Good morning, guys. Welcome back to the Dopamine Diaries podcast. This is Coach Kate. I got a good one for you today. As we approach, we are like two weeks out from the one-year anniversary of this podcast, which crazy. Oh my gosh, crazy. But I've been thinking, and I'm like, you know what? I need to reintroduce myself. A year into this podcast, not much has changed, but everything has changed. And it's also been a year into me being an educator, which has been really, really cool. And so- I've spent some time this morning just thinking really hard about my genius, my niche, my like, hey, when you come closer to me, whether it's this podcast or programs, like this is what you're gonna get. So I wanna share a couple of things. First things first, most of the women who land in my work are really composed on the outside. Like they are put together. They've got their shit together. They're good moms. They're good partners. They're great friends. But underneath the surface, underneath the hood, they are one podcast, one Pinterest quote, and probably one cortisol spike or wrong text message away from fucking combusting. And they've tried. Don't get me wrong. The women that come into my work, they have tried so hard. They've done the coaching. They've done the books. They've done the breath work. They've done the therapy. They listened to that influencer that told them they just needed to raise their vibe and romanticize their mornings. They've DIY'd their healing like a goddamn side hustle. Honestly, I used to do that too. And I see it. I see it. I see it in every single pattern. But those women, they're still spiraling when they come to me. mid carpool, mid pickup, and they're wondering why they feel so disconnected from a life they technically chose. It's a life they want to escape, believe it or not. Believe it or not. And so I want to say to you guys, if you're listening to this and whether you've listened to these episodes and you're like, man, I just really feel pulled to what she talks about. I have people come into my DMs all the time like, oh my gosh, I binged your podcast. I need more. And I'm like, yeah, you're my people. You are exactly who I'm speaking to. But I want to say to you guys this, if that's resonating, if any of this is resonating, you can be super hyper capable, super smart, super everything and still be quietly unraveling. But not in like a meltdown on the floor type of way, although those do happen, but you probably do them in secret. But it's more like you spend a lot of time rehearsing conversations in your head. 10 times before actually saying them because you want to make sure that they are perfect and you get it right. Or you micromanage dinner like your entire worth as a mother and a spouse, excuse me, depends on it. Or you hold it together until the dog breathes too loud and licks his paw. And then suddenly you're sobbing over a sheet pan of burnt chicken that you forgot was in the oven because you were working when you should have set the timer. because you don't know how to put your work down either. And it makes sense, okay? I wanna say that it makes so much sense because I think a lot of us, we have been taught to feel, a lot of us, especially women, oh my gosh, I know there are men that listen to this, but especially women, we have been taught to feel that change has to feel like punishment, right? That sucks. We've also been taught to feel that healing has to kind of hurt to work, How many times have we gone through healing journeys after immense hurt? And that's the only time we give ourselves permission to go do that glorious healing journey. Maybe everything can be going right and you still need a healing journey, right? We've been taught that if it doesn't break us in half, split us down the center, then we must not have gone deep enough, right? But that's the lie. Like that is the fucking lie. And my genius, my genius is, in my work, in my education, in HBA, and even in the work I do one-on-one with a small handful of clients, I am able to catch the contradictions that you are living in. I hear what you're saying, even when your mouth hasn't caught up yet, but I don't fix you because I firmly believe you do not need to be fixed. There's absolutely nothing broken or about you but i do help you see what you've normalized and then i show you how to shift it in ways that actually feel doable at fucking 6 p.m on a thursday when the house is loud and you realize the chicken is still frozen because you forgot to take it out of the freezer The work and the education that I provide, it does not come with the pressure and extremes that you are probably so used to doing and crashing and burning at. I don't ask you to do 6am ice baths or performative fucking routines. I ask you with questions that cut deeper than the journal prompts that you are trying ever will. Ever will. I mean that. Full body mean that. With real life strategies that feel doable at the end of the day when everybody is screaming and the house is truly on fire. It comes with one anchored moment at a time. It's rooted in something that I call mindfulness. Maybe you've heard about it. It's wrapped in realism. It's honest. It's doable. It's not these like impossible fucking standards that you know you can't stick to, but you try anyway, because maybe it kind of feels like you can control it. And it's backed by strategy, both trauma-trained neuroscience and somatic work that fits inside your very real ass life. Nobody has a picture perfect calendar to devote to their healing and to their recovery from internal chaos, burnout, and stress. No, we have real ass lives going on. And how can we do this while still honoring the obligations that we have? That is my genius. I fit it in in such a doable way. My work and my education and definitely my programs, HBA specific, it lives in the gap between the I Know Better program But why can't I do better? It lives in between those two things because that's where the change happens. So I hear what you're not saying. I can catch the patterns that you've normalized. And then I do a really good job at handing you guys the flashlight to see your way out. I am such a great and incredible guide in that way. My genius lives in those tiny little micro pivots. Micro pivots. I'm talking tiny little shuffle steps. The shift that happens from rage cleaning to pausing, my personal favorite. The moment you stop fucking over explaining yourself and you simply say, no, no period, no period, no period. It's the second that you catch yourself in that spiral and you stay there. You stay instead of checking out and never giving yourself the chance to actually give that spiral what it needs to stop happening. The ability to stay within your lived experience all of the time, even when it's uncomfortable, that is my fucking genius. And that is the thing that solves most of the problems that you guys have in your life. Whether it comes to your health, whether it comes to your weight, whether it comes to your finances and your shopping habits, whether it comes to your inability to believe that you're worthy of the advancements in your career, whether it comes to your ability to feel fulfilled and present as a mother and not feel so much guilt all the time. It is the secret to literally everything because when you can stay tethered in your own lived experience, even when it is uncomfortable, even when it is super fucking messy, I'm telling you guys, you become un-fucking-shakeable. You develop a level of confidence that is unmatched. And it's not because everything gets easier. HBA, my work, my education does not fix your life. But it helps you no longer be at war with yourself while you're fucking living it. Isn't that the point? Isn't that the actual goal that we are all striving for anyway? That is the shift that I help women claim. Full body, saying it with my full chest. I help them come back into the control that they want. Every single one of you guys wants control, but you're trying to control the wrong shit, which is why you're so overwhelmed, tired, and burnout. So I help you come back into control, not by forcing shit, not by too much pressure, but by intentional aligned clarity around what's actually within your control that moves you forward. I help you experience joy. We don't chase it. We don't force it either, but we clear out enough of the fucking mental static that So you can actually feel what's already there. And I help you find a home back in your bodies, not out of punishment, not because it needs to change, but because truly when you can stay connected to your body, that is when your body starts working for you, both in your health, both in how you look, your career, your relationships, your confidence, your energy, all of the things, all of the things. the you who's so ready for ease that feels earned and not empty, I'm telling you guys, it's doable. It's out there. And I just wanted to reiterate this to you guys because I think sometimes, you know, my episodes cover so many different things and my content covers so many different things. But as I took some time this morning to just really ask myself, Like, who am I speaking to? And truly, what is my superpower? What is like my zone of genius? What's the one thing that I know when someone comes to me I could do with both hands tied behind my back and blindfolded? I could deliver this result to you every single fucking time. Every time. And it's that. So if this landed, if it resonated... I don't know. Slide into my DMs and say, hey, your genius is definitely me. I don't know you listened. Bye, guys.