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The Motherhood Mentor
Welcome to The Motherhood Mentor Podcast your go-to resource for moms seeking holistic healing and transformation. Hosted by mind-body somatic healing practitioner and holistic life coach Becca Dollard.
Join us as we explore the transformative power of somatic healing, offering practical tools and strategies to help you navigate overwhelm, burnout, and stress. Through insightful conversations, empowering stories, and expert guidance, you'll discover how to cultivate resilience, reclaim balance, and thrive in every aspect of your life while still feeling permission to be a human. Are you a woman who is building a business while raising babies who refuses to burnout? These are conversations and support for you.
We believe in the power of vulnerability, connection, and self-discovery, and our goal is to create a space where you feel seen, heard, and valued.
Whether you're juggling career, family, or personal growth, this podcast is your sanctuary for holistic healing and growth all while normalizing the ups and downs, the messy and the magic, and the wild ride of this season of motherhood.
Your host:
Becca is a mom of two, married for 14years to her husband Jay living in Colorado. She is a certified somatic healing practitioner and holistic life coach to high functioning moms. She works with women who are navigating raising babies, building businesses, and prioritizing their own wellbeing and healing. She understands the unique challenges of navigating being fully present in motherhood while also wanting to be wildly creative and ambitious in her work. The Motherhood Mentor serves and supports moms through 1:1 coaching, in person community, and weekend retreats.
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The Motherhood Mentor
Preventing Burnout: honoring the subtle signs of high functioning burnout before you have to burn it all down
Women who are high functioning will continue to be productive and show up like everything is fine even while they are burning the candle at both ends. In fact, many women double down on their performances, hard work, and their goodness when they start smelling smoke.
This quickie episode will help you understand the wisdom of burnout and how to have prescribed burns that actually create MORE long term health and wellbeing instead of trying to always have things together.
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Welcome to the Motherhood Mentor Podcast. I'm Becca, a somatic healing practitioner and a holistic life coach for moms, and this podcast is for you. You can expect honest conversations and incredible guests that speak to health, healing and growth in every area of our lives. This isn't just strategy for what we do. It's support for who we are. I believe we can be wildly ambitious while still holding all of our soft and hard humanity as holy. I love combining deep inner healing with strategic systems and no-nonsense talk about what this season is really like. So grab whatever weird health beverage you're currently into and let's get into it.
Speaker 1:Welcome to today's episode of the Motherhood Mentor Podcast. Today is going to be a quickie maybe that's what I'll call these just a quickie concept that I wanted to come riff on for a minute, and that is it's often the straw that breaks the camel's back right, like it's often that one little thing that feels like it breaks you or breaks you down or like has you slipping. It's the stuff that piles up, and the good news about that is that if it's the straw that breaks the camel's back, it's also you honoring those little small straws along the way that prevent you from breaking your back, that prevent you from burning out. Small doable pieces of work can build momentum. The consistency of doing small sacred things can build into this big wild transformation. And this is so important because most of the women that I work with are high functioning, and what I mean by that is that you could be burning out. You could be totally burnt out of, like nothing feels good. I feel like I feel so tired and nothing has the joy or the light or the energy that it used to, and it's like I'm here but I'm not really here, and I'm everywhere but I'm nowhere. And I'm like showing up and I'm doing the things and I'm going through all of the motions and the movement and it's all so good and I am grateful and things look good, but they don't feel good, they don't feel right, something's off. There's this deep thing inside of me that's like whispering or it's yelling, that like this isn't it. And maybe this burnout feels global and it feels all over and you can't really identify like what exactly it is. Or maybe this is like one area, like maybe this is in your business or in your marriage or in your motherhood, or maybe it's like in your personal, emotional or spiritual or physical wellbeing, where you're saying something's off.
