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Redesigning Life with Sabrina Soto
Redesigning Life with Sabrina Soto is a podcast dedicated to inspiring intentional living, personal growth, and transformation. Hosted by design expert and lifestyle expert Sabrina Soto, each episode dives into conversations about wellness, mindset, home and self-improvement with leading experts and thought leaders. With a mix of practical advice, heartfelt storytelling and empowering insights, Redesigning Life is your go-to space for creating a life that feels as good as it looks... one thoughtful choice at a time.
Redesigning Life with Sabrina Soto
Your Spirit Guides Are Waiting: Accessing Inner Wisdom with MaryAnn DiMarco
MaryAnn DiMarco, psychic medium and best-selling author, returns to Redesigning Life for a profound conversation about connecting with spirit guides and accessing our own inner wisdom. She brings fresh insights from her latest book, explaining that spirit guides aren't mysterious external entities but rather our "universal team" helping highlight what we already know to be true.
If you've ever wondered whether you have spirit guides, or felt a little skeptical about the whole concept, MaryAnn's perspective will surprise you. She explains that these aren't mysterious beings floating around us, but rather our "universal team" that helps us recognize what we already know deep down to be true.
Her advice that stayed with me: Take just five minutes each day to be quiet and receive instead of constantly reaching outward. The wisdom you're looking for might already be within you, and sometimes we just need a little help accessing it.
This conversation will leave you feeling both grounded and inspired, whether you're a longtime believer or just beginning to explore what inner guidance might look like in your own life.
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Welcome to Redesigning Life. I'm your host, sabrina Soto, and this is the space where we have honest conversations about personal growth, mindset shifts and creating a life that feels truly aligned. In each episode, I'll talk to experts in their fields who share their insights to help you step into your higher self. Let's redesign your life from the inside out. Welcome to another episode of Redesigning Life. Today I have Maryann DiMarco, who's been of Redesigning Life. Today I have Marianne DiMarco, who's been on Redesigning Life before. If she sounds familiar, and I am so excited because I feel very blessed that I get to call you my friend and I got to hang out with you last week and you gave me your book, which I love so much. Look, I'm even using your pen.
Maryann DiMarco:Oh, I'm so glad.
Sabrina Soto:Marianne. If you've listened to her podcast before, if you know who she is, you know who she is, but if you don't, you're a psychic medium a best-selling author, may I add. You're an amazing woman. You're super powerful. You teach people to tune into their own wisdom, but they're also their spirit guides, which is what this book is about. I just adore you. I love who you are, I love what you teach, so, of course, I'm excited. But first of all, just thank you for being here.
Maryann DiMarco:Oh no, Thank you for having me. I love you. You're my beautiful soul sister. I know I'm so glad we got to connect, too, in person. We never get to see each other in person, so that was so special and I'm just really thrilled to be here. I love these conversations with you and thrilled to share it.
Sabrina Soto:This book is fantastic. I had it on my nightstand so you sent me one and you gave me one when I saw you. I saw you, but then you sent me one, so I have two. But Gabby Bernstein, who's a friend of yours, wrote the foreword and she spoke about people craving wisdom. How did this book for people who haven't gotten it yet, like, how did this book come to be at that point in your life, which was you were going through a lot of stuff? So can you tell readers a little bit about what this book is about?
Maryann DiMarco:This book is about not only connecting with guides but understanding what those spirit guides are here to do, and they're here to help highlight our higher self, the story that we came here knowing, and when I was coming up with the idea to write this book along with my guides, I myself was relying very heavily on their own guidance, and so we collaborated, just like I always do with my guides, to come up with information that not only I was learning in real time, but that's something that I can give over and teach, and that's what I hope this book lends over to readers is that there's information in here that's going to help you hear those voices within that higher self and the surrounding love that the universe is here to give you.
Sabrina Soto:So I think I've told you I talk to my spirit guides and I feel like I have my whole life and but I think, after I did a plant medicine journey and now I meditate a lot, that I feel like I'm tapped in immediately. But I think probably some people who are listening to this probably think we're witches. I'm okay with that, or they'll be like what are you talking about? So if somebody is listening to this and they maybe think, like there's no such thing as spirit guides or they've never talked to their spirit guides, like can we make this a little like? I don't want to say dumb it down, because my listeners are not no, we can dial it back.
