Ep #53: Decisive Action - How Making a Decision Directs Your Energy & Changes Everything

In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most underrated reasons you feel stuck, drained, and unable to move forward in dating, life, or your personal growth: indecision.

I’m breaking down why “I just need to think about it more” is often a trauma response disguised as logic, and how staying in limbo quietly leaks your energy, erodes your self-trust, and keeps you repeating the same patterns. We explore why your body often already knows the answer long before your mind catches up, and how making a clean decision instantly shifts your identity, confidence, and momentum.

I also share powerful real-life examples, from challenging a client to make an on-the-spot decision, to saying yes to moves that scared the hell out of me (hello Bali and big investments), and how the universe tends to meet you halfway once you commit. If you’ve been standing on the edge of a decision, waiting for certainty, permission, or reassurance… this episode is your loving-but-firm nudge to MOVE!

In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why unmade decisions drain your energy more than making the “wrong” choice ever could
• How fear disguises itself as overthinking and keeps you stuck in familiar discomfort
• Why decisive action is a powerful act of self-trust (especially for anxiously attached women)
• How saying yes instantly redirects your energy, identity, and momentum
• When to stop waiting for certainty, and let commitment create clarity

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Transcript

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You are listening to the Secure Love Club podcast. I'm your host, Mimi Watt. Hey friends. Welcome back to the club. In today's episode, we are gonna be talking about a very important topic that is going to serve many of you in moving forwards in the direction that your heart desires, in the direction that your intuition is trying to pull you towards. But perhaps you have been self-sabotaging making that move, and this. Is all about really looking at where we are leaking our energy when it comes to not making decisions. This is something that I see within so many women who I speak to in my community, and it's also something that I have struggled with a lot in the past. I've since been making moves to move through it, but what I'm seeing is so many of you have this inclination of something that you want to do, whether it's move or. Start a new relationship or invest in a program and you stifle yourself from taking action because you allow yourself to get caught up in this trap of, oh, I just need to think about it more. And realistically, where does that ever get you? Now, I understand that sometimes there are certain circumstances where we do need to apply a bit more consideration and thought before making a decision about what we're going to do. But in many cases, and what I'm talking about today, you actually already know the answer of your decision. You know what it is, but you're stopping yourself from a place of fear and. Lingering in making this decision is giving you this false sense of safety because really all it's doing is allowing you to stay in indecision and stay where it is familiar and therefore comfortable and therefore safe. I, but how does that really feel for you? If it's anything like me, it feels rubbish because we are not moving in any direction. When we are waiting to make a decision, we are treading water and we are in a place of limbo. And when we are not moving forward, we are in a sort of way energetically dying. We are just leaking our energy all over the place. And so today. We are going to look at why this is really happening, and I want to give you a perspective shift on making decisions and how it is the key to propelling you forward to your desires. Alright, let's dive in. This episode is inspired by a conversation that I had with one of the women who has joined the February intake of Peacefully attached starting next year, and we had a connection call yesterday. We got on the call. We'd already spoken a lot in the dms, but she just had a few more questions she wanted to ask or just to really connect and clarify things and create that sense of safety for herself before. Taking the step to enroll. And what I had witnessed with this beautiful woman was that in our DM conversations, she had said to me several times, okay, I just need to think about it a little bit more. Even though she had. Pretty much everything she needed, and I had reassured her concerns and given her the, yeah, the validation I guess, that she needed. But she kept saying she needed more time. So I said, look, let's just jump on a call. Let's hash it out, and we'll go from there. So we get on the call and I answer all her questions. She says, okay, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna do it. Like I'm leaning towards a yes. I said, great. And she said, I think I just need a little bit more time to think about it. And in that moment, I knew that letting her take more time to think about it was actually going to be doing a disservice to her and her future self. I knew, okay, I've been in this game like a, uh, long enough to know when someone genuinely does need that space to consider and when they actually just need to move forward. And so I challenged her and I said, what if you just made a decision right now to go all in or all out? What if you made the decision right now, how would that feel in your body? And she kind of thought about it for a second and she's like, oh, well I think it would feel good. And I said, you know