Journey to Well
We are not created to do this healing journey or life alone. In fact, it was Bessle Van Der Kolk who expertly shared “healing happens in the presence of an empathic witness”. That is the heart of this podcast & my business : to witness. You can expect a plethora of conversations on nervous system regulation, breathwork, human design & astrology, cycle alignment, energy & spirituality work and so much more. We are all on a journey back home to ourselves, rediscovering our innate power within & I am thrilled to take this journey to well with you. be well xx
Journey to Well
Intuition Unveiled | Elysia Skye
What if the answers you've been searching for are already within you?
5/1 emotional Manifesting Generator, Elysia Skye, intuitive business coach & creator of The Brilliance Method, joins us for a deeply resonant conversation about trusting your intuition and choosing love over fear. As a manifesting generator who has officiated over a thousand weddings, produced countless shows, and transformed her life after a cancer diagnosis at 24, Elysia shares how reconnecting with our inner guidance system can revolutionize our decision-making.
We explore the fundamental difference between decisions rooted in love versus those stemming from fear. Your intuition, Elysia explains, resides in your heart—not your head or gut as commonly believed. By tuning into your heart center and noticing whether you feel lightness or heaviness around choices, you can begin distinguishing between fear-based reactions and intuitive knowing.
The conversation weaves through practical methods for strengthening your intuition: reducing distractions (like turning off social media notifications), honoring your natural energetic cycles, and documenting instances when your intuition proved correct. We also dive into Human Design, examining how emotional authorities can navigate their decision-making process by riding emotional waves rather than seeking immediate clarity.
Perhaps most powerfully, Elysia leaves us with the wisdom to "be the lighthouse, not the lifesaver"—standing strong in our light to help others find their way rather than jumping into the darkness to save them. This approach not only serves others more effectively but preserves our own energy and wellbeing.
Ready to trust yourself more deeply and make decisions from a place of love rather than fear? This conversation will reconnect you with the wisdom you've had all along.
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xx Hannah
Hello, welcome back to the podcast. So today we are joined with I am joined with Alicia Skye. She's a 5'1 emotional generator, manifesting generator, so we know that we're always going to interweave human design in here and she's an intuitive business coach from the Brilliance Method. And today we're really going to have I mean, we were talking about it before we started it's going to be a very intuitively led conversation. So it's kind of hard to preface what we're going to be talking about, but we're going to be talking about the intuition. We're going to be talking about choosing love over fear. We're going to be talking about a lot of spirituality things. If you're watching the YouTube video, you know that she's pulling a card right now. So I'm going to stop talking and let you introduce yourself, let us know what card you just pulled, and then we will get into the conversation.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh. Okay, so I, as you kicked it off, I pulled yes, I'm using Rebecca Campbell's deck today, the Trust, your Light deck, and this is yes. It says just say yes, I'm trying to get it to focus. So these it looks like one woman and it's every angle of her and she's receiving divine information and her hands are open and her hands are in prayer pose above her head with this beautiful pyramid of light. So it's a confirmation. Her hands are in prayer pose above her head with this beautiful pyramid of light. So it's a confirmation. And my hit on that for everyone listening and watching is whatever you're being led to connected to this conversation today, of choosing love and listening to your intuition, like yes, yes, yes, even if you've been quote unquote wrong in the past or have made mistakes we all have. My story is hilariously messy, hot mess, express and we get exactly where we need to get in perfect time. So, yes, you can trust yourself.
Speaker 1:That's the message, babe, right there, love it, yeah, love it. I love card bowls. I should do this before every podcast. Honestly, you're inspiring me. Right, let's do it. I love card bowls. I should do this before every podcast.
Speaker 2:Honestly, you're inspiring me Right, let's do it. Just add it to the hey season two mid mid season. Here we go, so I might pull others as we're going Well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, let me. Let me give you a moment to introduce yourself.
Speaker 2:Oh, thank you, darling. So I'm Alicia sky. Hello, I'm an intuitive. I help people with business, especially creative and spiritual entrepreneurs. People come to me for compassionate communication. That's a big one, working through boundaries, life purpose Life purpose is a big conversation that I have all the time, especially when you're in an entrepreneurial space. But I work with a lot of corporate teams who are not entrepreneurs, but obviously there are some entrepreneurs there and team leaders, managers, vps. I do a lot of mindfulness workshops and consulting from a perspective of stress reduction and trusting and listening to your intuition. So I just play in this world. It's really fun.
Speaker 2:A fun fact I've officiated over a thousand weddings. Yeah right, I'm not currently officiating. It's not something you can necessarily call me and book me for, but I'm always open to a conversation. I can refer you to some great people. But through that and also my own beautiful marriage of a million years, I help with love as well, like love and relationships, and it all comes back to communication, communications, requirements, boundaries. What do we want more of what's working? Do more of that, not keep looking at what we want less of.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, there's so many places we can go here, absolutely Choosing love and focusing on love.
Speaker 1:Actually, it's really funny that you say this, because that's something that I've kind of been meditating on recently is focusing more on what's going right in my life, what, what am I loving in my life right now?
Speaker 1:Because I actually have this not that I planned on talking about this, but it's coming up.
Speaker 1:I have this epiphany that I was like I have spent so many years of my life focusing on spending so much time in the future or the past and focusing on what I would have changed in my past and, if I would have changed it, how my life would have been different.
Speaker 1:Or focusing on the future where do I want to be in my business and how many clients do I want to have and where do I want to be living and where do I want to be in my relationship and what I realized is I'm spending so little time right here and appreciating everything that I have going on right now in my life, every blessing, everything that I have to feel so grateful for because we have so much good happening every single day in our lives and really, like you're saying, kind of focusing on what am I loving right now in my life, because we're kind of conditioned to want the next thing to be running after the next thing. And there's nothing wrong with having goals right, but really we can get stuck in not being satisfied with where we are.