Sabrina Soto:I said, we dial it back just a little bit Okay, so let's dial it back a little bit for people who are new to this whole. Spirit guides, shenanigans yeah, let's do that.
Maryann DiMarco:Spirit guides are our universal team on the other side that are here to help us navigate our lives. They're here to highlight our higher voice, what we already know to be true, and it's not something that, yes, they are outside of ourselves in that they are energies and entities on the other side. However, they are part of who we are, in our own self. They're just helping us understand our story and what we came here to do. They're comprised of angels, higher energies, spirit guides and, yes, our loved ones too, but they all have different voices and something different to offer.
Sabrina Soto:Are they this? Okay, are this? Do you have the same spirit guides your whole life? You have the way.
Maryann DiMarco:I have read it is that I have. We have one spirit guide that ushers us in and ushers us out. I talk about mine in the book. I name him Joe, don't ask me why, but I explain it in the book. And then there are guides that are assigned to us, and they can come for various reasons. Some of them are helping us with our communication. Some of them are helping us with our own spiritual connection. They're helping us with the challenges and the soul contracts of our lives Doubt, fear, all kinds of things that we came here to learn, celebrations too, I mean we want to remember all the good things, too that we came here to experience. And our guides are there to help us co-create and manifest the most ultimate and wonderful timelines that we're trying to achieve in this space.
Sabrina Soto:Yeah, so that's why I was asking and I know you touch on this but if you have this one like I don't know personal spirit assistant with you at all times, like there are people, there are other experts or whatever that are coming in at different times of the life During the, in the book you frame it sort of as a road trip. You know the packed bags, the detours, everything that you were going on in your life. Would you consider or would you describe that same journey that you have with your spirit guides, everything that's going on in my life? Yeah, because you were talking about, like, not only the moving to Florida.
Maryann DiMarco:Oh yeah.
Sabrina Soto:Yeah, you losing Phoenix, menopause, all the stuff that you're going through your own road trip. Do you go through that same why? I guess the question is, why was that the way that you imagine that road trip, the same way you describe your journey with the spirit guides?
Maryann DiMarco:I started to think about how we are the co-creators of our universe. And sometimes we hear, like you know, god take the wheel, or universe take the wheel. And I started to think, no, no, they're kind of the backseat drivers, we are actually taking the wheel. And I started to think, no, no, they're kind of the backseat drivers, we are actually taking the wheel. And so, as I was starting to come up with how I wanted to lay this out in a very relatable way, I thought, well, we're all on this road trip and everybody is so caught up in the destination we're a very instant gratification type of society and I thought, well, we're missing the scenery, we're missing everything that's around us. And that's how the road trip came into play, because I thought, as we're driving, let's take a look around at each exit and see what we're supposed to be learning here. And the ultimate destination is really when we transition, that we are forever on this kind of cool road trip, and why not pause and learn and understand what our soul came here to?
Sabrina Soto:experience. So you're talking about what your soul came to experience and you talk about all of the stuff that you were dealing with in your own personal life. But I think people who are like, well, you're a psychic medium, shouldn't you know? And you should be happy all the time because you know All the time.
Maryann DiMarco:I should be floating on my meditation cloud and I should just be like chilling with my loved ones and feeling all this wonderful self-gratification.
Maryann DiMarco:It is so far from the truth and I think it's an incredible misconception that we're kind of seeing out there that you know, spiritual people are somehow finding this ultimate balance and utopia in life, and the fact of the matter is is that spiritual awakenings and deeper understanding of self can be quite unraveling. I was literally being challenged by having to move and going on road trips and understanding this part of my life that was causing me to be so unnerved in many areas, and it also made me stop and reflect on things that I had been through in life that I didn't even realize. I was using my guides to understand, and some of those things that I chose to get curious about included bringing in these energies and having them highlight what it was that I need to be working on. Our soul contracts are very important, and that's what brought me to all the different themes, too, in the book of what I found to be part of my soul contract, and most of them are pretty relatable be part of my soul contract, and most of them are pretty relatable.
Sabrina Soto:Okay, so soul contracts.