why? It would feel good. Because there is nothing heavier than the weight of an unmade decision. I said, you already know in your body that this is what you wanna do. Your entire intuition is leaning in saying yes. What's happening is you are letting that those voices in your head, the fear, the concern, the what ifs dictate what you do or don't do. And is that the kind of energy you want to be stepping into the future, into the new year, into this next version of, is that the energy you wanna be creating from? And she said, no. I said, right. So what would be an empowered step forward that you could make right now? And she said, well, to join. Okay, let's do it. And I could see in that moment the energetic shift within her. Because what happens is when we say yes to something, when we make a decision, we go from lingering in no man's land where our energy is low, we don't know which direction to move in. Into a clear and defined path in one direction, and when you have that path, you are able to direct all of your energy and funnel it into moving forward. That way when we are not deciding, we are essentially saying that I am not going to honor what I know to be true in my heart. I am not going to listen to my intuition. And that is perpetuating the patterns that for many of you listening who are working with an anxious attachment style, you have been holding for so many years, whether it's from your childhood or all of your romantic relationships as an adult, there's likely been a pattern of you not trusting your gut and trusting your intuition. Because you have been emotionally vulnerable and looking to people outside of you to give you reassurance and validation, and often when you're dealing with people who are avoidant or emotionally unavailable, it's. They can make you feel like you are too much. You dunno what you're talking about. You can't trust your intuition, which is coming from their lack of capacity to hold your emotions and their lack of emotional availability. And so it creates this loop of, I have this niggle in my gut. I think it's telling me something important. You try to talk about it or voice it, it gets shut down. So then you think, okay, well maybe I can't trust my gut. Maybe I'm not right. Maybe I am just gonna be confused again. And so making this decision, and I'm just gonna use the example of investing in yourself because I know there are so many of you listening who are on the cusp of wanting to join peacefully attached. I've spoken with many of you. Making that first decision is where your transformation begins, because that is the first step, and it's a powerful step in declaring to yourself. I listen to my intuition and I back myself, and I know what I need, and I know what my heart desires and I give it to myself. That is such a powerful way. To show up for yourself and to set the tone of the person who you are becoming that is like a giant fuck you to all the people who ever made you feel like you were crazy and that your gut was wrong. It is such a reclamation of power and independence. What never ceases to amaze me is the way that the universe. Conspires to support your decisions when you make them from a place of alignment. And so when I say alignment, that means not listening to the thousand thoughts that are swirling around in your mind, not listening to the fear that's telling you, oh, what if it doesn't work? What if I make this mistake? What if it doesn't work for me? Or, what if X, y, Z happens? Not listening to any of that mental drama, but listening to when you get quiet with yourself. And you tune into your body and you tune into your gut and you ask yourself, do I want this? And when you feel that pull, it's, it's hard to explain, but you just know. It's an energetic feeling of, yes. When I think about this decision, I either feel expanded, like my energy feels like I want to expand into it, or I feel contracted. And I know that it's a no or a not right now, but when it's a yes, when you make decisions from that place. Everything starts to rearrange and shift around you to support that decision. A an example of this that just blew me away was when I was deciding if I wanted to move to Bali, that that idea to do that came into my life at a time where I was at a crossroads. I wasn't particularly happy. In, oh, actually that's not true. I was happy, but something happened in my world where I needed to make a decision on where I was going to live, and I could either go house hunting, and this was in Sydney, where the rental market is just. Horrible and so competitive. And so I said, okay. I have only been living where I've been living for three months, and prior to this, it took me five months to find this place to live. So I have two options. I can either go and hunt for an apartment again. Which is probably gonna be even more expensive than what I'm paying. Or I can listen to this random suggestion that I got from a good friend of mine who said, why don't you fuck off and move to Bali? Why not fuck off? Literally. But you know what I mean? Why don't you go to Bali? You can take your business, you can take your work there. Like you don't have to be here. Why don't you just go do that? And to a past version of me, that would've sounded so ridiculous because I never thought of myself as someone who would just pick up and move overseas. I'm quite a homebody. I like my routine. I like to know my environment. And yeah, a past version of me wouldn't have probably thought twice about it, wouldn't or wouldn't have got on board with it. But sometimes opportunities present themselves to you in life in. Very random ways and very random moments that to other