Journey to Well
We are not created to do this healing journey or life alone. In fact, it was Bessle Van Der Kolk who expertly shared “healing happens in the presence of an empathic witness”. That is the heart of this podcast & my business : to witness. You can expect a plethora of conversations on nervous system regulation, breathwork, human design & astrology, cycle alignment, energy & spirituality work and so much more. We are all on a journey back home to ourselves, rediscovering our innate power within & I am thrilled to take this journey to well with you. be well xx
Journey to Well
From Inner Mission to Outer Expression: Image Alchemy with Paul Fishman
Paul Fishman isn't your typical stylist. As an "image alchemist" & 2/4 Sacral MG, he's revolutionizing the relationship between personal style and self-expression through a holistic approach that begins from within. In this conversation, Paul reveals the three pillars of his Image Alchemy practice—style, systems, and strategy—that help entrepreneurs & public-facing individuals align their inner mission with their external presentation.
What makes Paul's approach unique is his integration of Human Design principles into the styling process. He explains how understanding your authority type influences decision-making around purchases and how different energy types approach their wardrobes differently. For manifesting generators who thrive on change, flexibility might be key, while generators might find joy in signature pieces that consistently bring satisfaction.
The conversation reaches its most transformative point when Paul introduces the concept of being "the solution" for your clients. By asking yourself how that solution shows up and speaks, you shift focus from personal identity to the value you provide.
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Hello, welcome back to the podcast journey. To well, I realized that I never actually introduced my name and I'm like my whole brand is myself. So my name is Hannah, if this is your first time listening to the podcast, and I am joined today with Paul Fishman. He is a stylist and image alchemist and I haven't had a personal stylist on my podcast. Technically, years ago I had a stylist on my YouTube channel, but this is a really fun conversation to have today, paul, so thank you so much for coming on. I'm super excited for our conversation. I'm gonna let you introduce yourself. One of the other things that I absolutely love about you is that you are also into human design. So Paul is a 2-4 sacral manifesting generator and we're going to talk all about human design and even maybe how we can integrate that with our personal style. Like, how would we even do that? So super excited to chat with you, paul. Give your brief introduction whenever you would like to share. There's no right or wrong here, but who is Paul Fishman?
Speaker 2:Well, hannah, thank you so much for having me and I'm so excited for this conversation. Who is Paul Fishman? Paul Fishman is a multifaceted entrepreneurial soul, here to empower and inspire anyone who feels called to be empowered, inspired by me, to align their inner mission and values and just passion with how they show up in the world physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. And I do that through my foundational 360 degree holistic styling program, image Alchemy, which is alchemizing your internal with your external and using tools like strategy, mindset and styling to optimize your personal brand and how you speak before you even say a word.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love that how you speak before you say a word. I love this conversation already. So when we were chatting before we hit record a couple, well, when we kind of connected a couple weeks ago, uh, you shared that you have these three pillars of your business of image alchemy, um, style, systems and strategy. One of the things that I love the most about your approach is really learning and and kind of diving into and excavating what's going on inside and then using, I would assume, a system to transform that internal into okay. So how am I going to dress, how am I going to accessorize, how am I going to show up for myself and, and, I guess, with myself? So, dive in a little bit to those three pillars and then I really want to get into like that internal and external stuff.
Speaker 2:Sure. Well, I think that the best way to share how these pillars impact a human is to share a little story about a current client that I'm working with. And then there was a potential client that came to me because they had met my current client and she is so my client. She is a high powered attorney and she we've been working together for over a year, so you have to imagine that when she came to me she was ready to up-level her style. And she came to me because she was attracted to my energy and how I present myself on social media and we connected over the fact that she really loved the color pink and she really loved to dress in suits but didn't want to be this stuffy lawyer. So I started kind of digging deeper into who she is and we really got to know like the systems that she already has in place for her day-to-day life, and from there I optimized with a strategy of dressing in a way that presented her as someone to take seriously but also allowed her to step into her joy as an emotional generator. So we use the human design.
Speaker 2:So anyway, long story longer. She's at an event and she's really embodied with who she is and she's wearing this amazing outfit and this other person walks up to her and says I need your outfit, like I love it so much. How do I get it? And she said let me give you Paul's information. This person reaches out to me and says, hey, I want to order this. And I said, okay, we should probably have a conversation first, because I want to make sure that you'll be able to hold the energetics of showing up in this really bright suit.
