Episode 69: How to Trust Yourself — What if there is no wrong decision?

Many of us spend so much time analysing, asking for advice, or waiting for certainty that we disconnect from the one place that actually holds the answer — ourselves.

In this episode we explore how to rebuild trust in your own inner guidance. Through the lens of yoga philosophy, psychology and astrology, we look at why decision-making can feel so difficult and how to reconnect with the deeper intelligence of the body and mind.

We talk about the yoga framework of the koshas — the layers of the self — and how learning to listen beyond the noise of the thinking mind can help you access a quieter, wiser knowing. We also explore the role of the nervous system, intuition, and why over-thinking often pulls us further away from clarity.

From an astrology perspective, we discuss how life is not always about finding the perfect choice, but about aligning with the lessons we are here to learn. Sometimes there isn’t one “right” path — there are simply experiences that help us grow, evolve and move closer to our true direction.

Because trusting yourself isn’t about guaranteeing the outcome.
 It’s about trusting that whatever happens, you will learn, adapt, and continue to find your way.

This episode is for anyone who feels stuck between options, second-guesses themselves, or is learning how to reconnect with their inner compass.

Your life doesn’t move forward when you find certainty.
 It moves forward when you learn to trust yourself.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 1:02

Alright, hello everybody. So this week we are looking at a subject which actually came up in teacher training this weekend. And one of my favourite parts of the yoga teacher training is that I never like leave feeling like I was the one doing all of the teaching. Like every single time I learn something too, you know, like we're always we're all teachers, right? Because any experience that we've been through and we share, we're teaching and we're all students because even when you're teachers, like you do not know everything, you are always learning, and like the minute you think you know everything, the minute a big lesson is coming, right? And there was this really wonderful question asked, and it probably hit home because of yeah, what I've been going through recently with the studio as to like when to know when to let go and not, but it just sparked this brilliant conversation, and I thought it was something that a lot of people might resonate with. So that is what we are doing the topic on today, which is how to learn how to trust yourself. So we spoke in previous episodes about how when you really get to know people, it becomes very hard not to like love them because when you understand someone's reasoning and their experiences, their fears, then like you naturally feel compassion for them, and you know there's no judgment because you are you can see their reasoning and feel that compassion. So instead of othering people, we start to like see ourselves in them, and like teaching is a bit like that, isn't it? It's like when someone asks a question, I often feel into the part of me that has like struggled with that thing that they're asking to try and find a share with it. It's not necessarily even an answer because it's just my answer, but just sharing what yoga has taught me and how it's helped me navigate it because, as we know, like we can only understand us others as deeply as we understand ourselves, and that's you know why we sort of do this work. So the question that was asked was or it was really just a statement, I wasn't even asking a question, it was a share. And one of the participants said, I never trust myself, I find decision making really hard because I know I don't know what's right or wrong for me. So I often wait until the options are taken away from me, and then I'm only left with one option which makes it easier, like the decisions taken out of my hands. Um, and so the question that was kind of followed that was why can't I trust myself? And like, how can I learn to trust myself? Which was like an amazing observation, really, and like such a powerful insight into you know how many opportunities might have might someone have missed because they're just waiting for like someone to decide for them, namely me with the studio, right? It was very, it was I really like resonated with it because yeah, I waited such a long time and like we were laughing weren't wefore recording today because what you're going to share about the universe kind of giving you signs and just not really listening sometimes, um, was certainly where I felt I probably was. So this really resonated for me, and I thought Becky would have a really good perspective on this. Um, so I'm gonna share a little bit about the yoga frameworks, but yeah, I uh what I love is that interplay sort of fits perfectly between what we're doing here with like here's a yoga framework to give you the tools to navigate life, and then when we zoom out, like what's the astrological like pull or play on this, and how we can consider like both sides. So, with that little intro, Beck, like what's the first thing that you'd say about learning to trust yourself? What's your experience with that?