Maryann DiMarco:So what does that mean? We all come here and we sign up for something to learn and we have soul contracts and the contracts can be feelings and experiences that can come up. Well, I shouldn't say experiences. I always want to say I think we can sign up for things like doubt and fear and my right about imposter syndrome and comparison and self-worth and scarcity, everything that I was being challenged with, how those things come into fruition.
Maryann DiMarco:The experiences, I think, are at the good grace of the universe because honestly, I don't know who would come back. So I just want to be clear on that that I think we sign up for sort of what it is. Our soul came here to learn and the experiences are kind of given to us and when I realized that I was having these repetitive patterns in my life, that I kept sort of choosing the same thing that didn't serve me, that every time my story started to annoy me and my own voice started to annoy me, that this was probably a soul contract that was being reflected to me, Instead of getting annoyed with it, I decided to get to work with it and I used my guides to do that.
Sabrina Soto:What does that look like?
Maryann DiMarco:Okay, using your guides, so tap us in what it looks like for me and how I teach it in the book is first, we want to find a belief system. We want to be secure in the fact that and the truth and the knowledge of having within you that this is something that we're all capable of doing, that each and every one of us can make a connection to our spirit guides to source whatever that looks like for you to our loved ones. You do not have to be a psychic medium to do it. You also don't have to be like super heightened and spiritual that. This is just something that you can incorporate intuitively into your everyday life, and I want people to really know that, because I think that it brings an authenticity to any type of practice that resonates with you most. It's who you are. We're not trying to reinvent the wheel. These are suggestions that you can use and feel free to modify to make it work for yourself.
Maryann DiMarco:And then I started to when I first started doing readings. I mean, I started seeing guides around people, so I was very used to reading them for others, and then I started to really go within and understand who my guides were and what it is that I was ready to work on. And so when these repetitive themes started coming up, I started to understand how could I asked my guides, how could I work with this, what is this? And I realized I was asking who, what, where, when, why. I got really curious about where did some of these situations start? When did these feelings start for myself?
Maryann DiMarco:And I was being brought to younger ages, different times in my life, different experiences, and I was seeing how it didn't serve me, how it did serve me, and instead of repeating the pattern over and over again, I chose to learn and I chose to see what it was my guides were trying to teach me, and then it all became very productive Good, bad or indifferent. I was learning and I decided to apply it to any situation that was going on into my life now. So, really, what it is to your point is it's not that I have some magical answers. I just am choosing to answer differently. I'm using the tools that I have learned through spirituality and being a psychic medium. Yes, and applying that to my life.
Sabrina Soto:In the beginning of the book you were talking about how the whole idea of this book came to you, of just your spirit. Guides were telling you to write this book. Right. They always do.
Maryann DiMarco:They're very fresh. They love to just kind of make me work on a project that I. That your books aren't easy for me, I don't know. I think, but they keep making me write them.
Sabrina Soto:It's really funny. It starts with write a book. I always hear that. Walk me through what it actually feels like, or list like how does it so when?
Maryann DiMarco:I connect with spirit. I use all of my Claire's, my Claire audience. So I'm hearing, I am seeing, I am feeling. And Claire's the senses. You use all of my Claire's, my Claire audience. So I'm hearing, I am seeing, I am feeling. And Claire's the senses. You use all of your senses when you're looking to make connection. How does it feel in your body? What do you think they're telling you? Use your imagination, because they're using your imagination, your stories, your life as frame of reference in order to get your attention. What are the repetitive signs you're seeing? We want to pay attention to all of this.
Maryann DiMarco:So when I wrote my first book, second book and now this one, it was always the same I heard my guide say to me it's time to write a book. And then another person would say to me you know, you should write a book about what you're talking about right now. And then I would feel the need, or the pull in my claircognizance, on my knowing, to jot down an idea. And then, in the middle of the night which was what happened with the guide's book I heard the title of the book is the guide's book, okay, great. And so then I write that down and it's my process. It's been my process with every single one of my books. And then I sit with spirit and I download the information and I help put it all together. They help me put it all together and they bring me the people honestly to help me put it all together. I wrote with a wonderful woman named Shandika and I put it all together and that's how I write books. It's always been the process for all of them.
