come back because they like the accountability, they like somebody doing the programming in the gym for them or at home, they like the community. You know, there's lots of reasons why people come back, so there's nothing bad with nothing wrong with coming back. It's absolutely wonderful. Like if you've been an amazing client and you've enjoyed the process, then we won't we want to welcome you back with hope and arms. But in her mind, she didn't want to be a person that came back because she'd gone backwards herself. And I said to her, I don't believe that that's going to happen for you. I don't believe it. And here's why. And this is the key message that I want to drive home to everybody, whether you are working with a coach, whether you are working on any particular program, wanting to change your life, anything at all, doesn't matter where you are or who you're with, or working with whatever. You have to make this a lifestyle. And the word have to always make it sound negative, but it's not because it's a gen, it comes from a genuine place of you absolutely have to. You have to make this who you are, what you do. It has to become your identity. Because unless it does, you will always, always, always be a person that struggles with their weight. Hands down. It does not matter if you are taking injections and you drop, you know, six stone and you keep it off for thirty, you know, six months. If you haven't fundamentally changed who you are and made your daily behaviors and actions and habits become part of your daily actions, behaviors, and habits, and it just feels effortless and natural. You're always going to be that person that struggles, even if it's not physically, it could be mentally. You could always be battling with this concept of if I go and eat out, I could potentially put this weight back on, I could spiral. You're always like looking over your shoulder, second guessing yourself, not trusting in yourself. And I said to her, look, I don't believe this is going to happen for you because you have made this a lifestyle. The things that you need to do in order to maintain your incredible physique now are things that you are naturally doing. Now, sure, she's got a lot of accountability at the moment, and that might be the thing that you know takes her over the edge. But when you've committed a good amount of time to not only achieving the goal, but actually embedding that goal and making it who you are because that's who you want to be, because you see the benefits, you see you trust the process and you trust the timing, you can't unlearn that. Imagine, you know, let's just take walking every day as an example. If you spent three years of your life walking every day, it's gonna be pretty damn hard to suddenly stop doing that, it's gonna feel almost uncomfortable. The reminder that you haven't walked will suddenly feel more uncomfortable than back in the beginning when you started walking in the first place. So there'll always be that constant sort of niggle. And so I said to her, you've made this a lifestyle, this is who you are now. You know, you are in one of the best positions to be able to go off and fly the nest and thrive and soar. You are welcome back at any point because maybe you want that extra accountability, or maybe you want to tighten things up at some point, or you know, whatever. But ultimately, you have given it the time, and we are living in a world where we want everything yesterday. Amazon Prime it, Sheen next day delivery, Uber Eats, like you name it, you can get anything at the drop of a hat. And if you live in a city, you can pretty much order something an hour later, there it is on the doorstep, and that's incredible, it's amazing. But we've now conditioned ourselves to expect that as the norm, and when it comes to our health, you will have your health or lack of health every day for the rest of your life. So, if let's say you've got 20 years left to live on this planet, if you are wanting to improve your health and look better and feel better, that is something that you need to kind of make peace with that you are going to need to work on every day for the next 20 years. What a lot of people do, and this has come from again more conditioning, is we go, I want to look like this, I want to feel like that, and I want it in six weeks, and then I'm gonna expect that the behaviors and the habits that got me in the place that I am right now, which is overweight, unhappy, maybe got bad health, bad joints, bad knees, whatever. I'm gonna expect that all to have completely eradicated in six weeks. If that was possible, every single person who promoted that and sold that would be absolutely minted. The fact of the matter is, it isn't possible. It isn't possible to have a long-term result using short-term strategies. I want you to remember that sentence, okay? It's very hard, in fact, near on impossible to have long-term results using short-term strategy. And the short-term strategy is short-term for a reason. So the thing that you're going to be expecting yourself to do in that short term is probably going to be something unenjoyable, unsustainable, just not realistic long