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The Truth About FOMO, Food & Control - And Why You Keep Saying Yes When You Don’t Want To

• Rosalind Tapper

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You say you want freedom… but what you’re really craving is control.

So many women think they’re saying yes to food, wine, and weekends because they want to “enjoy life”, but what’s really happening runs so much deeper.

You grew up being told to finish everything on your plate.
To eat your dinner before you earned dessert.
To be “good.” To follow the rules.
And now, as an adult, you finally get to make your own choices,  and you’re not giving that control up for anyone.

But here’s the hard truth:
That “freedom” you’re clinging to?
It’s the very thing keeping you stuck.

In this episode, I’m breaking down how food became your way of feeling in charge and how that pattern quietly steals your confidence, energy and self-trust.

You’ll learn how to shift from rebellion to real freedom , the kind that feels calm, confident and in control (without giving up the foods you love).

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Listen now if you’re ready to stop letting food rule your life -  and start feeling proud, powerful and free again. 💛

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Hello my loves, welcome back to the Feed of My Health podcast. I want to have a really, really honest conversation with you today because if you've ever found yourself saying, Oh, go on then, it's the weekend, or I just don't want to miss out. Even in your head when you've been to a social occasion or you'll be we've been with friends or family, this episode is going to be for you. We are talking about FOMO. And if you don't know what FOMO means, it is fear of missing out, and specifically how it's keeping you stuck in a body, a mindset, and a lifestyle that deep down you don't actually want any more. Now, I am not coming at this from a place of judgment because we've all been there, I've been there, I experience it now, even to this day. Awareness is everything, so please remember that, okay? We are all human beings at the end of the day. Nobody is holier than thou. But I used to say yes to everything more so than ever, like all the time, actually. I'd say yes to dinner, I'd say yes to drinks, I'd say yes to dessert, even though if you know me, you know I don't really like dessert. And not because I really wanted it, but because I didn't want to be the only one saying no. And even if I didn't really like something, I would feel like I was massively missing out on a treat or something in my mouth, like something sweet, when everybody else was enjoying it. Because in my mind, saying no meant I was boring, right? It meant that people were enjoying something that I, you know, as soon as I got back home, I wouldn't have the option to even say no to. Saying no meant that I wasn't fun anymore. It meant I was missing out on what everybody else was enjoying. But what I didn't realize was that saying yes to everything was actually me saying no to myself, and when you understand that and you have that awareness, suddenly you go, Wow, there is actually a lot more power in me saying no, a lot more to stuff. Because when you can start saying yes to yourself more and you start to reap the benefits of that, you will suddenly ask yourself why you didn't start saying no more often. So let's get real about what's actually going on and when you when you say I don't want to miss out. So it's not about the prosecco, it's not about the slice of cake, it's not about the night out or the shared nachos or the extra blast of wine. It's actually about what that moment represents. It represents freedom, it represents connection, it represents the old version of you, the one who didn't think twice about calories, who laughed all night long and didn't have any guilt into the next morning. So you keep chasing that feeling. But here is the big kicker. You are chasing it in the exact way that's taking it further away. When you wake up, you feel sluggish, you feel bloated, you feel tired, you feel guilty, you feel frustrated. When you spend all of the next day beating yourself up for kind of ruining it all again, that's actually not freedom, is it? That's punishment. And you dress that up as fun the day before. And I see this pattern every single day in the women I coach. And like, like I've said to you before, we are all human, we all experience this. It's a natural part of human psychology. You can get better at it, and so many women at Feed My Health are getting so much better at this. Like it's absolutely unreal to see the winds come through every week where women would have typically behaved in a certain way and now actually don't want to. And I'm going to talk a little bit more about you know how they've managed to do that. But it is something that I see every day. They're not scared of missing out on the food, they're scared of missing out on belonging, they're scared of feeling like the odd one out, they're scared that if they change, they will lose connection with the people that they love, and also it's about freedom of choice, especially if you've grown up as well in a world where your food was kind of controlled by, you know, you got to eat everything on your plate, we don't like waste, all of that kind of mentality. When you're when you become an adult and you suddenly start paying for your own things, you have this freedom, and you don't want that freedom to be taken away from you. And so, even if it's not something that you typically know is going to serve you, you want to say yes to it because you can. Because an old version of you, maybe a younger version of you, wouldn't have been allowed to. So I want to just tell you this, and this is a hard truth. You cannot keep sacrificing your peace and your results and your future and your health to make everybody else comfortable, including the old version of you, okay? Because that's ultimately what you're doing. This version of you that wants to achieve certain results, they don't care about any of this stuff that you're saying yes to. You're only saying yes because you're trying to soothe an old version of you and other people who actually don't give a rat about you. I'm not being funny, but most people only care about themselves. That is just a fact. The cost of constantly saying yes isn't just a few extra calories either. It's your confidence, it's your energy, and it's your self-trust. Every single time that you say yes to things that don't serve you, you are losing self-trust. You are losing belief in yourself. Every time you say I'll start again on Monday, you teach yourself that you can't be trusted. You teach yourself that instant gratification matters more than long-term happiness. And before you know it, you're not even enjoying