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The Working Mums Podcast
Teaching working mums mind & emotional management tools so they enjoy their kids, their job & themselves again without all the shitty mum guilt.
The Working Mums Podcast
Bonus Episode - The Secret to Self Confidence
Unlock the secrets to a more confident you with my latest workshop, where I explore the transformative power of self-confidence.
Imagine managing your inner voice like a Ninja by naming your primitive brain and embracing the wisdom of your prefrontal cortex. Join me as I explore how self-confidence can be learnt as a skill, creating self-compassion and self-forgiveness along the way.
I distinguish between the genuine self-assurance that uplifts and arrogance that puts others down, offering practical strategies to face fears and anxieties head-on.
Whether it’s speaking up in meetings or graciously accepting compliments, real-life scenarios guide you toward small shifts, helping you create a more confident and empowered version of yourself.
Get ready to transform your mindset and embrace personal growth like never before.
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Speaker 1:Okay, I am so, so, so excited to be offering this workshop to you the secret to self-confidence, to self-confidence. Now, what you're about to hear over our time together today is going to give you a boost of possibility. It's going to enable you change that. Maybe, actually, you can build self-confidence. You can learn how to build self-confidence, and I say learn very deliberately, because this is a skill that no one has ever taught us, and certainly no one has ever told us. We had a choice, and this is what I am going to teach you today the secret to self-confidence.
Speaker 1:But before we start, I think we need to consider well what is self-confidence? What is self-confidence and this is my opinion If you research it, if you Google it, if you read other books, their opinion might be slightly different. This is purely my opinion of what self-confidence is, and I believe it's your relationship with yourself, your relationship with yourself, how you choose to talk to you. It's about your relationship with your emotions, with fear, with nervousness. It's about learning self-compassion and it's about learning self-forgiveness. Because here's the thing your brain, your beautiful human brain, is phenomenally complex. I'm not a neuroscientist, I'm not going to go into it. I'm going to simplify it into two parts, and that's your primitive brain and your higher prefrontal cortex. Now, your primitive brain is old. It literally hasn't changed for hundreds of thousands of years and by design it's negative. So it always gives us the worst case scenario. It always gives us our limiting beliefs. It hears stuff that we've had from our childhood and from our conditioning and from our religions and our belief systems and social media, and it hooks that in and it stores it for everyone a day. And what's happening is you're hearing all of that and you're believing it to be true. But when we engage our higher wisdom, our prefrontal cortex, this enables us to step away from that primitive thinking and into our higher thinking, and this is where our power lies. So my first tip to you is to name your primal brain. Mine is called Sue, not because I dislike the name Sue.
Speaker 1:We have to make friends with that part of us. They're going to be negative by design because that part of our brain is really trying hard to keep us safe. And we can be thankful for that, because if we were in a life-threatening situation, we would want to listen to it. But putting your hand up in a meeting, saying no to somebody, your hand up in a meeting saying no to somebody, putting yourself into a nervous situation such as presenting or having a challenging conversation with someone, your emails, your to-do list they are not life-threatening. So the opinion of that primitive part of our brain is not required. So the opinion of that primitive part of our brain is not required. It's going to give it to us. We cannot stop it, but you can stop believing it and stop believing that your negative emotions hold you back. That's kind of the only thing we need to learn here, but we're going to dive deeper into it.
Speaker 1:So what is self-confidence? Let's look, it's a lot of people go. I just want more confidence. I want more confidence and the thing is with confidence, confidence is based on the past. Confidence. We have confidence when we think I've done it before, therefore I can do it again. That's brilliant. If you've done something before, I can do it again Amazing. But a lot of the time we're doing new things. We're putting ourselves out there. We're doing something new. Like putting our hand up in a meeting is new and scary, and that's where self-confidence comes in. So self-confidence is based on the future. It's who you want to be in your life, who you want to become, and self-confidence has you willing to try something new. You don't have to have done it before, but you have a willingness to step towards fear, to step towards nervousness, to step towards anxiety and not let those emotions hold you back. I'm not really going to talk about emotions deeply in this lesson, because I've done it in many lessons before. So go and look at my podcast, go and look at my YouTube channel. You'll find and look at my website. You'll find resources on there to help you with your emotions. But today and self-confidence is an emotion Self-confidence is created by thoughts we have in our head.
