40: Dads Who Empower - Abraham Hernandez

In this heartfelt episode of Group X Appeal, Kimberly and Terry sit down with fitness professional and devoted father Abraham Hernandez to explore the beautiful intersection of fatherhood and fitness career success. Abraham shares how becoming a dad taught him patience, simplified his approach to complex wellness concepts, and transformed how he connects with clients. Discover practical strategies for intentional parenting, leading by example, and creating a healthy relationship with wellness that your entire family can embrace.

What You'll Learn:

✅ How fatherhood develops patience and transforms your professional perspective

✅ The art of intentional scheduling to protect quality family time

✅ How joining your children's interests creates deeper connections and lasting memories

✅ Why leading by example is the most powerful parenting tool you have

✅ Strategies to encourage active lifestyles in children through your own involvement

✅ How to balance the ongoing challenge of work demands with family priorities

Perfect for fitness professionals navigating parenthood, working dads seeking balance, or anyone wanting to model healthy living for their children. Abraham's wisdom proves that investing in your family's health and wellness creates a legacy that extends far beyond the gym.

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Transcript

Welcome back to Group X Appeal. Kimberly Spreen Glick here with Terry Shorter. And we are so excited for you to get to hear the story behind the one and only Abraham Hernandez, who is part of our series, Dads Who Empower. He's one of our dadpreneurs in the fitness world. So Abraham, thank you so much for being here. We really appreciate it.

Abraham (00:23.286)
No, it's my pleasure guys. Like I said, behind scenes that it's always a pleasure to hang out with you. And two, it's an honor to be part of this new project because you have really big names in this podcast. And just to be part of the roster, I I feel honored. Thank you.

Kimberly/terry (00:43.749)
Oh, I appreciate it. And we were just discussing before we went live. Couple milestones. Couple milestones. Number one, this is episode, we're turning four oh with this episode. So Abraham, thanks for helping us turn four oh. And Abraham happens to be our first Latino guest on Group X Appeal. So thanks for representing.

Abraham (01:03.851)
You

Abraham (01:08.344)
My pleasure, arriba Latinoamerica.

Kimberly/terry (01:10.595)
Yes, there we go. There we go. So we've known Abraham for years now. We've had the pleasure of working with him on the convention circuit. That's how we, we met. I don't even know how far back we're probably going like for me, probably 15, 15 years on the circuit, something like that. And we were just, right. We were just talking about offline how, you know, the, the industry is huge, but the circle is small.

Abraham (01:28.718)
would say so,

Abraham (01:36.91)
Yeah, correctly.

Kimberly/terry (01:38.531)
I used to say we're all part of the same traveling circus. Yeah.

Abraham (01:41.966)
Yeah, there you go. It's like sometimes like a literalist circus.

Kimberly/terry (01:44.857)
Sometimes. So Abraham, we are so thankful that you were able to join us today. We've got some questions that we are going to throw at you and just share for our listeners so that they can create some connection and be inspired by your story as a dad who is in the fitness industry. So the first question I have for you, how is being a father, how has it influenced your approach to your personal fitness and the work that you do?

Abraham (02:15.63)
You know what? I've learned so much from my kids because before I had kids it was all about me, right? I did everything for myself. Every goal that I had it was just for me to grow and to be a professional, be in every single fitness stage out there and travel and all that. But as soon as I became a father, I learned first of all, patience.

Kimberly/terry (02:19.889)
yeah.

Kimberly/terry (02:38.852)
Mm. Let me write that down.

Abraham (02:41.422)
That's the number one. It actually helped me to become a better trainer, a better instructor, a better educator, because when you teach a kid, you know, you have to be, again, very patient. And two, you have to find the right words to explain what you need to do. First of all, I'm bilingual. My first language is Spanish. I'm from Mexico. And so when I moved to the States, just to have that...

language barrier was really hard. And then my kids, my son, he's 18 now, and he was actually born in Spain. And then he grew up in Mexico. And then when he was still a little kid, he moved to the States first with his mom. And then I came along for my second child, which is my daughter, Camila. And she was born in the States.

And then we decided to live in the States. So for me to have that language barrier was, was really hard at the beginning. I didn't speak much English. So to raise kids that can speak both languages, I, since my English was very basic back then, I needed to, to choose the words that I really want to say. So that's the first thing that helped me to, to, to try to talk to people, not like, not like a child.

Kimberly/terry (03:50.116)
Mmm.

Abraham (04:07.288)
but the same way that I would explain things to my children. But also I did it because it was easier for me to use common language or more basic language. And then the other thing that I learned from my kids is to respond questions because they always ask why. Why this? Why that? Why the sky is blue? Wait a second. so that helped me.

Kimberly/terry (04:11.107)
Right.

Kimberly/terry (04:17.305)
Sure.

Kimberly/terry (04:28.228)
yeah. Right?

Abraham (04:36.002)
to figure out many things because I wanted to explain to my kids how things work. At the same time, I had to learn a lot of things, so how the body works. And again, explain it in English because it's not the same to say head, that cabeza, or hand, en mano. I can explain like everything, almost everything in Spanish, but to translate it in English, for me to be able to teach the workshops that I used to teach back then, to be able to teach classes.

Kimberly/terry (04:51.896)
Yeah

Kimberly/terry (05:03.128)
Mm-hmm.

Abraham (05:04.994)
to be able to do everything on a microphone, I needed to translate first in my head and then to say it out loud. So it was the same with my kids. That's kind of a very personal reason why, no reason, what a personal thing that I learned from having kids to explain things easily, to be patient when I talk, to speak slower as well. And that's another technique when...

