Entering a New Season on Purpose: How Intentional Living, Self-Trust, and Boundaries Are Shaping My 2025

Season three of The Visibility Standard (formerly All Our Parts) is here—and we’re starting with intention.

In this solo premiere, I’m reflecting on the holiday break and sharing my personal ins and outs for 2025. Not as rigid resolutions or productivity promises, but as values-led choices about how I want to live, love, create, and show up this year. This episode is about discernment over noise, self-trust over hustle, and choosing alignment without apology.

Inside the episode, I share:

• What being intentional and open looks like in relationships
• How I’m evolving my personal style and embracing main-character energy
• Staying consistent with content without burning out
• Letting go of all-or-nothing thinking and trusting my gut
• Tuning out external noise to prioritize what actually matters

I’m also giving you a sneak peek at what’s coming in season three—from returning favorite guests to new voices that will challenge, comfort, and expand you in the best ways.

We’re not just setting goals for 2025.
 We’re choosing presence over pressure.
 And we’re stepping into the version of ourselves we’ve been quietly calling in.

Transcript

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It is 2025. Happy New Year. Welcome back to All Our Parts. I am your host, Jasmine Proctor. Season three, can we believe it? How was everyone's holiday break? I had a very relaxing break. It was nice to be able to enjoy just spending some quality time with loved ones, being able to eat really yummy food. food, being able to sit and watch all the real housewives that my heart's content could handle. And it was the perfect reset to be able to come back into January feeling so energized, feeling so ready to get back into work, get back into podcasting, and just being able to really enjoy getting into everything right now. For my first episode, So to start, we're going to start with the ends. First, intention and openness in my relationship is my top priority for 2025. Leaning into relationships that are fulfilling, that are energizing, that feel like home, that just offer that really deep connection and understanding. I am prioritizing those who prioritize me. I'm leaning in with intentionality and openness as seasons shift, as we start to get busier. We really have to be more thoughtful of how I engage in my relationships, and I'm going to keep that a top priority for 2025. Developing my personal style is also another big in for me in 2025. I started wearing heels again last year, and if you know me, you know I'm a sneaker girly. Love a good pair of sneakers to go with just about any outfit, but I really enjoyed being able to change it up a little bit, finding heels that are comfortable, pairing them with a really cute outfit, even trying dresses again. And so I think I'm really finding a nice space where I'm ready to start being more exploratory with what I wear and so I'm really excited. I've also found that the more that I've allowed myself to step out of my comfort zone in my fashion, the more confident I've started to feel and starting to feel more comfortable wearing things that I may not typically wear. Another N is consistency with my content. And I think this really goes back to making sure I am prioritizing relationships that are prioritizing me. A lot of the time, I just get wrapped up and exhausted in relationships that do not serve me. I am working, trying to fix things, trying to decode and understand something. All that does is take my energy away from the things that are most important to me. Content is very important. Being able to produce a weekly show, being able to show up and be present in the social media space is a value to me. To be able to continue to prioritize that, I have to shift my priorities. Another one is being unapologetic about my wants and needs. I am not going to continue dimming myself. I'm not going to continue playing small to make other people feel comfortable. If you are intimidated, that is not my problem. If you are finding yourself in a comparison trap with me, I would love to process it with you and figure it out. But if I find it being projected, that's going to be a totally different conversation that we might not be able to work through, but I am not going to quiet myself, shun myself, and minimize myself just to make you feel better. It has taken a lot to be able to say that comfortably and confidently, and I still even cringed at myself a little bit when I said that because, of course, in the There are moments where I have intentionally kept things to myself out of worry that it would make other people feel uncomfortable or I felt like it just wasn't the space to share it. But I realized by doing that, I wasn't able to celebrate myself. I wasn't able to celebrate my wins and I was constantly pushing away all of the things that were happening in my life and I wasn't able to stay present. Thank you so much for joining us. The relationship that is most at risk is the relationship with yourself. The more that you minimize, the more that you dismiss your own needs, your own intuition, you are putting yourself at war with yourself. You owe it to yourself to put your wants and needs in the front for a change. Because the more that you do that, the more consistently that you do that, the more consistent you'll be able to show up for others in your life without feeling resentful. I believe the last one of my ends ties into being unapologetic about my wants and needs is celebrating my wins every step of the way. No more of of that playing small shit for others' comfort. Again, I'm