Making Sense of the Hard Bits of Parenting — This Is Not a Tantrum

She Snippets for She Speaks Podcast Series 3 — Making Sense of the Hard Bits of Parenting

Episode Overview

Working in the disability industry, Delyse hears a lot of parents say their child had a meltdown when actually it was a tantrum. That distinction matters—because what works for one won't work for the other.

In this snippet, Delyse explains what's really happening in each, why sensory overload is such a significant trigger, and what to do when you and your child are both overwhelmed at the same time. Because sometimes, you won't be the calm one—and accepting that is completely okay.

This Episode

Delyse explores the critical difference between tantrums and meltdowns, and what happens when sensory overload hits you both. We explore:

• Tantrums
• Meltdowns
• Sensory overload
• When you're both overwhelmed
• For parents who don't experience sensory overwhelm

Quotable Moments

"A meltdown feels like you're not yourself anymore—like shaking a soda bottle all day long. And then finally it opens and everything erupts." — Adult with autism, quoted by Delyse

"There are times when you won't keep calm. And accepting that is completely okay." — Delyse Clayden

"They're not doing this to you. They're not trying to be difficult. They're experiencing something difficult." — Delyse Clayden

"You are in a perfect place to understand your child because you've been there yourself." — Delyse Clayden

About Your Hosts

Professor Narelle Lemon is a researcher, educator, and passionate advocate for women's wellbeing based at Edith Cowan University in Perth. Creator of She Speaks and the Citizen Wellbeing Scientist project, Narelle has dedicated over 25 years to one powerful belief: self-care is not selfish—it's essential.

Delyse Clayden is an experienced educator, disability advocate, and mother of three. Specialising in Anxiety, Autism, and working with siblings, Delyse brings both personal and professional experience to her advocacy work. Her unique perspective as both an educator and a parent living alongside additional needs allows her to connect authentically with families.

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• Delyse Clayden — Disability Advocate

A Note on Wellbeing
She Speaks is dedicated to amplifying women's voices on self-care and wellbeing. While we share personal experiences and practical strategies, please remember that this podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you're struggling, we encourage you to reach out to a qualified mental health practitioner.

She Speaks is proudly supported by the Western Australian Government and Department of Communities Women's Grants for a Stronger Future Grants Program.

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