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#14 Your Emotional Spring Cleaning Starts with Forgiveness

• Sari Stone • Season 1 • Episode 14

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Forgiveness emerges as the ultimate form of energetic spring cleaning in this deeply moving exploration of emotional liberation. Drawing from both scientific research and spiritual wisdom, we unpack how the act of forgiving transforms not just our hearts, but our physical bodies too. We surrender the need for an apology, or justice to prevail, when we take control and choose to free ourselves from the hurt.  Your healing is truly a miracle in motion. Follow me @SariStone25 on Instagram and subscribe to the podcast to continue your transformation journey—your soul will thank you.

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Hey, welcome back to Transform your Life. Just Count Me In the podcast where miracles, mindset and transformation meet. I am your host, sari Stone, and today we're going to dive into a sacred, powerful, sometimes deeply personal and painful topic forgiveness. So we're in the season of transformation now. We've been talking about that, and spring is for many of us, where everything in nature is letting go of the old and blooming into the new. The lunar cycle also supports this flow. We're in a waning moon cycle and it prepares to begin new, to become a new moon next, so we're invited to also shed what no longer serves us.

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In doing so, there were some areas that I noticed that I needed to practice a little bit of forgiveness in. So here's to you if there's any aspect of this that resonates with you, I hope you get value from it. Forgiveness is an energetic spring cleaning. You don't need anybody's permission, you just need to be willing to be free. Forgiveness is not just about saying it's okay, I'm moving on, which I used to think it was. It's more so about setting ourselves free. Wayne Dyer, who I have a great amount of respect for, said when you forgive, you in no way change the past, but you sure do change the future. Today we're going to explore how forgiveness can become your superpower, your, your emotional detox and your soul's invitation to freedom. So why does forgiveness even matter? I'm a Y girl so I always like to do the research to find out. And according to the Mayo Clinic and Harvard Health, they both show that forgiveness is linked to lower blood pressure, reduced anxiety, better heart health, even a stronger immune system. But more than physical health, forgiveness gives us an emotional liberation, emotional freedom. To the extent that we're holding on to things we're not able to be fully present with our lives. It's like having programs open, too many files running on your computer and when I tell my husband the computer is not working well, he'll always say what do you have? You have all these things running, no wonder. Close all these too many windows open too many files running.

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And when you've not forgiven, when you're holding on to resentment for somebody or something that happened to you, it drains you. My good friend in Colorado is a recovering alcoholic and I mean it's been 40 years now but she still considers herself that. And in AA they tell them to drop the rock. And that means when you're holding grudge, when you're holding resentment, when you've not forgiven. It's like you're walking around with a rock in your shoe and it doesn't hurt that person anymore. They're over it. They don't even know you're thinking about it. It hurts you. So their motto is drop the rock. And I really took a lot of value from that. Forgiveness just slows your whole process of evolution down.

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Esther Hicks, channeling Abraham, reminded us that holding resentment is like tuning into a frequency that keeps us completely disconnected from our source. From our source. We can't be connected to the channel of love and joy and gratitude while we're connected to anger and victimization. Deepak Chopra also explains that it's a form of releasing energetic toxins. So forgiveness is not just a choice. It's actually an act of deep, deep self-care on a physical level. Forgiveness is not really an act of deep, deep self-care on a physical level. Forgiveness is not really an act. It's more like a portal and it allows us to reclaim energy and realign with our soul's truth, with our path home.

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There was a time in my life when forgiveness was really challenging. It felt impossible. The pain was too raw, too deep. I was in the middle of it, but then miracles taught me otherwise, whether it was healing from a trauma, healing from relationships that didn't work out, or even forgiving myself for things, which was the hardest. I've learned that grace is always possible. Forgiveness is not about saying it's okay that it happened. It's about releasing the burden, and sometimes the hardest person to forgive is ourselves. So we forgive the person, not the act, not the action. So let's talk for a little bit about what you can do and please contact me and share with me what you're doing in this line of work, because it comes up. We think we've forgiven everything, and we've forgiven everything that we can at that, at that time, at that level, at that vibration, and then some more things might come up for us as we evolve. So let's do it together. Here are some beautiful, nourishing practices for forgiveness.

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So there's a lunar forgiveness ritual. I'm getting more and more in touch with the moon, just basically because my daughter is educating me about this, and this is for the waning moon, or a new moon. We're currently in a waning moon cycle. This is going to be released April 21st, I believe. So you can take a moment, get a pencil and paper, write down what you're ready to forgive whether it's a person, a situation or even yourself and write it out in great detail, as much as you want and you can write out all the hurt. You can write out all of your emotions. You can write out the whole experience and then just forgive it Under the moonlight, read it out loud and then burn the paper in a safe place and, as the smoke rises, say I release this with love. I free myself and others. I choose peace. This is especially powerful during the waning moon for release, or a new moon for new beginnings. So two different times you can do this, where the lunar energy is going to support your work.

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There's also a Hawaiian forgiveness mantra and we use this in yoga when we're talking about the stages of healing and connecting with our bodies, and you just repeat quietly. And you just repeat quietly I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you. And you can say it to any part of your body that's injured or any part of your soul that's injured. So it's I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you". And my students report that they've had amazing results with this. The fact about it is that it reprograms your emotional frequency and it actually allows for some pretty deep healing.

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I also followed Louise Hay for years and she did a lot of mirror work really, really powerful. Her practice was to say to look into the mirror and say I forgive you, I love you, I accept you as you are, and you can even write that right on your mirror. I have my kids that I work with write things on their mirror all the time, and I have things written on my mirror. If you use a dry erase marker it comes right off. So for a journaling prompt, you can think about these questions. Just to extend your thinking and go a little deeper, you're welcome to pause this or come back to it. Who or what am I ready to forgive? And be honest, get as much out as you can. The more you empty, the deeper you fill. The next question is what am I gaining by holding on? So when my coach asked me this, I got pretty annoyed with her, and usually when I got annoyed it meant that she was hitting a nerve and that was a good thing.

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So because you do kind of get a payoff from holding grudge, it means you can blame that person for things and not be moving on in your own life. You can kind of hide from things or you can avoid relationships. You can avoid having potential conflicts with people, but mostly it hurts you when you've not forgiven something. It puts you in a whole healing place when you start to forgive. And the next question is what would it feel like to be free? Picture yourself free, healed, whole, awake, aware.

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Mother Teresa said if we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. Jesus was also quoted as saying Forgive them. They know not what they do, meaning, in my opinion, they were unconscious, they were not awake, they were not connected. So let's take a minute together and if you're driving, don't do this part. Save it for later. If you're not driving and you're able to do this, just close your eyes and take a breath in and a longer breath out.

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Actually, if you can lay on your stomach to do this, it's actually a very powerful practice too. Lay on your stomach to do this, it's actually a very powerful practice too. Breathe in deeply into your stomach and then into your back body and exhale. So breathe in and exhale and let go. Repeat to yourself I forgive, I let go, I am free. I forgive, I let go, I am free. You are not defined by your wounds. You are defined by your willingness to heal. Every step you take in the direction of forgiveness is a step towards your wholeness. If this episode touched your heart, please share it with someone who might need it. Follow me at SariStone25. Just count me in on Instagram for inspirations and reflections, and don't forget to subscribe to the podcast. It really helps me out. And leave a review. It helps more souls find their way to transformation. Until next time, just count me in, because your healing is a miracle in motion.