SPEAKER_00 4:45

I think I think there's two ways of looking at this. Like, we're all on a journey of learning to trust ourselves, and as I'm sure we're gonna explore, like yoga really helps you with that to like trust your body, trust what's posed is right for you, so that hopefully you can start to feel what right feels like in your body, which is your intuition, and then take that off the mat. And I think that is like an amazing thing in and of itself that we we will explore in our discussion today. And then I think the other perspective that I like to bring is kind of what you were saying about the signs and uh like the interconnectedness of all things, because what astrology does, which is a bit different from yoga, because yoga is you know about you on your mat, is like the microcosm, and then astrology is like the macrocosm that invites us into this bigger perspective that the universe isn't separate from us, everything's kind of a mirror, we are literally made from the same elements as the stars. Every single atom in our human body was forged through stellar explosions that happened billions of years ago. So it's like when we're talking about astrology influencing us, it's not really that, it's not like the planets like Saturn is reaching down and saying, Hey, like you need to do this, like controlling us, it's just about everything being in the same field of intelligence that exists, and physics is starting to make these connections now in terms of science. So, this idea of interconnectedness for me means that there are always signs. Um, and I was talking to my daughter about this the other day, actually, because she's got to choose her options for her GCSEs, and there's like one option that she's not sure on, one subject that she needs to pick between two. And I was talking to her about like looking for a sign, and she's like, Oh, I don't even like how though? Like, how what do you even mean by that? And her options are to choose a second language, which will be French, or religious education, is the other GCSE that she's looking at. So I'm like, well, if you're thinking about it and you you know this is the big decision that you have to make at the moment, it's like really having that awareness that everything is interconnected. So I don't know, you might see like a sign that's in French or a French flag, or you might see, I don't know, a picture of Jesus, you know, for the religious education. And it's being cognizant of everything that's around you that you're in this living field of intelligence and trusting the sign that you see. And she was like, Oh, okay. I mean, she thought it was rather ridiculous because she's only 13, almost 14. And I probably me at that age probably would have thought, Oh my god, mum, you're crazy. But I said to her, like, this is how I live my life. Um, so every day now she comes home and I'm like, any signs? She's like, No. But if you don't believe that everything is part of the same field of intelligence, you're gonna miss the signs. So I think it's trusting that those signs are always there and always guiding you, but also it's okay to miss the signs because there's learning in missing the signs or ignoring the signs, and when we think about our north node and our drama and our direction of overall travel in this life, I don't know, maybe there's like one big sign, and we follow the sign and it takes us, and we feel so aligned on our path, and it's like one step, but maybe we miss a sign, and then it takes four or five attempts of the universe trying to show us, like you know, this this is your highest timeline, and maybe it's the universe, maybe it's God, maybe it's your higher self, whatever language is meaningful for you, and you end up on a like a diverted path that ebbs and flows, and it takes five times longer to get there, but there's still learning in that, probably more learning in that for your soul, and so I think it's kind of also trusting that you can't make a wrong decision because you're then only one decision away from getting yourself onto like your your higher path, you know. Think about your own experience with the studio here. Maybe there's a reflection for you to bring in there.

