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The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show
Ever wish you could hang out with a smart, funny, sexy divorced bff who could tell you how she does it all? Now you can! Join certified life coach Quinn Otrera each week as she spills the tea on everything from co-parenting with an angry ex to getting your sexy back to creating an intentional path for growth to getting a restraining order – not necessarily in that order. Buckle up, girlfriend! It’s time for your post-divorce glow-up!
Episodes
78 episodes
78: Reclaiming the Divorced Body Part 4: Embodiment as a Spiritual Practice (& Farewell)
I share why I’m pausing this podcast at Episode 78 and shifting my focus toward women’s healthcare and midwifery. Then I close our Embodiment series by making “spiritual” practical: intuition in plain language, movement that feels safe, tiny ri...
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Episode 78
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77: Reclaiming the Divorced Body Part 3: Touch, Pleasure & Boundaries
Quinn opens with a Halloween full-circle moment—house full of kids, step-siblings, laughter, candy—and pivots into the heart of Part 3: pleasure and boundaries as part of healing. We name common post-divorce patterns (fawn, freeze, “lone...
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Episode 77
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41:37
76: Reclaiming the Divorced Body Part 2: Training Your Body to Feel Safe Again
Quinn unpacks how the nervous system asks one question all day—Am I safe?—and why fight/flight/freeze/fawn are wise survival patterns (not personal failures). You’ll learn fast, gentle regulation tools (physiological sigh, orien...
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Episode 76
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40:17
75: Reclaiming the Divorced Body Part 1: Why You Feel Numb — and How to Come Back to Life
Quinn kicks off a month-long series on embodiment—the practice of living in your body with safety, honesty, and aliveness—especially after divorce. We explore why so many of us disconnect (hello, codependency, fawn, freeze, dissociatio...
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Episode 75
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31:07
74: The Power of Connection: How Community Heals What Divorce Breaks
Quinn and Britta Jo sit down after Britta’s first Stay or Go retreat to explore what women are truly craving—real connection.From Brené Brown’s words—“we are neurobiologically hardwired for connection”—to stories of women...
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Episode 74
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1:38:17
73: The Messy Middle: Building Your Action Potential
In this raw and electric episode, Quinn cracks open what it really means to live in the messy middle — that in-between season where you’ve left the old life but haven’t yet stepped fully into the new.You’ve filed the papers, mov...
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Episode 73
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18:28
72: It's a Myth: What Sapiens Teaches Us About Divorce
In this episode, Quinn cracks open Yuval Noah Harari’s Sapiens and shows how its central idea—that humans rule the world because we can create and share stories—directly applies to divorce.Marriage? A story. Divorce-as-failure? ...
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Episode 72
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25:06
71: The Secret Senses That Guide You Forward
In this week’s episode, I dive into An Immense World by Ed Yong and what it teaches us about life after divorce. Aristotle may have told us we only have five senses (he was wrong about that and about women), but neuroscience s...
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Episode 71
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25:05
70: When Your Child Cuts You Off: Boundaries, Grief, and Clean Apologies
Quinn gets real about estrangement: when a child requests no contact, how do you keep loving without self-erasure? In this intimate conversation, Quinn shares their experience with an adult son who cut contact in November 2023, the grief of “lo...
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Episode 70
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33:10
69: Glowing Up When the World Is On Fire
Quinn opens with a personal update on last week’s co-parenting conversation with Britta and why the extended chat now lives on Britta’s Substack. From there, Quinn digs into a hard question: How do we ethically glow up when Gaza, Sudan, Ukr...
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Episode 69
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28:15
68: The Agony of 50/50 Custody (And What Helps) - Convo w/Britta Jo
Quinn and Britta dive into one of the most gut-wrenching challenges women face when considering or navigating divorce: the “agony” of 50/50 custody.How do you cope with the heartbreak of being away from your kids—even if
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Episode 68
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1:35:02
67: The Divorce Glow-Up Is Just a Skillset
What if the things you think you’re “bad at” aren’t flaws, but simply skills you haven’t practiced yet?This week’s episode is about stripping away the shame and drama around struggle and seeing it for what it is: a skill you ...