keeping shit to myself. I am not remaining authentic. And I'm also really not giving myself the credit for the work that I do. And a lot of times if something happens, if I start to see growth, if I start to see engagement, I'm shocked. But the reality is I work really hard. I am consistent. I am passionate. I am always thinking about ways that I can allow myself to lean into my growth edges because I really am enjoying seeing how my business is evolving, how I am continuing to evolve, not just as a person, but as a business owner. Part of that is being able to acknowledge the shrines that I make. Being able to be honest and present with those and allowing myself the space to sometimes sit and say, wow, I did that. So those are my ins. Relational, business, personal, the perfect balance. Now we're going to my outs. And I've definitely got some outs for this year. My first one is questioning why good things happen. You work your ass off, Jasmine. That's why good things happen. It's not luck. It's not anything It is surrounding yourself with the right people. It is taking the advice of the right people and it is doing the work. It is putting action to the magic. That is why good things happen. I don't need to be shocked. I am allowed to accept and receive good things happening for me. Another out for me is ignoring my intuition about how to move forward in my relationships. If it's feeling like I'm not too certain, I'm going to allow myself to be curious about that because a lot of times my intuition is waving the red flag. It is going, hello, like, pay attention to this. What are you doing? And I'm ignoring it because I want to maintain the relationship because I am hopeful that I will see change because I am hoping that the potential that I believe is there will start to come out eventually, but I am done falling in love with potential. I am done falling in love with the hope that this person will one day meet the potential that I'm asking for. Sometimes we get to take people at face value. Sometimes people show us exactly who they are and us trying to shapeshift them into the person that we need them to be. is not realistic. And honestly, it's not worth the energy because there are people out there who will be able to meet your needs. And the more you give space for those people, the more that you allow yourself to be open to relationships that want to welcome you, that want to celebrate you, the more that you can recognize that losing that relationship, that letting go of that person was truly the best thing. Another out for me is saying yes to things I actually want to say no to. Saying yes to things that I actually want to say no to. I got pretty okay at saying no in 2024. 2025, it's a no for me. Like if I am becoming a real stickler for time, like my time is very precious when I'm Looking at my calendar, I am like, I only have so many hours in the day. I want to make sure that I am using that time to do something that I really enjoy. I want to make sure that I am using that time, spending it with people that is going to energize and make me feel like, yes, this was the best way that I could spend my time. So if the answer is feeling like a no, it's probably going to be a no and that is okay because there is lots of below deck for me to watch there's lots of real housewives that I'd rather be watching and that's not a criticism to anything that is not inherently good or bad it gets to just be like I get to preserve my energy as things continue to evolve things continue to grow I've got to say no I've got to eventually show my priorities and say no to some things. Another out, which I'm going to say is a work in progress, and I wish that it could be a complete out, but it's not, is all or nothing thinking. And this goes back to saying the yes and the no. I can be very black and white about my thought process, and that lands me nowhere but a torture chamber. The torture chamber is my brain. So I'm working on it. It is a work in progress with my therapist to shift that perspective to allow space for more gray, to allow space for more ambiguity. I had a wonderful professor who used to always say, be okay with ambiguity and never got what she was saying I'm like girl just answer the question like why do you keep saying that but truly when we allow ourselves to be okay with the gray when we allow ourselves the space the capacity to for things to be ambiguous for things to be unclear for us to not know we give ourselves a lot more freedom to let the picture unfold the way that it's supposed to. So I am going to be okay with ambiguity. I am going to work on not allowing all or nothing thinking to hold me back from allowing the picture to unfold on its own. Then my last out, keeping it super simple, is letting the outside noise distract me from my goals 2023 especially early 2023 if you listened to my last episode then you would have heard about how fucking noisy the first part of the year was and that wasn't even all of it it's all just fucking noise sometimes it is things it is people distracting you from like what you're working towards and sometimes it's intentional like people want to sabotage you There are people in this life that are your biggest ops and they want to sabotage you. I

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hate to break it to you.

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So outside noise, staying outside. It's so far from me. I can't believe I'm about to quote Taylor Swift. But in the words of Taylor Swift, I am keeping my side of the street clear. You should know what I mean.

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Because come is my boy. Come is a God.

