If you are a parent you have likely at some point or another engaged in duty sex - sex that you had because you felt you had to or felt pressured to - to keep the peace or to keep your partner happy. You don't need to be a sexologist to know th...

Are you the fun police in your house? Always 10 steps ahead of what your kids and partner need, hardly ever just in the present moment. This could be what's killing your libido. In today's episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast we talk about:

This week's episode is for the new parents out there. If you are a seasoned vet make sure to pass this on to any new and expecting parents you know. We are going to talk about :- the 6 biggest myths about sex after delivery and how they ...

This week on the podcast we have guest Michelle Purta, a marriage and communications coach. This week she will guide us through how to start the conversation about our sex life and how to move forward if we are stuck in a cycle argument on this...

In this episode we are doing a deep dive into one of the key ingredients of a great sex life - the nervous system. When we talk about creating safety for ourselves and our partner this is what we mean - working with the nervous system to get ou...

In this week's episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast Sex Coach Sofia talks about how your fairy smut, daydreams about your ex and porn usage might be killing your sex life and what to do about it. No shade to fantasy, erotica or et...

In this episode Sofia talks about an often overlooked way to reconnect with your body, your pleasure and your libido after kids. We'll cover: - why talking to your VJJ is so important - 3 ways to get to know your body bett...

In this episode, host Sofia shares the lightbulb moment when she realized the parenting tools she was using to support her family to more peaceful moments and cooperation, could help her find more connection and less conflict with her partner, ...

This week on the Sex After Kids Podcast Sofia explores more sex alphabet soup. This week she breaks down:One of the biggest misconceptions about sex that will keep you trapped in the monotony of maintenance sex. How op...

Today we are talking about the M word. Masturbation or self-pleasure can be a super taboo topic, especially when we bring it up in the context of long term relationships or marriage. In todays' episode Sofia tackles the reasons we avoid self-pl...

I have something special for you on todays' episode. A throwback to 2015 when I did a Pecha Kucha talk (who remembers that cultural moment) and I gave a talk about orgasms and rivers. It's 6 minutes, totally hilarious and I hope it moves you.&n...

In this Episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast I was inspired to reflect on the ways that the archetypes of the Good Mother and The Good Father affect our ability to have great bedroom time. I was inspired by a new book coming out called The Goo...

I get it… you are le tired of people telling you to schedule sex… cause it’s lame, not spontaneous, unsexy, or how the F are you going to be able to guarantee that your libido is going to show up on demand. In this episode of the Se...

In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast Sofia shares a session from the 2024 Sex After Kids Summit. If you have ever wondered how to open the conversation about your sex life after kids, or if it feels impossible to get what you want in y...

In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, Sex Coach Sofia Ashley challenges couples to explore what they are doing with their time, and how those choices impact their intimacy and their relationship. She explores four reasons why you might...

Have you ever had big feelings come up during sexy times - frustration, irritation, sadness, anger, annoyance? Those big emotions are often a sign that memories and traumas are coming up to be processed. Sometimes, in our sex lives post-kids, t...

In this episode Sofia explores why so many women are just "waiting for their sex drive to come back online" to have a better sex life. She explores why this thinking is the hard way back to a fun and flirty relationship and what couples who hav...

In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast we explore the concept of 'spectatoring' during intimacy and the impact of societal expectations, particularly the male gaze, on sexual experiences. Sofia shares personal anecdotes and offers prac...

Today I am sharing a bonus interview from the Sex After Kids Summit with Holistic Pleasure Coach Helen Rowlands. Helen is in her 60s and has been married for 45 years. I sat down with her to talk about she's living the best version of her relat...

In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, Sofia delves into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. The conversation covers several key points, including the failu...

In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, we discuss the importance of creating a positive feedback loop in your sex life. Sofia explains the concept of feedback loops and how positive sexual experiences can lead to more enjoyable and re...

In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mind...

Today we are talking all about Great Sexpectations - those sneaky "shoulds" that are killing the vibe in your post baby bedroom. Whether it's falling prey to gender traps (scripts about how he and she should behave in the bedroom), expecting ev...

This episode of the Sex After Kids podcast delves into common challenges couples face in their sex lives after having children, focusing on the detrimental effects of the blame game and the significance of teamwork in overcoming creating a new ...

In this final part of our mini series explore the shifts in our sexual landscape after kids we examine the intersection of cultural, spiritual, and societal influences on our sex lives after having children. Listeners are invited to reflect on ...