The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show

48: Burn the Old Story: The Real Glow-Up is Identity Work

Quinn Otrera Episode 48

Episode Summary:
In this powerful episode, I talk about rewriting your self-concept after divorce—not by looking back, but by imagining forward. Drawing on the work of Benjamin Hardy (Personality Isn’t Permanent), Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics), Dr. Joe Dispenza, and Gay Hendricks (The Big Leap), I break down how identity isn’t fixed, how to start thinking and acting like your future self, and why joy can feel so damn scary when you’ve been stuck in survival mode.

I also share my personal story of going from believing I wasn’t “cut out” for school to scoring in the 99th percentile on my nursing entrance exam, and how this transformation had everything to do with my self-image—not my circumstances.

Plus:

  • The trap of personality tests
  • A tool called the “creation walk”
  • A client story about upper limits after love
  • How I completely changed my parenting story post-divorce
  • How to start living as your future self today

Action steps inside this episode:

  • Write a letter from your future self
  • Use 3 daily reminders to ask: “Am I being her?”
  • Practice nervous system regulation when joy shows up
  • Try a “creation walk” to rewire your self-image

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