Speaker 2:Okay, so essentially, what I'm getting at here is my client. She's really embodied herself to the point where she felt so confident that the clothes weren't wearing her. She was wearing the clothes herself, to the point where she felt so confident that the clothes weren't wearing her. She was wearing the clothes and this other potential client rushed into the clothing piece and we got her the entire outfit. She puts it on and she says I can't wear this. I can't do it Like I can't walk out of the house looking like this. And it didn't give her the feelings or the same result that it gave my current client. So that to say the reason that I have these three pillars is to really optimize how we show up in clothing and optimize how we show up as human beings without skipping the very valuable steps, which is the inner work, and I just think it's really important to know that, like, you can wear whatever you want, but you really have to want to wear it and you have to understand the why behind the want.
Speaker 1:That's deep, hmm.
Speaker 2:Hmm, that's deep, it's true, because a lot of times, and especially in this culture where we're kind of like conditioned to be consumers through social media, through advertising, through celebrity culture, seeing a celebrity wear something being like oh my gosh, I want to wear that, I want to. You know, I think actually something that's really interesting to talk about is, especially for me as a man, like underwear ads. Like I look at this, like very ripped man wearing this skimpy pair of underwear and I'm just like if I were the underwear, I'm going to look like that. And then I buy the underwear, I put it on and I'm just like, wow, I look nothing like that photo. That was probably Photoshopped.
Speaker 2:We have no idea when was the last time that model ate something, drank any water, because all of the modeling industry in itself. So we're encouraged if we buy this, you're going to look this way, or if you buy this, you're going to feel this way, and really it sets us up for continuous failure and continuous searching for more. So, again, what I do in my programming is I allow my clients to understand who they want to be and who they are before we even put a piece of clothing on, because I'm getting the clothes to support the vision and not the other way around.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I remember when I worked with the stylist that I had on my YouTube channel. One of the most important things that I brought from that experience was similar to what you're talking about. When we see celebrities or we see models, even on the websites we don't I know, I didn't notice their body type necessarily you just say you see something and you're like, oh my gosh, they look amazing in that. Or even their skin tone, because I know we all have different skin tones and certain colors look better on us than others, and this is, I guess, more of like the fine details. But the connection is we don't spend a lot of time thinking about how would that actually look on me? I'm looking at this model and saying they look amazing in it.
Speaker 1:Or the underwear model and like, oh my gosh, now I'm going to look that hot. And then you put that on and it is very discouraging because you don't get the result that you are hoping for, that you were thinking that you would get, and then you're right. Then we kind of get stuck in that. Let me continue consuming rather than taking a pause, and I like your approach of really diving into what am I looking to showcase and why am I choosing? So is this like colors, styles, fabrics, what? What is it really that we're kind of diving into?
Speaker 2:So my you know, my ideal client that I work with is going to be an entrepreneur, a public speaker, a creator, someone who is in the spotlight, who maybe uses social media to share about their business and also is very public facing or client facing, and because of with that, I always keeping in mind, like you, as someone who's offering a service, you are offering a solution to someone's problems and we want to show up as a solution, and we want to show up as a solution fully embodied. So, ultimately, what I do is I get underneath the desire to wear the fancy suit, wear the fancy dress, have the really expensive handbag as to why do you think that that is going to help you be your ideal client's solution? And then we really it's just this. Why like and a lot of people, same exact response as you Hmm, I don't know actually. Yeah, this is a great. Wow, you just blew up my entire world, paul, in that one statement.
Speaker 2:So, if you can relate to Hannah's, so, if you can relate to Hannah's, hmm, a, you're not alone and B, it's a great like, just start noticing, when you can't finish that sentence, why do I think that having this fancy handbag is going to solve my problems? Well, we know why because of the marketing from that, but like more. So how is that going to allow me to be the solution to other people's problems? Well, we know why. Because of the marketing from that, but like more. So how is that going to allow me to be the solution to other people's problems? If it's going to allow you to show up more confidently, that checks a box for me. If it's going to allow you to not worry about what other people are thinking of you and kind of calm that anxiety, especially if you're new to being public facing, that checks the box for me and then we can use that to kind of like ease the tension and the anxiety.
