69: [How-To] Using Bailey's Nesting Nights as a Guide to Tackle Your To-Do List & Get Sh*t Done

In Bailey's final episode before her Fill Your Cups maternity leave, we are talking all about how she used her "Nesting Nights" to prep for baby. BUT even if you are not in that phase of life, this method can be helpful in motivating you to get sh*t done in ANY area of life. Whether that's in the home, at work, in a side hustle, or just in your everyday to-do list, this episode can be used as a guide to get your sh*t DONE & out of the way! 

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minutes already. Okay. But are you ready? Yeah. Okay. I'm ready. I know, I know. Okay. Ready? 1, 2, 3, the podcast. We're your host Morgan in daily. Hey, Bailey and I are in a mood. Yeah. But because. This is Bailey's last podcast episode for a while. Yeah. Before I had my baby and I'm taking a whole like maternity leave just so I can focus on me and my baby, but I will miss it a lot and it feels really weird to be here right now and like. No, it's the last episode that I'm recording for a while. So crazy. She's coming back. Yes, coming back. The plan taking, just taking some time off. So I won't be here for a couple episodes, but when I come back it'll be like I never left. Yeah. So wish Bailey luck with her baby, but more importantly, wish me luck with the podcast. I'm excited to listen as a. Just a listener instead of like, I hope you do. Oh, I definitely will. And, and you're making a new listener too. So you are really doing it for everybody. I, for the good of the podcast. I really am. That's, that's what I'm all about. Um, no, shout out to me and my baby. I'm gonna be having her soon. Heck yeah. Honestly, by the time you guys are listening to this episode, I might already have her. I don't know. So shout out baby girls. Yeah. Shout out baby girl. Still dunno her name. Well, you do. I don't, I know her name. Well. Soon enough everyone will know her name. Yeah. But before we get onto today's episode, which is gonna be all about kind of like how to get the things done. So we've done episodes before that's like, it's like habits to get your shit together and we've done things that are like, mm-hmm. Like sometimes you just have to do the hard thing or whatever, things like that. So now we're giving you a plan in place of how to get this stuff done. Mm-hmm. And it was kind of inspired by, I have these things called nesting nights. Yes. Which we'll get more into that in just a second because first, Morgan, what is filling your cup? Yes. I, I'm, I'm really excited about this episode, by the way'cause I feel like you've been crushing pregnancy. Thank you. And preparation. And it doesn't look the same for everybody, but I feel like I just, if I were gonna do it, I'd wanna do it the way you're doing it. Oh God. Thank you so. And I feel like you can apply it to like, lots of parts of life. Yes. So I feel like it's applicable to those that are not just pregnant or moms or whatever. It's, uh, we can all apply it. So, but, but before that, I am drinking a, I think it's called Craft Mix. I can't remember what those little packets were. Mm-hmm. But they're these little packets, they're like low sugar, low calorie, whatever, and they're cocktails. But you can either do a mocktail. Or a cocktail so you can add liquor optional. And I did, and this one's in the Mango Margarita one. My friend Chelsea got me for these and or got me these. Mm-hmm. Got them for me. And, and I have them in like a little. Glass that she got for me, Uhhuh as well. And you have one too. But yeah, they were like specifically for the podcast to keep our drinks cool and whatnot. Keep the cup filled. Yes, exactly. So, so cute. That's why I have a little mango margarita situation. What about you? She, I just got some water today. Mm-hmm. Because that's all I've been craving. I just want water right now. Mm-hmm. I guess am my raspberry leaf. Tea if you're pregnant, you know, you know. Um, but no, but just water today for me. Nice. Mm-hmm. Well, we already did our shout out'cause it was you. I know. Shout out to me and my baby. Shout out to Bailey. Shout out to Bailey. Well, like I said, we're kind of doing episodes today about like how to actually get your stuff done. Mm-hmm. How to actually get your shit done. That's what I'm gonna title this episode, I think. Mm-hmm. Bye. This was all inspired because I've been doing these things called nesting nights. Mm-hmm. Which when you're pregnant, there's this like biological need and they call it nesting, and it's like where you're preparing for your baby, you're getting ready. It's like this instinctual thing of. You just feel like you have to do something at all times. Yeah, and I was feeling really, really overwhelmed because I was like, oh my God, there's so much to do. And my brain was constantly thinking of the next thing to do and we have to do this, and then blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And so I was like, okay, what I'm gonna do is I'm going to. Make something called a nesting night and block off our calendar for every single Friday. Mm-hmm. Which Mason was a champ for that because I told him he could not make any plans on Fridays. I was like, no, if your friends wanna do something, tell him you're busy. And he did every single Friday. That's awesome. He, he loves to be busy. He loves to be busy, but he was like, no, I love these nesting nights. So fun. We get'em done, blah, blah, blah. Um, but. I decided that I was gonna go in my calendar and mark off every single Friday and declare that as a nesting night. And during those nesting nights, we would take tasks from my giant to-do list of all these things that had to get done still, and we would get them done during those Friday nights specifically. So