Stethoscopes and Strollers
Welcome to Stethoscopes & Strollers! I'm Dr. Toya, mom of two, OBGYN, and coach for physician moms. Here, we go beyond the hospital halls, into the messy, magical early years of parenting—think diapers, sleepless nights, and figuring out how to deal with all those unexpected twists and turns.
Every episode, I dive into topics like mental health, the ins and outs of postpartum sex, sorting out childcare, and how having little ones changes your marriage. We’ll talk about getting back to work after baby, the real deal with mom guilt thanks to those tough doctor schedules, what pumping at work is really like, and how to keep all the balls in the air without dropping any. We’re here to get real about the hard choices, like deciding to stop breastfeeding, and so much more. This is a space for focusing on taking care of you, because managing scrubs and swaddles takes a village.
You'll figure out how to ask for and actually accept help, because let’s be honest, getting support is crucial for thriving as both a mom and a doctor.
Just a quick heads-up: while we're all about sharing and supporting, remember this isn’t medical advice. We’re here to connect, share experiences, and grow—together, without the medical jargon.
So, grab your coffee or tea, and get ready to dive into those parts of being a physician mom that don't get talked about enough. You're not riding this roller coaster alone, and you definitely deserve all the support you can get.
Tune in to Stethoscopes & Strollers for some real, honest insights and practical tips to make momming a bit easier. It’s time to get the conversation started!
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Stethoscopes and Strollers
86. Are You The Problem? How Women Physicians Can Change the Culture of Medicine
Hey Doc,
Are you the problem? Not you alone, but us. Women physicians.
Without realizing it, we uphold the very systems — patriarchy, sexism, racism — that keep us playing small. It shows up in the way we react when another woman asks for more, when we hesitate to negotiate, or when we discourage salary transparency, and when we are passing down outdated advice to younger women physicians.
The truth is: the system of medicine was built in a different era, for a different demographic — and those old rules still shape how we show up today.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about accountability. It’s about unlearning what we were taught, and replacing them with a culture that actually serves us.
In this episode you’ll hear:
- Why asking for more should be celebrated, not criticized
- The danger of believing negotiation is “unprofessional”
- Why pay transparency matters (and who really benefits when we stay silent)
- How to hold yourself and other women physicians accountable in a way that opens conversation instead of shutting it down
Doc, it’s time to stop shrinking yourself to fit outdated expectations.
Take back your power.
Ask. Negotiate. Advocate.
And support other women when they do the same.
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