Speaker 2:Totally and I need to nail on the head with the word conditioned. We are so conditioned and it's no longer just a Western thing or a US citizen thing Like we just are striving, striving. There is so much pressure from society, from family, and you know, truly, whatever our own as Gay Hendricks calls them, our hidden barriers to success, like fear about shining others, or you know we're going to be judged, or like why is it that we're playing small over and over and not pursuing that zone of genius in our purpose right, which I like to call our unique brilliance, because we all have that spark. So, whatever you want is yours. It's just up to you to create it. And you know, connect with amazing humans like Hannah and myself to help you get out of your own way, to have it.
Speaker 2:And just the fact that, hannah, you have been aware enough to go, oh, I'm craving the present moment, like you're already course correcting. You're already doing it and you know, for some people they'll ask me, like, what's the best way to practice mindfulness? And obviously there's things we can do to get into our body. Our body is such a great anchor for mindfulness, like if you rub your hands together and then you feel the tingle in your palms. You just sit there for a moment or you tune into a part of the body that you don't always notice, like space between your fingers or your toes or the back of your ear, like, can you actually feel if you're wearing underwear?
Speaker 2:right Like those kinds of things. It just helps you drop in and it doesn't have your brain thinking about multiple things at once.
Speaker 2:But, truly, I don't see gratitude as a buzzword. I see gratitude as a pathway to mindfulness, to being present. And if anyone is rolling their eyes at the idea of, well, okay, to get more present, I just have to focus on what I'm grateful for. I've been doing that for 20 years, girl. It's not working. Shift it slightly and go okay, instead of what am I grateful for? And write 20 things you're grateful for and repeat that list over and over until you're, you know, sick of it. Just pick one thing and write three reasons why. When we get into the why, then we start to connect more deeply, not just to that gratitude, but to our purpose and as humans and creatives and you know, just buzzing around people we like to know why.
Speaker 2:It's you know, when our parents tell us to do something because I said so, that doesn't work on anybody. No especially adults. So it helps us to know why. So connect to your why and it's going to always keep you more present.
Speaker 1:I love that. I do think that there's a lot of kind of Hmm, I love that. I do think that there's a lot of kind of overkill on gratitude. It because then you are spending a little bit more time in that gratitude and spending a little bit more time with that, versus just the list a hundred things that you feel grateful for right now, which probably is can get repetitive as well. But I want to. I want to hear, I want to learn a little bit more about you, and I love connecting to people's stories, and that's really how we connect to people. So I want to hear. You made a comment that you have a funny background and hot mess express, so let's hear all of that. And then I really do want to get back to talking about purpose and discovering our purpose talking about purpose and discovering our purpose.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, and that's all going to come out through this story. So I, since I was a little girl, I just there's a couple of things that I always loved and I think for anyone who's looking at their life purpose, they can do some inventory to notice what they've always been drawn to. And you know, I've always loved music, but I never wanted to be a musician, even though, like I kind of I'm like a really poor drummer, like I'm not good at the drums, but I like playing the drums, I can keep a beat, uh, and I I realized that was from a past life, in the ezekiel tribe, scribing, channeling, like just just receiving divine information, and we would listen to music at a four, four count when we we would channel, when we would chant, when we would write. So I'm very connected to just those beats and that timing.
Speaker 2:So, as a little kid, just asking my mother curious questions mom, what's, what's, what's outside our galaxy, you know? And she's like multiple galaxies. Well, how big does that go? It goes on infinitely. This broke my five-year-old brain. I'm like, why am I even asking these questions? So, just like curiosity, you know, I've just just been a seeker since birth and, uh, I love to heal, I love to entertain, I love to laugh like you, and I have already laughed so much just in, even before we hit record, you know, and and we can lean into that energy of joy. No matter what energy level we're at, no matter how we're feeling, no matter how much sleep we got, we don't have to always be at a 10. Like, I'm not at a 10. Coming on the show like that would scare everybody, right?
Speaker 2:Like I'm just going to meet you at like a peaceful four and we'll go up and down, you know. So just understanding and being aware of energy. Since I was a kid, my mom and I used to rub our hands together and then we would hold them up and we would feel the tingle and we would notice each other's energy and we would pull it back as far as we could until we couldn't feel it anymore. So I want to give so much praise, gratitude and just credit to my mom, who is no longer with us, but she raised me as a young kid to just be obsessed with weird shit crystals and chanting and multiple different types of religions and love and forgiveness and it's not weird at all. But to other kids it was weird. You know, I was like looking at the moon and writing little spells and love notes to the universe, while other kids yes, I played with Barbies and all that. But another thing, too is when I had dolls, I always was like it wasn't about who are we married to and how many kids did we have. It was okay, this Barbie's a nurse and this Barbie's a teacher, and now they're friends and they're talking about work and how many people did they help? Just it's so cute and it's so lame and it's like the sweetest way that I grew up.
Speaker 2:I feel so fast forward, moved to Los Angeles when I was 19 to be a movie star and had been visualizing over and over and over for many years, like my Oscar speech and my acceptance speech and all those things, and I got my Screen Actors Guild card and I booked some things and long story short, I wound up getting breast cancer when I was 24. And that took me on like it was like you know, I just hear like the tire screech, like like like now we're turning this way. We're turning this way. It doesn't mean you're not going to entertain and receive awards and accolades. It just might look different era, might look different for a while. So I had to embrace what does this look like and why did I get sick? And my mother didn't die of breast cancer. My grandmother had a stage one at one point she had a lymphectomy. Later it came back. It was just different than mine.