Speaker 1:One of the biggest ways that we prevent burnout is by having prescribed burns. Here is what I mean. In Colorado we get a lot of wildfires, maybe not as many as other places, but one of the ways that nature or natives who lived with the land and who actually honored Mother Nature and her cycles and what she needs nature and her cycles and what she needs understood that small prescribed burns actually is part of the life cycle of the land. It's part of the life cycle of healthy mountains, healthy plains, of every once in a while there has to be these small prescribed burns. Otherwise, if those aren't happening, when a fire does catch, it just takes everything in its path because there isn't the right amount, like the ecosystem doesn't have what it needs. And listen, I'm not like a science person, so I might not be like saying this all correctly, but hear what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:In your life of there's so many people who will tell you all about recovering from burnout and I think that's a very important thing. But what I'm really interested in in my career and the work that I do with the women that I'm working with, they don't want to burn out in their business. They don't want to burn out in their motherhood or their marriage or their personal well-being. That doesn't feel like an option to them. They don't want to have to burn out and the only way I see that happening is by having these prescribed burns, where we create healthy boundaries to protect what is sacred, what is holy, while still allowing these little micro moments and these small little straws to break and burn and to be able to shift and pivot things in your life. Where you allow things to burn down, to fall apart a little bit, you create more self-trust in the messy right, because one of the big things that comes, that creates burnout, is hyper control, constant micromanaging, you having to be on all of the time. You feel like you have your foot on the gas and the brake at the same time. You're going from all or nothing or you're so terrified of burning everything down that you just keep going, but the pace you're moving at doesn't work for you. So having these little micro-prescribed burns, acknowledging these different um pieces in your life, these straws in your life, while they're small or while they're building, and being able to create capacity and awareness and honoring your complex needs, is vital to burnout. So I'm curious in your life. Where are you feeling this consistent pull or burning on your focus, attention and emotion? That feels like it's too much and how can we honor that? And something I want to add before we go today that's it. That was the podcast. And something I want to add before we go today that's it, that was the podcast Listening to your life, paying attention to these small little areas where you need to allow some burn to happen, some things to fall away, some visions to be put on the back burner, some grief to happen right, some grief to happen right.
Speaker 1:Some healthy die off, some healthy. You know these cycles of life of it's not always consistent growth and expansion. It's. There's going to be a summer season and then there's going to be a fall harvest and then there's going to be a winter where everything dies and it needs to go compost and create this really rich, nutrient-dense soil so that when things begin to grow, they can have these deep roots of health. What does that look like in this season to you?
Speaker 1:And as I end, I wanted to share that I am opening up a few spots for one-on-one somatic coaching and if you are one of those women who is listening to this show and you're resonating with the depth and the nuance and the joy, I hope, the truth and the integrity that I hope you hear in this podcast of like really talking about what it's like and how we do this, how we have it all and hold it all without burning out or compromising on our values or our standards, while also like having a really wonderful human life. Like I don't know about you, but success to me is not just that I have it, it's that it's how it all feels, that I'm present, like deeply present, like I want to be in the room when I'm with my kids, when I'm with my kids, like I want to really be there and when I'm working, I want to be like in my work and just loving it and like, oh, just creative and ambitious and building and experimenting and connecting. And if you are someone who is a high functioner where you have built success, you have established this wonderful life that is so good that you are so grateful for, but you also want to make sure that you don't burn out. But you also want to make sure that you don't burn out and you maybe are curious how to slow down more, how to be more present, how to bring more of the cycles of life so that you're not always just running on 90 miles an hour because that doesn't feel good anymore. Maybe what you wanted or needed has changed. Maybe you're looking at yourself and you don't recognize you and you just need a space where you can talk about it, where you can have this deep support and process but actual, like tools to work on it, because coaching with me, there is massive amounts of compassion and support, but there's also accountability. I hold my clients to a really high level of I see you and I know what you're capable of, and I am going to call out when you are playing small, when you're afraid. I'm going to help you understand what those straws are that you can see and then what you can't see. There's a saying of even the best brain surgeons cannot do brain surgery on themselves, and this is why I still see a coach.
