Ep #46: Your Hard Seasons Are Preparing You for Your Biggest Expansion

In this episode, I’m taking you into a conversation that poured through me fresh from my morning trot. You know those moments where life suddenly clicks, and you see your challenges through an entirely different lens? That’s what today is about. I’m breaking down the biggest lie we tell ourselves — that life should be linear, logical, and pain-free — and showing you why the hard seasons in your life aren’t punishments, but preparation. Preparation for more love, abundance, alignment, and a deeper version of yourself you haven’t even met yet. We explore how the universe uses your “quantum crumbles” to redirect you, strengthen you, and shape you into the person who can actually hold the expansion you’ve been asking for.

I share openly about one of my biggest breakdowns — losing my business, my apartment, my relationship, and my identity — and how it became the catalyst for stepping into the work I’m meant to do. If you’re in a season that feels heavy, stagnant, or uncertain, this episode is your reminder that contraction always comes before expansion… and that nothing is happening to you. It’s all happening for you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why your hardest seasons are often the exact catalyst for your biggest growth
• How to shift out of victim mentality and see challenges as preparation, not punishment
• The energetic laws behind expansion — contraction, duality, alignment, and responsibility
• Why letting go of old identities, timelines, or relationships is sometimes the deepest form of protection
• How to return to gratitude, self-responsibility, and love — the frequencies that open the door to abundance and new opportunities

🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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Transcript

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You are listening to the Secure Love Club podcast. I'm your host, Mimi Watt. Hey friends. Welcome back to the club. I just got back from a beautiful morning trot. I was on my walk by the water. I was listening to a podcast. I had a delicious coffee in hand, and I was overcome with this immense wave of gratitude. And I was grateful for what the past year has given me in disguise. The past year has actually been quite a challenging one for me personally. It has felt in many aspects, heavy, stagnant. I felt a bit lost, a bit hopeless, and a bit unsure of my future. Uh, but today I was reminded as I was listening to a podcast actually hosted by my beautiful friend, Hillary McVey, and she was talking about cause and effect in our life and how we think that it is linear. That if I do X, I should get Y. So if I do this in my business, then this result should happen. Or if I do make this change in my dating life, then I automatically should have this amazing partner. And we think in such linear ways when really life doesn't happen like that because it's not logical or linear, it's energetic and. Often or every time, and you can choose to look at it this way or not, which I do. Whenever we are going through something challenging, something that is pushing the edges of our comfort zone, that feels heavy. It is always. Preparing us to be expanded, to hold and call in more of what we want or that desire that is sitting on your heart right now that has been in your mind for so long. And often it's not until we come out the other side of that challenging period in life that we can see why it was happening for us. Why everything had to happen in that exact way to help us arrive at this new point in life as this new version of you with these new results or this new reality. And so I want to riff on this topic today because I want it to be, I want this episode to just be an expander for you. Sometimes we just need those expansive conversations to shift us out of a negative spiral that we might be in. Or to remove the veil of this illusion of these stories that we tell ourselves about the way life is and about who we are and about what's happening. And woe is me, and we can get stuck in this victim mentality, and I wanna give you this expansion so that maybe you can shift out of that mindset. And if you're going through a challenging period right now. Allow yourself to find hope and inspiration and see that this is all happening for your highest good, so that you don't suffer through the challenge. So that is what we're diving into, and you can just feel the energy is flowing through me. So this is just coming, I don't know, from the universe, from source, from life itself, and it's flowing through me to you. And I know that it's gonna land with. You at exactly the perfect time, at the perfect moment that it's going to. So with that said, let's dive in. One of the greatest lies you can tell yourself in life is that you shouldn't be suffering, that you shouldn't be going through challenges because it's unfair. It's painful, and you know it's easy to look around it. Everyone else in the world on social media, on the highlight reels, who seems to be doing great, and life is just upleveling, you know, constantly for them, and you are over here stuck in the trenches. Okay? It's the biggest lie that we can tell ourselves, and we forget these things. So I'm just bringing this to you as a reminder, but the challenges that life presents to you are such a gift. They are such a