Sabrina Soto:So when I did my plant medicine journey, the process for all of them. So when I did my plant medicine journey, I kept calling it downloads and I've realized a lot of people call it the same way, because it just feels like a knowing and you don't hear, like I don't hear a voice being like hey, sabrina.
Maryann DiMarco:Well, yeah, it's not a disembodied voice. I always tell people yeah, it's not like hello you know, If it is, get some sage out and figure out what's going on, because I don't want to hear disembodied voices, right?
Sabrina Soto:So I don't want people to listen to this and be like, oh my gosh, she's listening to voices. It feels just like a knowing, like a, it's like a message in your head, right Spirit?
Maryann DiMarco:comes in your own voice and sometimes it could feel different. It absolutely can does for me sometimes, but for the most part, spirit, for the most part spirit is coming in and they are putting that idea in your mind and they're highlighting it. I always say to people if you say to yourself, you know, I think I want to write a book, and it keeps coming up, if you turn that around and put it as if someone's speaking to you, you know you should write a book. You could start to hear it, you could start to make that switch and then you're starting to hear someone speaking to you. So I always tell people when you're writing, when you're journaling or automatic writing, direct download from Spirit and putting it down on paper, act as if someone's speaking to you. Right, as if someone's speaking to you, and then you'll start to be able to discern the difference between your own mind and what it is that they're highlighting with you. There is a difference.
Sabrina Soto:So for some, like beginners, like never done anything like this, like what can you share one practice that you would recommend to somebody who's just beginning, like hey, this sounds like interesting. I'd love to get you know, like in touch with my spirit guide, what is, like the best starting point for beginners?
Maryann DiMarco:I think the best starting point for beginners is to I like to write, and you can write a question at the top of the page Get a paper and a pen. Don't do this on your phone, don't do it on your computer. We want to go old school, we want a pen, a nice piece of paper or a nice journal, something. And I want you to write what is it that you want me to know at the top of the page. Or you can write who are you and you want to cue to your guides. I'm ready to listen. Now I am saying yes, I am welcoming you into my space and then from there, I want you to pay attention to again all of your senses. What are you feeling? What do you think you're hearing? What are you seeing? Are you seeing your guide and what they may look like, and jot it down, even if it's just a description. If you're a list maker, make a list, it doesn't matter. Do this for like maybe five minutes and then lead into a space of acceptance that this is truth, that this is what's happening. And what we're starting to do here, sabrina, is we are exercising a muscle, just like anything else. It's going to take some time. So be a little patient, especially if you're just starting out. Guided meditations are also a great way to do this. I have meditations in the book. It is also on Audible so you can listen to some guided meditations and that way someone is sort of helping you along. They're helping you with the idea and the visualization of what it could look like to meet your guides.
Maryann DiMarco:I love meeting my guides in meditation in a temple. I create the temple. I like to create a seating area with them. You can make it look like whatever you want it to. You could design it however you like. Sabrina, make it look gorgeous, right? Because as you do all things and just put it all together and then create a seating area and then invite your guide to come in and sit with you and again be curious who are you, what is it that you want me to know? And just allow yourself to sit and receive the messages. Try not to chase the information, try not to struggle through it. Just sit and receive. That's why I always recommend maybe five minutes tops to start this way it doesn't feel like such hard work.
Sabrina Soto:You talked about losing Phoenix in the book and we were talking about it earlier.
Sabrina Soto:So Phoenix was your golden retriever the best. And I lost Harper last year. Tomorrow it'll be a year. We talked about it when we met for coffee. The pain that I felt losing Harper was. That grief was unlike any other pain I've been through in my life. I cried about her yesterday. I felt foolish about crying over a dog that I, like, lost a year ago. How did that change you as a human and even just like spiritually? How did that grief change your soul, phoenix?
Maryann DiMarco:and I went through a lot together. Phoenix came into my life when I was in a huge transition. I was in the middle of a divorce and it was just a really tough time. When dogs come in from the other side and I see tears in their ears as if they were helping us wipe the tears with their ears, I know that they came in at a very therapeutic moment and that was Phoenix.
