Vices, Unexpected Gifts, & Oreos

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Transcript

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What's up, you guys? Welcome back to the Dopamine Diaries podcast. This is Coach Kate. I am on a walk, but inspiration has struck. I got to get this out because I want to tell you guys how my morning went because I kind of like realized something this morning. I'm like stress eating emotional eating or like having really hard moments and like reaching for whatever vices you have for some people it's shopping for some people it's scrolling for some people it's food for some people it's drugs weed for some people it's alcohol for some people it's i don't know taking a nap and avoiding everything for some of you guys it might be all of that but if you're someone that's ever struggled with any of those things i want you to listen to this episode So backstory, yesterday afternoon, I was ravenous. I was so hungry, like so hungry. And I've had a pretty busy, busy day, pretty challenging day, even from a like, you know, mental and emotional standpoint as well. So, you know, i had all of the variables in my head to believe that i was ravenous because i was looking for relief or i was seeking comfort or i was looking to kind of like take the edge off of how the day went but i was like hungry like i was hungry so i noticed this and i after dinner i think it was a part of my dinner i don't even think i had a normal meal last night which that happens pretty often but had these oreos from the shoot that i did last week and i was like these sound incredible and so i had myself i had myself like four or five oreos now normally in the past something like that or a day like that it wouldn't have just been oreos it would have been lots of things and to the point where I would wake up the next day and just really have a hard time. Now, I want to also like preface this by saying that there's going to be some people listening to this like, oh my gosh, like why is she even making these Oreos a big thing? Hear me, I'm not. I would have four or five Oreos again today and not think twice about it. My relationship with food is solid. Okay, stick with me on the story. I'm going somewhere. When I woke up this morning, I was sitting there after my husband had Um had left and it was like, you know that first moment in the morning, especially when you have kids Where you finally get a minute of like silence. It was just the dog. Good morning the dog and the cat in the house and um I was sitting there and I like remembered it's like I was like Transported back I had adjusted the bracelet on my wrist um I was sitting there and I adjusted my bracelet and it was like doing that triggered like the memories that were like deeply stored in my body of what my life used to be like in 2015 to about 2018. And what that would be like is I'd have really hard days or I'd have a really stressful days at work. I would just like be in this, like, wake up, feel miserable, get ready for work, feel miserable. I like, I remember my commutes. I remember my commute to work so well. And like, I remember that commute would be so miserable. And like, I would cry like on the way and then get to work, be miserable. go out in the field, because I was in sales, be miserable, and in between sales calls, grab every single thing I could grab from places like Starbucks, McDonald's, like anything, like even like grocery stores, I would just go in and like buy stuff from the bakery. Like I was forever seeking comfort from the just discomfort that I felt all the time, right? I wasn't in a good relationship at the time. This is when I was in my former marriage. I didn't love my career. And I was just in that stage of life where I didn't really know myself either. And so I remember, and I keep pausing when cars drive by because I feel like it can be distracting, but if you're a new listener, I record these podcasts from my phone. And that's just who I am as a person. But I remember... In those years, having days like that where I would just like consume so much food and so much sugar and so much everything that like people want to label as bad. I'm a firm believer that food is food and I love myself Chick-fil-A and I love myself. a good fast food moment, okay? But food is food. But in that season of life, food was a crutch for me. And I would just remember waking up in the morning and like feeling like I wanted to crawl out of my skin. My skin would be tingling. I wouldn't like the feeling of clothes. Like the idea of having to get dressed just felt awful. And like everything in my wardrobe felt 10X tighter. My jewelry didn't fit. My face looked puffy. Like I just... I remember feeling like those following mornings, feeling like I had like transformed into this like ogre and like that feeling, the shame and the guilt and that just like spending the whole following day in this like deep feeling of like, I'm fucking worthless. Why should I even be here? Like, like it would always send me to like really dark places because I felt so out of control and And then because I was in a dark place the following day, because I didn't like how my clothes fit, because my skin felt like tight, like it felt like my skin was too small for my body. Like that's what it would feel like. And because of those feelings, I'd be more uncomfortable. And so then the following day, what would I do? I would do things to soothe the discomfort. And it was just this cycle. It was this cycle that I was so aware of. Like I was so aware of it. But it was almost like it felt like I