Ep #120 - Letting Go of the “Shoulds” and Trusting What’s Next

In this episode, I’m sharing honestly about the season I’m in right now — taking a break, stepping back from the pressure to have it all figured out, and listening to the part of me that knows something needs to change.

For a while, I’ve felt like I’ve been pushing a boulder uphill. I kept telling myself what I “should” be doing, even when it no longer felt right. So this summer, I’m choosing to pause, go into my cocoon, and trust that clarity will come when I give it space.

We’re talking about the fear of stepping into the unknown, letting go of old expectations, trusting your energy, and giving yourself permission to evolve before you know exactly what the next version of your life or business will look like.

Because sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop forcing, switch off, and trust what’s trying to emerge.

If you're local to the Radstock, Bath area & would like to join me live on the 16th Sept 2026, you can find all the details here - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/1992650760064?aff=oddtdtcreator. It's going to be a powerful evening.

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Transcript

Welcome, welcome, welcome, everybody, to this week's podcast, and if you're watching me on YouTube. Um, I'm not naked, I've just got a… Strapless dress on, but it the camera doesn't quite. doesn't quite go down that low, so it looks like I could be sat here with my tits out, and I'm not, I'm not recording this podcast. With my boobs out. I am recording it with wet hair, though. I've just got out of the shower, um… Wet hair. Ready to go. Right.

I'm taking a break. If you have followed me for a while, you will know that I did this last summer. I generally do this over the winter, over Christmas. This year feels a little bit different. In the sense that…

I'm having a pivot in my business. I have a lot of spiritual growth happening right now. My energetic gifts are showing themselves. And the business that I have been creating feels like I've been pushing a boulder up a hill. It's been hard. it's not felt right. For a while, actually, I just… Wasn't willing to. believe what my… spiritual side was saying. I suppose my human got in the way, my shoulds got in the way. And basically, what my brain was telling me was, like, I should be coaching, I should be coaching. I am a really fucking good coach? Like, I do it very well! But it just felt like I was pushing a boulder up a hill.

So this pivot… I think. Is going to be towards a lot more public speaking. A lot more hosting of events, whether that's mine or other people's. and retreats. is the direction I think I'm going in.

But what it feels right now is that… I want to… I'm going into a cocoon. I feel like I'm a caterpillar. I'm going into my cocoon. And then I will re-emerge the butterfly. How that butterfly looks, I'm not 100% sure yet. I know it's gonna be a butterfly. But the colours, the make, the model, the essence of that butterfly… I'm not really sure how that looks. And that's quite scary! It's quite scary to step into that unknown. But I'm ready for it.

my energetic gifts. So, if you've ever met me in person, and you'll get a sense of it on here, right? But one of the things I hear consistently from people is, oh my gosh, Nicky, your energy's amazing. Oh my god, I love your energy. Nicky, your energy's amazing. So, this energy that I have, I used to be really frightened of it. I used to be scared, and I'm not anymore. I am not frightened of it anymore. And I'm willing to work with it, enhance it, and put it out into the world, however that is needed. And I don't know how that's needed yet.

So that's what I'm doing. I'm gonna go into my cocoon over this summer, I'm gonna give myself at least 2 weeks of… Off. of my laptop, off of… social media. And I will see how I feel after those 2 weeks as to how I come back in. Now, after those 2 weeks, I will go back to coaching my clients that I currently have, and will love that process. But I'm not quite sure. what I'll be coming back to tell you about in September.

I think it's gonna be amazing. I cannot wait to share my spiritual story with you. But it's not for this episode, it's not for right now. But when I know… You will know when I'm ready to share it. you will be the first ones that I share it with.

So, I am just about to, once I finish recording this, actually sit down and record some reels. for content over the summer, because one of the things I am committed to doing, and really fucking excited about doing, actually. Is it an in-person live event? It's on the 16th of September. It mad swans on the Mendip. So, if you're in the Midsummer Norton, Radstock, Farrington Gurney, Chew Valley, South Bristol, Kaincham, Shepton, Mallet, Froome type. Area.

This is gonna be the most incredible evening of empowerment. I'm literally gonna take the people in the room on a journey from… where they currently are to more confidence. So I really see this, I'm calling it step into your power, because I really see this as a… A really powerful evening of transformation if you let it. I haven't started talking about it yet on social media, and I've already sold 7 tickets. So, this is a sign. to me that this is gonna be really amazing, and I'm really looking forward to holding that space and taking people through that, that are with me live. So, if you're curious about that, and you are local, then… head over to my website, I'll put a link. It's not on… it's not on my website, it's on E. Um, if I do more of these events, and I think I like… I want to, um, I will figure out having it on my websites because of the event bike fees, but anyway. Um, so head over to Eventbrite, I'll put a link, I'll put a link in the show notes, and you can get yourself a ticket. It's gonna be a really beautiful evening.

And I'm very excited about hosting it. So what I'm gonna do, and I've got a whole heap of reels that I'm about to record, I will schedule them for the summer, um… Most people don't tell you they're doing stuff like that, do they? They just pretend, and I might change a couple of tops, or I just might… not, and just go with it. But I am keen to get that out to people, so I am going to be creating first couple of weeks. Um, that I can schedule and market. Step into your power.

And then how my business looks on the other side. I don't actually know yet. So this is gonna be my last episode for the summer. I will be back at some point in September. I'm not really sure when that's gonna be.

Please don't just disappear. I've got a couple of years worth now of episodes, so if you're new to me, go and check them out. I would. If you are new to me, I would really recommend going back to the welcome series, the first 10 episodes. listen to those, because I kind of cover the foundations. And then last summer, I did a mini-series, so that would be brilliant to go and listen to. They're really bite-sized, tiny, short episodes. Very powerful. Go and check those out.

And. I also really want to give you permission… To follow whatever your soul is calling you to do this summer. If it's calling you to spend time, as much time with your kids. do that. If it's calling you to be adventurous, do that. If it's calling for you to switch off and hide, do that. Even if it's just half a day, or a day, I promise you, I promise you, the world will not end. It will not end. Just because you're not constantly available.

So. I'm doing it. I want to influence and give you permission to do it. Not that you need permission, but sometimes when we get given it, it's kind of a nice-to-have.

And I am sending you so much love. So much light and support. And I cannot wait to come back to you in September. Have an incredible summer, and I'll see you on the other side. Bye-bye!