Speaker 2:So I went into a journey of self to understand why did this happen to me, and especially at 24, a fresh 24, it was like a week after I turned 24, the comment I heard over and over and over was you're so young, you're so young to have cancer. And they were right. So why did I get sick, right, why did you get cancer? People are asking me, why do you have a family history? And as I studied more in the genetics, you know it's actually a very small percentage who, if their family has it, they have it, and I'm like, oh, that's interesting, you'd think it was bigger but, you know that's set me on my journey, hannah, of fear and love and fear and love and what is the difference?
Speaker 2:And I got into A Course in Miracles and really that's a philosophy on practicing forgiveness. It aligned very well with the Buddhist stuff. My mom raised me with the Jewish stuff.
Speaker 2:My family raised me with Like it's all just, I'm not any religion, I'm all of them kind of you know so then, uh, let's see how do I wrap this up, as I was no longer in front of the camera because I was going through chemo, radiation, multiple surgeries my hair kept changing. I tried, I tried. I remember I auditioned for the show and it was for a Luke Perry show while he was still around and the casting director was like are you wearing a wig? Why are you wearing a wig? And I was like, oh man, I'm not fooling anybody, like even though I had some cute wigs.
Speaker 2:But I just, I just realized I need to take a break. I need to shift gears, like I need to. I can't keep going the way I was going. So, ultimately, why did I get cancer? Not dealing with trauma, from being a kid? Stress, putting other people's opinions above my own, seeking outside validation all the time, thinking my industry was more important than my own mental health or my wellbeing, and people pleasing to death, fawning nonstop Just all that stuff kind of came to a halt when I was healing Cause.
Speaker 2:I just couldn't do it. I was like, oh my God, I'm so much more peaceful not having to prove myself all the time. What's this about? Like that's a lesson in your twenties. Most people learn a lot later, I think. Yeah, so, um, from there, I was still in the industry, but I wasn't in front of the camera as much. I was producing shows for other people great comedians. I was friends with YouTube happened 2006. We got some branded deals. I did that all the way up through almost 2020. 2019, I started producing online courses, got back more into the educational space, which was really fun, and then I produced a bunch of my own courses and in the meanwhile, I told you, I officiated over a thousand weddings. That was like side hustle, because I didn't want to bartend anymore and people were coming to the house to get readings and healings.
Speaker 2:I was just doing it all like total gypsy woman. So long story longer almost done. Where we're at now is the last few years focusing on the brilliance method. I created a curriculum of how did I do it? How did I heal? How did I find soulmate love? How have I brought in so much money? How come every business I touch turns to gold? I asked myself all those questions, how did I do it? And it really came down to learning to listen to and trust your intuition and taking action and releasing fear. I have a whole module around fear versus love and what that looks like. So now, what do I do? I play, I play. I just led this like goddess camp. I do readings. I have a coaching membership. I have my podcast. Like I've still produced content for a nonprofit because it's fun for me. I do what I feel motivated and inspired to do and I'm so blessed.
Speaker 1:Thank you for sharing all that. You are such a classic Manny, jen. I do everything that I mean that's. We have so many similarities in our story, but one of the similarities is I do so many different things and manifesting generators tend to like to be stimulated by different things, and that doesn't always have to be work. It can be having one job and then having a bunch of hobbies. But for you and me, we both do. For you and I, we both do a lot of different things.
Speaker 1:But thank you for sharing your story. I love that and I love that you are able to reflect and then hone in this curriculum of how do I do this, how did I build this life and how can I, how can others replicate that system? How can I, how can others replicate that system? I'm very curious to dive into the intuition and and and building your uh, building your intuition and have a conversation around that, because that's something that I talk a lot about. It's it's something personally that I really love to talk about, but it's also one of the most large questions that I get from clients and in my community is what is your intuition? Let's start there and then how the heck do I build it?
Speaker 2:so our intuition is a sense just like any other and it can be just as strong as any other. So when I say other, I mean and it can be just as strong as any other. So when I hearing and taste and all that, and over time, one second puppies, puppies are puppies are saying hi to everybody.
Speaker 1:I don't think we can hear them Over time.
Speaker 2:You know, quick, quick history lesson as and this is not an anti-men comment at all I love men.
Speaker 2:Women were taken out of roles of power and not as respected and trusted. And you know there's a reason. They call it the woman's intuition. And men got very afraid of powerful women coming together in groups and containers and collectives and doing quote unquote magic. But it's manifestation and healing and all the things that we do, like you and me, your guests, many people listening and from it was hey, don't listen to yourself, listen to this person in charge, and when you know whether it's the person at the front of the, the castle or the church or anywhere else. Uh, and again, I'm not anti-religion, I I love them all. I love all the things that work about them. I don't love the things that are judgy and shitty about them. So we were told don't trust yourself, trust someone else and put your dollar there in that bowl, right, and you know so.
Speaker 2:Fast forward all these thousands of years later now, you know, with the tech technological boom, years later now, you know, with the tech technological boom, obviously, the industrial revolution, um, you know, in the last hundred years, we are distracted. We are so distracted. We have so much to do. Going back to what we first started talking about, there is so much pressure to produce, produce, produce. And that is not how the seasons work. We right, amen. We are not supposed to just always be creating and producing. There's a reason for rest, and it's not just eight hours at night or less for most people, right? So from an intuitive perspective, we really have three cycles that we are in all the time. So now we're kind of leaning into how do you, how do you tap into it more right? Anything you want me to expand on or clear up around, like what is intuition?