SPEAKER_01 9:46

Yeah, that's and that's what was so powerful about the discussion, and what I knew you would contribute so amazingly to is that understanding, not just saying trusting, but like how to trust, to see the signs, to understand that we are yeah, stellar explosions, like how incredible. So to fully trust, like understanding, I think helps that. Um, but yeah, we were laughing because it was like you explained Becky, and you'd explain this better than me now, but how in a way, like the universe is benevolent, and so it's like a mother figure more than a father figure in the way that it's not kind of punishing, it's guiding, and it will give you like little messages and then maybe bigger messages if you're not listening. And I was laughing because I was like, I feel like the like mother universe was eventually having to like whack me around the head with the unit with the studio being like, Look, it's just I ain't gonna have it anymore. Um, so yeah, I think it's a bit like the body, isn't it? We listen to the whisper, otherwise it's gonna shout, and sometimes you know, we get those loud shouts. So Stira's token being really oversimplified about strength and softness. Some people say it's the masculine and the feminine energy in the body, like it's not quite as literal as that. But it's that we have like a balance and we're trying to strike a balance between the strength within us and the softness within us. If we're too strong, Stira, then it's like wood, it's brittle, we can snap, or if we're too suckum, too soft, it's that kind of like flooding, that water, that congestion, you know. So we're trying to balance the two, and that's where discernment comes in, you know, this word discernment of like when to act and when not to act, when we do action, when we're in, you know, trust and waiting. And so, in that sense, you were trying to use that framework to go, okay, so decision making, like when to wait and when to act. And so, my question to you was is there a wrong decision? Because that's what this like conversation was coming down to. It's like how connect to yourself and to make the right decision. And then the really important point was raised was like, but what's the right decision anyway? Like, there is really no such thing as right and wrong in decision making because they're always lessons. And then my question that came off the back of that, which I was, you know, ready to ask you, was is that true? It, you know, is there a right and wrong decision, or if it's not right and wrong, then is there a speed that takes place here? So is it like we all have our dharma, you know, we're all going to self-actualise. And if we act quicker, do we get there quicker? Do we self-actualise quicker? Or if we wait, is it that in this lifetime we won't evolve as much as if we were to follow the signs sooner? Like, what's your thinking on that in terms of right and wrong, or you know, waiting and then not evolving as much as you could? Is that your philosophy or is it different?

SPEAKER_00 12:51

I think it's both, really. Like, sometimes you just know, you just know. And we have to get better at practicing the small decisions, I think, because for so much of our lives, like we don't have choice. You know, we've talked before about how you go to school, you're trained to not need a wig, you're trained at what time you eat. So you stop listening to hunger, you stop listening to when you need a wig, you stop listening because you're just living by a clock, and that disconnects us from our intuition. So I think first of all, we have to get better at making the small decisions of like looking, say it's like looking in the fridge of what you want for dinner, and okay, you've got your meal plan, you've got your meal plan because you're a Capricorn, right? I don't, I'm like, what do I want? Which can be bad as well. Um, but it's like what food is speaking to you in the fridge? What do I really want to eat today? Or is it nothing in the fridge and I want to go and buy something? So I think we have to get better at the small decisions to even stand a chance with the big decisions. So, and that's what being incarnated in human form is all about. You know, we have the body to give us the signals. Um, so we have to get better at that first of all. But then with the bigger decisions, I often think of us, I don't know, like, oh see us stood on a rock or something like that, where we've got a path that goes that way, a path that goes that way, you know, in opposite directions. And there could be more paths as well. And it's like you can't decide which path to take if it's if it's a choice. Do you sell the studio? Do you or you know, do you close the studio? Do you keep the studio going for your example here? And almost what you have to do when you're not sure, when it's a big decision with emotions involved and money involved as well, I think you have to walk both timelines and you have to until you can't any longer, until the signs are so clear that you're like, okay, I'm stepping fully onto this timeline or this timeline over here. And so this practice of walking both timelines, you know, I think there can be like, is that not a brave thing? Is that you like I think I remember you saying once it's like if you burn the bridge when you've rowed over to the island, if you if you burn the boat, sorry, you can't row back, and there's like power in that because you have to make life work on the island, but let's face it, that doesn't always feel good on your nervous system. Um so sometimes walking both timelines until one emerges and becomes very clear is like not a bad strategy for high stake things, and I think there's a difference when you're intentionally doing that than if you are I don't know, say you're in a relationship and you're really unhappy. And I read somewhere that it is most likely men that do this to make the decision the woman's responsibility, that you do all the things to provoke a decision from the other person. Do you know what I mean? So that then they say this is over or whatever. I think it's very different when you're consciously saying, I don't know what the answer is, I'm open to receive the signs, and I'm going to walk both paths until it becomes clear to me. It's like a bit like the do-nothing strategy, um, but with perhaps more intention behind it, and I think that's okay. And yeah, like that might mean it's a slower path to Adama or you know, some ultimate goal that we're trying to achieve. Because in that moment that we're not sure, if we made a decision and it turns out to be wrong, which is not really wrong, it's hard, is what it is. It's like, oh no, I've done this and I've lost 20 grand and yeah, and I I know no, I know this is no longer the thing that I want to do. Well, very quickly, that's gonna divert us to what we do want, what we do really desire. So that's why it's not a wrong choice. Or you've left and you have instantly made that right choice. So I think often there's more learning in the wrong choices, and they take us longer to get there. But I think we have to just stop seeing life as something almost a conquer. It's like yeah, the idea that spirit, God, the universe is a benevolent force, and is I don't know if it's a higher self version of us looking down and thinking, oh, like, look at little Becky, like, she doesn't know what to do here. It's okay that you know she's 46, 47, she still hasn't written a book that she's been going on about for ages, but like she's getting brave now, and you know, she's gonna do the thing. And even if we don't achieve something in this lifetime, that we're gonna get another opportunity. So I think we have to take the pressure off ourselves as well, and I think that's what you're talking about this balance of strength and softness. Because if we're too strong and we're trying to force things before they're ready, it's like taking your bread out of the oven before it's cooked, um, then that's not a great place to be either. We're showing a lack of trust in the universe if we think we have to force everything, but equally, if we just don't do anything, then yeah, we're probably actually gonna feel very dissatisfied, which is a sign that you know, maybe we're not sort of working towards our highest learning our highest evolution.

