Stethoscopes and Strollers
Welcome to Stethoscopes & Strollers! I'm Dr. Toya, mom of two, OBGYN, and coach for physician moms. Here, we go beyond the hospital halls, into the messy, magical early years of parenting—think diapers, sleepless nights, and figuring out how to deal with all those unexpected twists and turns.
Every episode, I dive into topics like mental health, the ins and outs of postpartum sex, sorting out childcare, and how having little ones changes your marriage. We’ll talk about getting back to work after baby, the real deal with mom guilt thanks to those tough doctor schedules, what pumping at work is really like, and how to keep all the balls in the air without dropping any. We’re here to get real about the hard choices, like deciding to stop breastfeeding, and so much more. This is a space for focusing on taking care of you, because managing scrubs and swaddles takes a village.
You'll figure out how to ask for and actually accept help, because let’s be honest, getting support is crucial for thriving as both a mom and a doctor.
Just a quick heads-up: while we're all about sharing and supporting, remember this isn’t medical advice. We’re here to connect, share experiences, and grow—together, without the medical jargon.
So, grab your coffee or tea, and get ready to dive into those parts of being a physician mom that don't get talked about enough. You're not riding this roller coaster alone, and you definitely deserve all the support you can get.
Tune in to Stethoscopes & Strollers for some real, honest insights and practical tips to make momming a bit easier. It’s time to get the conversation started!
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Stethoscopes and Strollers
96. How to Ask for What You Want at Work
Hey Doc
If you’ve ever left a meeting with leadership thinking, “Why did I even bother?” I’ve been there.
Vague emails. Rambling explanations. Trying to be heard and ending up dismissed.
This episode is about doing it differently. With clarity. With strategy. And without bending over backwards to be “nice” about it.
You’ll learn:
- How to prep before the ask (so you’re not just venting)
- What to focus on depending on who you’re talking to
- The difference between making a request vs. negotiating
- How to frame your ask so it actually gets traction
- And why empathy for your boss doesn’t mean you give up your ask
This isn’t about playing politics.
It’s about getting what you need without second-guessing your right to ask — whether it’s your schedule, your inbox load, or the support that makes your job sustainable.
✨Want a quick step-by-step summary to prep for your next meeting or email?
Download my free guide: How to Ask for What You Want at Work.
You’ll get the exact questions I use with clients to help you clarify your ask, prep with strategy, and show up with confidence.
🎧 Listen to the full episode — especially if you’ve got a meeting on your calendar and no idea where to start.
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