people might seem like you're being a bit d Lulu. You know, they might not make logical sense, but to you for some reason, whether you can describe it or not, it makes perfect sense. And this was one of those times, and what I did was. What I didn't do, I should say, is I didn't go and talk to everyone I knew about what they thought of this decision. I knew that this was something I had to make for myself. I spoke to two, maybe three people who I was very close with, who I trusted their opinion, who I knew would only want what's best for me and would likely be very positive and encouraging. And I spoke to them about it. I expressed my concerns, I expressed my fears. I got it all out, but I didn't spend too long having those conversations. And then in an instant I made a decision. And sometimes that's all it takes. The power of making a decision that could transform your entire life happens like that. In a moment, you think making a decision takes a long time, but actually it's something that you can decide right now in this moment, taking one second to do so. And when I tell you that my life changed when I made that decision. It fucking changed the universe got on board big time, so I made this decision five weeks out from when my flight was booked to leave to Bali. I was originally going there for a retreat with a friend for I think one week or 10 days, and I decided I'm not coming back from that trip. I have five weeks to get my ARS into gear, to get my ducks in a row and make this happen. So what did I do? At the time, I was working three jobs. I was working as a receptionist. I was working as a trainer at my local gym, and I was running my business. I gave in my notice to both jobs. Luckily I had the time to, I gave a month's notice to both of them. I sold a bunch of my stuff that I didn't need anymore. I packed up what I wanted to keep. I put it into storage, and then I needed to move out of the place I was living. And I needed a place that I could stay for about three weeks before my flight was going to leave. Randomly, my sister's boyfriend's mom, who lived around the corner from where I was living in that apartment, heard about me needing to move out suddenly and said, oh my God, come and stay at my house. I've got heaps of spare room. Um, you can help me out with the dog. I'm gonna be staying up at her holiday house like most of the time. Anyway, don't worry about paying me anything. Just come move in. It was. The most amazing gesture, and I was like, this is literally perfect for what I need. So moved outta my apartment, moved in there, had everything I needed. I was saving extra money before I went, and I also needed to sell my car. I was relying on the money from the sale of the car to support me getting started overseas. And I remember saying to my dad, I need to sell my car before I go. And I think at this point it was four weeks away and he said, Mimi. I'm just gonna say this, you're not gonna sell your car before you go. I'm not saying that to be negative, but I have sold a lot of cars in my time, and this takes time. It doesn't happen that quickly. And I said, well, I need it to happen that quickly. So I'm just going to hold the faith that it's going to happen because the universe is supporting me because this feels so right and everything else has just gone seamlessly. So what happened? I had a few people come and look at the car over the next few weeks. No bites. And then four days before I was leaving, this beautiful couple came to look at my car. Kevin was his name, if you know, you know, and they drove him, loved him. And then the next day texted me and said, Mimi, we wanna buy the car. We are ready to transfer the money. Let's do the deal. The day before I took off, the money landed in my account. They picked up the car. All the loose ends were tied. It was insane how amazingly it all came together, but also not so insane because I'd had enough experiences in my life to know that when I listen to my gut instinct for what my heart desires, even when it's scares me, I have the biggest expansions and the biggest up levels. Sometimes we don't always need to know the logistics of how we are going to make something happen. We need to make the decision. And let things come into our fruition. On the other side of saying yes, another big decision that I made at the beginning of this year was to invest in a business mentor who actually, they're a couple and I'd been wanting to work with them for a while, but it was the biggest investment I. Would ever make in a business mentor. And I've, I've invested in myself a lot over the last five years, and I've worked with a few business coaches and mentors. They've all been amazing. But this was the program that I, I was like, I really wanna do this. I feel very aligned with these people. I know it's going to support me in upleveling massively in my business. I wanna do this. But I was shit scared. Okay. I was terrified because. I was doing it on a three month payment plan and I needed to make a$500 investment, and then it was going to be three monthly payments of four, I think. How much was it? It was about two and a half thousand US dollars per month, which is about 4,000 Australian dollars. And at this point in time when I was saying yes. I literally, logically could not see how I was going to come up with that money every month spare to invest in paying off this payment plan. I, I didn't know how it was gonna happen, but what I did know was that I believed in this program, I believed in my mentors, and I believed in myself to be able to make it happen. So really hear me when I say that. It doesn't mean that I, I, I had fear. I