term. Yep. Oh, I know what I'm doing now. No, you don't. No, no, no, no, you don't. There are going to be certain things that you are going to need to do every single day, at least, you know, for the entirety of the time you're trying to lose body fat. But when you've lost all the body fat, and in order for you to have lost all the body fat that you need to, potentially you will have had to do something sustainable because you've got to actually continue to do it every nigga, you then have to transition over to maintaining that result. And I won't go into the specifics of how we do it on our program, and it's not just as simple as right now, now I just try and maintain it. There's a strategy behind that, but you're gonna have to do similar things to what you did to actually lose the weight in the first place. So if you don't enjoy the things that you're doing to lose the weight in the first place, what makes you think you're gonna be able to enjoy doing it to maintain? You're not, you can shoehorn any amount of hits, fasting, carnivore, whatever into your life, your busy, crazy, family-filled life for a really short period of time when your life is going, you know, honky-dory. You throw in a 25 million social occasions, Christmas, Easter, a family illness, you know, a divorce, kids, teenagers playing up, you needed to look after your grandkids several days a week. Like you throw in actual real life, and then you tell me that you can do fasting every single day. Just because you can do it for one week of your life doesn't mean that you can do it 365 days of the year. And that is why, as much as you know, I could all these people promoting these novel diets who are making shed tons of money off the back of that. You know, I why not just do that? It'd be easier, right? Because it's not ethical, it hasn't got your your best interests at heart, it hasn't at all. I want people to live long, healthy, vibrant lives. And unfortunately, do you know what sells in the health and fitness business? Quick, fast, skinny jabs, you know, all of this crap that deep down I know that you don't want, but you're so desperate for the result, you're so desperate to feel validated by what you're doing that you need a quick win, that you will do whatever it takes to get that. Now, I will caveat this by saying if you are really unwell and really unhealthy and you need to get weight off fast, we can absolutely do that. And if that is has your long-term health and interests at heart, we can absolutely 100% do that. But for the majority of people, you need to create a lifestyle, one where you wake up in the morning and you are thrilled to pieces to start your day. You don't feel exhausted, you feel well rested, you feel excited to start your morning routine because you've crafted it based on things you value and the things that you love, and you go to work or you go about your day following the things that you love and you adore because you've crafted your life. That's what everybody wants, and that's what everybody deserves, and that's what everybody can have. If we can stop focusing on a short-term win, a short-term fix, which will ultimately transpire to a short result. So if you are wanting a long-term, enjoyable, sustainable, healthy, lasting result, you come to feed my house. If you want a quick win that will last you as long as it took you to get it, four weeks, six weeks, whatever, go and buy the rest of that crap. Go and spend 250 pounds on an injection, go and do that. Go and, you know, whatever. There are nuances, I get that. I am generalizing here bassingly. Just take it for face value. But you do not want to spend the rest of your life on and off a diet. I know you don't. You do not want to spend every single day of your life feeling guilty about food, feeling controlled by food, feeling punished by exercise, feeling punished every time you look in the mirror, feeling just out of control and disgusted every time you stand on the scales. You don't want that. But every time you buy that short, quick fix, that is what you are committing to over and over and over and over again. It's like being a smoker and saying, right, I'm giving up, but I'll just have one just to kind of like let my cravings get, you know, go. Take the edge off. I won't smoke 10, but I'll just have one. You haven't given up, you're still a smoker. And that one cigarette is fueling the craving. It's fueling the next cigarette, it's fueling the next cigarette. It's exactly the same with a quick fix diet, it doesn't solve any problem. And fat loss is an emotional problem, an emotional endeavor, rather, not a problem, an emotional endeavor. If you don't solve the emotion and change the identity of yourself in the process, it will always be an issue. And you doesn't, it doesn't matter what shiny new diet comes out, it doesn't matter what book you buy, it doesn't matter what podcast you listen to, it's an emotional identity-based problem. And until you solve those two things by working with the right people, by giving it time, you will always, always struggle. And I know you do not want that. So make it a goddamn lifestyle. And with that, we conclude today's episode.