Stethoscopes and Strollers
Welcome to Stethoscopes & Strollers! I'm Dr. Toya, mom of two, OBGYN, and coach for physician moms. Here, we go beyond the hospital halls, into the messy, magical early years of parenting—think diapers, sleepless nights, and figuring out how to deal with all those unexpected twists and turns.
Every episode, I dive into topics like mental health, the ins and outs of postpartum sex, sorting out childcare, and how having little ones changes your marriage. We’ll talk about getting back to work after baby, the real deal with mom guilt thanks to those tough doctor schedules, what pumping at work is really like, and how to keep all the balls in the air without dropping any. We’re here to get real about the hard choices, like deciding to stop breastfeeding, and so much more. This is a space for focusing on taking care of you, because managing scrubs and swaddles takes a village.
You'll figure out how to ask for and actually accept help, because let’s be honest, getting support is crucial for thriving as both a mom and a doctor.
Just a quick heads-up: while we're all about sharing and supporting, remember this isn’t medical advice. We’re here to connect, share experiences, and grow—together, without the medical jargon.
So, grab your coffee or tea, and get ready to dive into those parts of being a physician mom that don't get talked about enough. You're not riding this roller coaster alone, and you definitely deserve all the support you can get.
Tune in to Stethoscopes & Strollers for some real, honest insights and practical tips to make momming a bit easier. It’s time to get the conversation started!
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Episodes
126 episodes
118. Traveling With Your Au Pair (And Actually Enjoying It)
Au pair travel comes up in the groups every single week, and it's usually a horror story. The awkward silences, the au pair completely checked out, the vacation that didn't feel like a vacation.I did this episode because I think a lot of...
117. Michelle Obama Said the Same Thing I’ve Been Telling Y’all
Hey Doc,I just got back from ACOG and I’m still on a high!I went mainly to hear Michelle Obama speak and she did not disappoint. But what surprised me most was how deeply aligned her message was with everything I talk about here o...
116. Full Circle in DC: Medicine, Motherhood, and Michelle Obama
Hey Doc,I’m on my way to DC!My first home in this country. Howard. All of it.I’m going to ACOG’s ACSM, our national meeting, which is funny, because I don’t practice anymore.But this work I do with physician moms is ...
115. How to Delegate Your Life as a Woman Physician (Without Paying for Busywork)
Hey Doc,If you’ve ever said, “I just need more help,” and then somehow ended up more overwhelmed… this episode is for you.Because the problem usually isn’t that you don’t have help.It’s that you’re delegating the w...
114. When the Life You Wanted Doesn’t Fit Anymore
Hey Doc,Let’s talk about something that sounds simple… but clearly is not.You are allowed to change your mind.I say that, and I already know some of you are side-eyeing me like, “Okay… but it’s not that easy.”<...
113. If You’re Hesitating About Childcare, Listen to This
Hey DocI had a moment recently that stopped me in my tracks.My kids were heading out for a full day—something fun, something special—and I wasn’t there. And instead of guilt?I felt peace. Gratitude. Relief.Not...
112. Happy Doctor’s Day (And a Reminder You Might Need)
Hey Doc —Doctor’s Day can feel… underwhelming.A small gesture. A generic message. Maybe a reminder that you’re appreciated, without anything actually changing.And for a lot of physicians, that disconnect doesn’t go u...
111. Part 2: Dr. Traci De Splinter on Mom Guilt, Career Choices, and Raising Successful Daughters
Hey Doc —This is Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Traci De Splinter, an OB/GYN here in Texas and a seasoned physician mom whose daughters are now adults.In Part 1, we talked about what it looked like for her to hav...
110. Part 1: Dr. Traci De Splinter 2 under 2, New attending, new city, new life
Hey Doc —This is a conversation I’ve really been looking forward to sharing with you.I’m joined by Dr. Traci De Splinter, an OB/GYN here in Texas and a seasoned physician mom whose daughters are now adults. I love co...
109. Celebrating Yourself: Why High Achievers Struggle to Do It
Hey Doc —There’s something I see over and over again when I work with physician moms.You’ve achieved incredible things. Medical school. Residency. Building a career. Raising children. Holding together entire ecosystems of people w...