Speaker 1:Just like confidence, confidence is. I've done it before, I can do it again. That's a thought. Self-confidence is also generated by a thought, and I'm going to talk about that in a minute.
Speaker 1:Now, a lot of people say to me oh yeah, but when we talk about building self-confidence, they're like oh yeah, but I don't want to become arrogant. I don't want to be arrogant and there is a massive, massive difference between arrogance and self-confidence. And if you're perceiving someone to be arrogant, just consider this for a second when you're dealing with them. Arrogance is fueled by a real insecurity. They are insecure in themselves. An arrogant person has to put other people down, because they have to put other people down to prove that they're better, and they need to prove they're right. They're like no, you need to see it my way. You need to see it. You know, I have to prove I'm the best. I've done this. I've done that. That's being fueled by a real insecurity.
Speaker 1:That person is not secure in the slightest, probably acting out of a childlike state, but someone that is full of self-confidence. They are so secure in themselves, they know who they are, and a self-confident person is able to rise other people up. They're able to bolster other people and empower other people, and a self-confident person has nothing to prove. They can get curious about someone else's emotions. They can get curious about what's happening for somebody else because they've got their back, and a self-confident person doesn't say sorry for shit that they haven't done. They might say sorry for giving someone a circumstance to deal with, but they don't say sorry for something they haven't done. They will say sorry for something they have done and hurt someone 100%. But a self-confident person is willing to feel nervous about speaking their view and speak it anyway. A self-confident person is able to say thank you for the invite, but no, not this time. A self-confident person is able to put their hand up in a meeting, feel anxious doing so and that not be a problem.
Speaker 1:And self-confidence, I believe, is where our power lies being willing to feel the fear and do it anyway, which, by the way, is a brilliant, brilliant book by Susan Jeffers. If you struggle with confidence, self-confidence, fear, nervousness, read it. It's fascinating. So there's a complete difference between so. Being self-confident is not arrogant, it's being full of love, compassion, understanding curiosity. It's being full of love, compassion, understanding curiosity.
Speaker 1:And how might not having self-confidence be affecting your life? So I've mentioned a couple of things already, but if you're not feeling self-confident, you're probably full of self-doubt, you're probably full of doubt. I'm not doing it right. It has to be perfect. It has you not putting your hand up? It has you saying yes to the shit that you don't want to do in your life? It maybe has you planning your calendar and planning your time, but you don't honor that plan because you don't have any kind of self-respect or self-compassion and you don't have boundaries. And if you do have boundaries, you're certainly not honoring your boundaries with your relationships with the people at work.
Speaker 1:So this, the lack of self-confidence and being filled with self-doubt, is going to be affecting your time management. It's going to be affecting your relationships. It's going to have you following your partner's opinion even though you know that's not right for you. It's going to have you doing things for other people, but in a real obligated, resentful manner, and that just feels shit't it? It feels really fucking shit, whereas actually when we kind of get out of our own way, sometimes we will choose to do things we don't want to do, but actually because that's the type of person we want to be, and then we don't have to judge ourselves, beat ourselves up or criticize ourselves for doing that.
Speaker 1:And that's where that relationship with you comes in, that voice that you hear in your head that's beating you up, that bitchy voice that you would not dream of talking to another human like you're believing over and over and over again. And that's what you get to change. You don't get to stop that voice. You don't get to change that voice, but you do get to stop believing it, and that's why naming it is really good, because you could be like, oh, I hear you, sue. Yeah, you really think I'm pathetic. Thanks for that opinion. I you know, but actually I don't think that's true. And I'm pathetic. Thanks for that opinion, but actually I don't think that's true, and I'm going to teach you how to do that in a second.
Speaker 1:So how do you create it? How do you create self-confidence? Are you ready? Let's learn it. To begin with, you need to learn the difference between fact or fiction. So we're going to play the fact or fiction game. So a fact is something that we could prove in a court of law, that every single person in the world would agree with. That's this one. Here is a story. It's make-believe. It's the thoughts that you are choosing to believe. That's fiction, it's made up. So I'm going to go through some of the really common thoughts that I hear people say about themselves that they believe are facts, and we're going to see whether it's fact or whether it's fiction. So play along with me.
