The Truth About Scheduled Sex: How to Rekindle Intimacy in Marriage

Is scheduled sex really the death of desire…or is it your secret weapon for reigniting connection after kids? In this episode, Sofia (your TMI bedroom advice bestie for parents) busts the myths about putting sex on the calendar—and shows you how to turn obligation into anticipation.

What You’ll Learn:

01:07 Debunking the Scheduled Sex Myth

01:21 Why People Resist Scheduling Sex

01:50 Scheduling Creates the Mood

02:28 The Pressure of Scheduled Nights

02:49 Real-Life Example: Anniversary Expectations

03:38 Naked Fun Dates, Not Sex Dates

04:22 Step 1: Book a Date & Treat It as Non-Negotiable

04:59 Step 2: Build the Bridge from Parent to Lover

05:18 Transition Rituals & Building Anticipation

05:41 Get Relaxed, Present, and Connected

06:35 Step 3: Communicate More Than You Think

07:10 Step 4: Debrief After Connection Dates

07:26 Always Be Learning About Each Other

07:47 Client Story: Laura's Pain-Free Sexy Times

08:33 Scheduled Sex = Grownup Intimacy

10:31 Mindfulness Minute & Closing

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