Kimberly/terry (05:25.668)
Sure. Mm-hmm. Mm. Mm.

Abraham (05:33.902)
when you translate to speak slower so people can understand you. As you notice, I mean, I still have an accent, which I learned to embrace. I learned to embrace it because at the beginning was hard. Even my kids, sometimes they were like, what? Yeah, exactly. Now as a teenager, they make fun of it, which is fine. But because at the beginning it was cute and now they're a little...

Kimberly/terry (05:41.774)
You do? I love it.

Kimberly/terry (05:49.102)
Sure.

Kimberly/terry (05:52.878)
What? How?

Abraham (06:03.562)
Little mean sometimes.

Kimberly/terry (06:03.972)
I love what you shared about the fact that you learned how to explain things in a more simple way for your children and that translated over into your teaching as well because they do say that the mark of a true genius is someone who has the ability to simplify complicated information. So you were able to hone that ability. Right. Which is great. And be intentional about it as well it sounds like.

Abraham (06:30.592)
Yeah, exactly. I used to be very technical back then. Like in Mexico, I used to own a gym. So I used to teach a lot of formats and you have to, you know, sell for a lot of instructors. And so I was very technical, talking about the heart or the beats per minute, the RPMs and yada yada yada. But then again, having kids taught me to, like you say Kimira, to simplify kind of a

complicated terms or very technical terms and to make it in simple, in common language that in words that everybody can learn. So, and I learned that from having kids.

Kimberly/terry (07:12.952)
amazing. And one of the things as I think back Abraham, seeing you up on stage, you know, when during your Zumba days back in the day, I watched you use a principle that we use, you know, for ripped for a program ripped and we teach instructors to use the same method. And it's the same method that Tina and I would use to teach Tony as she was growing up, you know, our daughter, and we called it tell show, try do.

And I remember seeing on stage and you're doing this where you're basically telling people what they're going to do. You would show them what they're going to do. They try it and then before you know it, they're off and running and then they're doing it. Right. So I can only imagine you most likely use that same principle or technique with with your kids too.

Abraham (08:00.014)
Yeah, exactly. And another thing is lead by example. And it has to do with that technique because you have to show them what to do so they actually can follow you. I have a really strong, not strong, but a strict principle myself as a fitness professional that I'm never going to teach anything that I don't know how to do. I'm never going to teach something that I don't know how to explain.

Kimberly/terry (08:06.178)
Mmm, yep.

Kimberly/terry (08:10.478)
Yeah. Yeah.

Abraham (08:26.988)
And I'm never going to teach anything that people can't not do because they're not going to feel successful. Right. So I have to simplify everything. And with the kids, with the kids is the same thing. I have to lead by example. I have to be a good professional. I have to be on time. I have to, you know, plan everything that I'm going to do and yada yada yada because I want the kids. Something that I tell new parents is that kids are always watching. They don't learn because they don't learn because. Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (08:27.3)
Yeah, of course, yeah.

Kimberly/terry (08:31.978)
Sure.

Kimberly/terry (08:52.279)
yeah. Sounds familiar. Like it or not.

Abraham (08:55.896)
They don't learn because of what you tell them. They learn from what you are doing because they copy everything that you do. The way you talk, the way you talk to your spouse, the way you talk to your siblings, to your mom, to everybody. They always listen and the way you treat, for instance, in a family environment, the way you treat as a husband, the way you treat your wife, your kids are gonna treat their mom the same way. So always, always.

Kimberly/terry (09:00.484)
Mm-hmm.

Abraham (09:25.836)
You have to live by example and be careful of what you do and what you say, how you act.

Kimberly/terry (09:31.172)
Absolutely. And let me ask Abraham, when it comes to making quality time with your family, with your brand new bride, what are some strategies that you found most effective, you know, for making that quality time with the family while still managing your career, your business today?

Abraham (09:55.916)
Yeah, that's a great question because it's one of the hardest for fitness presenters because we're traveling all the time and then we come back home tired and then there are kids, right? Or sometimes the wife like, hey, can you help me with this with the kids? And it used to be really hard. I used to, you know, just being like, man, I'm so tired right now and I have to help them with food or with homework or with something else. So

What I learned with all these years is to have a schedule. Is to say, okay, I'm gonna come back from a trip, or I'm gonna have my classes, but I'm gonna make sure that I have at least one day a week that I'm not doing anything but family time, right? So one thing that I miss from, that I used to do with my kids is to take him to school. Yeah, like, you know, when we travel, we're not there, right?

Kimberly/terry (10:42.339)
Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (10:50.692)
yeah.

Abraham (10:54.218)
But also now that I have my own business, as you know, you have your own business, you do everything and you work more hours than if you would be from nine to five, right? And so I cannot take my kids to school anymore. So I really miss that. And on top of that, they're as well. But when they were little. So I need to make sure that I have one day that I do that. One day that I can pick them up from school.

Kimberly/terry (11:05.538)
Mm-hmm.

Abraham (11:22.272)
one day that I can have dinner with them. So I think that's the best technique that I found that it work with having quality time. And two, I'm still working on it because, you know, with social media is part of our job and being in touch with clients is part of our job. So this right here, I tried to put it down. I tried to put it down.

Kimberly/terry (11:45.86)
Mmm. Mmm.