gift because if we didn't have challenges and hardships, how would we be able to see or even appreciate the good times and the wins and the successes? This is the law of duality. We have to have opposites of everything in order for things to make sense. So we have to have dark in order to be able to identify light. We have to experience pain. In order to experience pleasure, we have to know up in order to know down, right? If we didn't have the opposite, then how would we know what the other thing is we sort of need, we need that contrast to be able to appreciate it. So I am curious what challenge that you are moving through right now that is on your heart. What comes to you through your body. Maybe you are feeling really stuck in your career or your business, and even though you've been putting so much effort in results aren't flowing, maybe you are in a relationship that is draining the life out of you. Maybe you are feeling like you're outgrowing certain friendships. And every time you hang out with them, you don't feel like your authentic self. You feel like some outdated version of you maybe, I don't know. Whatever it is, identify that challenge, that pain on your heart, and I want you to, for a moment, if you can close your eyes, do so. If not, that's fine, but just draw all your attention to that pain or that challenge. And I want you to take a deep breath in and exhale, and I want you to say thank you for it being here in your life. I want you to send love and gratitude to this challenge right now because when we send love to our pain and when we tap into the frequency of love. We are stepping into the highest frequency possible. Love and gratitude are the highest frequencies, and when we can tap into that, we shift out of this heavy, dense, low frequency that is created when we are in fear or scarcity or lack. So just sending love and gratitude to that challenge. And now I invite you to open your mind. To asking yourself, what is this challenge here to teach me? What lesson do I need to learn from this challenge in order to become the person who is ready to hold the expansion that I want to call in the relationship, the money, the business, the health? What is it that your soul needs to remember or learn? In order to be ready to hold it. You know, the universe works in mysterious ways, and believe it or not, the universe is always conspiring for your highest good. It wants to help you shift into alignment and to have all the things that you desire. It does, but the universe is always also going to. Break down or force you into some sort of great crumble so that you can learn the lessons you need to learn before the universe is ready to give you the gifts that you want. And I can think of several experiences in my life where this has happened. And the first one, and this is in no particular order, but the first one that comes to mind is back in 2021 slash 2022, when I thought I was living my dream life, I was, at the time I was actually doing. Business coaching, and I was, you probably heard me talk about this phase in my life, but I was business coaching. I was living in this beautiful apartment with ocean views from my bedroom. I thought I was thriving and then seemingly out of nowhere, everything fell apart. I wasn't making any money. I was operating from force. I was trying to get clients, but nothing was working. Even though I was doing the things that I had been told to do by certain mentors, it just wasn't clicking. And all of a sudden I was left with no choice but to walk away from that business, to move out of my apartment, to move in with my grandma. And I got a job cleaning houses within, within a week to get money. And then shortly after that, I went and changed to a receptionist job and I went through this. 18 month period where I felt so lost. I didn't know what my future looked like. From there, I was having a full blown identity crisis. I thought, who am I? If I don't have this business to stand behind? Who am I without the success and the accolades? I remember I didn't want anyone to ask me what I. Did for a living because I didn't feel proud of saying, well, I did have this business, but now I'm just working a reception job and I don't know what I'm doing. I was carrying so much shame initially, but what I realized over the, over those months was that number one, I had been so neglectful of responsibility. In terms of money, I had all this debt that I had racked up when I was trying to start my business and like I'm talking like$20,000 worth of debt that I needed to pay back. And before this quantum crumble, I had just kept putting it off, putting it off, trying to find ways to put out the fire or bury my head in the sand without taking full responsibility for it. And I learned that, okay, this is what I need to prioritize. I need to work hard. I need to just keep working at this reception job. I need to sacrifice certain luxuries or indulgences, and I need to pay back this money that I owe. I need to do that because why is the universe gonna send me more money and more abundance when I am treating money this way when I'm not taking responsibility? So that was one lesson I needed to learn. Another very important lesson was that I didn't fully, or maybe I did realize it on some level deep down, but I was operating out of a lineman or out of integrity almost when I was business coaching because it didn't feel fully