Speaker 2:But we really really really dig deep into why the fear of other people's opinions gets in the way of us being our most authentic selves and really our biggest mission. Why the anxiety of stepping into a room where no one knows us to introduce ourselves and our services is so anxiety provoking for so many of us. Like that worrying because anxiety is just worrying about things we can't control. So what are those things that you're worried about controlling through this mask of wardrobing that might not even align If I walk into a room and I know that my wardrobe. I spent $10,000 on it, then no one is going to judge me. Well, sorry, if you're walking into the room and that's your motive for spending that much money, no one is going to witness you in your true brilliance. That much money, no one is going to witness you in your true brilliance.
Speaker 1:They're just going to be picking up on that energy. That's such a good point. I really love that. I'm so curious how you incorporate human design, because all of my little human design nerd people human design nerd people pieces of me are like oh you, like we could look at someone's like ego center. Is their ego center defined or undefined? Or you know even their well? Anyway, yeah, I'm I'm so curious because there's so many ways that I could take it, but how?
Speaker 2:do you?
Speaker 1:incorporate human design with your clients.
Speaker 2:The easiest way for me to incorporate is with the authority, with decision-making is really where we start, especially if someone doesn't understand their human design. Clearing the way for how we make decisions about the clothes we're going to purchase, when we either when we put them on during a fitting or when we're looking at photos that I'm sending over in a lookbook Sacral authorities are going to be way different than emotional authorities. You know, most of my clients are generators, just because, for some reason, that's that's how it comes, so I'm grateful for that I have. My husband is a splenic authority and I don't I don't dress him, he dresses himself because you know, like we just we just allow him to do his own thing. He's also projector, so he doesn't have time. He doesn't have time for a manifesting generator to try and boss him around when it comes to dressing. But when it comes to that, like the primary thing is like emotional authorities can get really, really excited really quickly and nine times out of 10, if we take that first excitement and we order something or we make a decision there, they're not going to feel the same as if we look at something, take the excitement, ride the wave and make the decision the next day, two days later, three days later, like that, to me, is the sweet spot and it's acknowledging and giving space for those decisions. It's encouraging the trust because again and I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir here you know that if you're trusting your authority, you really can't go wrong, and also it's just teaching people how to use their authority. So I'm sure you're like, oh, but what about like energy types? And really I think that the energies and profiles can be valuable in the way we dress.
Speaker 2:But it can get a little bit more muddy when I have like a manifesting generator as a client. I know that we're not going to be building a wardrobe that's going to be a forever wardrobe because it's always going to like there's going to be need to be a pivot. Like I used to be really all about bright colors, really trendy, like street wear. Now I'm all about like I used to always have my nails painted all these different colors. One day I woke up and I was just like no, no, no. Like I'm in my soft girl era now, like I'm playing nails like suits, like maybe a fun shoe or like accessory, but I'm not that same person. But when it comes to like a generator if we just follow joy and the joy factor can be consistent, because if we find the things that continuously bring joy, they won't necessarily change, especially if we're consistently reframing and reconnecting with that joy.
Speaker 2:You know, a suit is a suit is a suit, and one of my clients is a generator, loves wearing suiting, and we've probably done 20 suits together and I don't.
Speaker 2:It's just like the keeping, like maybe we started with one designer and then moved to a made to measure or you know, a custom suit here, maybe an exclusive colorway, maybe a different, unique way to do a pinstripe, but it's always going to be a suit because so, and then I've, I've yet to. I think that like with a, with like a reflector, if you're dressing a reflector very much like chameleon, very much like a mirror, so it it feels as though, like the reflectors that I know very much, aren't embodied in their own identity because they're just here to literally be mirrors, so they normally are going to be dressing like the people that they're surrounding and that, uh, I don't necessarily know if a reflector would be like have benefit within, and unless there's complete, like open centers, because then it's like we can't make a decision so you just need someone to make the decisions for you yeah, yeah, yeah, which I mean my sister's a reflector.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I told you that so this would be interesting to have her listen and then hear her opinion. I, witnessing her dressing through the years, like she's kind of evolved. She was more of a tomboy when she was younger and you know, now she wears like a lot more not that she always wears dresses, but she'll dress more femininely sometimes. But also, as you're saying that, I'm kind of chuckling because I just give her all of my clothes that I don't want anymore and that's what she wears. So yeah, I guess that kind of makes sense with the reflector. What about projectors? I'm curious. I know that you said you mostly work with generators and mani-gens.