was just like a puppet and there was some like larger puppet master controlling me. And even though I didn't like what was happening and the choices I was making, I had no control over it. Like I was truly just like the puppet on strings, like being controlled by the very uncomfortable gremlin mode of me. And that was my life for years. Like that was my life. four years and this morning like that's the memory that I had that is the memory I had when I adjusted my bracelet because I was like wow I I just remembered that like I used to have days where I would eat what people would label as bad foods or I would just kind of like I'd be I'd be really ravenous or I'd like definitely like use food to comfort myself and like who cares like not all vices are bad it's are you aware of it and is it becoming like very detrimental but like I had that memory of what my life used to be like and I was reminded of that this morning and it was just crazy to sit there this morning and one realize how far removed I am from that. Like realize how long it's been. It has been a long time since I've woken up or even I've made decisions on how to comfort myself that have then triggered like that deep feeling of, man, what the fuck is wrong with me? Why can't I just figure it out? Or I just want to crawl out of my skin. It's been so long since I've experienced that. And I think the reason why like I wanted to do this podcast was because Like, I love that this podcast is just my podcast because there's no rhyme or reason to this shit. But the reason why I wanted to make this podcast this morning and the whole reason why I'm even telling you this story is because, shocker, everything about HBA. If you're new here and you don't know what HBA is, go to my profile, listen to any other episode, I'd probably talk about it. But HBA is, is so unique in the sense that if you're somebody that struggles with a craving for comfort, if you're someone that struggles with stress eating, if you're someone that struggles with feeling like you're stuck in cycles that you're aware of and you can't get over, HBA is really good for that. That's why HBA exists because I had to ask myself after I went through all of that education four or five years ago, And then I looked at the experiences that I was struggling with and I asked myself, okay, how did this education, how did all of this work that I do, like what's the actual strategy behind this? And more than just like what's the actual strategy, how can I make the strategy actually stick for the most overwhelmed and most seemingly like they feel out of control people? Because I can't just throw a course at them. I can't just throw modules at them. They're not gonna fucking listen, right? Like I had to think about myself. And it's so interesting to me because I feel like sometimes as a coach and as a business owner, as someone who comes on here and frequently talks about HBA, if you follow me on Instagram, you see me frequently talk about HBA. Sometimes I get in my head about like, well, how do I like narrow down exactly what HBA does? And I just realized today after having that moment this morning and even like having the week that I'm having running HBA, the like sub program of HBA that I'm running right now all around time management, I'm realizing that I don't need to keep trying to like pinpoint one thing HBA does. Because if we really want to think about it, your body, the system in your body, I call it the software. The software that is operating inside of your body that runs your programming is basically like does all the math in the equations on how you think how you act how you talk what patterns you have what you reach for what you deem as uncomfortable or comfortable what you perceive to be safe or not safe your programming your software like all of that is what hba touches so when you look at patterns such as reaching for food when you feel uncomfortable or like the program i'm running right now for my clients who are on time management feeling like you have a time management problem, but really just realizing that you have the wrong relationship towards the time that you have. That's a software, that's a body, that's a system problem, right? If you struggle with overthinking and whatever you're doing in life. HBA solves that because HBA handles the software responsible for that programming. If you struggle with reaching for food or vices, HBA solves that because HBA handles the software and programming that is saying that you can't sit there in a stressful day and feel safe in that stress and actually give yourself what you need versus the food that you keep wanting to break out of the cycle of. If you struggle with time management or feeling like you're just never able to get things done And you overthink and you have a need to be perfect. HBA solves that because it tackles the software and the programming that is responsible for you believing that giving work that you have and giving your best in that moment isn't enough. Like I can't put HBA in a box. Unfortunately, it's one of like the most unique experiences. that tackles quite literally everything because every single thing that we struggle with as human beings is a symptom of a programming issue inside of your body. It's like thinking about it as like a virus. It's like if my programming was solid, I wouldn't be reaching for food when I was stressed. I would be reaching and giving myself the things that I know my body needs when it's stressed, but I have a virus and that virus is making me go this way. And it's like reprogramming that. Like the best way