those yes moments anymore. You're just surviving through them. And if you're honest, you probably don't even want half of the things you're saying yes to. You don't want another glass. Like you really enjoyed the first one, you maybe really enjoyed the second one, but you didn't really need that third one. You didn't. You don't want to feel that crap tomorrow, but you also don't want to feel left out tonight. So you choose short-term comfort over long-term freedom, and you do that every time because that's normal. That's what you're used to. It's what's you know, default. And that, my love, is how you are staying stuck. So, how do you actually start breaking free from FOMO? This is the question that we all want answered. Well, you are gonna stop chasing the version of you who's fun because she's reckless, because she has the freedom to say yes to everything, and you start becoming the woman who's fun because she is free. She is free from the shackles of following the norm like a sheep. You stop thinking that saying no means you're boring, and it makes you actually brave and inspiring. You will have people asking you, how are you doing this, or look, people looking at you and admiring you, and you can't see that because it just all feels like punishment right now. You will stop asking yourself, what will they think? And you start asking, What will I actually think when I wake up tomorrow? And you remind yourself every single time that you are not missing out when you prioritize you and your health. You are actually gaining you back, you are gaining actually a better, stronger person, you're gaining energy, you're gaining confidence, you're gaining peace, you're gaining control. And you know what? That you're also gaining respect, not just from you, but from others as well. So, not that you should care about what others people other people think, but the majority of us do you will gain respect from those people that you're so afraid of. And the truth is, most of the people you're afraid of disappointing are really silently wishing that they had your discipline. There is a term that I absolutely love to use, and I want this to stick with you whenever you go anywhere, see anybody, socialise, whatever. And that is Jomo, the joy of missing out. Because the moment that you realize that saying no to one thing means saying yes to something so much better, everything will change for you. Jomo is basically freedom. Jomo is waking up on a Sunday morning and feeling really proud of yourself, it's putting on your jeans and them fitting absolutely beautifully. It's having energy to walk, it's having energy to work out, it's having energy to dance in the kitchen with your children, it's having the energy to laugh and really, really laugh. Not force it, but really, really laugh without exhaustion. It is not hiding in photos anymore or always being the one that takes them. It is confidence, it is power, and that's what you deserve because FOMO is about fear, but Jomo is about freedom, and you need to remember that. So whenever you say yes to that extra glass of wine, whenever you say yes to that starter because everybody else is having one, whenever you say yes to the bread basket because everybody else is having bread, remember that you are doing that because you are afraid. Fear in that moment is winning. But if you were to say no because it aligns with who you want to be and it aligns with the version of yourself that you are becoming and the goals that you have, you're choosing freedom, long-term freedom. Please remember that. And speaking of freedom, can you believe that this week it is my 40th birthday? Oh my goodness me, it has been a long time coming. 40 years to be precise. Actually, 41 because I was alive for like 12 months before I turned one. Never get my head around that. But anyway, 40. Can you believe it? I can't actually believe it. And I have decided that if I've got to turn 40, I am going to make sure I make the most of it. And I've decided I want to give you a gift. So for, well, up until the 14th of November, midnight, if you join Feed My Health and you pay in full, you will get an extra month completely free. You will get two private 40-minute one-to-one calls with me. We can go through the strategy, we can go through mindset, we can go through pretty much anything that is going to help you unlock your best self. You will also receive a limited edition, absolutely stunning, absolutely useful Feed My Health sports bag, which will kickstart your new chapter. I'm I've got mine right next to me actually. I use it every single day. I take it to the gym, I can put my laptop in it, my lunch in it, my sportswear in it, all of my gizmos and gadgets. It's freaking amazing. And this offer is for the woman. If you've listened to this episode and thought, well, that's actually me, I really, really need to and want to learn all about how to get over FOMO and everything else that we talk about here on this podcast, then this is for you. If you are done living in guilt, if you are done starting again, if you're done dieting all the time, if you're done thinking about food all the time, if you are done chasing this weight loss year in, year out, and you are ready to start feeling genuinely confident and in control again, then this is going to be for you. It's only going to be available until midnight on the 14th of November. Please make sure you get cracking on this. I don't typically offer stuff like this, so this is a bit of a one-off, but I did want to mark my 40th with something momentous, and I really want to give back to as many of you as possible. So I'm going to put the link for you to join in the show notes below. If you do have questions about it, please drop me a DM on Instagram. My Instagram handle, which you type in the search box on Instagram, is at hold on. Yes, at rosalind.feedmyhouse. I'm pretty sure if you're listening to this, you're following me on Instagram anyway. So if you've got any questions, feel free. But it is super simple. The link will be below. You just need to click on it. If you're going to go for the bonus options with all the like extras, you need to do you need to select the pay-in full one. If you're not bothered about any of the extra things, but you would like to do it on a monthly subscription. Obviously, click the monthly, but you won't get any of the bonuses. So it's completely your choice. Either way, you are going to get an immense experience. We do flipping amazing things with our ladies, and I can't wait to have you on board as well because honestly, we will change your life. It's so exciting. Anyway, I want you to just remember this one thing you are not missing out on life by saying no, you are missing out on yourself by never trying. So until next time, feed your health, feed your happiness, and most of all, feed your flipping future.