Nevermind, I'll Do It Myself

Secure attachment asks that we rely on one another. Asking for support is often a tremendous challenge for individuals. Somewhere along the way, they were taught to "be a big girl/boy and do it yourself". 

Our vigilance to monitor emotions of others, causes us to analyze every detail, interpreting their responses as irritated or anger towards us. This limits our safety, so we begin to believe it is easier to "Do it myself", rather than ask for help.

Lean in, be willing to receive their help (even with that eye roll). Eventually, it will build the safety and trust you long for that creates a foundation for secure attachment in your relationships.