Abraham (11:48.782)
I asked him to put them down, is the hardest part because they're hooked in their phones. But just to say, you know what, let's either have a conversation or let's have a dinner together, which at the same time is harder. It's hard right now because they're so busy with their dancers. Yeah, their dancers. So sometimes I get home and they're not here yet or vice versa. But yeah, even

Kimberly/terry (11:52.334)
Right. Right.

Kimberly/terry (12:07.384)
their activities.

Abraham (12:18.582)
Even in the car, I try to have conversations with them when we're driving for their dance competitions and all the stuff. So I don't know, find little little pieces of time when I can have conversations. And two, I always, I always say good night. Always, always, always. That's that's one thing. You know what they said about a family, kids and spending time with your with your couple, which is never go to bed mad. Right.

Kimberly/terry (12:36.056)
Mmm.

Kimberly/terry (12:48.045)
That's right.

Abraham (12:48.844)
So I tried to do the same with the kids. Always stop by the room, say good night. I have a little song that I sing with my daughter since she was a baby. She started, see, yeah, yeah, I don't know. I don't know if you're gonna hear that. But I learned this from an old friend that she used to sing that to my kids.

Kimberly/terry (13:01.977)
we're going to need to hear this now.

Abraham (13:15.726)
to my especially to my son because he's he's the one that lived in Mexico. And then I adopted that song and I did it with both of them. And then and then eventually, you know, when I was away. Well, one thing is that I am I'm divorced. So I I split up with my my ex-wife a long time ago. And then eventually I moved to L.A. My son lives in Oregon with with his mom. But

both of them used to live there and I moved to LA to pursue this fitness thing, right? And that was the other thing. Every time that I was going to visit them, I wasn't working. Like I was not teaching classes, of course. I was not thinking about Zumba. I was not thinking about all the classes that I had to teach. So it was just family time, that time. And I used to plan all these activities like...

Kimberly/terry (13:51.478)
Mm-hmm.

Kimberly/terry (14:00.11)
Yep. Right.

Kimberly/terry (14:10.189)
Yeah.

Abraham (14:14.378)
We make our thing like going to the movies. So every time that I was there, I took him to the movies or take him to the restaurant that they like. I remember this restaurant in Southern Oregon. My daughter loved it because they had these Minnie Mouse pancakes. So we made it our thing. So always, always tried. I used to do that again because that was the situation back then. And and also to

Kimberly/terry (14:29.101)
Hahaha

Abraham (14:43.254)
Some I don't know if you've seen my social media, but back then I used to do dance videos with my daughter and they always went like vital because we had one that we had like four million views or something like that. But then everybody was expecting me to do dance dance videos with my daughter. But they think that nobody not everybody knows is that she used to live in Oregon and I live in L.A. So it was really hard to coordinate. But

Kimberly/terry (14:48.909)
Yeah? Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (14:59.748)
to do more of that.

Abraham (15:12.462)
But back then it was really what worked, which it was I'm with my kids and I'm not working. I'm not doing anything else. I tried to put the phone down and just spend time. Nowadays, because now my daughter moved in with us, my son's still in Oregon, but my daughter live with my wife and our older two kids. It's just what I say. Try to always say good night. Try to always spend time in the middle of the day.

Kimberly/terry (15:18.82)
Mm-hmm.

Abraham (15:40.214)
always start to have conversations when we're driving to dance competitions and, and all that. Sorry for the long answer, but yeah.

Kimberly/terry (15:45.121)
Love it. No, that's all right. what you're saying is now that Camila is here with you, we're going to see more dance videos again. Yeah, I think that's what I heard too. That's what I got out of all that.

Abraham (15:54.626)
Hahaha!

But you you know, the funny thing is that they're dancers, they're competitive dancers. So the last thing they want to do is more dancing. Yeah. And now, you know why, guys, all the other thing is this really, really important to mention is that I have all the two daughters now. And they dance to a. Yeah, and but they don't they don't want to be in videos with me. That's a little more shy.

Kimberly/terry (16:02.745)
Right. It's Dancer

Kimberly/terry (16:15.37)
Okay, yeah. that's cool. So they have that in common. That's great.

Kimberly/terry (16:24.35)
Okay.

Abraham (16:27.636)
is I have a great relationship with them. but the thing is that now we have three in one household. So to

Kimberly/terry (16:33.516)
Yeah. Yeah. So you were completely outnumbered Abraham. Do you have a dog, a boy dog or a cat or anything? Okay. Thank goodness. Nacho you and Nacho. that's awesome.

Abraham (16:39.162)
yeah, believe me. Yeah, we have a boy dog. name is, his name is Nacho. It's just me and him. We're the two boys in the house. Yeah. Yeah. But being in a blended family, that's another thing. We can have a whole episode about this. And, but yeah, I it was hard at the beginning to, to be that the older dad, you know?

Kimberly/terry (16:54.904)
Yeah

For sure.

Kimberly/terry (17:07.96)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Abraham (17:08.834)
because of course they have their own dad. When we get engaged, Krista and I, Krista's my wife, and for our listeners, when at the beginning it was hard for the little one to accept me as her mom's boyfriend or partner. But then eventually I always tried to treat them

Kimberly/terry (17:23.62)
Hmm, sure.

Abraham (17:36.078)
as my own kids, right, as the same way I treat Camila. And then because the relationship is really good. So the three of them, they're like siblings, siblings. That helped a lot because they started seeing the way I treated Camila. And then I started, I always treat them the same way that I treated her. So like, okay, so Abraham is always the same person. He's not different with us than with her, right?

