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71. How Did We Get Here? When Modern Marriage Falls Into Traditional Roles

June 11, 2025 • La Toya Luces-Sampson MD, PMH-C • Season 1 • Episode 71

Hey doc,

In this episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I’m revisiting a live I did called: "The partner you thought you had😩 How gender roles turned your progressive hubby into a 1950s a-hole"

Because let’s be honest: even the most modern, educated, emotionally intelligent men can slide into outdated gender roles once kids come into the picture.

You’re a physician. A mother. A leader. So why do you feel like you’re living a version of your mother’s or grandmother’s life, except now, you're expected to do it all, with a career too?

This conversation is not about blame. It’s about:

Why “progressive” partners still default to traditional gender roles
What socialization, family modeling, and unseen expectations have to do with it
How resentment builds, even in good marriages
What to do when the dynamic at home doesn’t feel like a partnership anymore

You didn’t marry the wrong man. And you’re not wrong for being exhausted.

Let’s talk about the invisible pressures, the unspoken assumptions, and the tools you can use to make a change without waiting for him to magically “get it.”

Listen to Episode 23 Spouse Skeptic? Navigating Au Pair Objections for Physician Moms to find some of the communication tools that I discussed in this episode.

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