Speaker 2:it's just no I love it, yeah, okay, great. So, um, now, when we notice what energetic cycle we're in, we're either in create, maintain or destroy. And if destroy feels too masculine or scary, just say let go. And that doesn't mean that we can't be. You know, if you're creative and your job is to create 365 days a year, it doesn't mean you can't work. It just means when you notice your energetic flow, like, for example, if you're an author and you're like I've got writer's block, do you or are you just in a period of maintain or let go, right, there has to be reflection and rest and inspiration. That's why vacation is so important. We receive so much growth through travel, through connection, through just days off with our family and our pets, just playing and reading and resting. We get so many ideas. I get more ideas when I'm quiet, doing nothing than when I'm actively searching for them same. So, when we start to honor and notice the cycles we're in, our intuition will get louder, in conjunction with practicing more mindfulness in our life, actively choosing to reduce distractions in our life, which for me.
Speaker 2:I have my social media notifications off on my phone, so sure sometimes I miss shit, like I got tagged in a story. It's expired. I don't know what it was, I'm sure it was cute. This shit, like I got tagged in a story. It's expired. I don't know what it was, I'm sure it was cute. But you know a little FOMO here and there.
Speaker 2:But I have so much peace in my life that my phone is not constantly going off, or when I opened my phone there's not a ton of notifications. And you know, maybe I opened my phone to call someone or text someone and then now, 30 minutes later, I'm looking at all the TikToks everybody sent me. Like doesn't work for my brain so I had to just turn off the notifications. But we're already fighting against, you know, chemicals in our food and EMFs and noise outside and noise inside, you know, in our home and in our own bodies. So, and not to mention, a lot of people deal with chronic pain or fatigue or headaches and we can have a whole nother episode about how wellness is connected to our intuition.
Speaker 2:And I'm so glad people are talking about the nervous system now and um you know, as we get older, we're going to start talking about hormones and all that stuff. That's like all connected. But when we can slow down, truly like you just had let out that sigh like even just thinking about it, everybody, just take a breath right now and connect to the peace in your own being, because that's all we really want. That's why we're trying to make so much money and why we're trying to accomplish things and achieve those goals. We just want peace. So what if we reverse, engineer this ship and call in more peace to begin with and then start to manifest our life, hear our intuition more clearly, honor the cycles that we're in and just trust. So I'm asking everyone to have some faith.
Speaker 2:If you're feeling like, oh my gosh, all the bills are due, I don't have enough money, she's telling me just to chill. I'm not telling you to do nothing, but sometimes when if, let's say, you're trying to get a job and you're sending a hundred resumes a day on LinkedIn using an easy apply, wondering why am I not hearing from anyone? It's like that's still a mindless activity, like pause. Who deserves your time and your brilliance? Craft the perfect letter, connect to who they are, find them, send them a message like get in front of people. That's part of the reason why I reached out to you to be on your podcast. I was like I want to get in front of your people. I love you and what you do, like your people get me and I love them. So, like, actively, use your intuition to go. Who should I be spending time with right now?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Just, over and over and over, trust yourself and it becomes a process of trusting yourself. I like to have my clients journal. I call it the you were right journal, and every time you get a hit, you were right about something, something worked out. Cause, like you said earlier, it's so easy to focus on what's not working, you know, and, in addition to what we were talking about and where things went wrong, like what if we actually just keep a log of what went right and you're thinking about someone and then they text you like that's a little little sonar ping between, that's a psychic moment, yeah Right, so keep, keep a journal. There's so many ways to develop your intuition and some of it is in my course and other. There's some great teachers I can recommend in addition to myself, but it starts with you. It starts with slow down, listen, take note, don't rush.
Speaker 1:Don't rush. I'm listening to a book and she was talking a little bit about building your intuition or strengthening your inner voice, whatever it is, whatever you want to call it and one of the words that really stuck out to me was she said sink, like, cause she she would talk maybe a little bit about like praying too right, like the whole. Everything is so connected. So the whole idea of like, when we kneel to pray or we get on our knees to pray, sink either. Sink into your couch, sink into your chair, just like that breath that we took. Whenever you slow down, you're going to innately take that like listen, like you're saying, just listen, because, at least for me, I don't know about you and we can talk about this in terms of human design. I have a open crown, defined ajna center. So, like, one of my head head centers is defined, one is undefined. Both of yours are undefined, by the way. Um, but for me, I can get very stuck in.
Speaker 1:How do I build my intuition? Like, give me the, the blueprint or what, what am I supposed to do? Just tell me what to do and you know, like endlessly googling or or scrolling and trying to find the answer. But something that you said is the answer is in you. You have the answer already. You don't have to be scrolling to find it. You already know the perfect job for you. And we are. Sometimes we just do kind of waste time, mindlessly applying or mindlessly reaching out to people. What if I just took a pause and thought about I like that, who's worth my time? That's a bold, that's a bold topic change like, that's a switch. Who's worth my brilliance? And what do I have? What do I uniquely possess?
Speaker 2:you were born with so many gifts. Thank you for that. You know kind of reframing that too, in such a simple way. We came in with talent and gifts and you know curiosities, like I talked about being a little kid, right, what are you drawn to? And I think another thing inspired by what you just said is we will build our intuition. It'll just become stronger and more innate the more we trust it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's, it's like. You know, you can see because you keep seeing it, validates it right, and then, as we get older, we don't see as well. We're like oh, we start to lose faith in it. So it works the other way too. You know, right now, don't? We can't really see our intuition, like, does that? How does it work in my life? So, just by acknowledging it, using it, tapping into it, even in little ways, you know like, okay, well, my brain is saying I should do this, but I just feel, right, I feel in my body and you know, from a human design perspective and I'd love you to talk more about this we are either physically feeling or emotionally feeling, and I think I'm an emotional decision maker versus a physical feeling decision maker.
