Self-Confidence: The Key to Great Leaders at Work & Home

In this episode of Love Your Life On Purpose, Michelle Vande Hey dives deep into why self-confidence is the foundation of great leadership; at work and at home. Whether you're struggling with decision-making, saying no, or trusting your intuition, this episode offers five powerful reasons why building self-confidence is essential. 

Learn how tuning into your inner wisdom not only transforms how you lead but also empowers those around you to step into their own leadership. Stay tuned for the Thoughtful Three: a reflective question, a grounding affirmation, and an actionable step to help you embody the lessons shared.

What You'll Learn:

• Why self-confidence builds trust and credibility
  
  
• How it supports healthy boundaries and joy
  
  
• The link between intuition and decision-making
  
  
• Why authenticity nurtures emotional safety
  
  

How your presence inspires others to lead themselves

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 You wanna feel more confident in your decision making? Maybe you wanna feel more confident speaking or leading meetings, maybe you wanna have more confidence in saying no. This all comes from one kind of confidence. So in today's episode, I'm going to share with you why self-confidence is the most important kind of confidence and why it's really the key to being a great leader at work and at home.

And this is gonna help you to stop floundering with decision making. It's gonna help you to let go of that. Overgiving and maybe also help you to let go of perfectionism and then stay till the end. 'cause I will share my thoughtful three, which is one question, one affirmation, and an action step to help you to implement the things that we are talking about in this episode, so that it's not just talk that it is action and gonna help you to move forward in your growth and transformation.

   📍  After a lifetime of always prioritizing everyone else's needs over your own, do you feel like you don't know who you are anymore? You're moving into this next phase of your life, maybe going through a life transition with kids, getting older parents aging. Your career or your partner relationships might be changing and you're saying to yourself, I feel a little lost, or I don't know who I am anymore. 

You're, you might be exhausted and overwhelmed and still you want to make the world a better place because you have such a big heart. You are not alone. It is time for you to prioritize yourself and power your mission. It's time for you to love your life on purpose. I'm Michelle Vande, hay certified holistic life coach and trauma sensitive yoga facilitator to mission-driven leaders around the world creating more impact without burning out. 

Let's explore who you are and discover who you want to become because you are worth it.

    Today we're gonna talk about five reasons why building confidence is so important and why it's the key to being a great leader in your home and at work. So number one, confidence builds trust and credibility. When. You're a leader and you're grounded in yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. That exudes this calmness and this assurance from other people, and it's that inner balance that's felt by other people, and then that inspires trust in you.  When you have that self-trust, that inner knowing that intuition, and that's a big thing with confidence, is self-confidence comes from your intuition we need to be able to hear intuition and we need to be able to trust our intuition.

And that's something I continue to work on where many of us are growing up.  The condition self beliefs of other people and our condition selves make us.  Not feel confident in those nudges that gut feeling that maybe I should do this.

But then we hear all those other voices saying no and not trusting ourselves, and that's how we become less confident in ourselves.  And so this confidence grows when we can, first of all, notice our intuition, and then also trust our intuition to move us forward in.  A direction that is more aligned. So this confidence really grows when you're aligned with your inner essence and your inner knowing as opposed to performing from the outside.

This can help create belief in yourself and. Other people believing in you because  when you believe in yourself more, it's gonna be easier for other people to believe in you. I remember a while back, I was talking to a friend and we were in our twenties and I had met my boyfriend years ago, and then we got engaged and married we were the same age and we got married in our twenties.

Relatively young and she just hadn't had a serious boyfriend. Something I told her was you know, don't worry so much about finding that person. Just continue to focus on loving yourself, love yourself first, because when you're loving yourself, it's easier for other people to know how to love you and you'll attract that person to you.

And she ended up doing that years later. And it goes the same way with the belief. When you have the belief in yourself, other people are going to feel that energy of belief in you.  Number two. Is confidence encourages healthy boundaries, and this is related to embracing your joy and your health.  So self-confidence empowers you as the leader to protect your wellbeing in being able to say no without the guilt, prioritizing your rest, prioritizing your needs, your health and your wellbeing, and that creates more space for joy and vitality and fun in your life.

And  when you're having fun, other people wanna have fun and who doesn't wanna have fun? So when you can embrace some of that fun and being able to say no, it allows you the space to say yes to the fun when you are saying no to the things that aren't meant for you. Confident leaders know that their health and wellbeing. 

Matters to the impact that you want to make. Number three is self-confidence fuels decisiveness. So at the beginning I was talking about how, , if you're not feeling confident in your decision making, this comes from that intuition, that inner knowing. And it helps you to be more decisive. It helps you to not flounder back and forth of like, should I do this or should I do that?

