The Real Reason You Can’t Say No (Even When You Know You Should)

Have you ever felt like you’re disappearing under the weight of everyone else’s needs—like no matter how much you give, it’s never enough?

In today’s episode of Love Your Life On Purpose, I dive into the deeper reason why saying no feels impossible, even when you know it’s costing you your joy, energy, and sense of self. Spoiler: it’s not just about kindness or time management. It’s about the beliefs we’ve been conditioned to carry—beliefs that say your worth comes from how much you sacrifice.

I’ll share:

• Why helping others can feel addictive (and why you keep saying yes)
• How overgiving slowly erodes your spark and identity
• Why boundaries alone aren’t enough unless you heal the deeper beliefs
• The paradox of generosity: the more you sacrifice yourself, the less you actually have to give
• How to say no without being selfish—and finally reclaim your time, energy, and self

If you’ve been struggling with people-pleasing, burnout, or feeling guilty every time you set a boundary, this conversation will help you see that saying no isn’t the end of your generosity. It’s the start of your real, sustainable impact.

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