Speaker 1:One of the things that has made me the coach that I am is the coaching that I receive as a client, the fact that I show up to this work over and over for myself personally. So I'm not just bringing you knowledge that I read in a book, I'm bringing you things that I currently continually practice and show up for in my life. And I get it because I am in the season of raising babies and building a business and I want my marriage to be not just surviving this season but like really thriving in this season. And, oh, I want health and well-being and I care about my family and community and friends and it's like there's so much Sometimes. We just need a space and a place to be able to bring it all back into focus. For clarity, if you are the person who is taking care of everyone and everything else, if you are a space holder, you're a therapist, a coach, a birth worker, someone who is out there doing big, beautiful things in the community.
Speaker 1:What I love to do as a coach is be that place that takes care of you. How is this all feeling for you? How do we make sure that you are showing up to your health and well-being holistically Mind, body, soul, environment, like in your habits, in your thought patterns? Are we creating space and capacity for your emotions? How are your boundaries? How is your time and energy management? Those are all things that we continually are working on and building and up-leveling.
Speaker 1:The women that I work with are really well and healthy and they're actually pretty good at showing up for themselves and their schedules and their lives. But now it's not just oh, I'm drowning and it's helped me. That's not really the population of moms that I work with drowning and it's helped me. That's not really the population of moms that I work with. I work with moms who are like I'm good, but how does it get great? How do I build even more roots of health and well-being and stability and balance? And I want to build and give more. I want to build my business or this other business or there's these things happening with my kids and I want to be able to respond even better, show up even more. My values and standards are already high and I want them to be higher, and I need a room of women who get that. I want to be in a room of women who sharpen me, who make me better, who challenge me, who make me think about things in a different way, in a new way, and I don't know about you, but there is nothing that gives there. It's one of the things that gives me the most energy is to be with other women who think and feel about life differently. They are so hungry, but not because they're starving, because they are already well fed, and then they're saying, oh, thank you more, please. They want themselves and the world to be continually getting better, while being deeply content.
Speaker 1:If that's you and you are craving coaching, I would love to work with you. So in in the link of this, in the show notes of this podcast, you will find a link to book a free call or to book an application in order to work with me, and there is an application process, because I don't work with everyone anymore. I'm really clear about the work that I do in the world and who I am most. What's the word I want to use, like equipped? The people that I'm most passionate about working with, and I want to make sure that I'm the right fit for you, because I want to work with people who I'm the best fit for what they want and need. So, if that's you, I would love to talk to you. There are only a couple spots and I would love to start working with you. They will be opening to the waitlist soon, so don't wait to apply, and I hope you enjoyed this episode.
Speaker 1:If you felt this in your bones, take a moment and just ask yourself what are the straws in my life, what needs to be burnt down so that I have new room for new life. What needs to be taken care of? What needs need to be met in order to make sure that I am tending to my needs, my capacity, because if you are the woman who is spinning all of the plates, if you are the woman juggling all the balls in the air, doesn't it make the most sense that we take care of you, because you could have the best strategies and the systems in the world? But if you aren't there, if you don't feel good or you're going through the motions like you're there but you're not there, what does it matter? You are so important. I don't think you understand. You are so important.
Speaker 1:You are irreplaceable.
Speaker 1:Someone could come do everything that you do, but it wouldn't matter. They wouldn't do it like you. They wouldn't be you. You are irreplaceable in your motherhood. You are irreplaceable in your business. You are irreplaceable in your relationships and your friendships and your family, and I want you to realize that this is your life. This is your life. Come back to your life. This is your life. Come back to your agency, come back into your choice of how am I going to live this one precious life. Go do something fun today. Go do something for you.
Speaker 1:I hope you enjoyed this little episode. I hope to come back and do more. Not all of them will be talking about coaching, but I will do some more little quickies Maybe we should call them quickies. I feel like that's really fun, but I hope you loved this quick little episode and I'll see you next time. Thanks for joining me on today's episode of the Motherhood Mentor Podcast.
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