SPEAKER_01 19:10

Exactly, yeah. And this is where some of the yoga frameworks can be really helpful. You know, we talk about like yoga giving you the tools, like in your backpack to walk this path, and astrology kind of going, and this is the path, right? And you talk about being on the rock and seeing the paths, so it's like, right, you know, there are the paths, and like, have you got your backpack on? And this is you know the tools that I think yoga offers us. And what we were talking about with discussion came up with Yesh Dirasukum, which is yeah, strength and softness, and that ended up kind of taking a bit of our diversion to action and inaction, when to act and when to wait, and is that acting coming from impulse or fear? Is the waiting coming from being a coward, or is it coming from a place of being of trusting? And really like interesting conversations, and you know, there is massive overlap with the yamas and the niyamas when we look at tapas, which is like heat or discipline action, really, like the doing, and then Ishrana Pranadharma, which is like is like surrendering to the greater power, trust ultimately, and how do we balance those things in this lifetime? Like, when do we know when to take action, uh, create the heat, the doing, and when to trust? And you know, this is it is about connecting with yourself, and this is really what it came down to for me was like, I think this is an awesome example of the word yoga, of the word union, which is basically about connection to others, but ultimately, like we've spoken about, you know, to be able to connect with others, really, it's about connection to self. And you spoke earlier around like how we disconnect, yeah. So we like live in our heads, you know, at school very quickly. We're taught, you know, when we can eat, when we go to the loo, you know, not to be upset, like when we can exercise, like we're told what to do for our whole lives, actually, like our parents and then society has a massive influence, you know. Then, like when the videos I put out last week, it's like then your secondary school, you know, they're expecting you to be a lawyer or a doctor and achieve, and like you know, what your girl's going through at the moment, and we're told what to do so much of the time. Unsurprisingly, then when it comes to like a decision, you know, we're going, I don't know. Can somebody tell me what to do here? Um, so it really is about rebuilding that muscle of the gut, the intuition, and you're right, it is in the small decisions. And the you know, we've spoken about Shirusuku and we've spoken about the yamas and the yamas, but one of the incredible frameworks for this connection to Sarah or yoga is looking at the koshas, which I often speak about, these layers of being. But this is a great framework for trusting yourself because what we're doing is we are learning to reconnect with ourselves, and it starts with this Anamaya kosha, the external layer, which is the muscles, the body, literally the pro-perception. Where am I in time and spice? Can I feel that time and space? Not time and spice, but that does sound good. Where can I feel that? So, like, if I'm in a warrior tea, like is my back arm as high as my front arm? Can I feel that? And like a lot of the time, you know, people think it isn't, I'll say, and then they'll have a look as though the back arm is disconnected from them, and they'll be like, Oh, and they're retraining, reconnecting the brain and the body. Where is my back arm? Very simple, very not subtle. It's a gross body, they're gross sensations that we're trying to connect with this outer layer, and then in time, as we connect with what's our right and left, you know, what muscles am I using? Is my pelvic floor on? Is it not? Like we're moving more in towards the subtle sensations of the body, then we start moving into these more subtle layers. So we look at prana myocotia, we're looking at the energy body. Control my breath. How does the energy feel in my body? You know, then we're working into the Mana Maya Kosha, the mind. So if I know how my energy is feeling, do I know the emotion that I'm feeling? And this feeling, this connection to self is getting more and more subtle. And then we start moving into the wisdom layer. There's Nanamaya Kosha, which is about like is the discernment. Okay, so if I am feeling like this, which I have practiced and I trust that that is how I feel, then what is it that I need to do? And then the like inner inner layer is the anandamaya kosha, is bliss. And this is like what we're kind of talking about in Dharma is that you know, that framework is saying that when we can like live on path and we have that level of discernment, we will start to experience bliss because, yeah, because we are feeling aligned, because we have connected with the layers of the bit being, you know, like those layers of the onion that we work through. And yeah, it's a practice. Every time you come to a yoga class, you're not just trying to stretch your hamstrings, you're trying to reconnect to yourself. You're moving your physical body so that you can tune into the subtle sensations, so that eventually you can start to hear the voice of the heart, you know. They say, like, start quiet the mind so the heart can speak. So, like, we tune in and in and in to this subtle voice and going, yeah, that's right for me. And this is why I bang on about a yoga teacher uh class being somatic, not being gymnastic, and like what we so often see is like people just come into yoga class and it's monkey C monkey D, and the teacher is just demonstrating a class, and that's going to help your proprioception a bit because you're gonna go, yeah, okay, here's a high plank, here's a low plank, here's an updog. But the moment that the teacher offers a little bit of choice, offers a question, does that feel good to you? Where do you feel this in the body? Can you move and change this pose in a way that feels good to you right now? Is the moment that the student has to shift from thinking into feeling, where we move from that growth sensation and we start to connect with those inner layers of yeah, this feels right for me, you know, of the emotion, how do I need to change this class to make sure it's I'm resting because I feel tired, or you know, because I feel angry to how can I self-soothe. Then now we're working into these really subtle layers of sensation which help us connect to ourselves. And then when it comes to decision time, we are trained in feeling, we are trained in trusting how we feel. So this was a framework that I was putting over to the person that shared, and and it was like that you know, doing your yoga practice is going to help you exercise this muscle of intuition so that you can feel the emotions in the body to help you make those decisions. But that was, yeah, that was when it we sort of came full circle and went like not that there's a right or a wrong anyway, and like when you zoom out and you have astrology, you've got these wonderful tools in your backpack from yoga, but it is also a level and layer of trust to add to that. That even if the whisper, like you misinterpret it, and it's you know, you make, as you say, really quoted here the wrong decision, which there really is no such thing, like we're just gonna learn an important lesson, right?

SPEAKER_00 26:23

Yeah, I think also to add on what you said about yoga as well, it is about tuning in, but it's also you learn what to tune out as well, because hopefully the teacher is reminding you to not look at what other people are doing, to not worry so much about what other people are thinking, comparison, what's the safest option? What am I meant to do? Like you tell me, you know, you're sort of reprogramming and reversing that psychology that we've learnt our whole life. So I think it's also often if you've got a decision to make, you have to take out, like, yeah, what do other people think? Where should I be at this point in my life? Um, am I behind? You know, it's all that kind of well, I suppose it is scarcity in a way. Thinking that is like you're not enough as you are because of what society tells you it should be, and because of this like judgment, um, when really the only person ever judging you is you.

SPEAKER_01 27:40

Yeah, and this is why I think like my little poster that I'm creating at the moment for the teacher training, which is just having all these frameworks on one page. I want I wanted to say then, like a checklist, oh dear the Capricorn coming out of me. But it you know, coming to those big decisions and going, right, let's have a look at the frameworks here, which ones can help me, yeah. And like we've spoken about stressukum, strength and softness, am I balance there? We've spoken about the yamas and the yamas, like looking at the different qualities there that I could be balancing. We look at the kosher and we go, right, am I feeling? Am I connected to being? And then kind of what you're talking about now is like we start moving into the glaciers, and the glaciers are the poisons of the mind. So, you know, you've got well, first of all, the trunk of the tree of suffering, if you remember, Avidya. So this is like confusion, spiritual ignorance, it's that lack of trust in the universe that is the trunk of the tree, like none of the branches can grow if you know we don't feed into that spiritual ignorance, so it's trusting, but then what grows from that are really important points to check in with. So, you know, you the first one don't I always talk about as meter? Like, the more I make the world about me, the more stressful becomes. Is that a poison that's going on? Are you making this decision because of ego? So I had to really check in with the studio. Is it the studio owner title that I'm finding really hard to let go of? Then using the other branches of the tree, so going abinvesha, like fear. Fear, what what are you scared of there? Like under that ego and letting that go. So, what are you scared of then? Um, and you've got raja, you've got attachment, attachment to something that feels good. Am I attached? Am I dependent on it? You know, Divesha, actually, am I avoiding something like that's painful here? Um, so it's like you've got these amazing frameworks in yoga to check in with and just like ask yourself like that's what a good therapist does, they're just asking you really good questions. But if you've got you know all those frameworks on a page and you're asking yourself those questions, it's gonna really help you like get some clarity and some discernment on what is true, what is truly feeling right for you in that moment. And I think if if you've kind of done your due diligence on that and go, like, right, then that's the decision I'm gonna make, then even if it ends up being the wrong decision, you can hand on heart say that you were pretty considered about it, you know.

SPEAKER_00 30:05

Yeah, it I think all of those things are just such amazing tools when we don't feel certain, um, and that eventually you're something is going to change, you know, because also like the planets, you know, from an astrology perspective are always moving around us. There's like this energetic weather, so there won't be it won't be a coincidence that you know what you're feeling. I'm thinking about the Shudio as well. When we're in this huge cycle, we were in like the end of the year of the snake when you had to make this decision. A lot of planets were at the very end of Pisces, which is the um last sign of the zodiac, so it's associated with letting go of things and like karmic completion of things, so that then you're in a new cycle. So it's like when we can have this awareness that there are cycles, that there is like energetic weather. I think it's just an extra layer of also trusting, but understanding that life is cyclical and we are meant to experience not just all the highs that you know we're constantly trying to chase, like happiness, but also there's so much value, and part of the human experience we sign up for is experiencing the lows, is experiencing loss and grief. Um so I think it just sort of brings that level of acceptance then to it as well, because life is, you know, we are participants in life, and also, you know, whenever if we're thinking that we're not making a decision, like we're okay, I don't know what action to take. Know that the quality of your thoughts and what you are focusing on is actually already creating your reality, you know, because our thoughts become energy that we're sending out into the world, um, and then hopefully we're gonna follow that up with action. But yeah, we're always manifesting through our thoughts in every moment. So if we're constantly moving from a state of fear, or what if this really bad thing is gonna happen, or I don't know what to do, then the world's just going to reflect that back to us. So I think it's important when you don't feel sure is just to have that openness and say, yeah, like I'm ready to make a choice and let the universe like show you some different signs, some different things that can help you, you know, be guided in the choice that you're gonna make.

SPEAKER_01 32:59

I remember Beck, um, one of the teacher trainings that we led, somebody recommended me a book, and it was called Signs, the Secret Language of the Universe. Um, it's by Laura Lynn Jackson, and that has always stayed with me. Like that is a really beautiful book just with stories about signs, but it can help you, helps be understanding, you know, when you see a deer, maybe it's a loved one or what you know, whatever it is. Um, so and and what are your thoughts then? Because often this phrase is banded about, and I love it, I use it too, which is the universe rewards the brave. What do you think about that?

SPEAKER_00 33:38

Yeah, I think absolutely, because you're showing the universe that you're certain about something, and so it's going to reflect that back to you. Um you know, think about the people in the world that have been brave, and you know, they may might not be. I'm thinking actually of Donald Trump here, I don't know why he's come into my mind, but you know, this guy who's like some might say not that talented, some might say has got a lot of character flaws, but yeah, he backs himself, he's certain, and the universe is totally reflecting that back with the the position of power that he has, so yeah, I I think there's truth in that statement.

SPEAKER_01 34:29

Yeah, I think it's something that um obviously we've we've spoken before about like my thoughts around where we live, moving country, like none of this is going to happen for a couple of years, it's nothing immediate. But people that I've spoken to about moving country often the phrase they use, universe rewards the brave, because like you talk about rewarding certainty, but for me it would definitely be a pretty uncertain decision. I think it would be like a who knows, a bit of a leap of faith. Um, but yeah, hopefully the universe rewarding the brave in that sense. But the people that I've spoken to that have moved country, like often they talk about the signs that they've seen and it almost being like undeniable, you know, once they've made that decision, the reassurance that they've got when they've been there, and obviously, as you say, like not always the way, and so what you come back, like, but yeah, I think it's it's good to know that I suppose that you subscribe to that, and even if you're not a hundred percent sure that you can still be rewarded, right?

SPEAKER_00 35:35

Yeah, I think you know, when you think about it, like we are actually taught to mistrust our desires in life. Where do our desires come from in the first place? Well, like they have to come from a higher source. Like, why do you want the things that you want? Yeah, like your birth chart is reflecting it, but it's not the reason why. It's because there's a desire from your soul for that to become manifested in this reality. So I think there's a lot there in learning to trust our desires and not see them as frivolous or extra or unimportant. Like our desires are gifted to us so that we can act on them. And if we don't act on them, I think what happens, especially if it's like an idea for I don't know, like say you're creating a new teacher training, I'm writing a book at the moment. If we didn't act on those desires that we have, then they're they're things that exist in the energetic field, they're going to almost be gifted to someone else. And this is why sometimes people can have like the same ideas at the same time, is because we're tapping into something in the in the universal consciousness, and like, oh my god, like that really speaks to me. It's something I really want to do, and it becomes a desire, and you know, then maybe we take the action on it. But if you think about how much our lives, we might not consciously think this, but religion has massively impacted us, you know, because it has informed our culture for you know 2,000 plus years. And the book that I'm writing at the moment, I've just been writing about Eve and how like she had this desire, obviously, for the fruit in the Garden of Eden. She bites the fruit, and then she gets the blame for like everything they get banished from the Garden of Eden forevermore. And but there's a line in the in Genesis in the Bible that actually says, you know, they ate the fruit and they became like gods, they had knowledge, and it's a message, really, that when you do trust your desire, like that whole story is about not trusting your desire, and it has influenced our culture in a way that like I can't even tell you the depths of it, but especially for women, you know, like our desire, especially in things like sex, food as well. For God's sake, she eats well, it isn't even an apple, she eats, it's a fig, but she eats the fruit, and ever since then, like women have been calorie counting pretty much, and like trying to have smaller waists or whatever, you know. So our desire and our hunger are interconnected as well. So, yeah, I think anyway, I think there's a big journey for the collective to go on to really start to learn to trust our desires, that they are gifts.

SPEAKER_01 38:44

Such a yeah, that's an amazing angle that I had never considered. So, yeah, thank you back for that.

SPEAKER_00 38:50

That's okay. So, if I was giving someone one piece of advice around like their life, their drama, that instead of asking, like, what should I do with my life, it's like you start to ask it in a different way and say, like, what is life trying to do through me? It's a bigger question. Um, and it sort of takes you out of the center of the story and connects you back to your desire in perhaps a more in a bigger way.

SPEAKER_01 39:26

Yeah, I think that is an amazing perspective. And I think, yeah, if you're using the tools of yoga on the way, then you're gonna be fully equipped, right? Yeah.