Speaker 2:Well, it just tends to happen that way, because generators and mani-gens are more often than not like these super self-driven entrepreneurs who are looking to be top level, like projectors, just like want to be napping all day long and like be invited. And with a projector, I see them really dressing for comfort and dressing for ease, because the transition from like nap time to their very small battery reserve of three hours, which is pretty much the consistent timeline I've seen with the projectors, I know it's just like it has to be easy, comfortable and or it's like I know that I'm only wearing it for an hour and it's going to really allow to give me energy, because projectors don't create their own energetics. So it's like if we know that, like, for example, if a projector loves wearing like bright colors, more than likely it's because those colors energize people in the room and they can suck that energy right back in.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Super interesting. I think one of the things that I share all the time about human design is one of the gifts of human design is that you're so funny with the, with the manifesting generators, because it's true, like I definitely like to change up my style, although I will say I'm pretty consistently just neutrals. I've been very consistent and neutrals for years now. But knowing that and then using that information, even when you're purchasing new items of clothing and when you're like what are my staples that I want to spend a lot of money on, and then the extra things like how much do I want to invest in this Because I know that it might not be something that I wear all the time or for a long period of time I can imagine that there's just so much benefit in learning these little pieces. And, of course, going back to the authority I think you and I really connected on that when we had our other conversation of that. Really to me, is like the meat and potatoes, like one of the most, if not the most important piece of human design is to learn your authority and learn how you make decisions, and that can be applied into literally everything and you're just proving that, that even how you are going about, um, deciding if this is a piece of clothing or or a style tool that you want to continue to use, or that that is going to work for you, or something that you want. Because we can get very excited or drawn into the marketing. No matter what you are, even if you're a sacral authority or you know a reflector that has the lunar authority you're we all get drawn into that, the marketing tactics, and oh, I should get this and then I'm going to look like that and all of that.
Speaker 1:So, anyway, so I'm very curious about the whole. If we can touch back on the internal piece. I'm curious what, diving into the why, what are other ways that we can begin right now that listeners that I can begin to explore? Like, what are other questions besides just why? Like, why do you want to show up this way? Or why are you getting this purse, and how is that going to fulfill this you showing up for your clients? What are some other questions that can continue to help us dive into the internal-ness of ourselves and how we want?
Speaker 2:to show up externally.
Speaker 2:Well, I think that the first place to always start is just noticing. Noticing that you want to know, like you want to ask these questions, right, that the question that you just asked, like noticing, if there's like an internal spark like ooh, yeah, what do I do next, how do I unlock that next step. And that's like a lot of people skip the noticing part, because the noticing is the true internal validation of, yes, I want more of this. Ooh, this feels a little bit off. Ooh. And the thing is is, once when we're asleep to it, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 2:But the second you wake up to the fact that when maybe something doesn't go right in your business or you have an argument with a partner, you're going to some sort of consumption, whether it's to going to the store and buying a new bag, charm, which is you're a collector, but you're collecting these things and using collector as this kind of mask for the fact that you're buying something when you don't feel a certain way. And we're looking for that instant dopamine rush and that hit of like ooh, I got something. I feel fulfilled, wait, void is still there. So it's noticing is the first step and giving yourself permission to be okay in that place, which is really uncomfortable. It's very, very uncomfortable to start noticing and witnessing yourself filling voids with consumption, and that's why what I do is like this, always like this, like head-butting, this duality of just like, yes, I want you to purchase new things and more, and also I want you to sit with what you already have and acknowledge that those things got you to a certain place. So I want to take an example of an entrepreneur, because that's my sweet spot, that's who I love to work with, because entrepreneurs are mission-based, service-based. We're taking risks on ourselves already, so why not take a risk on how we present ourselves to the world?
Speaker 2:So, for example, if you're an entrepreneur and maybe you're a digital entrepreneur, so you have an offering that you share on social media, maybe you're a public speaker, maybe you're a content creator and you're looking to do brand deals, you again get to be the solution for the client, your ideal client's problem. You better be a solution. How can you embody being the solution? So the first question, of course, is what is the solution that I'm embodying? Like me, every morning I wake up and I am the solution. I am the solution. Today, I am the solution Because I mean, it feels so amazing to be someone else's solution, like I'm going to solve someone's problems. So what's the problem? How can I be the solution? I'm the solution. What does that solution look like? What does that solution embody? It takes the pressure off if you take your being out of it, right, like, how does the solution show up? How does the solution speak? What type of content does the solution create? Speak, what type of content does the solution create? And it makes it also a lot easier, because then you can figure out if you're really aligned with that answer, if you're really aligned with being the solution.