right in my body. It felt. That I, I didn't have enough experience to warrant being a business coach and to be fair, like it's not that I was doing anything that was wrong or bad, but it just felt that in order to really stand in this position. With integrity and feel like I can trust and back everything I'm saying I need to be. I need to have been in this game longer. And I think I knew that on some level for quite a while, but I pushed it down. I ignored it. I ignored my gut, my instincts, my intuition, and I just kept forcing it, trying to have results. And of course it wasn't working because we are energetic beings. And when you are operating out of alignment with what your your truth is, you're not going to have aligned results. One of my favorite quotes is The truth has legs and it will remain standing. So you can try and ignore it all you want, but eventually it's gonna come around and smack you right in the face so you pay attention. And so I had to let go of this identity of being a business coach. Yeah, and temporarily sit in a very uncomfortable void. Before, before I could hear my dog snoring before coming home to the real reason why I'm here, my real mission that I'm devoted to now, which is helping women or supporting people like yourself listening. In healing, anxious attachment. In healing these relational wounds that have you feeling like you're too much, you're not enough, you're not worthy of love, which is such a lie because you are worthy of it all. And it's just a, it's a process of remembering that, of unbecoming, the conditioned version of yourself that you have evolved into over the years and stepping into. That secure, grounded, sovereign being that you are so that you can be an energetic match for the type of love and relationship you want to call in. And that is my soul's essence. That is why I'm here, and I know that because as soon as I honored that calling and started shifting into it and speaking to that in my content, it completely blew up. And it wasn't like I was trying to think of what to say. It literally was just like an extension of me. It was just pouring out of me, and it was resonating with all the right people. And from there, the business has evolved and flowed with ease. That's not to say there hasn't been any challenges. Of course there are because as you continue to uplevel, you're going to be met with new challenges, new level, new devil, but. From what it used to feel like to what it feels like now, worlds apart. And so all of that had to happen in order for me to be in a new timeline and experience a new reality that is completely different, that is better than I ever could have imagined. There were times in that 18 month period that were so dark. I also went through a breakup in that time. A very painful, um, heartbreak and loss of a beautiful relationship. And there were times in that period that felt so dark and I felt so helpless and lost. But I look back on it now with so much gratitude that it did happen because what a gift. What a gift. And I wonder if you can again come back to that challenge or that pain on your heart and say, what a gift that I get to go through this right now, because clearly it's preparing me for something incredible. The people in this life who have the greatest joy and pleasure and fulfillment are not the people who have lived a life or live a life without suffering. They are people who look at their suffering as the greatest teachers in their life. They look at the things they've moved through that were painful and difficult with gratitude. I could look back over my childhood and my life for the first 25 years of my life and. Live in a victim mentality and say, you know, I went through so much suffering when I was a child from my parents' divorce and being in a blended family, and I wouldn't have had an anxious attachment style if I didn't go through all of that, and it's your fault, and I could blame my parents and I could live with this bitterness and this anger in my heart. I could, put myself into a victim mentality with all of the painful relationships I've been through, that felt just made me feel like such a shell of myself that I was worthless. I could look at all of that and I could use it as ammo to stay in victim mentality in my life. And a lot of people do this because it is easier. We think it is easier to point the finger and blame and stay in a victim mentality than it is to take responsibility, to find appreciation for those challenges and to step the fuck up and change your life. Instead of looking at my experiences in my journey with relationships as a problem, I look at it as a blessing. Because although yes, there has been a lot of pain and challenges, it has made me who I am today. I would not have the opportunity to be serving this mission and even speaking to you right now on this podcast, if I didn't go through all of that and I don't know what I would be doing with my life, it had to happen. Maybe you are going through pain in your relationships, in your dating life now so that you can experience love deeper and more beautiful than most people will ever get to experience. Because you know what it's like to be in pain, in love to feel less than. To be neglected, to be unheard and unseen. You know what that feels like, and so maybe it's a gift that has been given to you so that as you heal and move through this journey of stepping back into