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Yes, I do know some Taylor Swift songs. That's a different conversation for a different day. I think all in all, my goal for 2025 is to live a more authentic, honest life. It is to be around people who are living in alignment with their values, who are living out their authenticity and letting like soaking all of that in. Honestly, 2025 is all about being expansive. That is a word that continues to come back to me time and time again to be expansive it is to be okay with ambiguity I am so excited to share everything that I'm going to be working on this year as the year continues to unfold because there's so much potential it's only January but I'm excited to be back I'm so excited for the guests that I have this season I will have some returners and I also will have some new faces that I can't wait to share with you all so So please like, subscribe, leave a review. It means so much when people take the time to leave a review. I love putting this show out and I want to start getting it out to a broader audience. Tune in every Friday for a brand new episode of All Our Parts. I'm your host, Jasmine, and I'll see you next week. It is 2025. Happy New Year. Welcome back to All Our Parts. I am your host, Jasmine Proctor. Season three, can we believe it? How was everyone's holiday break? I had a very relaxing break. It was nice to be able to enjoy just spending some quality time with loved ones, being able to eat really yummy food. food, being able to sit and watch all the real housewives that my heart's content could handle. And it was the perfect reset to be able to come back into January feeling so energized, feeling so ready to get back into work, get back into podcasting, and just being able to really enjoy getting into everything right now. For my first episode, I thought, what better way to start the year off than sharing my 2025 ins and outs. We've seen the vision boards. We've seen the bingo cards. We are seeing the manifestation girlies giving us all the tips and tricks to starting up the year strong. So to start the year off strong, I certainly created a list of my ins and my outs. So to start, we're going to start with the ins. First, intention and openness in my relationship is my top priority for 2025. Leaning into relationships that are fulfilling, that are energizing, that feel like home, that just offer that really deep connection and understanding. I am prioritizing those who prioritize me. I'm leaning in with intentionality and openness as seasons shift, as we start to get busier. We really have to be more thoughtful of how I engage in my relationships, and I'm going to keep that a top priority for 2025. Developing my personal style is also another big in for me in 2025. I started wearing heels again last year, and if you know me, you know I'm a sneaker girly. Love a good pair of sneakers to go with just about any outfit, but I really enjoyed being able to change it up a little bit, finding heels that are comfortable, pairing them with a really cute outfit, even trying dresses again. And so I think I'm really finding a nice space where I'm ready to start being more exploratory with what I wear. And so I'm really excited. I've also found that the more that I've allowed myself to step out of my comfort zone in my fashion, the more confident I've started to feel and starting to feel more comfortable wearing things that I may not typically wear. Another Another N is consistency with my content. And I think this really goes back to making sure I am prioritizing relationships that are prioritizing me. A lot of the time, I just get wrapped up and exhausted in relationships that do not serve me. I am working, trying to fix things. I'm trying to decode and understand something. And all that does is take my energy away from the things that are most important to me. Content is very important. Being able to produce a weekly show, being able to show up and be present in the social media space is a value to me. And so to be able to continue to prioritize that, I have to shift my priorities. Another one is being unapologetic about my wants and needs. I am not going to continue dimming myself. I'm not going to continue playing small to make other people feel comfortable. If you are intimidated, that is not my problem. If you are finding yourself in a comparison trap with me, I would love to process it with you and figure it out. But if I find it being projected, that's going to be a totally different conversation that we might not be able to work through, but I am not going to quiet myself, shun myself, and minimize myself just to make you feel better. It has taken a lot to be able to say that comfortably and confidently, and I still even cringed at myself a little bit when I said that because, of course, in the back of my mind, I'm like, that could be taken the wrong way. And there There are moments where I have intentionally kept things to myself out of worry that it would make other people feel uncomfortable or I felt like it just wasn't the space to share it. But I realized by doing that, I wasn't able to celebrate myself. I wasn't able to celebrate my wins and I was constantly pushing away all of the things that were happening in my life and I wasn't able to stay present. I also get to ask for what I need out of my relationships. A lot of times, again, we're staying quiet. We are allowing ourselves to meet the needs of another person. We are minimizing ourselves so that we can maintain within our relationships when the reality is the relationship to yourself is the one at risk. I'm going to say it again. The relationships that is most at risk is the relationship with yourself. The more that you minimize, the more that you dismiss your own needs, your own intuition, you are putting yourself at war with yourself. You owe it to yourself to put your wants and needs in the front for a change. Because the more that you do that, the more consistently that you do that, the more consistent you'll be able to show up for others in your life without feeling resentful. I believe the last one of my ends ties into being unapologetic about my wants and needs is celebrating my wins every step of the way. No more of that playing small shit for others' comfort. Remaining authentic. And I'm also really not giving myself the credit for the work that I do. And a lot of times if something happens, if I start to see growth, if I start to see engagement, I'm shocked. But the reality is I work really hard. I am consistent. I