Speaker 1:I'm a good listener. Now, if someone said to you I'm a good listener or you believe this about yourself? I'm a good listener. Is that a fact or is that fiction? It's fiction, it's made up. I'm a good listener. Is not a fact. It has a descriptive word in it and any descriptive word isn't a fact because says who and what is good at listening. So that is not a fact. Even though it's positive, it's not a fact.
Speaker 1:I'm an overthinker. I hear this a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot. And I'm an overthinker. I'm kind of like yeah, because your brain, the average human brain, has 60 to 70,000 thoughts a day, 60 to 70,000. So your brain is designed to think, it's designed to process. That's what it is. It's a processing machine. So I'm an overthinker. Is not a fact. It's a story that you're telling yourself which actually, when you believe it, creates more overwhelm and more thinking. More overwhelm and more thinking. I'm friendly, fact or fiction, it's fiction, it's made up. Friendly says who Overthinking? Says who Listening. Says who Like what does that actually mean? It's a descriptive word, it's fiction.
Speaker 1:Can you see what's happening here? I don't have enough time. Oh, this is a challenging one for you, isn't it? I don't have enough time. Oh, this is a challenging one for you, isn't it? I don't have enough time. I think you think this is a thought. Sorry, you think this is a fact. No, it's a fact, nikki. I don't have enough time because look of all the things I have to do. But when you think of all the things you have to do, you feel overwhelmed and overwhelmed as you scroll in on your phone, it has you chatting to your mates. It on your phone, it has you chatting to your mates. It has you doing the fun things. It doesn't have you doing your to-do list. So if this is you and you struggle with this, go and check out my time management lesson, because this is going to really complement that, if you haven't already. So go and check that out, because this is fiction, it's a story I don't have enough time as a story that you're telling yourself and it's just not true. It's made up.
Speaker 1:I'm too old. I hear this one a lot too. Oh, I'm too old, nikki, and I'm 47. And I hear this from people that are younger than me. I'm like you're not too fucking old. The brain has neuroplasticity. It is changing, changing, changing right up until the point we take our last breath. You are never too old. So that's not a thought. It's not a thought. I'm high maintenance. There's people that believe this. You might be one of them. I am high maintenance. It's fiction, it's not true.
Speaker 1:The weather's miserable oh, this is a good one, isn't it? Especially in Britain, right? The people see the rain and they're like, oh, isn't it miserable today. Or maybe it's drizzly and grey and they're like, oh, isn't the weather miserable? As if that was a fact. And then what happens is because they're always focused on the miserable weather, even when it's beautiful, clear blue skies, they're still talking about the miserable weather. So it feels like it's always miserable.
Speaker 1:And it's not even true. It's fiction, it's a story that you're making up. They're difficult, they are difficult, they being your in-laws, your husband, your teenagers, your toddlers, your colleagues at work, your managers. They're difficult. Your clients I have difficult clients. That's not true, they are difficult.
Speaker 1:It's a story, difficult, says who Says who? I'm so stupid, I'm so silly. And you might even say, oh, I'm so stupid, I'm so silly. And you might even say like, oh, I'm so silly, it's toxic and it's not true. And even the tiniest little unconscious statement like this will be affecting your relationship with you and affecting your self-confidence. And it's made up, it's fiction, it's not true. Your self-confidence and it's made up, it's fiction, it's not true.
Speaker 1:So all of these stories, these thoughts that we've just gone over it's this way, I'm pointing in the wrong way All of these thoughts are what we call beliefs, and a belief is just a thought that you have thought over and over again and our thinking becomes habitual. It's like a habitual pattern of behavior. But right in the middle of the word belief is the word lie. Is the word lie? So, positively or negatively, you're lying to yourself. Now, if you're lying to yourself with a positive statement and that's helping you in your life and it's moving you forward, brilliant, keep it, keep telling yourself it, lean into that belief and allow it to fuel you forward. But I'm guessing, if you've been curious about this workshop, you're probably not telling yourself the positives, or if you're telling yourself the positives, you don't believe them. And so then it's like that toxic false positivity which I think actually feels even worse positivity which I think actually feels even worse. So just be willing to consider that that current dialogue that you have about yourself may not be true. It's a lie. And if that lie is helping you, keep telling yourself it. If it's not, I'm going to tell you how to change it.
Speaker 1:And we start by acknowledging. It's about becoming aware of your current thoughts and your current feelings and then acknowledging that those thoughts are not facts. That sentence that oh, aren't I silly, oh aren't I stupid. Oh yeah, look at me, I need to have a, I need to have a chat with myself. None of that's helping. I know you're saying it in a jokey way, but the subconscious message is that you're not good enough. And that is not true. That is not fucking true. But we can't change anything until we acknowledge it's there. And I think this is actually the challenging part, which is where I come in.
Speaker 1:As a life coach or another life coach that you like the energy of, or a really loving friend, it's becoming aware of that conversation, of how you talk about things, how you describe things internally or externally. You have to become aware of that and acknowledge it. They are not facts. And then the next step is to breathe and understand with compassion. Of course this has been a habitual pattern of behavior. Of course I'm going to give myself that sentence. Oh, it's that time of month. Of course I'm seeing myself as pathetic. Just have compassion.
Speaker 1:This awareness is not another reason to beat yourself up. It's a reason to have a huge amount of compassion for that primitive human part of your brain, because you haven't realized until this very moment that you have a choice, and that's C Choose. Oh, my slides are in slightly the wrong order. C is choose. No, hang on, I want to teach you what did I want to teach Breathe with compassion. Okay, so I'm sorry I'm getting my slides muddled up.
Speaker 1:So when you're breathing, what we're also doing here is having compassion for how we're feeling. And you can ask yourself these questions when in my body do I feel this emotion? Is it hot, is it cold? Is it too fast or is it too slow? Is it heavy or is it light? What color is it? And then understand that you're safe to feel this emotion. So if you're thinking about putting your hand up in a meeting and you start to feel nervous, acknowledging that nervousness because your brain is perceiving some form of life-threatening, they're going to think I'm stupid. No one really wants to hear what I have to say. Of course you're going to feel nervous, breathing and answering these questions and recognizing that in your body, and then I'm safe to feel this emotion. It doesn't have to hold me back. It's a really powerful exercise and that's how you process any emotion, by the way, but you especially get to practice it with the heavy ones.
Speaker 1:And then C is choose. Your brain takes redirection really well, especially when it's done from compassion and love, and you have a choice. Unless you've already worked with me, up until this moment in your life, you didn't realize you had a choice. No one ever says to us hey, now you're a functioning adult, you actually get to choose. You get to choose who you want to be, how you show up, what your personality is. You get to choose all of that, but no one tells us. No one tells us that. But you do. You absolutely have a choice about what you believe about you, about what you choose to be in this world, how you choose to behave. You have a choice. So what do you want to believe? What do you want to believe?
Speaker 1:And a lot of times it's then quite difficult to jump from like let's take one of these I'm high maintenance to I'm amazing, or I don't have enough time to I have all the time in the world, or the weather's miserable to oh my gosh, isn't it amazing when it's raining? I'm an overthinker to. You know, I don't think at all, or I'm not good enough to I'm amazing or I'm not. You know, you can't jump from the bottom of the staircase where you currently are to the top of the staircase. We just have to take one step at a time. And so when you notice your thoughts and you can add to these that these are just some of the common ones I hear, but you can put yours in, because whatever you put after I am is what you create in your life, that's what you become and try these instead. Just try taking that breath and choosing to say to yourself I am Nikki. Now don't you say Nikki, you say your name. You can choose I'm Nikki if you want to, but this is about you, so I am, I am Nikki.
Speaker 1:It's completely neutral. It's a fact. No drama seven. That's a fact. No drama. Drama is optional. I am human. Now I use this one a lot, especially when I'm going through my perimenopause, especially when I'm leading up to my period and I'm feeling precious. I'm not a precious person, but leading up to my period, I can feel precious. And I'm not a precious person, but leading up to my period, I can feel precious and I can feel a bit sensitive and I question all of my life choices and I used to beat myself up for that and I used to think I shouldn't feel this way. I should be having the same energy that I have the rest of the month. But I'm human. I'm human and if you find yourself shouting at your kids, just acknowledge that. Take a breath for a moment. I'm human. How do I actually want to show up in this moment? They're human.
Speaker 1:If you're in front of someone and I coach a lot of people on this in the workplace when they go oh, I was in a meeting and my client was attacking me or my manager was. It was an ambush and they were attacking me and they just had it out for me. When we're able to put on our big girl pants or big boy pants and we step outside of ourselves a minute and we look at what that person's going through, the reason they're behaving the way that they're behaving is because they are feeling a certain way because of what they're thinking, and so when we go back to the arrogance and self-confidence, a lot of people will get aggressive and defensive because actually, underneath that, they're feeling really vulnerable. They might not know that unless they've listened to this presentation. But you do. It's your thoughts that create your emotions and your emotions drive your behavior. So if you're feeling insecure, self-doubt, you're also going to feel vulnerable, and so what we do is we get defensive and we get angry and we kind of, you know, prove and force and shout, whereas when we take a breath and we choose to have our own back and we get curious and fascinated because we're feeling self-confident, then we can have so much more of an effective conversation. So they are human.
Speaker 1:If you find yourself going, oh, isn't it miserable? It's not miserable. It is raining, it is windy, it is drizzle, that's not miserable, doesn't have to be miserable, it's just a fact. That's not miserable, doesn't have to be miserable, it's just a fact. And at a point when, especially, you can't change this situation, you cannot change the weather, you cannot control the weather, you can always change and control your thoughts. So take it to neutral.
Speaker 1:When you're thinking I don't have enough time, I have things to do, take yourself out of overwhelm. Go and listen to my time management lesson. More on that if you want to, I can learn. I don't. So another common one I haven't put up here is oh, I don't know, I don't know. Oh, I don't know, nikki, I don't know, and it's one thing I used to say I'm not clever enough, I don't know, but I can learn. I can ask Google. So when you're saying I don't know, I can learn, especially about you. You are actually your expert, so you know everything about you. You just need to open up to that wisdom. So how do you actually practice this in real life? So I'm going to give you a couple of scenarios about where, over the next couple of days, you can maybe practice this. So I've talked about this a couple of times.
Speaker 1:The next time you're in a meeting, the next time you're with a group of people it could be social, or it could be in a meeting and you notice yourself going oh, I won't voice my opinion, I might upset them. Or oh, I won't voice it, I might look stupid, or they don't really want to hear what I have to say. I want you to practice acknowledging that. Take a deep breath, have compassion for that part of your brain that's freaking out and choose With calmness. Choose to say what you believe, not because you think you're right and the other person's wrong, but actually because this is what you believe.
Speaker 1:When you next receive a compliment and you find yourself going, oh you know this old thing, I've had it for years. Or oh, no, no, no, but we resist. Acknowledge that you want to do that, take a deep breath and choose to receive it. Choose to say thank you, thank you, you won't die. And then, when you find yourself going, oh my God, I'm so stupid, I'm so pathetic, I don't know, or I'm just being silly acknowledge that, breathe and choose not to believe it. Correct yourself if you have to, just be willing to consider that that sentence isn't true, because you're human.
Speaker 1:What other scenarios let's imagine someone asks you to talk to somebody about something, whether it's a group of people or an individual, and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't think I can do that, and you start to feel anxious. Acknowledge that, breathe and have compassion. Recognize the anxiety in your body. Realize it's harmless and choose how you want to show up, to show up. So that's some ways in which you can overcome and practice this in real life. When you find yourself saying, oh my gosh, I've got so much to do, I've got so much to do and actually what you end up doing is just scrolling on social media. Just acknowledge that, breathe and have compassion and choose how you want to spend your time.
Speaker 1:Very powerful, and I just want to talk about teamwork for a second. I just want to talk about if you work for a business and you work in a team. Maybe you run the team, maybe you're the director, maybe you're the manager, maybe you're the director, maybe you're the manager, maybe you're the work colleague within the team, and I coach a lot of people on overrunning in meetings, on not feeling confident or self-confident enough to stand up for what they believe in, and they find themselves getting angry and frustrated. And what tends to happen is everybody in that room is actually angry and frustrated because no one actually wants to feel insecure. That feels crap for everybody and I want you to consider for a moment how much more effective, how much more efficient and how much more content you and your team members would feel if you were all acting out of your self-confidence.