Kimberly/terry (17:37.645)
Right, your own daughter.

Kimberly/terry (17:50.404)
Yep.

Kimberly/terry (17:54.796)
Mm-hmm.

Kimberly/terry (18:02.264)
consistent.

Abraham (18:05.644)
And they started seeing that. And then when we got engaged, Chris and I, they were so happy. They were so happy. And that was something really sweet. And in our little wedding, we have a really small wedding. they sent, you know, this speech. It was super sweet. They were crying, but with tears of happiness. They had a great time. And now we're a very solid family. They see me as their, you know, their...

Kimberly/terry (18:10.526)
yay!

Kimberly/terry (18:24.004)
Ugh.

Abraham (18:34.926)
a stepdad totally. And so it's just trying to treat him the same. And they tried to find that respect that they, that I deserve, right, as a dad. But at the same time, they totally understand it, totally used to now to kind of have two dads because two households, different rules and all that kind of stuff. So

Kimberly/terry (18:43.748)
Mm-hmm.

Kimberly/terry (19:02.724)
Sure. Right. Sure.

Abraham (19:03.924)
It's important also to always treat them the same and try to spend time with all of them, you

Kimberly/terry (19:08.842)
Absolutely. Yeah. And thinking about our kids, like we always want our kids to have a healthy relationship with wellness, well-being, with health as a whole. How Abraham, would you guide other dads in helping them encourage their kids to have that healthy relationship with wellness?

Abraham (19:28.674)
That's a great question. So first of all, is that relationship with their kids? When they ask me, how do you do for your daughter to join you in your videos? Because my daughter wants nothing to do with my videos, especially because my circle is still kind of a Zumba instructors. guess, you know, I did that for 16, 17 years. And so I tell them the advice that I give to parents is that

Kimberly/terry (19:40.1)
Mm-hmm.

Kimberly/terry (19:47.8)
Sure.

Kimberly/terry (19:51.47)
Yeah.

Abraham (19:57.954)
don't ask him to join you. You join them, meaning that whatever they do, try to join them, whatever. You have to be on top of what they do, what they watch, who they talk to, so you know exactly how to enter their world. They're never gonna come to our world, because it's an adult world, it's a grown-up world. They don't care, it's too serious, too boring. But for instance, with my son,

Kimberly/terry (20:02.315)
Mmm.

Kimberly/terry (20:09.258)
Sure, be aware.

Kimberly/terry (20:18.436)
Good point.

Kimberly/terry (20:22.872)
Yeah. Yeah. Right.

Abraham (20:27.19)
I learned how to play video games. I still play Fortnite, right? I'm 48 years old playing Fortnite, but it's because one connection that I have with my son. So I can call him and say like, hey, you want to play Fortnite? Sure. And we're playing Fortnite together, even if he's in Oregon. Yeah. Even with our daughters, I always try to stay on top of the trends on

Kimberly/terry (20:31.224)
Nice.

Kimberly/terry (20:44.022)
And he's up in Oregon. That's great.

Abraham (20:53.342)
on social media. My wife makes fun of me sometimes because I know some of the moves on TikTok and all that stuff. she's just like, how do you know this? How do you step on top of everything? Well, I want to know because I want to know what our kids are watching. I want to know what our kids are into. And because of that, with my daughter, when we used to do videos with Camila.

Kimberly/terry (21:00.068)
All the dance moves in between.

Kimberly/terry (21:07.78)
You got it? That's good.

Kimberly/terry (21:13.965)
Yep. For sure.

Mm-hmm.

Abraham (21:23.69)
I used to do the songs that they were trending, so she knew exactly what to do. And sometimes she was the one teaching me the choreo instead of the opposite. And that's what I'm trying to give this advice to parents. Always try to get into your kid's world instead of bringing them to yours because they're never going to come to you.

Kimberly/terry (21:49.421)
I think that's great. That's a really great tip. Yeah, I think that's a great tip, Abraham. I think first of all, kids take pride, you know, when they're able to share their interests and especially when it comes to like something like dance, for example, you know, when your daughter's teaching you certain dances that I would imagine help build her confidence as well helps build your connection, of course. So there's so many benefits to that for sure.

Abraham (22:16.749)
Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (22:16.792)
So Kimberly actually just today, she told me offline before we did our interview today, her son is working on his third degree black belt in Taekwondo right now. And she immersed himself in his world and tried to spar with him. Yeah. I'm feeling it. I'm feeling it. It may have been ill-advised, but I'll be fine.

Abraham (22:26.094)
Nice.

Abraham (22:30.954)
Yeah, that's so cool. Yeah, that's that's what I'm talking about. Yeah.

Abraham (22:39.182)
You know, our daughters want to work out now, And because of dancing, they don't know how to do that because they want to work out to become better dancers, to become stronger dancers. My wife and I, we've been asking them since they started. So for years, like, hey, you should work out. You should work out. But they don't listen. They're like, yeah, no, we don't need that.

Kimberly/terry (22:45.028)
That's awesome.

Kimberly/terry (22:55.346)
Sure.

Abraham (23:06.446)
But then they start seeing it with other kids, right? Now that they go to competitions, they see them doing flips and all that kind of stuff and jumping so high on the splits. And now like, OK, how do we do that? And they start asking us. Yeah, exactly. So but they want to go to the gym. Yeah, I don't know about that because they're 15 years old, so they're not going to go by themselves. Right. And so.

Kimberly/terry (23:10.007)
Yep.

Kimberly/terry (23:18.98)
You know, gotta step up their training.