Maryann DiMarco:For me, losing him was I talk about having to make the decision to let him go, and how that came to be and all the signs that I got, which I was so grateful from the universe. Did it help my grief? I got, which I was so grateful from the universe. Did it help my grief? No, I was deeply so sad and so heartbroken and I cried my eyes out when I lost my phoenix. And, to your point, I said to you when we got on, I just got upset about him yesterday and it's been almost a year and a half I guess almost two years maybe that I've lost him and it's just difficult.
Maryann DiMarco:It's like any other grief. There's something about animals that give us such unconditional love. There's no question in what they give us. They're not judging us. We're sort of walking through the door and they're like I love you. There's just this wonderful way about them and I had a huge attachment to my sweet boy and it's just like losing a loved one in a very different way. I have people who come to me for medium readings who cry really hard over their animals, sometimes more than loved ones that have passed. I think the relationship.
Sabrina Soto:yes, I wasn't even like. It wasn't normal the way I was acting, it was though.
Maryann DiMarco:It was. You don't see, honey, I can assure you, you know, I mean, I sobbed and sobbed, and sobbed, and I again, I think it has something to do with that beautiful, unconditional love. You know, they just don't question us, they just love us, no matter what, and that's a really safe space to be around.
Sabrina Soto:Do you ever okay? So, when it comes to mediumship, do you feel obviously you connect with humans? Do you connect with pets as well? Oh all the time.
Maryann DiMarco:Yeah, absolutely, I remember one of my first readings I was doing. I used to read in like restaurants and bars and stuff. When I first started out and I said to this woman, your dog said. Your dog said she said what do you mean? My dog said you know kind of what are you talking about? And yeah, they've always come in through readings and I find it pretty incredible.
Sabrina Soto:I think it's really neat and I think I asked you this the first time that you were on the podcast. When it comes to crossing over and reincarnation, can we dumb this down again for me, because I am not the best student. So here's my question. You know, uncle Bob dies. Okay, I am heartbroken. I call you, talk to uncle bob. Uncle bob's up in wherever in that other zone, and then uncle. And then if uncle bob now wants to come back as beatrice in wisconsin, how do you still talk to uncle bob when now he's beatrice?
Maryann DiMarco:I love that. He's beatrice in Wisconsin. It's very interesting. Here's how I see it. I usually see up to great-grandparents, depending on who I'm reading and their age. I don't normally see past that.
Maryann DiMarco:One thing we have to remember about the other side is that time is very different. There is no time. Is it's not the same? There is no time. What does that mean? There is no time, is it's not the same? There's, there is no time. So it means that there's something to be said about it being, you know, much more fluid.
Maryann DiMarco:What we see as time here is not the same as there, and I think that might have something to do with what you're talking about. Of course, you know these are theories. It's not something that I myself could sit here and tell you I've experienced, but I can only say that through readings and what I have heard just through my guides and in my own experience and learning, is that it has something to do with the fact that there is no time on that other side. And so when we talk about reincarnation, what might seem like a quick turnaround here might be very much longer there, but I usually I wonder sometimes about how quick somebody can come back. I think it's very contractual. I think it depends on a soul's choice sometimes and what they're experiencing. I also believe that we have soul packs so that we travel together, the same souls, good, bad or indifferent. We will run into each other again. So I don't know if how Bob would be Beatrice at some point, but it could happen.
Sabrina Soto:Will you still talk to Bob if he's here on earth as Beatrice?
Maryann DiMarco:This is like going to sound really wooey, but this is how I see it. It's funny, interesting. Somebody else just asked me this question. It doesn't normally come up the way I see it is. Do I think that I am speaking to loved ones and souls on the other side? Absolutely, can it be both, in that sometimes I may be reading the story of a soul and who they were, yes, but for me it would not come in like the loved one is standing there. In other words, I would be speaking about Bob instead of from. Bob Got it, and that might be from another person on the other side. So, let's say, bob's sister was passed, she might be talking about Bob, and that's how we're making the connection there.
Maryann DiMarco:It doesn't happen often, though I have to tell you, very rarely. I have a grandmother that's passed and I'm pretty sure she has ascended. I don't think she has returned to this space and I don't feel like she has reincarnated, but I also don't think that she is on the plane from which I read from. I think she has ascended onto different parts of her soul's existence and when other people read her from me, I don't know that they're necessarily reading her energy in its existence, like on the other side. I think they are reading her story. I could feel it in my claircognizance, in my gut, the difference it's very particular to being a medium and how you read and how you discern the difference. But I can tell you it does not happen often for me at all. I'm usually reading right from that loved one or someone else. Another loved one is talking about someone else who has passed.
