The Freewoman
Creating community for women seeking to live an abuse-free life.
Episodes
27 episodes
Financial Abuse & Narcissism
Financial abuse is a common tactic used by Narcissists. Limiting funds, preventing you from working, hiding money or nitpicking your spending are all ways that abusers use money to control you. Financial independence is empowering and therefore...
Dissociation & Narcissistic Abuse
Dissociation is a protective and involuntary disconnection from reality. Victims of narcissistic abuse dissociate as a survival mechanism. It helps the mind survive what would otherwise break it. But like any other coping mechanism dissociation...
Love is Blind ... NOT
Love is NOT blind. It goes in with eyes open, fully in reality. Going into a serious relationship blindly is a recipe for ABUSE. Taking the blind leap of faith might seem romantic from afar but up close leads to pain, trauma and drama when real...
Narcissistic Family Dynamics
Growing up in a narcissistic family puts you at a disadvantage when entering the world. Low self worth, self sabatoge, poor boundaries and codependent patterns are a few of the many struggles survivors face. Cat and Jayenna share some of their ...
"Coparenting" with a Narcissist
Coparenting with a Narcissistic personality is a nightmare. Nothing is sacred to the Narcissist when it comes to exacting their revenge, including your children. Unfortunately, family court and even CPS are woefully inept at handling these high...
The Many Layers of Trauma
Trauma happens when we experience events that feel difficult to cope with or out of our control. It could be one incident, or an ongoing event that happens over a long period of time. When trauma occurs big emotions like rage, grief and hopeles...
The Web of Abuse
As a society, cliches form our picture of abuse. Run-down trailers and alcoholic fathers are the face put on domestic violence. But the truth is far more complicated.Abuse is everywhere. It's in the well-kept suburban home, the upscale ...
Rituals are the Answer
Ritual is a powerful tool that indigenous societies were well acquainted with. A tool that has become obsolete in our modern world. Ritual allows us to connect with our tribe, our ancestors, ourselves and our purpose. Engaging in ritual makes u...
What Even is Valentine's Day?
Valentine's Day has seen quite the evolution since its origin in ancient Rome as the festival Lupercalia. In our modern Valentine celebration we focus on romance and love, a far cry from the animal sacrifice and hedonism of its early roots. But...
Do I Need to Forgive?
Our society as a whole sees anger as a negative emotion. One to be quickly moved through on the path towards forgiveness. But what does forgiveness really mean? Does it allow victims the opportunity to process their pain and be seen or is the p...
Body Talk
Cat and Jayenna discuss body image issues, cosmetic procedures and how wildly out of balance we've been thrown by social media and Hollywood. Superficial, outward appearances have become our focus while hunger and homelessness skyrocket. What t...
Facing Our Stories
We all create stories. Stories that make us feel comfortable, safe, and secure. Stories that protect us from the jagged, unpleasant reality of our lives. We project these stories onto the people we interact with and the situations we find ourse...
The Gift of Boredom
Midlife often triggers not only perimenopause but trauma work in women. Hormonal shifts make it difficult for women to continue to pretend and anger begins to surface as they process the many disappointments and injustices of life. Cat and Jaye...
Merry Grinch-mas
*****Our last episode of 2025!*****Anyone else struggle to get into the Christmas spirit during the most consumerist time of the year? Cat and Jayenna share their struggles with the holiday season as well as the things that have helped t...
Holiday Chaos & Healing Body Image
Inspired by the outcry around "Wicked for Good," Cat and Jayenna discuss their own body journeys. Around 80% of women report being dissatisfied with their bodies and tens of millions of women will suffer from a clinically significant eating dis...
Nuerodivergent Millenials
Our increased understanding of nuerological functioning as well as the autism spectrum has caused many late in life epiphanies. As our neurodiverse children are being diagnosed and finding resources, Millenials and even Baby Boomers are realizi...
Finding Love After Abuse
Cat and Jayenna share their stories of healing through healthy relationships in this episode. Emotional intimacy whether in a friendship or a romantic partnerships will trigger the unhealed pieces of your heart. It feels like a huge risk to ope...
Standing Up To Narcissists
People talk a lot about how to identify narcissists, but what do you do once you've figured out someone is toxic? How do you move forward?Cat and Jayenna share some of their personal experiences dealing with narcissists, how they handled...
The Truth Will Set You Free
A key component of being a Freewoman is using your voice. We must learn to use our voices to advocate for ourselves, for our children and for other victims. Our voices can also draw awareness to injustice and speak truth where lies have been al...
Ghouls, Ghosts and Shadow Work
Our inner world is greatly influenced by the seasons. As the trees drop their leaves and farmers harvest their crops our minds begin exploring the lessons of harvest and death. Halloween is a great opportunity to engage in shadow work. Shadow w...
The Gift of Loss
Every fall the trees drop their leaves. But what nature does so beautifully, humans struggle to practice. Loss is a painful part of life but also a gift when seen through the bigger picture. Cat and Jayenna explore the losses in their lives and...
The Truth of Motherhood
Cat and Jayenna discuss becoming mothers and how the reality of motherhood compares to their childhood fantasies. From delivery to teenagers, nothing about raising children was what they'd thought it would be. They hope to provide support and c...
The Courage to Face Menopause
The body is a great teacher and aging is one of its most powerful lessons. As middle age creeps in, you find your doctor's appointments becoming more extensive. You are no longer in the driver's seat so to speak and must instead listen to your ...
Losing a Home
Everyone regardless of income, race or gender deserves to have shelter and safety. But as housing costs skyrocket and wages stagnate more and more are facing the possibility of homelessness. In this episode, Cat shares the story of how she lost...
Do You Talk to Your Parents?
Going no contact is a painful and difficult choice that children of toxic family systems face. Cat discusses in this episode the difficulty of answering questions about her family in every day life as well as the struggle of deciding to go no c...