That's great and that makes mom and dad proud, right? Yep. I see where you're going with this.

Abraham (23:36.246)
If we have equipment here at home, so like, okay, you can do it. No, but I don't want you to see me. we, Krista and I, both fitness professionals, we can help you. No, I want to do it on my own because teenagers, they know everything. And I just saw a video the other day that said that teenagers, know everything. Okay. I remember to do the dishes. I know. Remember to brush your teeth. I know.

Kimberly/terry (23:49.536)
Yeah.

Abraham (24:03.586)
You need to clean your room, I know. But then when you ask him like, hey, where is the plate that it was over there? I don't know. What did the teacher say about your homework? I don't know. They know everything until they don't know, right? So it's,

Kimberly/terry (24:18.724)
Right That's pretty standard. Yeah, Freddie Stanton. You're about to go into that world pretty shortly. It's not happening. No, I'm done with that world. So no, I honestly don't think it's gonna happen. He's such a cool kid. All right, we'll see about that mark. This is we're being recorded. Yeah, we play this whole this little piece right here for her because he'll be 13 coming up soon. Yep, couple months

Abraham (24:27.948)
Hahaha!

Abraham (24:33.774)
Just wait.

Abraham (24:40.846)
Yeah. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Our little, junk has just turned 13. Yeah. Last month. Yep.

Kimberly/terry (24:47.396)
Oh, yeah. Good times. It has begun. So, Abram, how do you use your experience as a parent to connect with, you know, and better serve your clients in your community who are balancing, trying to balance fitness and family responsibilities? How has that worked out?

Abraham (24:51.713)
Exactly.

Abraham (25:09.58)
You know, that's very interesting because now that I'm a personal trainer full time, I only teach one class a week, a Zumba class, a group X class. And as a personal trainer, something that connects really, really, really good with all my clients is that we are parents. That's the one thing I always tell new trainers that try to find a common ground with your client.

Kimberly/terry (25:15.289)
Mm-hmm.

Abraham (25:37.384)
And even if they're not, if the trainer is young and has not a parent, even a pet, right? Because for a lot of people having pets is like having kids, right? Yeah, I have a sister, she's a fitness professional in Mexico too. And she was not blessed with the chance to have kids, but she had three dogs. And the three dogs were her kids, right? Treat them just like children.

Kimberly/terry (25:47.94)
Family member, yeah.

Kimberly/terry (26:02.945)
Mm-hmm.

Abraham (26:07.03)
And because of that, that creates the connection. So in my case is most of my clients, but I always said every single one of my clients are parents. And so that's, that's one of the connections that I have with, with my clients. We always talk about kids. We always talk about how to raise them, the example that we're given. And another thing, because I mentioned before that all would lead by example. That's how I.

One, encourage them and motivate them to work out, right? Because they're like, hey, your kids are watching. Or why are you doing this? For instance, one thing that always people ask me because I don't love working out. I work out. I don't. I don't like pain, right?

Kimberly/terry (26:39.491)
Mm-hmm.

Kimberly/terry (26:51.928)
Interesting. Everyone, you heard it here first. Abraham does not love working out.

Yeah.

Abraham (27:01.678)
And working out is painful. You cannot move the next day. You're ah, my shoulder. And on top of that injury is that all of us have injuries for because of fitness. Right. That's that's what we do. And but I do it because it's good for me. It's good for my body because it keeps me healthy. It keeps me strong. Right. And but the thing that the main reason why I do it when people ask me, how do you work out that much? It's because I want to be

Kimberly/terry (27:10.946)
Mm-hmm.

Kimberly/terry (27:18.916)
stronger.

Abraham (27:30.188)
healthy for the rest of my life. I want to be able to play with my grandchildren one day. I want to chase them. I want to be that granddad that is chasing the grandkids and pushing them in the pool. And yeah, exactly. Working out with them, right? Like, grandpa can do it. You can do it. Right. That's that's my ultimate goal. The long term goal to be able to be an inspiring grandfather or maybe great great grandfather, maybe.

Kimberly/terry (27:35.427)
Mm-hmm.

Kimberly/terry (27:43.268)
and they can't keep up. That's right.

Kimberly/terry (27:49.166)
Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (27:55.685)
Yeah, it's an investment. that. There we go.

Abraham (27:59.598)
Right. I want to live until 100 because I want to enjoy my kids, kids and my other kids, kids and kids, all the kids like, you know, like in this morph, this morph, the father Abraham. So that's that's me. And but, you know, the main thing to inspire my my clients is is their kids. You guys should lead by examples. Your kids are watching you. If you stay healthy, your kids are going to be healthy.

Kimberly/terry (28:06.466)
Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Exactly.

Kimberly/terry (28:21.848)
Mm-hmm.

Abraham (28:27.726)
Sometimes the kids come and they work out, we're working out with their parents. They don't have to ask him. I'm training them and they're just watching. And then sometimes they just stand up and grab a mat. They put them on the side and they're just doing squats and try to do pushups like the cutest thing ever. Because yeah, because I train my clients at their homes. So kids are always around running, doing homework, watching TV, whatever.

Kimberly/terry (28:32.828)
wow, nice.

Kimberly/terry (28:46.02)
It just happens.

Kimberly/terry (28:51.523)
Yep.

Abraham (28:56.814)
But they join. I have one client right now that her daughter, it's a little overweight and she tries to inspire her. That's one of the main reasons why she hired me because she said, I want my daughter to see me. Yeah, I want my daughter to see me and I want my daughter to do it because I'm tired of asking her. And one day her daughter told her, but you don't work out either. So that was the thing that I'm like,

Kimberly/terry (29:09.656)
That's great. She wants to be the example.