Speaker 2:But, one of the things I tell my clients is if you can't make a decision, stand up right. Stand up and notice where your body leans. Does it lean towards the decision or away from the decision? When you think about the present moment decision Like, for example, if someone's really having a hard time in a relationship you know you don't say should I leave this relationship. You say I'm no longer in this relationship or I'm in a new beautiful relationship. Like make a present moment statement and notice if your body just ever so gently starts to lean one way or the other towards it.
Speaker 2:If you're more of a physical decision maker.
Speaker 1:if it's harder for you to see, my mom used to say this and I use this. I borrowed it from her, adopted it from her, but I use it with my clients often is how do you feel? As if you like picture that you put yourself in that situation. So so let me give an example. Um, leaving a relationship, right, how do you feel if you left that relationship? Notice how it feels in your body to imagine letting go of that relationship. Of course there's going to be fear. We're not talking about the fear. But if you, it's, oftentimes especially as a sacral authority. So I'm not really sure how it is with other authorities, because I'm only in my body, but with a sacral authority, oftentimes it's my immediate response. Or if you just have a defined sacral center, so you also have a defined sacral center, even though you're an emotional authority. But oftentimes it's that immediate, like how would you feel leaving this relationship? How would you feel leaving this job? How would you feel living in la, I don't know whatever it is, and notice how your body feels, notice what comes, comes up. Do you feel lighter, do you feel heavier?
Speaker 1:The fear thing, I think. Maybe, maybe you'll have something to say about this. The fear thing can be tricky because we can get stuck in fear and think that it's our intuition. So how do we? Do you have anything, any tips and tools of how can we navigate? Oh, this is fear versus. This is my intuition.
Speaker 2:Yes, and before I do, I just want to say I love what you just said and you're inviting people to notice if there's relief in that decision, right. So when Hannah said, do you feel lighter Like, do you actually feel relief?
Speaker 2:Do you feel relief or do you feel loss? You know there could be really something there. You know something to fight for or something to let go of. So, um, yes, how do we know if it's fear or intuition? So this is going to lead us into talking about choosing fear or love, cause I always like to choose love.
Speaker 2:So, first and foremost, our intuition resides in our heart. It really does. Now, if you are clairvoyant, meaning you see it, or claircognizant, you just kind of know it, which kind of sounds like a loud thought. Clairaudient, you hear it. Whatever it is, I'm moving my hands all around my head. That doesn't mean your intuition is in your head, it's actually in your heart, right. When you're clairvoyantly seeing things, you're actually seeing it with your heart and then it like projects this movie up into your third eye. That's how that works. So and I've mentored and studied under a lot of great mystics and healers and teachers they have all said the same thing and I believe it to be true.
Speaker 2:Your intuition is in your heart, so I'm going to, I'm going to die on that hill and from that perspective, if you, in case anyone doesn't agree, I mean people call it a gut feeling, but it's actually not in your gut. They call it a gut feeling because our gut is the only other place in our body. We have brain cells besides our brain. That's why we call it a gut feeling.
Speaker 1:But, again.
Speaker 2:That's a deception because we're not actually thinking, we're feeling. So move to your heart, that heart center where you feel that beautiful bright green light, that heart chakra in your chest. Some people see it as pink.
Speaker 2:That's totally cool with me and front and back, left and right, tuning more into. How can I feel into this more so when we are feel into this more so when we are asking ourselves a question to make a decision? Is this an intuitive hit or is this fear? The most common thing where people get stuck is trying to tune in for someone they love.
Speaker 2:I have a lot of moms who are my clients and if their child has lumps and bumps, scrapes, breakups, all the things that's like. Sometimes they're like I'm too close to it, I can't, I don't, I don't know, right, totally get that. Sometimes I get so scared about the most random shit having to do with my husband and it's not true, right, like cause he goes on tour. He's a musician, is he going to be? Okay, he recently just left to go produce a record in Vegas and I had just kept getting the weirdest feeling. I'm like I don't want him to go on this trip. I don't want him to go on this trip.
Speaker 2:But when I sat down and I listened and I'm like, okay, is this fear or is this my intuition? I tuned into my heart. Did my heart feel light? Did my head feel heavy? If it's fear, it's probably your head or anywhere else your head, your shoulders, uh, that kind of thing. But if you can lean in and go, okay, how does my heart feel about this? My heart center, it's like he's fine, like he's not gonna die on this trip, like maybe it's not gonna be everything he wants and like if he didn't go it might be better, but for some reason he's going and he's gonna be okay. So I'm not gonna intervene because he trusts me. If I said to him honey, don't get on that plane, that's the last thing you want Alicia to tell you is don't get on that plane, right, you'll cancel your flight. It'll be really annoying. So I'm like he can go.
Speaker 2:He did the, he did the songs in Vegas and then he flew to LA to teach a seminar at Musicians Institute and he got COVID. He picked up COVID in LA and here we are in 2025. And for it just fucking knocked him down. He was down for like seven, eight days. He said it was one of the worst strands he'd ever experienced. So that was my hit.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:That was what my hit was, but it wasn't Duncan on the plane, you know. And so he had to cancel a seminar, was such a bummer because Musicians Institute paid for advertising and all that stuff and he was disappointed. He really wanted to teach this class, but it was okay, and he got to spend eight days in West Hollywood at our friend's apartment house sitting and just live his best life ordering delivery no here, so um. So that's just a little example of where I had to practice this myself recently.