And don't get me wrong, I still when, especially when I'm working on new projects or.  Working on new things, I still go back and forth and it's okay to kind of question things. We don't always have to say, oh, this is it. And that's the only way. And it's not about this either or mentality. We can still embrace the and opportunity for things to change.

And at the same time, it is important to be decisive and when you can be decisive, that comes from that inner trust, . And that you're really rooted in your inner essence and that you don't really need a constant validation of your decisions, that you're trusting your inner compass, or that intuition, which makes decision making really more fluid and aligned.

When you're trusting yourself, it helps you to go with the flow and it helps others to know where you stand on things.   When you lead from that inner essence  the clarity then follows. Number four is it helps to set an emotional tone. So the self-confidence, it's really nurturing your authenticity.

And authenticity breeds authenticity and confidence breeds confidence. And so when confident leaders show up as your whole self, when you're showing up and not needing to be perfect. Where you don't have to have perfect hair, you don't have to have perfect makeup. You don't have to have the perfect clothes.

You don't have to always be making the quote unquote right decision all the time. This nurtures an environment where others can feel safe to do the same or safer, whether it's at home or at work. That authenticity really sets the tone for honesty, for connection and emotional safety.  When people get this feeling of who you truly are. 

They feel that own safety in themselves, and it helps 'em to be able to lean into their own authenticity and not get stuck in their condition selves.   Authenticity is contagious, and confidence in your own authenticity can make it feel safer for other people. And number five is it inspires others to lead themselves. 

When you are fully grounded in your presence and yourself and in your self-confidence, it empowers others to step into their own leadership because really isn't that what we want? Don't we want, whether you're leading a team  or you're leading volunteers, or you're leading at home,  eventually we want other people to be able to make decisions, right?

Being a leader isn't about. Making all the decisions and everyone follows those decisions. Being a leader is empowering other people around you to be able to feel confident in their own decision making and to be able to feel confident to make a decision, knowing that if it wasn't the right decision or if something goes wrong, that it's okay.

It's okay to make mistakes. And when you're grounded in your present, it helps you to be less reactive and more responsive. And.  Be more present to really the potential in other people. And that's, we wanna bring out that potential in others.  So your presence becomes that permission slip to others to rise. 

And one of the best ways to build self-confidence. That I have found is to find spaces where you feel safe enough to show up as yourself, even if it's messy, even in the imperfectness showing up as your whole self and having opportunities to do that before you're ready to do it to the world or before you're ready to do it at work or at home.

And that is why I believe in the power of group coaching and the power of community.   If you want to grow in your self-confidence and check out a space that might feel safer for you to practice being in your self-confidence, join the Love Your Life On Purpose community. That is a community that I created for us to come together and to share  life with each other, to show up as humans.

So we know that being human first is. The most important and that helps us to create more impact.  When you join, there'll just be a few questions for you to answer. Once you're done with that, we'll welcome you with Open Arms, so go to Love Your Life on purpose.com or search Love your Life, on Purpose on Facebook, and as a bonus, you'll receive my self-care cheat sheet .

 Today I was. At a chamber event and somebody put up this definition of community, and I wanted to read it because it resonated with me so much and it reaffirmed to me why community is so important. And it says community is much more than belonging to something.  It's about doing something together that makes belonging matter.

And I really, really like that. It's about doing something together. So whether it's my free Facebook group.  My group coaching wherever we meet in community, it's not only about belonging and feeling that sense of belonging,  it's about doing something together and what are we doing together where you're creating more impact. 

Okay, so let's get to the thoughtful three to finish up this episode. This week's Thoughtful three is an affirmation, a question, and an action step.  Your affirmation today that if you wanna write this down, you can,  is when I am present and grounded, I lead with more clarity and calm.  And maybe you take a moment now if you're able to, maybe you lower your gaze or take a breath in and out and you repeat to yourself.

When I am present and grounded, I lead with more clarity and calm.  Your question, for you to reflect on is in what situations do I struggle to trust my inner wisdom, my intuition, and what might shift if I did start to trust my intuition.  One more time. In what situations do I struggle to trust my intuition and what might shift when I do start trusting it? 

And then your action step.  Embrace joy by doing something that lights you up. It can either be something simple that takes five minutes or less. Maybe you want to dance to music in the kitchen like I love to do, or maybe it's something that takes a little bit more time that you choose something that you're excited about and you put it towards the end of the week so you have something to look forward to at the end of the week.

That's something a little extra special,. Feel free to leave a comment here with your answer to the questions, what you're gonna do to embrace joy this week, and then if this message resonated with you or made you think of someone, make sure you send it to them or ask their permission.

Say, can I send you this video because I thought of you or this podcast because I thought of you when I was listening to it.   And always remember to be gentle with yourself. You are not broken. You are becoming, and you deserve to love your life on purpose because you are worth it.