Kimberly/terry (29:18.307)
Right.

Kimberly/terry (29:23.46)
Aha.

Abraham (29:26.754)
man, that hurt, right? So I need to start working out. And then she got in touch with me because of another client. so, A, I wanna work out because I wanna be a good example for my daughter. that's one of the main reasons to be an example. And that's how I connect with my clients because our kids.

Kimberly/terry (29:28.024)
Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (29:39.822)
Good for her. love it. She gets it.

Kimberly/terry (29:46.915)
Yeah, you get it. You absolutely get it. So Abraham, if you could give your younger self, I mean, you're obviously still quite young, but if we could go back a few years, if you could give your younger self just one piece of advice when it comes to just thriving as both a dad and a fitness professional, what would that advice be?

Abraham (30:06.542)
That's a tough question because there are so many things that I could have done better and there's so many things that I wouldn't change, you know. For instance, things that I could have done better is to...

To manage better my schedule. Because I always tried, but I was so focused in, and again, grow as a fitness professional that I was not spending too much time with my kids. But at the same time, little time that I had, it was always quality time. Yeah, exactly. And that's one thing that I would change to have a better schedule. another thing...

Kimberly/terry (30:25.604)
Hmm.

Kimberly/terry (30:40.568)
Meaningful. Focused.

Abraham (30:53.698)
I don't know. Again, that's a very tough question. I'm not a person that like to regret what I, one, what I didn't do or what I did. Like I like to live the past in the past. I like to always think of how I learned from that situation and how I'm gonna do it either the next time or how I'm gonna do the next thing learning from that.

Kimberly/terry (31:00.932)
Mm.

Kimberly/terry (31:14.862)
Be better.

Abraham (31:20.162)
There's a saying that I always say that I don't lose. win or I learn. Right. And so for me to go back to the past, when I look back, it's just to see how far I've I've came into again to learn from those those mistakes. Because I would say one of the hardest thing that I that marked my life was my divorce. Right. Because first of all,

It was a divorce, right? Second, I moved to LA. So I left my. I don't know. That's I don't want to say it like that. I didn't leave my kids behind because the reason why I moved to LA was, yeah, to be successful as a fitness professional. But the main reason is I did it for my kids. I wanted them to have better opportunities and.

And Camila, my daughter is a good example, the best example about that, because she always wanted to be a dancer. And that's what she's doing right now. She's living her dream. The other day she was at a competition and I had a, a, a nod in my throat because just seeing her thrive in on stage, I was so proud, you know, like she's doing what she wanted to do. And as a dad, was patting myself on the back and I wish just my son could have

Kimberly/terry (32:23.652)
Living your dream.

Kimberly/terry (32:35.268)
Hmm.

Abraham (32:47.794)
you know, come this way as well, because he wanted to be a basketball player. So I always told him, well, there's bigger guys in LA and there's more competition in LA, but she likes to be a little more comfortable. And, so, but at the same time, because if that didn't happen, I wouldn't have met my wife now, you know? So if I were to, say stay in Oregon, I would have never met Krista and have all this.

Kimberly/terry (33:10.339)
Yeah.

Abraham (33:17.44)
I probably wouldn't be, I don't know how to say that, because you take things for granted, right? Once you see your kids every single day, you just assume they're gonna be there tomorrow. You assume that you are gonna be there tomorrow as a parent. But one thing that I learned from coming from my divorce is that I'm not gonna be there tomorrow.

I'm just gonna be there for one weekend. I'm gonna be there once a month. I'm gonna be there every other month, right? Like right now, I haven't seen my son in months because it's hard because I have kids here now and I have my kid over there. So it's like I either spend time doing this and also on top of that is my business. Like I said, I'm working more now that I used to.

Kimberly/terry (34:12.396)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Abraham (34:16.046)
work back then only on the weekends traveling. So try to find that balance. A lot of people say that balance doesn't exist because if you're doing one thing, you do it 100%. You don't do it 50-50. Like I was telling you, like when I was there visiting my kids before I got married, it was just their time. It was 100 % them. But then when I went back home in LA, it was 100 % my classes and my business.

And now the situation is a little different. So I don't think I would have changed a thing. I think the advice that I would give myself is to dream bigger and it's to tell my kids everything is gonna be okay. It's gonna work out, you know?

Kimberly/terry (34:59.98)
Mmm.

Kimberly/terry (35:09.06)
Love that. Always does.

Abraham (35:13.43)
Yeah, exactly. And just keep leading by example. And one day they will see why I made the decisions that I made. One day they will understand because I there's this this therapist that he said there are three phases for the kids as a parent. Right. One when they little three phases. mean, the first one is they

idolize us. They think we're superheroes, right? When they're Second phase, they demonize us. It's when they hate us, right? Teenagers, they hate us. We don't know anything. And then the third phase, they humanize us. When they're adults themselves and when they become parents. And it happened to us, right? Because it does.

Kimberly/terry (35:54.5)
Teenagers.

Kimberly/terry (36:02.967)
Hmm.

Kimberly/terry (36:07.36)
yeah.

Abraham (36:13.198)
I'm still waiting for that part, right? Yeah, exactly. So that's the thing. wouldn't change a thing. I'm just going to keep working in my future and I keep working in becoming that part when they become parents. They're to go like, now I understand why my dad made the decisions that he made. Well, thanks to the decisions that my dad made, I became this person, you know?