Speaker 2:So you drop it into your heart, you can also notice your body language if you're like, oh my gosh, I'm so worried about this thing, are you now? Did you instinctively hold your heart or hold your head? If you were holding your head, it's probably. But if you're like, no, I just I don't feel good about this, notice your language, I don't feel good about this, versus I think this is gonna suck right. Thinking it, it's fear. If you're feeling it might not be fear, okay. So it just takes practice over and over. But again, if you consistently acknowledge your intuition, listen to it, take note of it, you just start to trust it more and if you're too close to it, phone a friend. That's what we're here for. Book a session with me or someone else who can help you, just tune in a little bit. But I'd rather everybody trust themselves truly trust yourselves and does that answer your question?
Speaker 2:Because we can start talking about fear and love.
Speaker 1:Yeah, please, let's Okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, so fear versus love? What does this even mean and how is it connected to our intuition? So we're going to get even more spiritual now. Strap in. Folks Love it, I believe. So try this on. We have our ego and we have our spirit. They are coexisting in our body, in our being, and our spirit is eternal right. Our soul is at home and love always knows the truth about everything, never left. Our spirit is on this like fun journey, being human over and over and over, and growing and learning lessons and all that stuff, right?
Speaker 2:So I have this tattoo that says remember your soul, remember who you are, remember where you are. It's not even where you came from, it's where you are. We are at home in love and this collective consciousness. So why do we have this ego? What is this ego?
Speaker 2:A lot of people are like undo the ego, we hate the ego. I'm like look, it's cool, I'm cool with the ego. It's hard to. It's hard to have a life without one and, depending on the different lifetimes you've lived, you might need to build up a little bit of an ego. That's something that a master teacher told me once. Like you could. She's. Like you've been a teacher, you've been a nun, you've done this. You've been a teacher, you've been a nun, you've done this. You've had a couple of lifetimes where you were a total asshole. But like, you're here in this lifetime to build up your ego and I'm like oh interesting, I thought the whole point was to undo the ego, right, but it really depends on where you've come from and where you've been and it doesn't mean I don't many mistakes.
Speaker 1:I've hurt people, I'm human.
Speaker 2:I've done, done all the things, so, but not not this being about me. Our ego cannot survive without a body. It needs a body. It has no reason for existence outside of the body.
Speaker 2:anytime our life is at risk because it means the end for the ego where our spirit or, if you want to call it, your soul, that's okay, this is eternal, this is love. If, if you explode tomorrow, your soul's cool, it's like all right, I'll get back on the bus, we're gonna do it again, let's try again next time. Right Does not require the body to live on. So all this fear comes up from the ego going oh, don't make that investment, don't take that risk, don't date that kind of person.
Speaker 2:You know you're very safe with this other kind of person, right, this person is like travels a lot more and they spend more money in weird ways. Or maybe they like to have more fun. You're so much safer in your bubble. Stay safe, stay safe, play small, play small. Right, your ego wants you to just have a very simple life because it means maybe you'll just live a long time and it'll get to be here a lot longer, where your spirit is like go for it, dream big, go to the concert, buy the flight, date that weirdo like it. Right, live, learn, get hurt, play, fail around and find out like your spirit is having so much fun. And when we make a choice, any choice, from a place of fear, who's the one in charge?
Speaker 2:hmm, yeah, yeah, right, when we're making a choice from a place of love, love and imagine there's only two emotions love and fear. Yeah, every quote unquote. Positive emotion is under love. Yeah, passion and joy and sweetness and all those things, it's all under love. Every quote unquote. Negative emotion is under fear. Jealousy, anger, frustration, judgment, like why? Why do we feel any of those things? Because we're afraid of something. I'm jealous because I'm afraid they're going to leave me or I'm afraid I'm not good enough. I'm judging this person because I'm afraid I don't have enough. Right, what is this? Enough, we are enough, we are perfect. Love Can't be any more enough than perfection. Yeah, but the ego is not perfect. Love the ego's, you know, that's where the hot mess express comes in to go. Yeah, you probably want to keep drinking and gossip about your friends and just like, stay small and stay home, but don't drink too much because we don't want to die. Yeah, right, it's like all that, right, and we can talk about addiction another time.
Speaker 2:But when we choose love, we are leaning into our spirit when we choose fear we are leaning into the ego, and when I say choose, I mean like make a decision from that place.
Speaker 1:Right, and that connects to the intuition, because our spirit, I think our spirit, if you think of like right, father, son, holy ghost, like your spirit and, uh, in terms of religion, I think you're like we talk about, like God, god's spirit lives within us. I think that's your, your spirit also, um, and that's where the intuition lives, because it's kind of our intuition is always rooted in love.
Speaker 2:Yes, absolutely so. Like if we accept a job or a contract or take on a new client and it doesn't feel right. But we're doing it from a place of fear and look, you got, we got to make're doing it from a place of fear and look, we got to make money, we got to pay our bills. Sometimes there are interim jobs or clients to get us to where we need to go. So we're not doing it because you know we're not going for our dreams. We're doing it consciously to go. You know what, like in 2019, when I took that job doing course creation, I was like I just want to w2 for a while because I've been 10 99 for so long I want a w-2 so I can buy a house and I want it to be easy.
Speaker 2:So, like I did it from a place of love, even though it felt counterintuitive to what I wanted to be doing, wasn't very glamorous, it wasn't in healing arts and it wasn't in hollywood entertainment, but I'm like it just made sense, even though it's weird, right.
Speaker 2:So that was one of those moments where I had to distill down and go is this from fear or is this from love? It's love. I want to buy a house and I want it to be easy. So there we go. Not the only way to buy a house, everybody. Just so you know, you can buy a house as a independent contractor self-employed.
Speaker 2:I've done it many times since then, but you know I wanted this one to be easy, so we're in charge of what our life looks like. Every single thing is a choice, even how we feel.
Speaker 1:Let's talk about that with your emotional authority.