Sabrina Soto:I don't know why I didn't call you when Harper passed. I ended up. A friend of mine, krista Williams, set me up with her pet psychic or medium and she said like I had to wait two weeks after Harper passed Okay. And she said like I had to wait two weeks after Harper passed, okay. And I'm like I wonder why that is Maybe because I was in such grief and despair.
Maryann DiMarco:Sure, I mean, sometimes it's just a style in which a medium reads. You know, it's not necessarily something that is about energy. I have read people and energy that died the day before day of I've even read.
Maryann DiMarco:But I do believe that there is a time for life review. We can feel a disconnection to that energy. Yes, grief absolutely plays a factor. I actually love that that person told you to just wait a couple of weeks, because it allows your energy to readjust just a tad. When we are in grief, and deep grief, our vibration is very, very low and what we're doing with our loved ones is we're kind of raising and they're lowering. We're raising and we're sort of meeting them in the middle, and sometimes grief can be a little tough to read from when it's that deep.
Sabrina Soto:So yeah, that's very, very helpful. I was very angry during that time.
Maryann DiMarco:Yeah, that's another lower vibration. Yeah, so it's smart to kind of let somebody just have a hot minute and then go in and with the read.
Sabrina Soto:Yeah, yeah, I don't even want to tell you the story, because I'm going to sound like a really horrible person, but I was just. I was angry at anybody, anybody who made eye contact with me during that time. I'm sorry, that's grief. Oh, it was the worst.
Maryann DiMarco:Yeah, yeah, that's grief.
Sabrina Soto:I wish you were seeing Harper now, but I also had another friend that passed not too three months ago, the other day from and like do you see them here or do you feel them?
Maryann DiMarco:I always see spirit around somebody, like a family tree, like this. That's how I read mediumship readings.
Sabrina Soto:But you like see their face.
Maryann DiMarco:I see it in my mind's eye, so my third eye can see it. Once in a while I'll see things with the naked eye, but it's very rare. That's a lot of. It takes a lot of energy for them to kind of show up in apparition, and it's not always a favorite of mine, by the way. I don't really love to see apparition. Sometimes it can come in as a mist, like a cloudy mist, light sprigs If you're mediums out there and you know what I'm talking about little sprigs of light, sprites of light sprakes I don't know what the word is, but a little like that, little bursts of light. I can see that. But usually when I'm reading somebody I'm not looking for that because it's a distraction. Quite honestly. What I'm looking for is where they're drawing to me. So are they drawing me to your mother's side of the family? Are they drawing me to your father's side of the family? Am I above you? So am I reading someone older? Am I to your side? So is it a contemporary? Is it below you? Children and pets, things like that.
Maryann DiMarco:The next step is that I would start to feel what information is coming through. So, now that I've honed in on an area. What information is coming through? Am I being? I've honed in on an area. What information is coming through? Am I being like? So, right now I'm being brought to an energy that's lower than you and I'm feeling like lots of problems with digestion, lots of problems in the stomach area, lots of, lots of. They're kind of making it really solid. This might be your dog that I'm starting to pick up on Right and you know, talking about not being able to eat, talking about that being really annoying, you know at that time, and so that's how I start, and they'll just sort of put the breadcrumbs out for me and I just my job is to not orchestrate all of that.
Maryann DiMarco:My guides orchestrate that. My job is to just follow the breadcrumbs that they give me and then translate that information over with care, concern and compassion. And it is your dog that's coming up for me as I'm reading. So, yeah, so you know, because now I'm explaining it. So of course, I open up right away. Right, because I'm starting to just use my psychic senses, my mediumship senses and all the things like senses, my mediumship senses and all the things Very, very happy dog, by the way Like hard tail, like really like the butt goes back and forth super, super fast.
