Is Your Why Strong Enough to Wake You Up?

You can want something deeply and still not follow through. In this episode, Justin breaks down a lesson from Tyler Watson’s Full Time Coach Challenge: your “why” has to become stronger than the resistance that keeps pulling you back. Real change is not just about working harder. It is about finding the hidden patterns, fears, and habits that quietly sabotage your results. 

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Tonight Shift with Justin S. King, how to transform your life one night at a time. Tonight I want to talk about day two of reviewing Dr. Watson's full-time coach challenge. Even though the class is designed specifically for coaches, as we discussed yesterday, a lot of these ideas can be applied to any kind of goal or anything that you want in your life. You're trying to affix your sleep, lose weight, change habits, get out of debt, or start creating something new, or just to finally do the thing that you keep saying that you want to do. There's two keys from today's session I want to cover. The first key is your why, and the second key is the equation. Most people think that if I want something bad enough, I'll do it. But if you find yourself continually wanting the same thing and not doing it, still not doing it, you can say you want better sleep and still stay up until 2 a.m. You want to make more money and still avoid the work that would make you money, or you want a better body and you still keep eating the same way. The real question is is your why stronger than the resistance that is going to come up as you move towards that? If your resistance is bigger than your why, then you will quit. This is where we have to be honest. A weak why cannot carry a heavy mission or life-changing transformation. And by a why, what I'm talking about is the reason you are going to do something, the reason you want to change, the reason you want to transform. You need something that when you're tired, discouraged, embarrassed, broke, lonely, or afraid, that there's something that you can hold on to and push through the resistance. Why do you want the money? Is it stopping, depending on someone else? Is it safety? Why do you want better sleep? Is it to feel rested? Is it because lack of sleep affects your relationships, your mood? Or does getting better sleep help you connect more to your purpose? Does it help you live clearer? Does it give you the strength and energy to do the things that you were called here to do? Why do you want to change? Your why has to move you and it has to shake you out of your old identity. The exercise for today is to go back. Well, one of them is to find your why. Sit there with it for a moment and find out why you want something. If you don't have something big enough now, Tyler says, seek and ye shall find. So ask. Ask whatever you believe in, your higher power, God, your highest self, the universe. Ask that you will develop a why that is big enough for you to move through. Anything that will bring up resistance as you move. The next thing that Tyler talked about was the formula for achieving success. And we talked a little bit on this yesterday about allergies and addictions. So the formula is your ultimate desire is equal to your skills times your work and your folk plus focus. But if you've got all those down, you're putting in 100% and you're only getting out 10. He says the full formula divides this the S or the skills times the work plus focus is divided by your allergies and your addictions, which we talked about yesterday. So an addiction is anything that is keeping you from moving, that's keeping you stuck in something that is not ideal. Is any repeated pattern in your life that you do not actually want. Anything that happens more than once that is keeping you stuck. And then allergies are things that keep you away from your ideal or what you actually want. So you may be feeling like you are busy all day doing all the things, but you never move forward. And that is because there is a hidden resistance, either an allergy or an addiction that is preventing you to move forward. So the exercise tied to today's challenge is to sit about with your resistance. Look at the things that came up yesterday, the thing that you want, exploring your why today, and then sit with it and explore what is coming up, what thoughts, what feelings, what emotions coming up around why you are avoiding it, what is the pattern, what is the thought. Tyler also mentioned that how you do one thing affects everything you do. For example, if the alarm goes off in the morning and you hit snooze 17 times, that is not just about waking up. This is a vote for the identity of someone who negotiates with their own word. You're not starting the day like the best in the world. If you want to be the best in the world. You say you want a peaceful night, but every night you feed yourself with drama, media that might be affecting you, or just stay up late. Then you are training yourself to get exactly what you want. So again, tonight, here's two questions to ask yourself. What is the why that is strong enough to make you stop quitting on yourself? Is it your family? Is it God? Is it your significant other? People you are called to help, just the need to expand because you know there's something greater inside you, a younger version of yourself or someone who is going through the same things that that needs your help and you want to show them the way. He also mentions that maybe it's just showing up because you know there's more in you and you don't want to die with the song inside you, even if you're the only person who ever hears that song. And then the next step is after you write down your why, write down any resistance that comes up. What action do you resist? What emotion do you avoid? What pattern it keeps repeating? What good thing that you want are you allergic to that you've wanted for a while but you still haven't gotten it? Or what destructive thing are you addicted to? Once you recognize the pattern and see it, you can pr stop pretending that the problem is more information. You need a bigger why, clearer clarity and focus, and better skill. So take a look at those two questions tonight. Tune in tomorrow night, and I'll be sharing with you Tyler's alignment method that we should be covering in his class tomorrow. This is it for tonight's episode of Night Shift. My name is Justin S. King, and I help entrepreneurs find peace tonight, tomorrow for the rest of their lives through sleep optimization, emotion regulation, and discovering their purpose. Good night.