had doubt and uncertainty, but I didn't let that stop me from saying yes to what I knew my heart and my body wanted me to do. And guess what happened? I ended up paying it off early. My business started taking off before the program even started. Because I was paying this off three months in advance before the, the mentorship program started. My business started taking off, clients started coming in from nowhere. I was making money. It was just, it was like all happening and hands down. The reason that happened is because when I said yes to that decision, it was something that I knew would energetically require me to up level. It felt stretchy, it felt like it was expansive, and I knew, okay, if I'm saying yes to this, I am shifting my identity. I'm becoming a new person, and from that I'm going to be taking new action. I don't need to know exactly what that's gonna look like right now. I just know that it's going to happen. And boy did it happen. I am so glad when I look back, I'm so fucking glad that I said yes to my heart's desire and made that decision because it has changed the course of my life. It has changed the way I operate my business in so many amazing ways. I have so much support from my mentors every day, when I need them, so much guidance, and they hold me to my highest self. That is the power of saying yes to investing into something that even if it scares you, it feels like when it has, when it feels stretchy, right, it feels like an edge, like it feels like a big deal for you, and there's a mix of excitement and nerves. Oh, that is what you want to say yes to. That is what you want to lean into because you are, damn, I am damn sure you are going to become a different person. Your transformation begins with the transaction because by saying yes and putting the money where your mouth is and putting skin in the game, you are directly saying to yourself, I'm worth this. I am worth investing into. I am a priority. I am worthy and valuable enough to invest this amount of money into this program, even if it feels scary, especially if it feels scary. I know that a lot of people get tripped up on this idea of how do I know if it's the right decision? What if it's the wrong decision? And the thing with that is we only ever fully know if something was the right decision. When we can look back with hindsight, when we can look back and say, yeah, I, I remember I had that instinct, that desire, I said yes to that thing, and I can absolutely see it was the right decision. Or I had a feeling I wasn't sure I made this decision. Ah, and now I can see, yeah, that was the wrong decision. I should have listened to my gut. But if you are waiting to have absolute certainty of a decision before you make it, you're going to be waiting forever. You're going to stay exactly where you are. It's going to feel stagnant, it's going to feel heavy, and it's going to drain your energy. So when you are faced with a decision you want to make, ask yourself what feels most right? What feels expansive? What feels like a yes in my body? Even if my head has fear, what feels like the decision that is going to help me grow? And up level from this place? You cannot. Go wrong. You will feel empowered, you'll feel activated, you will feel proud of yourself, and most importantly, you will feel fucking alive. So if I'm speaking to you right now, if you have been teetering on the edge of saying yes to your heart's desire. To secure your spot and be a part of the powerhouse group of women who are in peacefully attached. The group of women who are self-led, who are learning to trust their intuition, who are being decisive and deciding that this is the time their life changes, that their, the future of their relationship changes because their relationship with themselves is changing. Then I invite you to make a decision. And what's really important is that you do not wait on this decision. When you say yes, take action immediately to affirm the decision. What you don't wanna do is say yes, and then wait even more before taking action where you just say, yeah, I'm gonna do it. But then you don't. You don't actually submit the application. You don't actually sign the contract and make your first payment or make your payment. Don't delay because every moment that you delay taking action on affirming the decision, you start to lose your power. The energy starts to dwindle, and then you get stuck back in that place of fear and you stay exactly where you are. The clock is ticking. My friend, as you are listening to this or as the day that this is released, we get started with peacefully attached in less than a week. You have just days remaining to get your application in and to secure your spot. Do not wait because this is your final chance to be a part of this and to change your fricking life. I'm going to leave the link to apply if you haven't already in the show notes below. If you have applied and you've already said yes and I've sent you your proposal and you're just waiting to sign it and to seal the deal. Let this be your moment to take action. If you have any final questions or you just want to jump into my dms and ask me to give you a good old spanking and a good push and some tough love, then I'm also available for that. Alright, my friends, I'm gonna leave it there. I hope you have a beautiful week. And make some damn decisions. I'll talk to you soon. Bye-bye. If you enjoyed today's episode, hit that subscribe button and leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Share this episode with your friends and come find me on social so we can hang out between episodes. All the links are below in the show notes.