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The Sex After Kids Podcast
Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids.
Episodes
93 episodes
You Think My Marriage Is Different. It's Not.
Is marriage after kids harder than you expected? You're not alone.In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I share the honest story of what our marriage looked like after becoming parents. We've experienced resentment...
Why waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kids
In this episode Sofia explores why so many women are just "waiting for their sex drive to come back online" to have a better sex life. She explores why this thinking is the hard way back to a fun and flirty relationship and what couples who hav...
10 Years and 3 kids later my libido was on ice
From missmatched libidos and pelvic floors, to sexual fantasy and communication skills - your host Sofia Ashley - certified sex coach and educator - will walk you through her thoughts on it all in these solo (for now) episodes.Today I i...
Sexless Marriage: How to Save Your Relationship Before Divorce
Let’s just put it out there: If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably had at least one “Would this just be easier if we split up?” moment. Maybe you’ve even daydreamed about a solo life—until you remember that modern dating sounds absol...
Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - Especially when it’s been a while
Feeling awkward about intimacy after kids, or stuck in the “roommate rut?” You’re not alone. In this episode, I share why foreplay (and the “pre-game” before it) is the real secret to rekindling connection—and how to make it feel safe, pressure...
The Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After Kids
In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mind...
Most Couples Never Actually Learn Intimacy
If s*x after kids feels awkward, disconnected, or harder than it used to… you are not alone.In this episode, Sofia breaks down why most couples struggle with intimacy after kids — and why it’s NOT because you’re broken, selfish, or “bad ...
Why Women Shut Down Sexually — It’s Not What You Think
Why do so many women shut down sexually in long-term relationships?In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional dynamic underneath sexual shutdown, rejection loops, pressure, and disconnection… especially after kids.This con...
Why S*x After Kids Feels Awkward Sometimes (And Why That’s Normal)
What does real intimacy after kids actually look like?In this episode of the S*x After Kids podcast, I’m sharing a real-life bedroom dispatch — including the awkward moments, miscommunication, nervous system shutdown, and honest conversa...
The 4 Traps Keeping Good Men Stuck in S*xless Marriages After Kids
If you're a husband feeling rejected, lonely, or stuck in a s*xless marriage after kids, this episode is for you.Many higher-libido men are trying everything they can to improve intimacy—helping more around the house, avoiding conflict, ...
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You’re Not “Low Libido” — You’re Over-Needed After Kids
If you feel touched out, exhausted, and completely shut down by the end of the day… this episode is for you.In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about why so many moms and lower-libido partners stop wanting s
5 Things Killing Your S*x Life After Kids (That Have Nothing to Do With S*x)
If you feel like your relationship has turned into roommates after kids… this is for you.This episode breaks down 5 things that are quietly killing your sx life after kids — that have nothing to do with sx.<...
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Why Therapy Didn’t Fix Your Sex Life (And What Actually Will)
You’ve tried therapy. You’ve had the hard conversations. So why does your sex life still feel stuck?If you feel like you’ve done everything “right” but still end up lying in bed feeling more like roommates than partners… this epis...
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What Actually Changes When You Fix Your Sex Life (It’s Not What You Think)
What actually changes when couples fix their sex life?It’s not just more sex.It’s how you talk about it. How you experience it. And how you feel with each other.In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break...
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Why Couples Stop Having Sex After Kids (And How to Fix It)
Why does sex feel so much harder after kids—even when you still love each other?Most couples don’t fall out of love.They fall into patterns where connection gets replaced with pressure, shutdown, and silence.In this ...
What Couples with Great Sex Lives Do Differently
Are you and your partner amazing co-parents but struggling to feel like lovers—especially with kids in the mix? You're not alone! In this episode, I break down the five habits that help couples with kids move beyond survival mode and rediscover...
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Why am I avoiding sex after kids?
This is a love letter for anyone who's lost touch with desire and feels the weight of expectation after kids. I know what it's like to feel shut down and alone in your relationship. You don't want sex, you don't know why and everytime he asks i...
The Silent Reversal: When You're the One Wanting More (And He Doesn't)
Ever find yourself wanting intimacy more than your husband—and wondering what changed after kids? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm talking about the real reasons behind this shift, why "trying harder" isn’t working, and how to start chang...
It's Not Your Libido—It's Your Relationship to Pleasure (Why Desire Disappears)
"I just don't care about sex anymore."If that thought has crossed your mind, you're not alone—and it might not be about libido at all. In this episode, we explore how pleasure often disappears from everyday life (especially for parents),...
The Myth of Natural Sex: Why Great Sex Is Actually a Social Skill
Most couples are walking into their sex life with the same quiet assumption:If the relationship is good... And if there's love and attraction...Then sex should just work.And when it doesn't?It's easy to believe someth...
The Inner Critic Ruining Your Sex Life
Ever feel like you're watching yourself during sex instead of actually enjoying it?In this episode, we're diving into the concept of spectatoring—a form of sexual self-consciousness where you're mentally observing and judging yourself du...
How to Rebuild Sexual Desire: The Positive Feedback Loop of Great Sex
What if rebuilding sexual desire wasn't about trying harder — but about changing the experiences your body associates with sex?In this episode, we explore the concept of the positive feedback loop of great sex and how your nervous system...
[RETRO] Ready for More Fun, Play, and Connection? An Invitation to My Signature Program!
Why does sex after kids suddenly feel so complicated?Many couples fall into a quiet pattern after becoming parents: one partner keeps initiating, the other starts avoiding, and both end up feeling rejected, pressured, or disconnected.
[RETRO EPISODE] 5 Ways Shitty Sex-ed is Messing With Your Sex Life Post Kids
In this throwback episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, I delve into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. We cover several key points, including the failure of sex ...
Stop Fumbling in the Dark: Sex After Kids & Perimenopause (Low Desire, Arousal Changes & Intimacy After Kids)
If sex after kids feels confusing, inconsistent, or like your body just isn't responding the way it used to — you're not broken.Many women experience low desire, slower arousal, discomfort during sex, or a loss of libido during perimenop...