that I can explain HPA to people is think about every single thing that you struggle with. Procrastination, yep, tackles that. Self-sabotage, oh my God, yes, tackles that. Time management, tackles that. Emotional eating, tackles that. Scrolling, tackles that. Not believing that you're good enough, tackles that. Feeling very autopilot and out of control in your body, tackles that. Attachment styles within relationships and feeling safe and worthy within yourself, tackles that. Like literally everything it tackles because everything that we struggle with as human beings is a symptom of a programming issue. And what HBA does so exceptionally well, so exceptionally well, is tackles the programming of your unique software and helps you rewrite it a different way, in a way that serves you, in a way that allows you to wake up in the morning and not have those same damaging thoughts of like, what the heck is wrong with me? Like, it becomes the pattern interrupter. For everything, like for everything. And I see this in the feedback that I get from people all the time. It's like feedback I get from a mom who's at home and she's like, oh my gosh, HBA was like everything for my household. It's given me the space to pause and breathe. And then I have coaches and business owners message me and they're like, oh my gosh, like I'm just getting way more done. And I'm like doing the things that I've always wanted to do and I'm feeling confident in it. HPA does that. Like I look at myself and it's like, it's given me presence. It's given me like such a gift of no longer feeling like I am just such a like complex and like difficult person to be like, because the reality is back in those years, 2015 to 2018, I 100% lived every single day feeling like it's just impossible to be me. I'm just like that difficult. I'm just that much of a problem. Like no one would ever be able to survive this. I'm barely surviving this. I don't even want to be me anymore. This is too much. What a gift it is to come out of that and realize that it's actually not that like what a gift it is to be handed relief in the form of programming that actually allows you to catch the patterns that you're in and divert them into the direction that you want to go whether that's within your health whether that's within your home whether that's within your career like what an insanely incredible gift that is i know it's been a gift for me i talked to my clients it's been a gift for them and so i just like Ironically enough, I wrapped up a call with a client who's kind of witnessing this in herself right now. Similar patterns that I was struggling with back then around emotions and food. And she's having such tremendous wins, such tremendous wins right now. around her ability to catch herself when she's in those moments and be so curious and compassionate and understanding. And still, she's still, she pauses. I don't know if you guys have ever struggled with emotional eating, but the ability to pause is not there. It feels like a very out of body, out of control experience. She pauses. And she just witnesses herself with those urges and she doesn't act on them anymore. Unless you've dealt with emotional eating, again, it's whatever your vice is when you feel uncomfortable, whatever your vice is when you feel stressed out, food or anything else, you know that feeling. You know that feeling of like, oh my gosh, what the fuck is wrong with me? There's nothing wrong with you. It's just, we have to work on your programming because right now it's misfiring. What a gift that is. And I was reminded of that this morning with myself when I remembered every single morning what it would feel like to just exist in my body and exist in my life. And I hated every second of that. And to not live that life anymore, it is such a gift. It is such a gift. And I think that's why like, That's why I come on here and like do and speak about HBA the way that I do, because that is what it gives people. It gives people the ability to pause before the repetitive pattern comes into play, whether it's showing up in your career, whether it's showing up in your business. I have a lot of coaches that listen to this. You all have fucking patterns. I have them too. And these patterns feel heavy as fuck, whether it shows up in your home, whether it shows up in your dating. I've had people say to me that have done HBA that it's made a difference in how they show up in the dating world. What? But of course it does because it's your programming. It's your ability to catch the patterns of behavior and thoughts that you have that you do not want to run with anymore and know what to actually do with them. I call these mental speed bumps. It's the ability to create enough speed bumps to where you stop going down the same fucking path over and over and over and over and over again. It gives you a different choice. What a fucking gift that is. So that is all I wanted to share today. I'm starving. I need to eat breakfast. But yeah, I guess if you want to know more about HBA, find me on social. My Instagram is kate.liz.h. And just DM me the word HBA or I will link the website for HBA in the show notes. Or you know what? I'm going to actually link the welcome packet for HBA in the show notes because I have found that when I send the welcome packet to people, they actually understand what HBA is. I'll link both. But the welcome packet will be there because a lot of people are like, well, how is it not a course or a module? And the welcome packet shows you exactly how it's not. It's pretty fucking cool. So you guys have a good day. Bye.