Speaker 2:Let's talk about that with your emotional authority. Well, what's?
Speaker 1:your hit on that from. I don't you know you know more about human design than I do, yeah, yeah so. So let me explain. I've talked about emotional authorities before, but if this happens to be your first podcast you're listening to, so in human design we have our decision making process how we best make decisions, our decision-making process, how we best make decisions, and everyone has a different authority and, alicia, yours is an emotional authority. It actually makes up about 54% of the population are emotional authorities. So a large majority of authorities are emotional authorities and that simply means that you have a defined solar plexus center in human design. So if you're looking at your human design chart, the triangle on the right that kind of comes out is going to be colored in. So having an emotional authority one of the things that we talk a lot about is riding that emotional wave.
Speaker 1:Because emotional authorities, because it's defined any defined center simply means that you have a direct connection to that. The energy of that center so having the solar plexus is our emotional center rules our emotions. You have direct connection to your emotions. Versus me, on the other hand, I have an undefined emotional center, so one will argue that I can feel other people's emotions just as strong as my own, and I have a harder time feeling my own emotions. Like what am I actually feeling here? I also tend to run away from feeling my emotions. So that might be a defined and undefined thing as well, or maybe just everyone does that, I don't know. But emotional authorities, you have that direct connection.
Speaker 1:So, being able to tune into your emotion and allowing yourself to feel it through, kind of like what you just said, when you're going through the process of thinking about I want to buy a house and do I take this job, allowing yourself to feel all of the emotions around it, because you're probably I mean a big life decision, you're gonna feel so many different emotions. It's not just going to be excitement, it's not just going to be fear. Can I allow myself to move through these emotions simply by allowing myself to feel them? Maybe talk about them with someone safe, if that's what you need, if you're more of that like outward processor before I make a decision process, emotional authorities do very well giving themselves a little bit more time and then you're going to find your own process. So I love how like we can blend these two together and say for emotional authorities giving yourself that time to dive into. Am I making this out of love? Am I feeling this fear? It's okay to be feeling the fear. We all feel fear, but recognizing this emotion is fear. These emotions are love. And what emotions are love and what decision can I make there that's rooted in love? It's going to be a little bit of a I mean for everyone. It's going to be a process, but for emotional authorities especially, it's going to be a little bit of a. I mean for everyone it's going to be a process, but for emotional authorities especially, it's going to be a little bit more of a journey. Also, the last thing I'll say about emotional authorities is 80% sure is others 100% sure.
Speaker 1:So, like the sacral center I'm talking about how I have a defined sacral center, my hits about how I have a defined sacral center, my hits, intuitive hits tend to be pretty quick and in the moment. If you're a sacral or a splenic authority, it's always going to be in the moment. Like I was talking to you about season two of my podcast and it was like one day I'm like, yep, this is it. Like, this is the moment. I didn't plan it. It was literally like Monday or Tuesday that I have this hit and then I recorded the episode and posted it on Sunday Like, hey, we're going into season two. It wasn't a thing that I planned for weeks and weeks.
Speaker 1:So sacral authorities, splenic authorities, are going to be pretty much in the moment and we tend to be as we build this muscle, as we build our intuitive muscle, we're going to be like, okay, this is like I'm 195 to 100% sure this is true. Emotional authorities tend to be like they might feel other emotions as well, as like I choose, I know that this is the right decision for me, but there might always be that little bit of indecision or like fear. If this is the right decision, does that resonate with you? Because I mean, you've done so much work on your decision making process. I'm curious how that resonates with being an emotional authority.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it does. I feel like I can make a pretty quick decision. I feel like I can make a pretty quick decision, but I have to be in my own energy.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:If I'm around other people and of course there's going to be like gates involved and all that stuff then I might be making a decision about, well, what's also best for them or what do they want for me, right? So it really helps me from a psychic reader perspective because when I'm in someone else's energy then I can tap into well, what's best for them. Like that actually makes it super easy for myself. I just sit with it for a minute Sometimes. I just know, you know, I just I just know. When I come back to it it was pretty much always the first hit anyway, even if I spent a couple of days mulling something over. So learning to trust that because I feel it in my heart. But you know, sometimes I'll just wash my hands, get in the shower, go on a walk. I have so much clarity when I'm by myself and that is really, really helpful for people like me. And maybe that's a undefined emotional center kind of thing too, to just like ask yourself how much of this is mine.
Speaker 1:Like how much right.
Speaker 2:How much of this idea, this energy, this stress, this anxiety, like how much of this is mine. And I think some people confuse that with just being empathic.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Right, but then they're not taking into account their human design or their sensitivity or anything like that. And and then you know, like I said before, there's environmental effects. If you haven't slept a lot, you're over caffeinated, you're eating like shit. Maybe you're a new mom. You know you just got a lot going on. Do whatever you can to lock yourself away for five minutes and breathe ground yourself. I have a great grounding meditation I'm happy to share with your audience and get into your own energy. I think no matter defined or undefined right, just find that peace for yourself and then go from there. And when you start to trust yourself and make intuitive decisions that don't seem logical and they work out, you fall in love with listening to your intuition. It just becomes fun, like you trust it, the same way you trust if your GPS is telling you to go a certain way.