Speaker 2:And that's the mistake that I think a lot of people make they rush into a solution that doesn't feel aligned with who they are. And I'm preaching to, I'm like speaking to myself right now, especially as a manifesting generator. I feel like we rush into everything, but it's all but. But it's like teaching us Right. And my, my splenic projector husband rolls his eyes every time. I'm like I have an idea. He was just like relax, are you sure that this idea is correct? And I was like well, it's not about being correct, it's about it's the next iteration of getting me to the next place. I'll get to the place. Finally, like I'll find, I'll get to the destination eventually, but it's.
Speaker 2:It's going to look like this so, so I'm going to push pause, because I tend to do this thing where I never really answer the question, so, but I just like speak. So, yes, I've, I've said a lot. Let's digest it.
Speaker 1:I was so there for you and, to be frank, I don't even remember the question. I was just like absolutely.
Speaker 2:That's what I do too.
Speaker 1:What I was thinking. It was like I need to take notes. I'm going to go back and listen to this episode and take notes of what is the solution Like? What is the solution? I am the solution, first of all. Love that Like. Let's just reflect on that. That's such an empowering thought to have and such a great reminder of our why, if you are the solution to what you're like, you know as a coach, right For myself. So what solution am I providing to my client? And then I love that reflection of then. Let me sit back and also notice the answer to that question and see if it aligns with me. Is the solution that my business currently providing? Is that aligned with who I am? Is that correct? What?
Speaker 2:I'm saying so far, yeah. And that's where Image Alchemy was born, because I was strictly a stylist and I focused on women's shoes and accessories and I was unboxing shoes on social media, driving massive amounts of volume in sales. And then I'd have the same people coming back to me over and over again for every day, buying a pair of shoes for me, and I'm like hold on, the pair you ordered yesterday hasn't even arrived yet. What are we doing? What are we actually doing? And then I have the courage and the bravery to step in and be like hey, I've got a question for you. What are we hoping these shoes are going to do for you? And and like it also takes like a very gentle approach, Like that's the abridged version, but like I'm like.
Speaker 2:I'm like gently prodding and poking.
Speaker 2:And and then, when I started expanding into clothing and wardrobing, there was this one woman that I had been working with for a long time and she was the queen of like, sending me a screenshot of like a celebrity wearing something being like I want that outfit. And I'd send it to her. And then she'd be like it's not working for me. I'd be like, okay, send it on back and we'll figure it out. And then one day I was just like why isn't it working? Because you sent me a photo and you look like a bombshell in that. So what's going on? And she said, paul, I feel like I'm a little girl in my mother's clothing. I feel like no one is going to take me seriously wearing this. Like they're thinking what is she doing, walking into the room wearing this? And I was like, oh, oh. So there's the self-worth, there's the belonging wound. The worthiness wound is in there, because you have the goods but you don't think that you do. So I said, would you be open to a weekly call? Let's dissect this, let's get you to a place where you're going to feel so amazing wearing these clothes. And she said, yeah, let's do it. And not only was that so healing for me because it was the first time that I closed a coaching client by a text message and not having to do a coaching discovery call and everything but also it felt so aligned.
Speaker 2:And then, five months later, she's investing in her business, doing things that she never thought she would ever do. She realized that she was the block, the bottleneck with her dreams. She was the one creating all the chaos and the anxiety in her life. Everything else it wasn't an external issue at all. When she thought it was, I was like look at you, noticing that you're the one who just created all that drama. Like, look at you, next member of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, you know. And she was like, oh my gosh, I would never want to be on that show. I was like your life is that show because of you. And she was just like okay, call me out, call me out. So, okay, no, I'm calling you in with love and gratitude for your willingness to do this work.
Speaker 2:So from there we got to a place, three months in, where I was like okay, now it's time to send you clothes, now it's time to actually embody the version of yourself, because you understand that you are the boss and all these clothes aren't going to be purchased in vain. They're going to be purchased because you actually are ready to show up as the version of this woman who actually wears the clothes. And that's the entire reason that I could not say no to this work, because prior to this, I was a self-love coach and I was focused primarily on that piece of the life coaching path and it was always so heartbreaking for me because asking people who don't love themselves to invest in themselves was never an easy. It was an uphill battle from day one, and you and I you can probably relate that, like inner work, coaching is the most rewarding but also the most challenging to market, because it's like no, I'd much rather buy the $5,000 handbag that invest that amount in a long-term coaching program, because something is instant and I don't have to do anything except press pay and get excited for the package to come. So I merged the two, where I'm just like by the way, did you see how much we spent last week on clothes? This investment is less than that and it's going to help you feel even more confident wearing those clothes and they go. Oh yeah, when you put it that way, bring me up. Oh yeah, when you put it that way, bring me up. So, but it's also takes a very embodied, willing human to say, yeah, I want to actually feel empowered in what I'm wearing. And I know that I need support and I'm willing to do the work and I'm willing to heal my inner child and play around and do like that inner work before putting on the fancy clothes or even like it doesn't have to be expensive.
Speaker 2:I work with high level, high net worth entrepreneurs who have the funds. But if you're like Paul, banana Republic is my top of the line Great, we can do that too. The line Great, we can do that too. Like there's. There's nothing saying you can't show up embodied, because I wear an ASO suit some days which costs under $300. And people are like oh, my God, is that Cuccinelli? And I'm like nope, and my confidence is, and that's the. That's the thing. It doesn't matter the label, it doesn't matter what you're wearing. It's the same way when you're scrolling and you're like, ooh, I love that. Wait, it's H&M. Why is it H&M? Oh, it's because of the positioning, it's because of the model, it's because of the confidence, it's because of the styling, it's because of all of these things and, granted, those clothes don't make the man.
Speaker 1:The man make the clothes. I mean, wrap it up, drop the mic right there, like that's it. That's the whole. We spend so much money on clothes, jewelry, shoes, whatever it is because we want maybe what's in the picture, whether that is photoshopped, or the model maybe is actually has done the work. And you know, is we want, we want the confidence, we want the embodiment, and we have this belief that it's if I have the thing, then I have the confidence. And that is so profound that it's the other way around.
Speaker 1:When we have the confidence, I mean you could arguably show up in anything and make it look good. And it's not so much about the brand or whatever else it is. Yeah, it's about how do I feel in that, which is kind of like a reverse, like what I keep kind of coming back to is kind of like what came first, the chicken or the egg? Right, because it's it's. My question is can we reverse, engineer this and do it the other way, asking ourselves why don't I feel confident in this coat right now, or what you know? Whatever it is in this coat right now, or whatever it is jean jacket right now, can we ask ourselves, can we start there in our wardrobe Like what are the pieces?
Speaker 1:that I don't feel aligned with and don't feel confident in, and then dissect it that way, of course, why not? Is it the same?
Speaker 2:outcome. It's like the Marie Kondo method. Does this bring me joy? Like going through, you know? Does this bring me joy? Like going through everything in wardrobe? Does this bring me joy? Yes, no, it's an instant. Of course, again, with the authority it's not always instant, and I think that with these blanket sacral, like ways that we're told to do things, that's not it. So I always, like anyone I work with, I want to know their human design, because it informs me of how to communicate and work with them. But outside of that, this reverse engineering is my favorite thing to do.
Speaker 2:Your goal is to have a private jet. Okay, let's reverse engineer that. How do we make that happen? How do we get you in the rooms with the clients who are going to pay you to support that investment? How are we going to get you to feel embodied enough and confident enough to know that you are worthy of making that investment? And continuously calling that in right, and those are like scary things. Because, no, I just want it. Okay Again, why? Why do you want it? Because, right now, at least for people who are far away from that goal, the why is probably because I want to feel the way that I think it's going to make me feel by having that private jet.
Speaker 1:So sorry. Oh, exactly, I'm picking up my phone because I needed to pull up your human design, because you just gave me. Can I share something? That you may or may not have already discovered. We have a manifestation process and you're either a specific manifester or a non-specific manifester. Do you know?
Speaker 2:I'm a non-specific, you are a non-specific, so.
Speaker 1:I just made this connection. You keep saying why, why, why, why, why. And I'm like I've said this before because I did a workshop on manifesting, on our manifestation type, and we're talking all about so I like to teach a little bit on my podcast. So I know you probably know this. But for those that haven't studied their manifestation type, if you're a specific manifester, you do really well with specifics. So, instead of like I want to make a hundred grand of oh, I'm sorry, instead of I want to make a lot of money this year, I want to make a hundred grand this year. Or instead of like I just want to call in new clients this month, I want to call in three new clients this month. That's a specific manifestor. A non specific manifestor is the opposite and it's very focused on the why and the feeling. So, instead of I want to call in three new clients this month, in three new clients this month, it's I want to call in clients that feel very aligned that really here and are so eager to learn about my specific process, whatever that is or you know, nonspecific. Like buying a car I want to. I want to drive a car that I feel very safe and secure in, rather than I want a Nissan Rogue, whatever. And I think that, with all of this said, there's such a balance, because I do agree with you that we need to dive into the why and the why behind. Why do you want three clients instead of five new clients? And so I think the process that we can excavate this information and digest this information is going to look just a little bit different for each manifestation type.
Speaker 1:And you just, I don't know everything that you're saying. I'm like he's a nonspecific manifester and then I had to just double check and make sure that I wasn't, you know, completely off. But but why? And the feeling like for nonspecific? I'm a specific and sometimes I wish that I was a nonspecific. We often wish that we were the opposite. But the feeling behind why you are calling something in is so important for the non-specific manifestors not that it's not for the specifics, but there's like just slight differences. Um, almost, maybe we can be a little bit more. I don't know, maybe it's just because I'm so like logical and I get very in my head but yeah, like why do I want three? Or? Or you can reverse engineer it Like you want a yacht, okay, so how many clients. How much? How much do you need to bring in a month? And then, how many clients? Does that mean a month? And that's your answer of how many clients you're bringing in, versus I just willy nilly, want three new clients Anyway.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't know if you've ever like dove into that with that's deep human design and that's like maybe more, not like expert level, but that's like at least intermediate level that we don't have to get into. But for those of us that like or maybe are looking for that, one other thing that might click like sometimes it's an energy type, sometimes it's the profile, sometimes it's the manifestation type that just is that like. Let me get my foot in the door.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I definitely sometimes wish that I was a specific manifester because I'll be like. I'm like, oh, for example, at the beginning of this week, like last minute, I flew from New York to LA to meet a client for a fitting and basically to have dinner with her because she was having like a challenging time in her life and I was like I didn't know why, but I was like I gotta go, like I gotta go. I was on the plane, I was booking my flight and I was like, why are you spending all this money to go across the country for less than 48 hours to have dinner with someone? And I was just like, gotta go, gotta do it, gotta go.
Speaker 2:And it's like and then, when I was there, and I was like walking on Rodeo, I was sipping my Air One smoothie which, like, for some reason, just like changes my life. Every time I'm in Air One, I'm just like, oh, why, why do I? I love it here so much and I'm always almost about to become a member, even though, like, I rarely go there. I'm like, yes, charge me $200 so I can save 5% please.
Speaker 2:But it's just, it's the embodiment of like, the person, the version, and five years ago all I wanted was to be the type of person who could just pick up and go go somewhere, leave like, fly, you know, have a reason to travel to New York or LA or London, and so that why for me was just that was the desire. And then I'm sitting and I'm like, oh, I've made it, that piece. So it's giving also, like within manifestation and also just being a human. I think it's those noticing moments that are really important as well, like giving ourselves permission to actually celebrate that we did it and not just looking for the next thing. And that's. I think that specific and you correct me if I'm wrong, but specific manifestors might be a little bit better at being like ooh, I hit the thing because I was specific about it and I knew I wanted it. The goal is the goal, I made it, whereas non-specific I'm just like it's a feeling, it's all a feeling, and I do look at that and it's interesting because most of my clients are non-specific and emotional. So that's why I also lean deeply into the why and the feeling, because it's all about the feeling and it's all about like.
Speaker 2:This morning I texted a client. I was like, how are you feeling about this? She was like I don't know and I said, okay, that's great, we're not making any decisions. Neutral is better than like elated or like really sad in the specifics that we're working through right now. So it's, it's all. It's really, really fun to incorporate human design in coaching. It also, I think, makes it easier. You know, it unlocks a lot and helps us resonate a little bit more with with not only our individuality, but the best way way to be ourselves and to navigate.
Speaker 1:And yeah, yeah, I definitely agree and I agree with you actually I've never thought about that with the specifics, um, specific, specific versus non-specific and like celebrating, but that definitely does make sense, being able to be like, oh yeah, I got the three, or I got. You know, I got to fly to LA. I saw that post I don't know if it was a story post or an Instagram.
Speaker 2:I think it was story yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, cause I'm going to tell people to go back and read it. It was beautiful, but I mean, what a fun reminder to to continue to notice, notice the places in your life where you are sitting in what you once wanted to call into your life and taking that time to be like, yeah, yeah, that was. That's actually pretty dope right now, proud of myself you know.
Speaker 2:You know that post was really about taking a chance on yourself. And also, you never know, you know and that's another piece about being aligned it's it's the the client that I was out there visiting saw a post that I put on Instagram. That like tanked. It was just like no, like no one saw but this one random person who wasn't following me, and because of that, like we started having a conversation and connected and now like they're my ride or die, you know, and and it's it's one of those things where you just never know, you know, post the content, even though it's cringe, like share, because you never know who you're impacting. And that's the the biggest blessing about being a creator. It's the biggest blessing about being an entrepreneur is the impact that you have, because for me, it's the biggest blessing about being an entrepreneur is the impact that you have, because for me, it's so fulfilling to have that type of impact.
Speaker 1:And if it's coming from an aligned place, like often a lot of the posts that I make, I'm also talking to myself and I'm posting for myself. And yes, I am posting it because I believe in what I'm saying and I'm you know, I'm hopeful that it reaches someone and changes their perspective or, you know, intrigues them. But if it's coming from an aligned place, I think that it's always. The answer is always yes, make that, make that post or share that, because you don't know who it's touching and you don't know who it's going to reach and if it's, if it's just that one person, you don't I mean, that's a great example. You don't know that one person, it could be huge.
Speaker 2:The other thing that I'd say about content creation and really this whole concept of being the solution. It can get a little overwhelming because it's like I want to be the solution for everyone the people that follow me, the people who don't follow me, the people who might see my post and I think that can get like we can get a little too big picture with it. So my recommendation would be be the solution for your warm or hot audience, not your cold audience. Focus on the people who already know you, because I sometimes get into my head and I'm like oh, if I post this and someone new sees it, they're not going to understand, or, or I'm going to have to like do this expansive caption or like have this, like story highlights that explains everything about who I am. Instead of that, like you want people who are following you and like loving your, you as an entire brand to to be your client, not necessarily like.
Speaker 2:Every once in a while I'll get a person who's just like oh, heard you on a podcast, sign up. But I think a podcast is different, but I've never like. I saw that one story and I instantly signed up because that story was also promoting my creator profit blueprint masterclass, which is happening next week, and that was almost like it was doing my best to tie in. I'm in a manifesting generator pivot as well, so it's like I have all these followers who are following me for unboxing shoes and I'm pivoting into talking about just like, more about image alchemy, more about being a creator and how to monetize the solution that you're offering to everyone.
Speaker 1:So, anyway, I love that. So, speaking of your Instagram, I love it obviously. So where can people find you and watch your journey and all of this pivoting unfold, and where can people connect with you?
Speaker 2:So you can find me on Instagram, TikTok at PaulXLuxury, Because I believe that luxury is a collaboration and luxury gets to be defined by the person who is experiencing it. So that's why I thought of myself as a collaboration with luxury.
Speaker 1:I love that and of course I will link that down below so people can follow. So last question I have one, two three, four,45 different questions. You say you seem very good at the flow and fun, so pick a number one through five and this will be our last question for the podcast.
Speaker 2:Three three.
Speaker 1:What does living alignment feel like in your body and feel free to bring in human design, or really, just what does living? How do you know that you are living in alignment? What somatically shows you that you're living in alignment?
Speaker 2:I think it's a cocktail of peace and energy, like electricity, yes, and that is punctuated by my new puppy, hazel barking. So when some I always believe that, like when you hear loud noises or things are tracking trying to get you to hone in and listen, don't. Don't listen to the distractions. Get comfortable with hearing what is in front of you.
Speaker 1:I couldn't even hear it, so maybe it was just listening so hard, or maybe it didn't.
Speaker 2:Or maybe it's just all the noise canceling things I have going on Hopefully.
Speaker 1:I mean we would assume that the technology that we buy works. Thank you so much, paul. This was such a fun conversation. There's so many little tidbits that I hope really resonated and I know will resonate, and pieces that I'm going to take. I always love having people on my podcast that I'm like, wow, I got so much like new information and inspiration. So thank you for being so inspiring. Thank you for showing up as yourself and showing up for your people in this world in such a beautiful and authentic way, and I really appreciate your time.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much for having me. I really enjoyed my time.