Speaker 1:I also like to call it your emotional adult state, because a childlike state, and we're talking like people over 25 here, really well, sort of 20 and up, not talking about children. We can act out of our emotional childhood. So it looks like we're blaming the other people. We're blaming the weather, we're blaming the situation for making us feel and we want instant gratification and we want it now. And we're powerless and we're the victim when we're acting out of our emotional childhood state. But when we evolve and actually by evolve I mean choose to step into our emotional adult state we're taking full responsibility of how we feel, because it's my thoughts, our thoughts, your thoughts that create your emotions. You're willing to have an uncomfortable conversation in order to have a more streamlined workforce or to overcome an issue more effectively. So you're willing to feel temporarily uncomfortable for the long-term gratification and gain. And this is when you're powerful.
Speaker 1:So if you are in a team, working in a team, just consider how amazing that team would be. If you were all building your self-confidence, if you were all taking your own responsibility for actions and behaviors and emotions, you would just do so much more. You would just be so much more effective, because you wouldn't spend time bitching, moaning and saying how terrible things were and arguing and trying to prove your point. You wouldn't waste any of that time. You would be like, right, what's the problem? Now let's focus on the solution. So much more efficient. So please feel free to share this with any of your team members or anyone that you think needs to or wants to build their self-confidence. So that's what I'd like to teach you.
Speaker 1:Self-confidence is a choice. Self-confidence is choosing to believe that you can handle it. You can handle your emotions, you can handle doing new things. Your brain's not going to want to, but with your higher wisdom, you know you can, and there will be a part of you that actually knows that you can. You're just a bit scared to believe it, and that's okay. That is okay, it's normal. But you do have a choice. So this is how I can help you further. But you do have a choice. So this is how I can help you further.
Speaker 1:If you're not already listening to my podcast or watching me on YouTube, hop on there. Subscribe, like it, get all my notifications, follow me on Instagram, follow me on LinkedIn, but the biggest impact would be coaching, because this lesson hopefully it's my intention for this lesson to give you a boost of possibility, that boost of oh my goodness, this is brilliant. Yes, I can change. I think I can do this. This is brilliant. Yes, I can change. I think I can do this.
Speaker 1:And if you actually practice what I've just taught you acknowledging, catching yourself, acknowledging breathing and choosing something different, your life will fundamentally change. But here's what tends to happen. You'll come off this call and you'll be like, oh, this is really good, I'm going to practice this. I'm going to you know, you'll be full of possibility and full of excitement, and then your teenager will walk in the room or one of your colleagues will say something to you, or you'll be sat in traffic and you'll start to get frustrated and, all of a sudden, what you've just heard has gone, and that's normal. That is what happens with the human mind, which is why coaching is so incredibly powerful.
Speaker 1:Having that conversation, that questioning that and that's that time with me, will be the most valuable thing that you could do for yourself. So let's have a chat. If you're curious about how I can help you, let's hop on a call. I'm not going to force you to buy anything. I can coach you through something if you want to. It's completely free. But let's have a conversation. And if you're thinking and there's a part of you that's just like I could be more I know I'm holding myself back then let's have that conversation and if I'm not right for you, I might recommend another coach, I might recommend counseling. I might recommend solution-focused hypnotherapy. There are other things, but let's start by having that conversation so you can I'll put the link below this recording to book that time to chat with me, and I would love to empower you to change. I would love to do that for you. So check out my website, give me a call if you want to Phone my number, Send me an email, Whatever fits you best.
Speaker 1:But take that step forward and this is your first opportunity to acknowledge what your brain just told you. And it might have been oh no, I can't do that. It might be oh yeah, but it might be really expensive. Oh yeah, but you know, other people can change. But I can't Just acknowledge that. All of those would fall into the fiction category. They're not true. So take a deep breath, have compassion for that part of your brain that's frightened of change, that actually thinks this is a life-threatening situation. It doesn't realize it's actually very life-enhancing. And choose to do something different. Choose to click on that link and book a time for yourself. That hour with me alone will be transformative, even if you never coach with me again. Thank you so much for listening. I really hope this has helped you, and I would love to help support you, grow your self-confidence and move you forward, if that's what you'd like to do. Thank you for listening. Have an amazing day.