Speaker 1:Thank you for sharing that. I love that because it's very true and I think that we can get kind of overwhelmed in the beginning stages of it, like this feels very uncomfortable because anything that we start that's new is going to be uncomfortable. But, just like any muscle that we develop, it becomes more habitual and fun. Like you said, it can be really fun and be curious and have fun with it. Those are like two of the best gifts that we can give ourselves, no matter what the topic is Be curious. Be curious about your relationship, be curious about how you respond to your job, be curious about your intuition and have fun with it. How can I have fun with it? Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:Wow, yeah, that curiosity piece is important, especially what if you're, what if you need to find out about something that's not so exciting? Right, just like to be a witness, like a third person perspective of your own life, on occasion is helpful, and to go just gonna see how this plays out, mm, hmm, sometimes that's necessary and you know, and I try to make it fun as much as I can, and I remember one of my teachers saying to me you know, alicia, you have a gift that you'll see things for people you don't like to see, and that's not always fun. I was doing a group reading recently at a business retreat and this woman started talking about a family member and I knew the exact age that this family member I believe, anyway, that is, they're going to pass away and she started talking about this family member and then she started talking about how she's worried they're going to pass away and I was like, well, how old are they? And she said a couple years younger than the number I saw.
Speaker 2:So then I didn't have to say, oh yeah, they're gonna die in two years, right? What I said was well, what a beautiful opportunity to lean into a little bit of this worry and alchemize it into love and just go spend extra time with them, right? So if anyone here is intuitive we all are. But if you do it professionally or you, your friends tend to lean on you for it. Whether or not you do it professionally, if somebody asks you a question you are guided to not answer directly. That's okay. It doesn't mean you're less psychic or you're less talented or powerful or professional like.
Speaker 2:that's where the I think that's where all my coaching experience comes in I've gotten so many different coaching certifications, and where the compassionate communication piece comes in, because there's many abusive intuitives out there who just say shit they probably shouldn't say or they shouldn't say it the way they said it, and that's true in the coaching industry too. So you know, there's ways to share news with people that's loving, and I encourage everyone to do that, no matter what you do for a living loving and I encourage everyone to do that, no matter what you do for a living, Absolutely, yeah, I mean such a good, such a good point.
Speaker 1:I want to share one more thing about your human design chart that I just think is so fascinating, and then I have one final question. So when I'm looking at your human design chart and we're and we're having these conversations, you have along the lines of we were talking about defined and undefined centers. We all have either colored in center or it's going to be not colored in and you have your spleen is undefined. Our spleen is our center of intuition. So I had a human design expert come on my podcast before and one of the things that I loved that her perspective was is it's in our open centers or undefined centers that we're here to learn lessons, maybe alchemize like I would love to hear like play with the commonalities between that as well? You've really cultivated this life of leaning into and embodying your intuition, and I mean, when we're talking in terms of undefined like, you magnify. So our undefined centers. People that have defined spleen centers like you're going to act as a mirror and magnify their definedness, their energy. So it's really cool that you kind of have that in there as well, but I don't know. That's one of the reasons that I love human design is just looking at these little aspects.
Speaker 1:For me, my only open center so I have no defined gates is my root center. So a lot of my business is in grounding and a lot of my business is somatic work, getting back into our body, using human design as a tool to do that as well. But it makes so much sense to me once I figured that out, Cause I'm like that's that's where we have the biggest lessons to learn and we often teach and lead and serve people, our community, in the lessons where we went through like this shit, or where we've struggled, not struggled, but you know, like gone through the most in that area, because I can only help you as far as I've been helping myself or as far as I've helped myself. So anyway, I really wanted to share that. In your chart I always find just one little piece at the end of episodes and I love that about your chart. I think that's really interesting.
Speaker 2:Thank you. It's nice to hear I'm on purpose. And yeah, it's true. Every big move I've made in my life was connected to an intuitive hit.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Love it. So, before the last question where can people find you? Where do you hang out the most, if they want to follow up and continue learning from you?
Speaker 2:Thanks, love. I am on Instagram, I'm everywhere at Alicia sky, so that's my handle on all socials and I try to dabble a little bit in every place LinkedIn and Facebook and all the places. And my website is my name, alicia skycom. There's an E at the end of sky, so you'll see it in the episode description.
Speaker 2:And, yeah, I have a coaching membership and my clients just call it like psychic hour. Right, it's just a membership to just come and ground, set an intention, connect and I'll tune in for people whatever it is they need. And sometimes they ask me some business strategy stuff because I've built so many successful businesses. So it's kind of a hybrid of intuition and practical as far as the membership goes. And it's very affordable. At the time we're recording this, it's $100 a month and there's four live calls. So the price could go up can't say when, but as of now that's what I'm charging and I just want it to be super easy for people and my podcast, the Brilliance Method, available, where all podcasts are, and YouTube, red coral universe is a great place to watch shows. So, um, yeah.
Speaker 1:Love it and I will link all of that below. I also would love to link that grounding meditation. That sounds really fun, so I'll link that below in the description as well. Um so, last question we're going to hop on our mini TED Talk. If you were standing on a stage and you had 30 seconds or a minute to share one message, what would that message be?
Speaker 2:Be the lighthouse, not the lifesaver.
Speaker 2:The lighthouse is a strong beacon shining in every direction for people to find their way and stand tall and strong beside them. A lifesaver is a flimsy piece of foam that gets tossed out into a cold ocean where people grab onto them, push them under the water. They're probably cold and scared and yelling and they're sharks and it's terrifying. The water they're probably cold and scared and yelling and they're sharks and it's terrifying. And when we are being a lifesaver, we're trying to fix people, save people, versus stand next to them and shine and lead by example. And I did a lot of fixing and saving in my life and I think the only exception to this is if you are a surgeon or an ambulance driver. But we can all help more people when we lead by example and shine our light, versus jump into the darkness with them.
Speaker 1:I love that. Thank you, Look at you so prepared. You're welcome. Thank you so much for coming on this show. This was a really fun conversation.
Speaker 2:My pleasure, hannah, thanks for having me. Can't wait to keep sharing and you'll be on mine.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, we'll talk soon about that. Yes, we will. Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye.
Speaker 2:Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye.