Ever feel like you're watching yourself during sex instead of actually enjoying it?In this episode, we're diving into the concept of spectatoring—a form of sexual self-consciousness where you're mentally observing and judging yourself du...

What if rebuilding sexual desire wasn't about trying harder — but about changing the experiences your body associates with sex?In this episode, we explore the concept of the positive feedback loop of great sex and how your nervous system...

Why does sex after kids suddenly feel so complicated?Many couples fall into a quiet pattern after becoming parents: one partner keeps initiating, the other starts avoiding, and both end up feeling rejected, pressured, or disconnected.

In this throwback episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, I delve into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. We cover several key points, including the failure of sex ...

If sex after kids feels confusing, inconsistent, or like your body just isn't responding the way it used to — you're not broken.Many women experience low desire, slower arousal, discomfort during sex, or a loss of libido during perimenop...

If sex feels like a chore in your 40s or 50s, you're not broken.In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we're unpacking why desire disappears during perimenopause — even when love hasn't — and how to reconnect with intima...

Why does sex feel different after having kids — or in perimenopause and midlife? Flatter, harder, painful, or just... off?You're not broken. And your body isn't failing you.In this episode, we talk about what actually hap...

What if the biggest mood killer in your sex life isn't lack of desire, time, or chemistry—but the pressure to be perfect?In this episode, we're digging into why chasing "perfect sex" actually leads to more awkwardness, less connection, a...

Welcome to Season 2! We're kicking things off with a hard truth: If sex feels awkward, disconnected, or just plain off, you might be sabotaging your own sex life without realizing it.In this episode, I'm sharing three traps that quietly ...

Is your relationship feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? You're not alone—and you're not stuck.In this episode, I'm walking you through the proven framework that's helping couples reconnect and rebuild intimacy in a real,...

Have you ever had sex end in shutdown, rushing, or unexpected emotion, and neither of you knew what just happened?In this intimate episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I explore why sex can feel heavy, confusing, or emotionally charged...

Why do you feel unchosen, unsexy, and alone, even when your relationship looks "fine"?If you're the one always initiating hard conversations, tracking emotional distance, or trying to "fix" disconnection... you may be managing the emotio...

How do you actually share the mental load without constant fighting, resentment, or feeling like you’re doing it all?This is part 3 of a 4-part series on the mental load — and today, we're getting practical.I'm s...

If talking about the mental load already feels like walking into a fight, this episode is for you.Because most mental load conversations don’t fail due to bad intentions — they fail because couples are stuck in an unspoken manager–assist...

If the two of you feel like you're living in the same house but carrying completely different worlds, this episode will hit home.Welcome to Mental Load 101. This is the first in a four episode series that explains why resentment is high,...

Porn often feels like the easier option — no pressure, no rejection, no emotional work. But when it becomes your go-to outlet, it can quietly chip away at intimacy, connection, and confidence... without you even noticing.This episode isn...

If you're the higher-libido partner and every "not tonight" feels like a gut-punch, this episode might change everything.Because it's not the rejection that turns her off — it's how you respond afterward.Most men were never taught...

You keep initiating. She keeps pulling away.If you're a dad (or higher-libido partner) hearing "stop pressuring me," this is for you.You're not broken, creepy, or needy — you're reaching for connection with the only tool you've got....

Why do dads seem to shut down after kids,  or push for sex that doesn't feel connected?Dan Doty has spent 20 years working with men and boys in deeply intimate spaces. In this episode, he shares why sex often feels like survival...

If you’re tired of hearing "not tonight," this episode is for you. For the partner who is asking for sex all the time, facing constant rejection feels personal. It chips away at your confidence and makes you want to stop trying altogether. But ...

If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Who even am I right now?" - you're not alone.This episode is a must-listen for couples navigating midlife, marriage, and the hormonal rollercoaster known as perimenopause (and andropause...

If your partner's libido seems MIA since perimenopause showed up or if you are wondering where your own went, this episode is for you.We're unpacking what's really going on with libido changes in this season, and how to stop tre...

If you're feeling like roommates instead of lovers, perimenopause might be playing a bigger role than you think.Whether you're the higher libido partner waiting for things to "go back to normal," or the one navigating body changes, stres...

Today we are going deeper into how your stress impacts your relationship, and your intimacy, and what to do about it. We have a special guest interview this week on the podcast with Naturopath Heather Drummond whose speciality is the nervous sy...

Do you mistake stress or tiredness for a hard no when it comes to intimacy? You’re not alone! In this episode, I unpack the “traffic lights” of the nervous system and how to stop defaulting to NO—so you can discover more ways to say yes (or a r...