108. Fear Isn’t a Sign to Stop: What “Doing It Scared” Actually Looks Like
Hey Doc,I’m in the middle of launching a brand-new HVAC business with my husband. And let me tell you: starting a business from scratch, self-funded, no clients, no safety net? It will humble you real quick.I’ve been nauseo...
107. Part 2: Dr. Gina Dapul-Hidalgo’s Story: Investing in Herself and Shattering Limiting Beliefs
Hey Doc,What do you do when everything looks “successful” on paper… but you’re not actually satisfied?In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Gina Dapul-Hidalgo — allergist, CEO, twin mom — we talk about the season that doesn...
106. Part 1: Dr. Gina Dapul-Hidalgo’s Story: No Family Nearby, Newborn Twins, and a Full-Time Job
Hey Doc,What happens when you’re pregnant with twins, working full-time, and living in a city with no family nearby?In this first part of my conversation with Dr. Gina Dapul-Hidalgo, board-certified pediatric and adult alle...
105. The Degrees You Think You Need (But Don’t)
You already have the degree that matters, doc.But somewhere along the way, many of us started believing that we need another certification, another course, or another set of letters behind our name before we’re...
104. Why This Physician Coach Launched an HVAC Business
Hey Doc,In this episode, I’m sharing a major life update that, on the surface, looks like a hard pivot, but is actually a continuation of everything I’ve been building since I left corporate medicine.📣 I’m officially the co...
103. Teach Your Sons How To Treat You: Your Actions are the Curriculum
Hey Doc —If you got sick tomorrow, would your family know how to care for you?Would your partner step up?Would your kids know what to do?Or would you be left watching everyone wait for you to get better, so yo...
102. How to Handle Surprise Meetings with Leadership
Hey Doc —There’s a specific kind of dread that comes with a vague meeting invite.No agenda.No context.Just: “Leadership wants to meet.”You already know — it’s rarely good.Whether you’re ...
101. How I managed locums with a baby and a toddler— and how you can too
Hey Doc,“I’ll do locums once the kids are older.”Sound familiar?That’s the line I hear most from physician moms when they’re curious about locums but don’t think it’s realistic with a baby or toddler at home...
100. Celebrating 100 Episodes of Stethoscopes and Strollers: Welcome to 2026!
Hey DocWe made it. A brand new year and the 100th episode of Stethoscopes and Strollers.This isn’t just a milestone. It’s a moment to pause, reflect, and remember why this podcast, and this work, exists in the first place...
99. A Trinidadian New Year, A Physician Mom’s Reminder
Hey Doc,It’s Ole Year’s Day, as we say in Trinidad! And whether you call it Ole Year’s Day or New Year’s Eve, the energy’s the same: reflect, reset, repeat.Before you close the book on the year — or let your mind spiral on all the...
98. Unsubscribing from Holiday Chaos (Effective Immediately)
Hey Doc —When did the holidays turn into one big chaotic to-do list?Between last-minute gift runs, boundary-testing relatives, and the annual matching pajama scramble… it’s a lot.This episode is your permission slip to ...
97. Holiday Survival 101: Say Less, Stress Less
Hey Doc,Headed into a holiday gathering with a cousin, auntie, or in-law who always has something to say? This one’s for you.This short and slightly petty episode is your permission slip to disengage — without guilt, with...
96. How to Ask for What You Want at Work
Hey DocIf you’ve ever left a meeting with leadership thinking, “Why did I even bother?” I’ve been there.Vague emails. Rambling explanations. Trying to be heard and ending up dismissed.This episode is about doing it...
95. How to Outsource as a Physician Mom: Start Here
Hey Doc —How do you manage with young kids with household duties, work, marriage…life?It’s the question I hear constantly — in coaching calls, Facebook posts, in casual conversations when someone’s hanging on by a thread....
94. The Holiday Episode: Ask for What You Actually Want
Hey Doc,We’re heading into the holiday season, and I want to offer you a small but powerful reminder — the kind we don’t usually give ourselves this time of year. Between the gifts, the traditions, the kids, the family expectations, and ...