that's kind of where this idea for this episode came from, because. I, like Morgan said, and not to toot my own horn, but it was very successful. Yeah. We got everything done and like we still had and early. Yeah. You had, I think that you got your, really, your final task that you really wanted to have done before she was here. Done like two or three weeks early. Yeah. And then after that you had some. Small things. Mm-hmm. That really wouldn't have been a big deal if they didn't get done before she got there. Yeah. But I was like, well, we got time. Yeah. So we might as well. Yeah. So honestly, having the nesting nights, like we kind of crushed it and so we were just thinking it'd be kind of fun to do an episode today of. You know how I went through these nesting nights, but then also how you can apply it in your own life or your own to-do list, and just other ways to really motivate yourself to get things done. Mm-hmm. That you have to get done. Yeah. And I really like it because I think that a feeling that I get whenever I feel panic or overwhelm about having so much to do, I feel like some of that just comes from not really even. Knowing exactly what I have to do. Mm-hmm. So I love the idea of just listing it all out, getting it all out there, because I have this feeling whenever, for instance, I know that I need to clean or something. Yeah. But I haven't made a list. I'm like, oh, I have so much to do, but I actually have no idea how much I have to do. Yes. Because I haven't actually tangibly looked at, okay, I have to clean the bathrooms, I have to do this, I do that. You know? And then once you put it all down. I feel like that is the first feeling of relief. Yeah. Because you actually know what you're getting into. I feel like it applies to work whenever you sit down for the day and you're like, oh, I have so much to do. Yeah. And then you just kind of let your email or phone calls or whatever dictate your day. Mm-hmm. Instead of having a plan in place and dedicating the time to it. That feels so much to me. It feels so much more relieving. Yeah. And, and if you don't get to. The thing, like if you don't get to a specific thing on the list, you still can see what you've gotten done. Yes. And then you can move the other one too, the next time that you're tackling that project or whatever it is. Yes, exactly. Exactly. I get that same way where I'm just like, ah. But mine usually because I'm like, I don't know where to start. Yes. Or I'm like. Some of these things that I have to get done require me to do these other things first. Mm-hmm. And I just don't want to, or like it's too hard or mm-hmm. The steps are too long. Like, I feel like that's what always gets me in my head is I'm like. Oh my gosh. Like one thing to do is really five things to do and I just can't do any of them kind of thing. But if you do one thing today and then one thing next Friday Yeah. And then you know, then yes. By the end of five weeks you've got all five things done. Yes. Major things or whatever. Exactly. Exactly. I have noticed that when I do not do things that I have to do and I just keep putting them off and putting them off, I feel really like. Unreliable to myself. Mm-hmm. Like, I'm like, oh, yep, I have to get it done. So then Mason's asking me like, Hey, have you gotten this done? I'm like, no. Mm-hmm. And it's just like, or you're asking me, Hey, have you, have you done this? No. Mm-hmm. And it's just like, I keep putting it off like I'm such a procrastinator, things like that. But when I get it done, I notice I feel so much better about myself and I don't feel flaky and I feel reliable, and I feel like someone who gets done what they say they were gonna get done. Mm-hmm. And I think that that has been such a change in my head from kind of like starting these nesting nights. Is that I really feel productive and I feel like if not for me. Then I'm getting things done and other people can count on me to do it. Yeah. You know what I mean? I totally know what you mean. It reminds me of this analogy that one of the podcasters that I used to listen to use all the time where she talked about her confidence bucket, and she said, every time you keep a promise to yourself, you're dropping a little. Yeah. Whatever in your confidence bucket. Yes. And the more it fill, the more times that you keep a promise to yourself, that confidence bucket fills up, and then you just feel more assured. So like, yeah. Yeah. Reliable, confident, and it, but it goes the same way every time you break a promise to yourself, you're kind of removing mm-hmm. Whatever, from your confidence bucket. So your confidence starts to dwindle a little bit more. Yeah. And yeah, and I really, I noticed this a lot whenever I first started. Healthy Habits. Mm-hmm. Like. Specifically things like food tracking or working out more, or taking a walk in the morning or things like that? Yeah, so when I first started implementing, like those kinds of habits and I would say, okay, in the morning I'm gonna get up and I'm gonna work out. It, I, it is really, really hard at first. Mm-hmm. But when you actually do the thing that you said you were gonna do for yourself, then it just makes you feel. So much better. Yeah. You're like, oh my gosh, I can do this. Yeah. I am the person who follows through. Yes. And it's the same way. So I feel like. It makes so much sense that. You need to, you need to have, when, whenever you're finding yourself putting things off, you need to have some sort of plan or some things to get you going. Yes. And I think that these nesting nights like this is such a good basis to go off of. Mm-hmm. To plan for any situation like that. Yeah, I completely agree. I think I will continue doing them. They kind of remind me of like, we've talked about like weekly