your secure self, you get to from such conscious awareness, create the direct opposite of that experience. Something that is so. Fulfilling and nurturing where you feel seen and heard and understood, and you can give that love to people who are gonna mirror it back to you. I want you to notice where in your life ha have you been or are you currently operating from ego and scarcity and lack? Where are you operating from? Well, I should have this thing. Or where are you trying to just get from people? Just notice, and I am not, immune to this. Just this morning I had this realization. There are certain areas in my life where I've been operating from ego and thinking that, coming back to that linear cause and effect that just because I do XI should get Y. But whenever we are in this frequency. It is blocking the abundance that you want to call in because we cannot call in and attract more abundance from an energy of lack and scarcity. So can you tap back into love and gratitude? Tap back into service. Where can you be of service to someone else today? How can you support a loved one or a friend? Can you call up your mom or your dad or someone important in your life? Maybe an old friend you haven't spoken to in a while, and just send them a message or send, give them a phone call and just tell them how much you love them and how grateful you are that they've come into your life and that they're a part of your life. Thank them for always being there for you. Maybe do something nice for them just because it feels so damn good to give. Not with an expectation of getting something back, but because you're just doing it out of love. This might sound a little corny or a little woowoo to some of you, and that's okay, but I just dare you to try it. I think we need this reminder as often as possible to come back to love and to expand into that higher frequency. We live in a world that wants us to be scared and afraid and quiet of so much. So it's understandable that we contract into this fear-based mentality and we live our lives from these stories that are just so limited, this black and white thinking. It's not your fault, but you do have the opportunity to snap out of it. It in this moment to remember who you are underneath all the fear and the challenges and the pain. You are a powerful individual and you have so much to give. You bring. You bring so much value to the table. You are deserving of everything that you desire. You do the greatest contraction. Comes right before your greatest expansion. So the deeper the pain, the greater the challenge, the more abundant transformation and expansion is right on the other side. As you're listening to this, we are coming to the end of another year, the end of 2025, and I know that around the end of year, the Christmas time, the holiday period, new year. It can create or it can instigate a lot of introspection. And I think for many people we can get to this, get in this head space of, oh, I didn't achieve everything I wanted to achieve this year. Or, oh, another year's passed and I'm still in the same situation. But are you, maybe at first glance, you think you are, but I want you to reflect on the past year. And truly notice all of the ways that you actually have grown, the ways that you have upgraded your perspective, you have grown, and where your focus goes, energy flows. So I encourage you to find the growth and the uplevels that you have experienced, and when you cast your mind forward to the future. Don't do it from an energy of fear or, or what if this doesn't happen for me, or what if I, I'm not gonna achieve that result? Because that is dipping back into fear and scarcity and lack. Be grateful for everything that you have experienced and move through in the past year and get excited about what you get to create in your business, in your relationships, in your health, in your friendships. In your relationship with yourself in the year to come and to get started, just come back to today, taking it one day at a time. How can you tap back into love and gratitude for everything that you are moving through? Because it's, when you do that, that opportunities synchronicities. They're all going to flow into your life because the universe notices when you are putting yourself out there, when you are showing up with gratitude, when you are giving from a place of service, the universe sees that and it wants to give you more to support you. It says, yes, let me put this person in front of you for an opportunity. Let me give you more creative energy. Let me bring more abundance to you to support you. It wants to support you, but it starts with you. So I hope this conversation has expanded you in some way and just allowed you to, instead of looking down at the ground, feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders, to look up into the sky and to just smile and to feel what is possible. When you remember the truth of who you are and come back to love. I'm sending you so much love and so much gratitude for you being here today and for listening, and I hope you have a beautiful week, my friend, and a beautiful 2026. I'll talk to you soon. Bye-bye. If you enjoyed today's episode, hit that subscribe button and leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Share this episode with your friends and come find me on social so we can hang out between episodes. All the links are below in the show notes.