Ep #75 - Summer mini-series - Speak Kindly to yourself

🎙 Episode #75: Start Talking Kindly to Yourself (Summer Mini-Series #2)

Welcome to episode 2 of our summer mini-series — bite-sized, no-bullshit episodes created to shift your mindset and set you up for more ease and calm this summer.

In this episode, I’m inviting you to stop being such a bitch to yourself.

Yep, I said it. That internal mean girl voice that cuts you down, judges every move, and speaks to you in a way you'd never speak to someone you love? It's optional. And this week, I’m challenging you to catch her in the act and practise something radically different: kindness.

We’re talking about what it actually means to be kind to yourself — how to respond to that critical inner voice with compassion, how to notice the thought before it spirals, and how to stop making self-judgment your default.

This isn’t about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about choosing to respond to yourself the way you would your best mate.

✨ This week's practice: Catch the voice. Pause. Choose a kind response. And repeat.

You're not going to magically do this perfectly — your brain isn’t wired that way yet. But with practice, the shifts start happening. And I can’t wait to see what changes this simple act brings for you.

Let me know how you get on, and I’ll see you next week for episode 3 of the summer series 💛

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Transcript

I was going to have a break. From podcasting over the summer season. And then, I had this idea about creating a whole little mini-series, a summer mini-series. 

And I have been so inspired by this thought that I've… just pre-recorded 8 very short, absolutely no bullshit, incredibly loving mini… podcast episodes. 

I don't want you just to listen to them, I want you to listen to them, and then practice it! 

I really want to invite you to take this summer to listen to this bite-sized short episode and apply what I'm teaching in it. 

And then just get fascinated at what shift that creates in your life over this 8 weeks. 

I hope you enjoyed this episode and I will see you when I'm back in September! 

Episode #2 

Start talking kindly to yourself.

What do I mean by this? What I mean by this is… That internal bitchy voice that you're currently talking to yourself with is optional. You would not dream of talking to someone else the way that you talk to yourself. You wouldn't dream it.

So when I say to my clients, well, what would it be like to talk kindly to yourself?

They respond with… I don't know what that would look like. I don't even know how to do that.

But that's a lie. You know exactly how you do it, because you do it with other people.

You'll catch yourself. And you'll respond with kindness. Or it just happens naturally, because you love them so much, you'll be… you'll say to them,

Especially if you're talking to your best friend, you'll be like,

What are you talking about? But when you're talking to yourself, it's like, what are you talking about?

That judgment, that criticism, that bitchy meanness is optional.

So for this week, please practice.

Catching yourself, and then talking to yourself kindly. And I say practice,

Because your brain is not automatically going to do this. It's not. So you have to very deliberately and very consciously choose how to respond to that voice. And for me, it sounds like,

No, no, no, no, no, no. Remember Sue? We don't talk to ourselves like that anymore. And if you listen to the last episode, you'll know that Sue is my primal brain. Hopefully you've listened to that and you've named your primal brain.

But remember, you're now learning how to be in charge. So, catching yourself, interrupting yourself, and going, hang on a minute.

That's not how we talk to ourselves anymore. One of my clients started to say to herself every night—I won't say her name, we'll call her Betty. Call my client Betty for confidentiality.

She'll go, "Night Bet, love you!" She's actually started saying "I love you" to herself. And you can do that with you, too. Yes, it's cringey. Yes, it's weird to begin with, and yes, it feels very unfamiliar.

But unfamiliar is not bad. And actually, that craving of safety and security and calm that you so desperately want is already in your capability to create, regardless of anybody else's view

or external validation. And it starts by how you talk to yourself. So this week,

Very deliberately. Practice being kind to yourself.

Practice. Don't just listen to this and think, oh, that's lovely. Listening to this is not going to change your life.

Going away and practicing what you're hearing will.  

Have an amazing week. Bye!