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Episode 67
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30:51
66: Divorced, Not Defined: Writing Your Next Chapter
Too many women wear divorce like a scarlet letter — a permanent label that defines their worth, parenting, relationships, and future. In this episode, Quinn shares how she refuses to let divorce define her life and instead uses it as fuel to ex...
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Episode 66
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26:03
65: Dropping the Armor: Trusting Strangers & Maybe My Ex
This week’s episode is a love letter to one of the riskiest, most liberating beliefs I’ve ever adopted: It is safe to rely on the generosity and honesty of strangers.I’m sharing the story of how buying a quirky little car...
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Episode 65
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23:44
64: Back to School After Divorce? Hell Yes, You Can.
Divorce may be the end of a marriage, but it’s not the end of your becoming. In this episode, Quinn gets personal and powerful about what it’s like to go back to school in your 50s, what it means to reinvent your career and identity post-divorc...
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26:15
63: Your Brain Is Lying to You (and That’s Great News)
We’re diving into the real reason you feel stuck—and it’s not your ex, your job, or your dating life. It’s the story your brain is telling you on repeat.Quinn shares a deeply personal moment with her ex-husband that triggered a cascade o...
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Episode 63
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29:39
62:The Unconscious Pattern That Keeps You From Healing & How to Stop It
Have you ever caught yourself thinking: “I’ll finally be okay when he apologizes.” “I’ll feel whole when I meet the right person.” “I just need closure…”That, my friend, is what we call a healing fantasy...
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30:42
61: Heterosexual History pt.2: Reclaiming Desire, Rage & Truth
“Straight people, are you okay?” In part two of our electric conversation about The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward, Britta and Quinn leave behind history class and drop into the raw, personal reality of living insid...
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Episode 61
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1:45:55
60: Heterosexual History 101: Why It’s Been a Hot Mess (with Britta Jo)
In this spicy, eye-opening episode, Quinn and Britta take a wild ride through the history and heartbreak of heterosexuality—inspired by Jane Ward’s brilliant book, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality.They explore:🕰...
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Episode 60
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1:49:22
59: Practicing Calm: Building Emotional Muscle Memory Post-Divorce
It’s not magic. It’s muscle memory. Quinn returns this week with a powerful message: your glow-up isn’t built in the moments of clarity—it’s built in the reps. Drawing from personal stories (including cult recovery, parenting nine ki...
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Episode 59
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29:24
58: I Choose Me: Divorce Rings, Rituals & Rebirth
It’s not about retail therapy—it’s about reclaiming your identity. In this deeply empowering episode, Quinn explores the growing trend of divorce rings and other symbolic rituals women are using to mark their rebirth after divorce.
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25:29
57: You Asked If Life Gets Better After Divorce—Here’s the Truth
Quinn opens up about what life really looks like on the other side of divorce—from the deepest grief to the unexpected gifts. After leaving both a long-term marriage and a high-control religion, Quinn shares how the dismantling of ever...
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Episode 57
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34:11
56: When You Don’t Know What’s Next, Ask This
This episode is a love letter to all of us standing at the edge of the unknown.With the school year ending and the summer holding more questions than answers, I share from my own life the real, raw process of navigating uncertainty post-...
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Episode 56
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22:14
55: Doing Nothing IS a Decision
In this episode, Quinn celebrates the end of a school year and reflects on the growth that comes from choosing courage over comfort. They dive deep into what it really costs us—emotionally, spiritually, and practically—when we don’t ta...
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Episode 55
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23:03
54: Listener Q & A: The Myth of “Over It” and the Truth About Healing
Quinn answers real questions from listeners navigating the post-divorce terrain. From heavy sadness two years out, to rebuilding identity, holding space for your children's pain, and the haunting question, "What if this is it?", Quinn ...
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Episode 54
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28:40