resets before and things like that. And they kind of remind me of that because you've got this specific date, you know what you're tackling, and then that's what you get done. Mm-hmm. So I guess we can kind of get into my nesting nights specifically. Mm-hmm. And kind of how I work those out and everything. And then once I talk about our nesting nights, we'll go on to a couple other. Ideas and ways that you can kind of get things done. Yeah. But our nesting night, so like I said, it started off with me being like, oh my God, I have so much to do. I don't know where to start. And honestly, I felt like it was all on me too, because Mason would, Mason would be so helpful and he'd be like, what do you need to get done? And I'd be like, oh my God, I 80 things. Like, yeah, I don't know what to tell you to get done first. And there's just so much. And he's like, oh, okay. And so then it's hard to ask for help when you don't know what you're asking for. Yeah.'cause you've got so many things. You're like, well, we could do this, we could do this, we could do this. And it just. It turns into analysis paralysis. Literally. Literally. So what I did first was I literally, I went on a Google Docs and I just started typing just things that needed to get done. I said like one period and then like, hang up blinds in baby's room two. Mount dresser in a baby's room. Three get diapers, like things like that. Just whatever I could think of. There was no organized method of it. At first. It was just brain dumping. Yes. Literally every single thing I could think of. And then once I got done with every single thing I could think of, it was a list of 84 items and I was like, oh my God, this is crazy. So then from there, I took all of those items that I needed to get done, and I put them into categories now for. A nesting night, and because I'm pregnant, my categories are gonna look very different from someone who's like cleaning the house. Mm. But it was things of like to do in her room, to do in our room, to do in the house, um, to get set up to buy, like mm-hmm. It was things like that. Mm-hmm. So that way I could have them easily categorized and I could see easily what needed to be done. And that way, instead of having a giant list of 84 items mm-hmm. It kind of made it look like I had like. Seven to eight things to do in each category. Mm-hmm. Which is so much more manageable. Mm-hmm. And so much easier to tackle. So that's kinda how I started it. And then, like I said, I took every single Friday that we had from the day I decided to do the nesting days. All the way until our due date. Mm-hmm. And I blocked off on the calendar. Me and Lisa have a shared calendar. I blocked off on the calendar nesting night. Mm-hmm. And then within the nesting night in my Google calendar, I went in and in the description for like the calendar event. Mm-hmm. I went in and I put what we were gonna be doing for each of those nesting nights. Mm-hmm. Which I think is key. Yeah. Because. Like scheduling it is great, but what are you doing? Yes. During the scheduling, so that way when we get there, we're not like, oh, we don't know what to do, and then we don't do anything. Which thing we should do? Yeah. Yeah. Or we're like, oh, we were gonna do this, but we didn't buy it in time, so it didn't come in. So now we're just like, let's just push it off. Mm-hmm. Because that's something we would totally do. Yeah. And so I went in and I put for the description, every single thing, and it was so nice doing this because. I was able to put like two or three things that we were gonna get that done that Friday. Mm-hmm. And by doing that, like it just made it, it made it so easy that I was like, okay, this Friday, like it's only gonna take an hour to do these three things that we need to get done. Yes. Great. Like amazing. Literally one of them I had on there like, change my insurance to be my married name instead of my maiden name. Mm-hmm. Because I had never changed my social security number. Yeah. After we got married and. That was something like I had to get done. Yeah. Beforehand. And so those are, that's one of the things on my list that I would've been like, oh my God, I can't, I can't do this insurance thing because I never did past, or I never did the social security thing. Yeah. So I just can't do anything. Yeah. Like, and I just never would've done it. Yeah. But once I put changing the name. For insurance on my list, I was like, oh, I need to get my social security number changed. Mm-hmm. First or social security name changed first, whatever. Mm-hmm. Anyway, so I like put that on one of the lists for one of the nights and Mason was like, oh yeah, all you have to do is log in and like submit the change and it took less than three minutes. Which is awesome, which is awesome. And it got done and then it was, everything is changed and everything's cleared over. So I'm a jawless at the hospital. My baby will have a jaw assess her last name and like, perfect. It's perfect. And I'm like, this is something that we absolutely would've put off. Mm-hmm. Like, I don't know, it's just something we would've put off. I totally get what you mean. So yeah, this is. Not the same, but we do this a lot with car things. Oh. Whenever we're nervous about taking our car in, or we think something's gonna happen. And the last few times, knock on wood, the last few times that we've had to do this and we've put it off, put it off, put it off for so long. Mm-hmm. We end up taking the car in and the thing ends up being. Free. Mm-hmm. Easily fixable,$50, like not nearly as scary as we expected. Yes. And so sometimes it's just like, okay, you just gotta put it on your calendar. You have to know exactly what you're doing. Mm-hmm. And then go in. And then sometimes, yeah, sometimes it's annoying