Kimberly/terry (36:15.3)
That season's coming, whether you like it or not. It's coming. Be patient.

Abraham (36:43.084)
Because I always tell parents as well, we're not raising kids. We're raising adults. Yeah, exactly. So I want my kids to be good adults. I don't want them to need good kids because that doesn't exist. Good kids, bad kids doesn't exist. It's just kids. They learning, right? And but I want them to be to become good adults. And another thing that's really important that I just want to add, I don't think has nothing to with the question, but is that also one of the most important decisions that you can make.

Kimberly/terry (36:57.378)
Yeah.

Abraham (37:13.416)
is who you choose as your partner. Because I'm really proud of Krista. I'm really grateful the decision that I made, which is be with Krista because one thing that I really love about her besides her looks is that, right? one, she's a good person. She's a genuine good person.

Kimberly/terry (37:16.749)
yeah.

Kimberly/terry (37:30.276)
It's always good to have that.

Kimberly/terry (37:39.02)
Yeah, it's huge. That helps. That means even more.

Abraham (37:43.266)
Yeah, and two, she's a great mother and she's kind. She likes to teach as well. And she lives by example as a woman. And I know that, you know, having her, our daughters are going to become great adults and great, but mainly great women. So again, that's one thing that

Kimberly/terry (37:45.86)
Mm.

Abraham (38:11.692)
I want to change and everything that happened in my past, it took me where I am right now. And all I can think of is about our future together as, as a blended family and as a extended family, right? So there you go.

Kimberly/terry (38:16.792)
Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (38:22.958)
Yeah.

That's Love it. Love it. Love it. So, Abraham, let people know where they can find you. One of the cool things we were talking about offline, Abraham, I watched his social media account specifically on Instagram, his personal social media account just explode. He posts the funniest, the funniest videos, the funniest memes or reels and

Abraham (38:48.558)
You

Kimberly/terry (38:55.0)
You can't help but to save them and share them and stuff. If you love fitness, especially if you love fitness. But aside from Instagram, where else can people connect with you?

Abraham (39:05.634)
Well, yeah, Instagram is the main thing. You can always find me there. I post every single day. So I'm on my Instagram. Unless, yeah, unless the messages go to requests because I think that would happen with Terry's message or something. I don't remember. But anyway, so you can find me. Yeah, Abraham Hernandez fit. I've been trying to grow that account for so long, but thanks to memes and humor, I consider myself a funny person. I'm.

Kimberly/terry (39:11.918)
Yeah, consistent as a day.

Kimberly/terry (39:19.478)
Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (39:32.406)
You are. You are.

Abraham (39:33.836)
But believe me, I'm funnier in Spanish. Sometimes when I tell jokes to my wife and she doesn't laugh and like, it's funny in Spanish. you know, jokes are the hardest things to translate because the literal translation never works, never.

Kimberly/terry (39:53.944)
for sure. For sure.

Mm-hmm. Right. Fine tune it.

Abraham (40:00.108)
So you have to find like that the way you say it, tune it and all that kind of stuff. But anyway, yeah, Abraham Hernandez fit. That's my Instagram. Same on threads. I'm trying to post more on threads and Facebook. So same Abraham Hernandez fit. And my business is called Electro Body, which is EMS Fitness. If anybody wants to know more about EMS, one of my other goals in the fitness industry is to give

Kimberly/terry (40:05.249)
You

Abraham (40:30.24)
new trainers and new fitness professionals opportunities. So EMS Fitness is relatively new. So if you want to know more about about EMS Fitness, you can follow my business ElectroBody, which is ElectroBody with a K dot EMS. You can send me messages there. They're great opportunities to start your own business as a fitness professional. As an independent, I can teach you, I can show you the ropes.

Kimberly/terry (40:38.628)
Yeah. Cutting edge.

Abraham (40:58.19)
to be successful as a EMS fitness professional. And what else? Yeah, mean, mainly Instagram, that's the best way to connect with me. Yeah.

Kimberly/terry (41:10.276)
Great. And they can go to Electrobody.com. Yeah, just like we see on Abraham's t-shirt right now. That's how you spell it. Electrobody. That's so cool.

Abraham (41:15.406)
Yes, Electrobody.com

Abraham (41:22.006)
Yeah, I have a couple of videos there. The EMS is hard to to translate it on visually because we use EMS suits. So when you when you watch the videos, yeah, you only see people working out with a suit. Doesn't doesn't show anything. And one thing that I tell people that you need to try it. So all of the viewers and listeners, if you're in Los Angeles or West L.A., if you want to try it.

Kimberly/terry (41:29.646)
Mm-hmm.

You gotta feel it.

Kimberly/terry (41:37.72)
Yep. Mm-hmm.

Abraham (41:49.912)
Just let me know. I usually charge for this, but because of this podcast, I want to give one session to everybody that comes to LA and want to try it. It's not cheap, so I'm willing to do that for you guys. So I come to you. But yeah, but right now, just in West LA, because right now it's just myself, but I'm trying to grow this. also, if you're a fitness professional, are interested in opening your own EMS fitness.

Kimberly/terry (41:57.7)
Wow.

Kimberly/terry (42:03.583)
thank you.

Abraham (42:19.82)
business, I can help you with that. It's mobile. The suits, you can take him anywhere. So you don't have to be in a specific studio. That's one of the things that I'm working on. One of them, I'm working on more things.

