ADHD & Dating: Why We Fall Fast (and Hard)

Ever fallen in love in a week? Named your future kids on date three? Felt like you were spiraling before they even texted back? Same. This episode dives into why those of us with ADHD and trauma tend to fall fast, and fall hard.

We explore the brain science behind intense attachment, how trauma responses play a role, and what it means to date while constantly questioning your worth. Ilja shares deeply personal stories of past heartbreaks, boundary violations, emotional crashes, and the healing that followed.

We’re unpacking:

• The ADHD-brain's craving for dopamine
• Why CPTSD makes us ignore red flags
• Real-life stories of dating disasters and breakthroughs
• How to ground yourself when you feel like you're spinning
• And the moment Ilja finally felt safe in love (spoiler: it's not what you think)

💬 Plus, a teaser for next week's spicy episode on Sex, ADHD, and Distractions—the good, the awkward, and the downright hilarious.

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