and it's a bit of work or a bit of money or whatever, but sometimes it's, it's simply logging in and it takes five minutes. Mm-hmm. And then you're set, you know? Yes. So I, I love that. Example because even though it is very specific to Baby, baby, yeah, it's, it's something that can apply to anything that you are putting off. Yes. Like yes. Sometimes it doesn't work out that well, but sometimes it just does. Yeah. And then you just got that shut done. Yes. We had a big thing on the list that I've been stressing about so much, but it was renewing our car tags'cause they're gonna expire in October. And I was like, she's gonna, I just did it. Look, it's good job. But yeah, our car tax was gonna expire in October and I was like, I really don't wanna have to go to the DMV with a brand new baby. Yeah. In October. And like it would be, it would have to be the beginning of October. And I was like, she's gonna be like a week or two old Mason would have to go do this for us. Do I want him to be gone for three hours? No. Yeah. And so I was so stressed out about this, however. Me and my car tags. It was never gonna be an easy process because had I ever paid property taxes on this car? No. Oh my God. Had I had this car since 2023? Yes. Oh my God. So yeah. And this is, this is one of those things that happened when you like put it off, you just never do it. So I never, yeah. So I never did it. So I had on our baby nesting to-do list of like figuring out fake property taxes. Yes. My, the item was literally put in there. I was like, figure out what has to be done to register the car. And I was like, I love that. We need to figure this out. So one night, that was literally what we did. So we figured out, okay. First, first things first. We need to pay the property taxes. How do we pay the property taxes? Because it was never, it was never on my property taxes and it wasn't on Mason. Oh. So I call up and I'm like, Hey, um, I'm like, how do we pay this property tax? It's never, it's like nowhere. And they're like, dude, I ever claim the vehicle. I. No. No. So boom, first step, I'm like, okay, we need to claim the vehicle. And of course they're like, oh, you can't do it online because it was so long ago. Yeah. Oopsie. So you have to come in. Yeah. So we're like, okay. We schedule an appointment and then the appointment goes so fast. We were there for like 10 minutes. Mm-hmm. Pay property taxes. Well, and the item on the list that night was not. Get everything figured out with the car Uhhuh. It was, it was figure out what needs to happen, you know? Yes. To get the ball rolling. It's like you split it up. Yeah. Like, yes, yes. We split it up because we knew, yeah. I knew like we couldn't get the all done that one night and had it said like, register the car. And then we got to that night and couldn't have done it. It would've just been a dead end right there. Yeah. We would've just like, I know me and Mason, we wouldn't have followed up with it or done anything to go from there. So, and that's the tip I feel like I love the most about your nesting nights is if you're designating time, you're blocking out the time. Like, yes, that's important, like you said. Mm-hmm. But if you're designating that time, you need to. Pick out what bite-sized things you're gonna do in that time. Yes. First, because once you get to that time, you'll either be like, I've got too much to do. I can't figure out what to do. Or you put something on the list, like get the car figured out and then you feasibly can't do that in that time. Yeah, that's, well, it's Sunday, the DV is closed. Like, yeah. So you need to start with, okay, this is step one. Mm-hmm. And then you can put, you know, if, if step one leads to step two, three, and four that night and you're done, great. Yeah. But if, if step one leads to, okay, step two needs to happen next time, yes. We designate time to this, then that's okay. Yeah. But you're just like. Okay. I checked it off the list. I figured out what I need to do. Yes, check. And so then it was, now I have 83 things to get done. Four check. So yeah, that is how we went about our nesting night. So those are like very two specific examples, but one of them was due to baby, one of them, not due to baby. One of them was due to me. Um. Finally got it all figured out so we can register our car online and it's gonna be great. No one has to go to the DMV. I'm so, so excited. That's nice. So, so nice. So that is how we did our nesting nights and yeah, each. Friday night we got done whatever was on that list. It also made it really good that I'd be like, okay, on this Friday night we are going to organize the garage, however I know to organize the garage that we need to buy storage shelves. Mm-hmm. So then I bought the storage shelves on like the Tuesday before that Friday Uhhuh, and I was like, oh, we'll be in on Friday. Yeah. Perfect. So that way we can get it done. Yes. Like it just helps so much to have such a specific plan. Yes. And it helped me. It helped me whenever Mason said like, Hey, what are we doing this week? I'm like, oh, you can just go into the calendar and see. I listed it all out. Yeah, right there. I'm like, I don't know. I think I will absolutely be doing that, like ongoing, even if it's for monthly resets or whatever. I love it, and I think. It reminds me so much of whenever I listen to podcasters talk about their marriage or whatever, and they talk about treating their marriage like a business. Oh yeah. Or their household, like a business uhhuh. And not that I think that you guys are like treating each other like a business or anything uhhuh, but mostly just in the form of, okay, what works well at work. And for me, like I live by my calendar and I live by, this is what I'm gonna do during this block of time. Yeah. And it