Dating on High Alert
Dating on High Alert dives into the messy reality of relationships and life, neurodivergence, trauma, masking, and survival mode - because when your nervous system has spent years trying to keep you safe, connection gets complicated.
Hosted by Ilja Abbattista - trauma-informed coach, survivor advocate, and AuDHD truth-teller - this podcast explores ADHD, autism, CPTSD, attachment, emotional overwhelm, nervous system responses, and what it actually means to build safety in love and life after survival.
For neurodivergent people, trauma survivors, partners, and couples trying to understand each other more deeply.
Because this isn’t just about dating.
It’s about learning to hear yourself again, in life and in love.
New episodes weekly.
Until next spiral.
Dating on High Alert
Latest Episodes
Read. Forgotten. Devastated. (You've Been Both.)
What happens when you read a message, mean to reply… and then completely forget?And what happens when someone does the same thing to you?In this episode of Dating on High Alert, we’re talking about unread messages, forgot...
You Can’t Love Well From a False Map | Dating on High Alert with Ilja Abbattista
You Can’t Love Well From a False Map | Dating on High Alert with Ilja AbbattistaWhat happens when the information you’ve used to understand yourself was never built for the full picture?A major new study has found that over half o...
ADHD, AuDHD & The Fear of Leaving Relationships When Faced With the Unknown
What if the intensity you’re feeling… isn’t connection?In this episode of Dating on High Alert, we’re looking at something that doesn’t get talked about anywhere near enough - the way ambiguity, inconsistency, and mixed signals ...