am passionate. I am always thinking about ways that I can allow myself to lean into my growth edges because I really am enjoying seeing how my business is evolving, how I am continuing to evolve, not just as a person, but as a business owner. Part of that is being able to acknowledge the strides that I make being able to be honest and present with those and allowing myself the space to sometimes sit and say wow I did that so those are my ends relational business personal the perfect balance now we're going to my outs and I've definitely got some outs for this year my first one is questioning why good things happen you work your ass off jasmine that's why good things happen it's not luck it's not anything it is surrounding yourself with the right people it is taking the advice of the right people and it is doing the work it is putting action to the magic That is why good things happen. I don't need to be shocked. I am allowed to accept and receive good things happening for me. Another out for me is ignoring my intuition about how to move forward in my relationships. If it's feeling like I'm not too certain, I'm going to allow myself to be curious about that because a lot of times my intuition is waving the red flag. It is going, hello, like, pay attention to this. What are you doing? And I'm ignoring it because I want to maintain the relationship because I am hopeful that I will see change because I am hoping that the potential that I believe is there will start to come out eventually, but I am done falling in love with potential. I am done falling in love with the hope that this person will one day meet the potential that I'm asking for. Sometimes we get to take people at face value. Sometimes people show us exactly who they are and us trying to shapeshift them into the person that we need them to be. is not realistic. And honestly, it's not worth the energy because there are people out there who will be able to meet your needs. And the more you give space for those people, the more that you allow yourself to be open to relationships that want to welcome you, that want to celebrate you, the more that you can recognize that losing that relationship, that letting go of that person was truly the best thing. Another out for me is saying yes to things I actually want to say no to. saying yes to things that I actually want to say no to. I got pretty okay at saying no in 2024. 2025, it's a no for me. Like if I am becoming a real stickler for time, like my time is very precious. When I'm looking at my calendar, I am like, I only have so many hours in the day. I want to make sure that I am using that time to do something that I really enjoy. I want to make sure that I am using that time, spending it with people that is going to energize and make me feel like, yes, this was the best way that I could spend my time. So if the answer is feeling like a no, it's probably going to be a no. And that is okay because there is lots of below deck for me to watch. There's lots of Real Housewives that I'd rather be watching and that's not a criticism to anything that is not inherently good or bad it gets to just be like I get to preserve my energy as things get to shift things continue to evolve things continue to grow I've got to say no. I've got to eventually shift my priorities and say no to some things. Another out, which I'm going to say is a work in progress, and I wish that it could be a complete out, but it's not, is all or nothing thinking. I can be very black and white about my thought process and that lands me nowhere but a torture chamber. The torture chamber is my brain. So I'm working on it. It is a work in progress with my therapist to shift that perspective to allow space for more gray to allow space for more ambiguity I had a wonderful professor who used to always say be okay with ambiguity and never got what she was saying I'm like girl just answer the question like why do you keep saying that but truly when we allow ourselves to be okay with the gray when we allow ourselves the space the capacity to For things to be ambiguous, for things to be unclear for us to not know, we give ourselves a lot more freedom to let the picture unfold the way that it's supposed to. So I am going to be okay with ambiguity. I am going to work on not allowing all or nothing thinking to hold me back from allowing the picture to unfold on its own. Then my last out, keeping it super simple, is letting the outside noise distract me from my goals. 2024, if you listened to my last episode, then you would have heard about how fucking noisy the first part of the year was. And that wasn't even all of it. It's all just fucking noise sometimes. It is things. It is people distracting you from like what you're working towards. And sometimes it's intentional. Like people want to sabotage you. There are people in this life that are your biggest ops and they want to sabotage you. I hate to

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break it to you.

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So outside noise, staying outside. It's staying so far. From me. I can't believe I'm about to quote Taylor Swift, but in the words of Taylor Swift, I am keeping my side of the street clear. You should know what I mean. Because

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come is my boy. Come is a God.

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Yes, I do know some Taylor Swift songs. That's a different conversation for a different day. I think all in all, my goal for 2025 is to live a more authentic, honest life. It is to be around people who are living in alignment with their values, who are living out their authenticity. And like soaking all of that in, honestly, 2025 is all about being expansive. That is a word that continues to come back to me time and time again. It is to be expansive. It is to be okay with ambiguity. I am so excited to share everything that I'm going to be working on this year as the year continues to unfold because there's so much potential. It's only January. But I'm excited to be back. I'm so excited for the guests that I have this season. I will have some returners and I also will have some new faces that I can't wait to share with you all. So please Like, subscribe, leave a review. It means so much when people take the time to leave a review. I love putting this show out and I want to start getting it out to a broader audience. Tune in every Friday for a brand new episode of All Our Parts. I'm your host, Jasmine, and I'll see you next week.