works so well for me at work that I'm like, why wouldn't it work for me in my personal life? Yeah. And honestly, why wouldn't it work for like us in our marriage, you know, when we wanna, when we want to, I don't know, catch up Or like when, when we want to, you know how we, you guys do the monthly. You do your monthly, is it resets call? Yeah, that's what I call them. Monthlys or like check-ins? Yeah. So we do like a quarterly check-in, but then we're always like, let's go get coffee, whatever. And then we're like, so what do you wanna talk about? So what should we talk about? You know? And so, so I'm like, it would be good for us to have like a few things kind of like on the agenda or whatever. Yes. And I feel like it would be the same way with kids. And honestly, this. For me, when you started sharing about this, I was like, this is genius for home projects.'cause everybody has a million things in their home Yes. That they wanna do. And they are so simple. Yes. Like for instance, I talked about hanging these curtains. Yeah. For how long did I talk about doing that? And in one week. One week I straight up just put it on my chores list, my Saturday chores list. Yeah. And we did it and got it done and it, and got it done goes so fast. Yay. Okay. No, it didn't because we actually, our walls are weird. But anyway, so I feel like I talked about that forever, but then once I finally like designated it, designated the time and designated specifically what I was doing, and that was a week that I didn't put on, oh, I'm gonna, I'm going to. Like clean all the bathrooms and I'm gonna vacuum the stairs and I'm gonna pull weeds. And I like, I didn't put a bunch of other shit on there. Yeah. Because I was like, okay, this is the goal. Yes. For that, for that day. And if it goes by quicker than I expect, I can get to other things. Yeah. But if it doesn't, then and I get it done, I still got what I was hoping to accomplish. Done. Yeah, absolutely. We talk a lot about not setting yourself up for failure. Yeah. Like you have to set yourself up for success and that goes into. The habits that you're forming or the Yeah, like the to-do list that you're making. Like you don't wanna put pulling weeds, taking the car in for an oil inspection, handing up the curtains. Like Yeah. You can't do that all in one day. And if you were to put it on the list, then you are just setting yourself up for failure. Yeah. So yeah, making the to-do list and, and organizing it and setting aside the things that you could actually feasibly do mm-hmm. Is key. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And then when you guys got things done,'cause I remember you saying that. There were a lot of weeks that you ended up just being like, wanna knock something else out, you know? Yeah. Yeah. There, that happened a lot too, where we were like, okay, well it's Tuesday. Like we don't have anything to do. Should we do one of the tests that's gonna be on Friday? Mm-hmm. And that way, maybe on Friday, like we go see a movie. Mm-hmm. Something like that. And then we're like, okay, so then we just do it on the Tuesday. Yeah. Or. Do it on Wednesday or Mason's like, Hey, I have some free time. Is there anything I can knock off the list? And I'm like, yeah, like you could do one of these three things. I'm like, yeah, whatever. So yeah, that made it really, really nice. And I do think that, yeah, I don't, I don't, I. I dunno. I just always feel like that it's some quote I heard somewhere that action breeds motivation. And it's just like the, all you have to do is take the first step. Yeah. And then that's going to motivate you to take the second one and the third one, and then it, and a lot of the time it just, that's why like you dread doing something, like cleaning the house or putting up the curtains or whatever. Yeah. But then you do one and you're like, let's bang'em all out, you know? Yeah. And so. It doesn't always happen that way. The first thing doesn't always go by super quickly. Mm-hmm. But it does make you, you again, it's a feeling of accomplishment. Yeah. If you do get it done, and then the feeling of motivation if you get it done and you wanna keep doing stuff. Yeah. I really like that. Action breeds motivation. Yeah. I had never heard that before. And that is 100% true and 100% like what happened in our case with an s. Yeah. Yeah. I really like it and I think that's why we got done so early.'cause we were like ready to go. Yeah. Once, once they started flying off the list and once we were like, oh my gosh, we're getting these things done. Yeah. We were taken off. Yeah. Well, and if you think about it, the hardest part of getting anything done is just. Starting the process, right? Yes. Like you're sitting on the couch, you're comfortable. Mm-hmm. You don't wanna get up, you're scrolling on your phone, whatever. Yeah. But as soon as you take the first act mm-hmm. Like as soon as you take the first step, then a lot of the time you're just like, all right. Bang, bang, bang. And you wanna Yeah. You know, get stuff done. Yeah. I don't know. I definitely feel that way, and I feel like. Especially if I have like some sort of incentive mm-hmm. Or something like that, then it really, really motivates me. Yeah. But typically even with like podcast stuff. Mm-hmm. Know if you have, if you have some sort of side business or side hobby or something like that, or even picking up a book, I find that the hardest time for me to get into the spree of reading mm-hmm. Is whenever I'm between books, because I just finished one. Yes. But when I finally choose to pick up. Like a new book or I just start the first 10 pages, uhhuh, I'm into it again. Yeah. You know, so easy to fly by. I think that I'm the same way. Every time I say I'm in a reading slump, it's just'cause I