Kimberly/terry (42:29.979)
Hmm. Incredible. So I think we should meet up with Abraham. So that we can experience it. Maybe that could be a separate episode. Yeah, let's do a new episode. We'll do an EMS episode. Yeah, because that is, it is cutting edge. It really is. And I would love to wear the EMS suit. I would love you to wear the EMS suit too. Both of us wear the EMS suit while we're listening to Marky Mark's Good Vibration. Whoa. Oh. do you think? Oh. What do you think? That's.

Abraham (42:36.81)
Yeah, yep.

Abraham (42:41.326)
Ha

Abraham (42:57.443)
That's perfect. Yeah, you guys can do it at the same time.

Kimberly/terry (42:58.712)
That's a meme in the making right there.

Kimberly/terry (43:04.364)
Right? That'd be awesome. Ben wanted to try it. So we should do it. All right. We're going to schedule that. think listeners should probably comment to let us know if they would like to see us use these EMS suits, like to see it in action with Abraham. Yeah. Let us know. That would be fun. Woo! I love it. Well, huh. Yeah.

Abraham (43:18.946)
Yeah, yeah, let's do it, let's do it. Another thing that I'm working on, is I am creating, know, one advice to all fitness professionals is that you have to use AI.

Kimberly/terry (43:33.592)
Yeah.

Abraham (43:35.114)
If you don't know how to use AI, soon, very, very soon, you're not gonna be updated, but relevant. Yeah, exactly. Because AI is not gonna take your job, right? Trainers are always gonna be there because service is different than having a product or whatever, but you need to know how to use it. So I'm using AI to create apps. So the first app that I'm promoting right now, because...

Kimberly/terry (43:43.064)
relevant.

Kimberly/terry (43:59.269)
Nice.

Abraham (44:02.922)
a lot of fitness professional that also a nutritional coaches, right? Or with how to deal with mental health and all this stuff because I took the warrior certification by the way. And, but I just developed an app to help instructors to create a meal plans. So you don't have to be a coach because AI does everything for you.

Kimberly/terry (44:15.78)
Good.

Kimberly/terry (44:27.604)
great.

Abraham (44:32.214)
So it's really, really easy to use and it helps to a fitness professional to collect emails. So because for lead generation, for something that you give for free or use it for your own clients, you can create meal plans and again, using AI, you can do it in seconds. So you can go to mealplancreator.online and you're gonna find that

Kimberly/terry (44:42.99)
Great. Sure.

Kimberly/terry (44:58.564)
Mmm.

Abraham (45:00.632)
the website that I created or the application that I created. And if you're interested in having your own, I can totally help you with that too. So you can use this service too with your clients. That's another thing that I'm working on right now.

Kimberly/terry (45:09.646)
That's great.

You're a busy, meal plan creator dot online. I love that link in the show notes. Yes, we will definitely share that. Get there, get there, go visit that. And, you know, today I, we both, hope you can feel the passion in every word today. You know, Abraham, you didn't just drop the moves you dropped wisdom and we really appreciate that you helped, you know, just remind us that leadership. It's not.

Abraham (45:18.658)
Yep. Thank you. Thank you.

Abraham (45:35.438)
You

Kimberly/terry (45:40.879)
just about what you do in front of a crowd. It's about who you are when nobody's watching. Absolutely. Right? Absolutely. So, yeah. We just want to thank you for proving that, you know, being present and powerful as a dad is one of the most life-changing forms of leadership there is. And it translates into the broader work that you do for sure. Yeah, we can feel that. We thank you so much. Hermano, for showing up. That's all the Spanish I got for you today.

Abraham (45:46.222)
Yep. 100%, yeah.

Abraham (46:06.094)
No, my whatever your Kimberly any Spanish

Kimberly/terry (46:11.342)
But we thank you. Un buquito. I just got back from Spain, so I did get to use a bit of my Spanish there.

Abraham (46:18.361)
there you go, did you use the theta and the the-

Kimberly/terry (46:20.676)
I was able to order my hot tea and ask for the bathroom. That's all you need. In España, España.

Abraham (46:25.765)
this is.

Abraham (46:30.302)
Yeah, that's all you need to survive in Spain. No, thank you guys. It's an honor. And again, I mean, I'm here just anytime that you need me, just one message away. yeah, hopefully we can do this again and talk about all the subjects. We can do anything you want. You know, I have Krista. We can do something together for couples.

Kimberly/terry (46:50.818)
Yeah. Let's do it. Awesome. Yeah. Fantastic. No, that sounds great. There we go. Yeah. We We will definitely, definitely hit you up on that. So yeah, don't, don't be surprised. But we really, truly thank you for showing up. Abraham is just a shining example of purpose of pride and presence and just for being a fellow dad.

who empowers in every sense of the word today. So everyone, if you liked this episode, if you love this episode as much as we did, don't keep it to yourself. Don't share it with another dad and other dreamers, any person out there who needs a little fuel for their fire. Here we go. We got more coming with the dads empower series. So stay tuned for sure. Yeah. And be sure to like and to.

Subscribe and leave your comments if you have questions for Abraham leave those comments either on YouTube if you're watching on YouTube or on our Instagram page We'll be sure to get them to Abraham and get answers for you and we'll keep the conversation going. I think it's important Yeah, so until next time this is group X appeal I'm Terry shorter and I'm Kimberly spring click So keep moving with heart keep showing up for your people keep living your healthiest happiest life and make it a great day And why because it's a great day to have yeah, it is. care. Peace out much love