haven't started something new. Yeah, yeah. I haven't done anything Well, that is what I did for our quote unquote nesting nights, which highly recommend. Call'em whenever you want, schedule a date and just get things done. And definitely include other people. If you have a partner or you have kids, or you have a roommate, definitely include them in it so you're not alone. Yes. Yeah. Big recommendation. I think that's one thing that with my weekend chores or whatever, when I pick Saturday or Sunday mm-hmm. And I make my list of the things I wanna get done, I always forget that like Jared's there too. Yeah. And it's his house too. Like we were, we had a baby shower on a Saturday morning, uh, well like 11, but. I obviously normally clean the house on Saturday morning or Sunday morning, and I was like, well, I'm gonna wanna clean it before then. Yeah, because, and so it was Friday night and I had made a list and Jared was like, well, can I help with anything? Yeah. I was like, oh yes you can. And then I shared, I just shared the notes app with him.'cause I make it, you guys know,'cause I talk about this all the time. I feel like, but on the Notes app, I make a little list and then whenever I click the little check and it goes to the bottom, it's like Dink. I love it. But anyway, so I shared it with him and he just like took two or three things and he was like, okay, I'll do these two, two or three things. And it went by so much faster. And I was like, wow, that was nice. And then he was like, why wouldn't I help? Like we, it's our house. I live in it too, you know? And I need, I should help clean. Yeah. It's like, oh, okay. You know? That's nice. But. But anyway, so I feel like it's. It's good to ask and include and I mean, it can just be something you do together and then it gets done faster. Yeah, I absolutely agree. And you don't feel alone. I mean it's it's so worth asking. I completely agree. That is one of the ways that I would like, now that we're kind of done talking about the nesting nights, and we're gonna go into a couple other ideas of how to get things done if nesting night's not really your vibe. One of the ways I would say is making it fun. Mm-hmm. And that can be bringing a friend along or including your partner. It can be, I don't know if you've seen this before, but like spinning a wheel where you put like chores you have to do or like big to do things that you have to get done. Yeah. And be like. Spin a wheel to see which one you do. Yeah. For that time. Like that's always fun. Mm-hmm. Or this is something Julia did with me when I was a little girl and I remember Aw, that I like, I still specifically remember it and I'm totally gonna do it with my kids, but it was one time I had to clean my room and she was like, I'll help you. And I was like, oh, okay. And we went in and we rolled die. To see how many items we had to clean up. So like it would be my turn and I would roll in eight and so I would have to pick up eight things eight and put it away. Cute. And then she would roll and it was so fun and so cute. So I feel like I love that, feel like that could be a good way to do something. Mm-hmm. Or you know, whatever it is. But just having like a fun. Having a way to make it fun and make it, yeah. Yeah. Not so daunting is always great. And for us it was like for our Friday nights kind of thing, it was, it was fun because we, it was almost like a date night together. Yeah. That we were spending time together. And honestly, we are total checked off the list kind of people. Yeah. So like, that was really fun for us. Yeah. But however you need to make it fun. Yeah. I think another, another thing about making it fun is. That I, I realized, I, I think that I realized that I'm not naturally someone who is aware that my surroundings are affecting my mood or whatever. I just kind of like go through life, like have to do this, have to do this, have to do this, and then I'm like, oh, wait, I should be enjoying this. You know? Yeah. Like, even if it's something mundane or annoying as like vacuuming. Mm-hmm. I only get to do this however long. Mm-hmm. So I might as well make the vacuuming as enjoyable as possible. Yeah. While I'm there, you know? And so I think that for me, I have found that pod or audio books is something that I really liked during chores. Yes. But then I've kind of been off of that again, and I'm onto this like particular playlist that I really, really love during the season. And so I think just thinking about something like that, like before you barrel into your to-do list, maybe think about like, okay, do I wanna light a candle or do I want to put on a playlist or do I want to. Yeah. Listen to this audio book. Yeah. Turn on this movie. Yeah. Yeah. Or I know you've said before, uh, that sometimes you'll get. Cute or something Just for yourself. Yeah, yeah. You know, like, go put on some lipstick or something. Like, who knows? Yeah. I don't know. But whatever you, whatever you do, uh, if you make it a little bit more enjoyable for yourself mm-hmm. Then it's just gonna be Yeah. It's just gonna, yeah. I'll say, you're gonna have a good time doing it. Yeah. And then you're gonna do it again. Yeah. And you're gonna be happy to do it. And that's, that's kind of the trick to this, I think. Yes. Is finding a way to make this so that you will come back and. Get shit done again in the future. Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. Another way you can kind of decide to get things done. I feel like we touched on it for just a second, but incentivize yourself or like tell yourself that you do not get this fun treat, or you can't get this fun drink, you can't have your, I don't know, like I really do think about, I'm a drinks girl. Yeah, me too. So for me, I'm like, oh, when I get something done, I can go get my cherry limeade or like when I get something done, I can go get my McFlurry. I can drink my quirk, like whatever it is, but you have to get your thing done first. Yes. Like incentivizing yourself. You get it done. I did this earlier today, Uhhuh. It's football Sunday and we're not gonna talk about it because both of our teams lost, but, but I, the noon games were coming on and you guys were in like uhhuh open doors. People come over if they want. And I, I love hanging out on football Sunday. And so, but I knew I had to get grocery shopping done. Mm-hmm. And I've told you I've been dreading that so much, but I was like, you know what? This is perfect. I can tell myself that I can go over and watch the games with you after I get grocery shopping done. Yes. And so I used it as an incentive, but other times I've used the week, I, I re, I vividly remember, I wonder if I'll remember this my whole life because it's such a silly thing. But I. Remember it months later. Mm-hmm. But the first week I decided to do my weekend chores thing, Uhhuh. I said, okay, this is my list. When I get all these things done, I can go get bottomless mimosas at St. Claire's. We talked about this in an episode. I was literally gonna reference them. Yeah. And I was like, okay, bottomless mimosas at Sinclair's if I get all this done. Yes. And I got, we got up, we did our walk, I did my workout, whatever. And then I started on, I had breakfast started on my list. And then an hour and a half later, what am I doing? Bottomless mosts. Yeah, baby. But you deserved it. Yes. You got your thing done. I got my stuff done, and I haven't done that since, but I think about it almost every weekend. Yeah, almost every weekend. I'm like, well, if I get this stuff done, I could get bottom most mosts. But I end up usually rewarding myself with something else. But yeah, because you just can't do bottomless swim lessons every week. Unfortunately not. It's not quite sustainable. But it is fun. It is fun. But, but yeah. But that was the first week, and I really think that it started, started the habit on a positive note. Yes. But if it's home projects or something like that, like you can always say, okay, we're gonna get this home project done, and then we're gonna go see a movie, or we're gonna get this home project done. And then we're gonna, I mean, you could even be like, and then one of the, the last thing on the list is like booking our flight for our next trip or something like that. Yeah. You know, something just fun like that. Yes. Ending it on a high note. Yeah. Giving yourself a treat, like an incentive. Yeah. I think usually it's. The smaller thing, like, oh, I'm gonna go get myself a specialty coffee or, yeah. Or the cherry limeade, or whatever it is. Mm-hmm. Something more simple like that. Mm-hmm. But I mean, even for a football Sunday of being like, okay, I'm gonna get all my chores done, get all my grocery shopping done. That way I can sit on the couch Yes. And watch seven hours of uninterrupted football time. Yes, yes. Whatever you wanna do, whatever that reward is for you, Uhhuh picking it out and then like. Making the promise to yourself of you're gonna follow through and get this done. Yeah. And then you can reward yourself and it's also just good for the soul. Mm-hmm. Good for the ego. Yeah, definitely. Yeah. I love it. One of my last things is we did our episode of like choose your hard. Yes. And I remember at the end of the episode you had asked, you were like. Like what is one thing that you need to get done that if this was not to be done in five months, you'd be so disappointed in yourself. Yes. And I specifically, once you said that, I was like, oh my gosh, there's so many things on my list that I'm telling myself I need to get done that I just am never doing. Yeah. And I was like, and in five months if I don't do it now, I will be so disappointed that's still not done. Yeah. Two of those things. That I was thinking of was figuring out my car registration, uhhuh, and changing my social security name. Yeah. That's awesome. And I remember right after I had this, I think it's a really good idea, but I had this idea that I was like, okay, I'm gonna list out what I need to get done. And then, and it was like the really, really big things, not the smaller things of like the cleaning, the house kind of chores, but like the big things that Yeah. Worth. Not being done in my life. Mm-hmm. And I was like, okay, going to write them down on one sheet of paper at a time. So like one sheet of paper will say, figure out ridge restriction. A full eight and a half by 11, whatever says, yeah, whatever says paper you want could be a sticky note. It doesn't matter. Oh, okay. Um, next one will say, red, like change social security number. Next one. After that we'll say. Pay your sales tax, whatever it is. And then I was going to assign each month, at the beginning of the month, that was my task for the entire month. Mm-hmm. So that way, again, I'm not super overwhelmed. Ball is moving though. Yeah. And it's getting done within these five months kind of thing. So I really, really liked that idea of being like, okay, these are the things that I really need to get done and then assigning it to a month. Mm-hmm. So if there was one of the things like, like the car registration for example, that had lots of steps. It was not an easy one step process. Mm-hmm. But. If I hadn't put that on my nesting night, and I was just like, okay, that's what I'm getting done in September, then I have the whole month. Mm-hmm. To get it done. Yeah. And I don't know, I really liked that idea and I, I love that idea. It started incorporating it into like, me and Mason's monthly resets, I'd be like, okay, here's what I'm doing this month. Mm-hmm. Or in like, and like, okay, here what Mason, what are you doing this month? Mm-hmm. Kind of thing. Yeah. And then that way. It was just a nice idea, I think, of having a goal in mind. Yes. Mm-hmm. I like that a lot. And it reminds me a lot of, well, okay, I, a couple things. Mm-hmm. How home ownership wise, yes. But where I, I've heard people say before, like, instead of getting all your windows redone. In one year or like at one time or whatever.'cause that's gonna be like$25,000. Yes. You know, instead of doing that, just replace one window. Every six months. Mm-hmm. Or a couple windows. Mm-hmm. Every year or something like that. Yeah. And by the time that four or five years passes Yeah. Then you've spread out that cost and labor and all, and the hassle that just goes into doing that. Mm-hmm. Over four or five years. But all, you have all new windows basically. Yeah. You know, something like that. Or one person one time told me, redo one room in your house. Every year. That's it. Ah, just one room this year, the bedroom is the room. And it doesn't, not like major renovations or anything, right? But like, okay, whatever I want in the bedroom changed. Like if I wanna upgrade lamps or if I want to upgrade my dresser, or I want new mattress. Yeah. I need to get a new mattress or something like that. Bedroom is all that I do this year. Yeah. And you could, you could set it aside for like, okay, at the new year of January or whatever. Yeah. There's probably all sorts of New Year's sales. I don't know. Um, you could do that. Mm-hmm. But then it's like, okay, and then you don't focus on the kids' room or the basement mm-hmm. Or whatever. Mm-hmm. And then you're getting nothing done, but you just, yeah. And then, but then it's like you, because you're focused on these things and this amount of time, like this is. For you guys it was this Friday is our, these tasks for this nesting night. Yes. You trusted that in the future we're gonna get that other stuff done'cause we already figured out what we're do and that's gonna happen in the future. It was like what we talked about with Chloe love on that episode where we were talk, where she compared it to sober me taking care of drunk me, taking care of so many whatever. Yes. But like mostly just like present or present, you taking care of future you uhhuh or trusting future you. To do those things. Like while present does these things, I guess, I don't know. That wasn't pretty, but, but you know what I mean? So I feel like with home projects I could see it a lot and it's starting to get me like going more. Yeah. You're like, whoa, I'm ready. Yes. Where I'm like, okay, well I'm gonna focus on these things. Mm-hmm. And then after that we can move on to like the next thing or whatever. Yes. It reminds me of one of your mantras of like little by little, little becomes lot. Yes. Yes. And it's just, and I love that. But then. But when you get stuck in analysis paralysis and you don't even do a little mm-hmm. You never do a lot. Yeah. Yes. Because if you don't, if you never do a little, you never do a lot. So it's just, yeah. It's just, I think it's genius. Mm-hmm. Thank you. I think these are great tips and I really truly think you could apply them in work. You can apply them if you have like a side hustle and you're home ownership. I think you could apply them. Even simple things like I have so many friends right now, potty training, and I really feel like you could even apply it to something like that. Like that's a long game process. Yes. You know, so maybe the, maybe you put on your calendar. Okay. This. Week we're gonna go buy undies that they love. Mm-hmm. We're gonna take them to Target, they're gonna pick out their undies and they're gonna love them. Yeah. And then, okay. The next week we're gonna talk about like pee, or I don't know how it goes, you know? Yeah. But we're gonna read this book this week. Yes. We're gonna buy the underwear this week. We're gonna get the candy this week. Yeah. And obviously there's uncontrollable, you know, there's things that you can't control. Yes. But if you have a plan, it is just so much, you're so much more likely to follow through 100%. And you're setting yourself up for success. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Um, I like it. That's how me and Mason got our 84 list baby nesting to do items done. Mm-hmm. Before baby even got here. Yeah. And actually, do you have that list? Uh, yeah, I'm sure I do. It should be my, you should send it to me. I'll put it in the show notes if you're okay with sharing it. All right. I don't know. Sure. Yeah. Okay. I could, I don't know if other people would get any use out of it, but, well, we'll share it. We'll share it and you guys can decide if it's helpful or not. Yeah. But we'll put it in the show notes, but just as like an example of some of what worked for you. Mm-hmm. And then other people could use it if they needed to. Yeah. I'm sure that we have other pregnant people listening. Sure. Yeah. And if you are someone who's like, oh my God, I don't even know where to start with nesting, let me know. I'm happy to, heck yeah. Happy to share what I did. So, yeah. Awesome. Well, we hope this helps you get shit done. Yes. Hope it motivates you to get shit done. Yeah. Heck yeah. Yeah. All right, well, thanks for listening guys. I'll miss you throughout the next couple of weeks, but I'm so excited to listen to Morgan and listen as a listener instead of a co-host. So, heck yeah. I'm really excited. All right. Well, yeah, I was gonna say, see you guys next week, but you won't. I won't. I mean, you could if you watch the YouTube. Well, no, but you won't see them. We never see them though. No, we don't. Well, I love you guys and cheers. Cheers, cheers. Oh, whatever the last one was. Good. Dude. The sun went down while we were.