Maryann DiMarco:And Harper talking about is this okay that we kind of do this part? Okay? Harper talking about, let her know I was breathing peacefully, wants to bring something up about the breath and having a peaceful moment, so, even though we might see what the body was going through, she right, harper really wants you to know how peaceful she felt. And I don't know about you, but I was face-to-face with my dog as he was passing and so she put you face-to-face like that and she said even her paws feel better. There's something about you understand?
Sabrina Soto:Look what I have right here. It was I had to put socks on her at the end of her life and I have, and I smell it still.
Maryann DiMarco:Oh, it's so sweet. So she said even my paws feel better. Even my paws feel better yeah. She's fine you know the thing about them is that they're all fine. It's us that are sitting here going.
Sabrina Soto:Oh, honestly, a lot of the grief came from shame, not shame, guilt, guilt of. After she passed and she took her last breath, this guttural scream came out of my body that I had never heard before and I felt bad, like poor thing was just passing and I'm like screaming in her ear. You know, yeah, those human things that we do to ourselves, that are so silly.
Maryann DiMarco:Well, you know, grief is grief and I think that we have to remember that it's okay to express that grief however we like and that it's incredibly personal that no one can tell us how to grieve. What I always want to tell people is that, however we have chosen to do that, know that your loved one understands there's no judgment. Know that your loved one understands there's no judgment. You didn't affect their passing in any way by the way that you chose to grieve. Their passing is very individual and it is incredibly personal and it is theirs. However, the love that you gave her, that cheek to cheek, everything you gave her, she experienced, I always tell people, often loved ones will show me rubbing of the hands or music playing or the family around, and that love, or I give you now permission to go.
Maryann DiMarco:I've heard that a lot. All the things that we give our loved one is totally accepted and absolutely beautiful. But how we experience it your guttural cry, the anger I have a friend whose husband passed so young and she's pissed off. I don't blame her, I'm like go, go be angry, that's okay. It's okay to be angry, it's okay to have a guttural scream. We just want to be able to coexist with our grief and just try not to let it overtake you who you are in the moment. You know that's really all. Stay above water as best you can. I stayed home. I stayed home for a few days.
Sabrina Soto:You need it too, water as best you can. I stayed home. I stayed home for a few days. You talk about like you saying that you caution against using like a magic eight ball or anything like that, or even like, well, I say, I'm not your magic eight ball, right, right, yeah, even some psychics too. So tell me a little bit about that.
Maryann DiMarco:I highly encourage people to go to a psychic medium if they feel so called to do. What I don't want, or what I encourage people to do honestly, is to not rely on a psychic medium for your answers. Why? Because we have the answers within ourselves, because we ourselves have the ability to find those answers. That's the point, if you want to go to a psychic. When I first started doing readings, people would say to me oh, can I come back next month? And I'd say, no, I'll see you next year. I didn't really understand that and what it felt like was that they were looking to me through spirit of course to give them their next point of action, of some sort yeah yeah, your next step and right out of the gate.
Maryann DiMarco:When I started working with Spirit, it was a no for me and they made me feel that really hardcore. And now I understand. It's because I teach so much. You have the answers within you. You do not need to go to a psychic medium in order to continue to get those answers. By all means, go.
Maryann DiMarco:Go to someone word of mouth that someone has had a great experience with. Have the experience, take in the messages. Hopefully you're getting a takeaway where you're learning something or you're hearing something that brought you to a space of healing in some way. Whatever it is for you, I hope the experience is fantastic and then learn how to do that for yourself. And then when you go to a psychic, it's validation. All a psychic medium is doing is well psychic-wise, is validating what you yourself already know.
Maryann DiMarco:If I'm giving someone an energy-type psychic information from their guides, usually what they're saying to me is yeah, that makes sense, Because they already know this is separate from mediumship, but they already know it to be true, they already have this feeling. So really, a psychic is coming in and validating what you yourself know to be true. It should sit well in the body. You should be able to feel it physically and mentally and emotionally. It should just sit well with you. That's all it is, and that's why I write the books that I write. That's why I wrote Media Mentor, it's why I wrote this book. I want people to have that empowerment within them.
Sabrina Soto:We are the light Right. We outsource a lot of our own wisdom.
Maryann DiMarco:And not only that, we can get habitual with it, and that's really that's the concern for me. I think when you go to any type of healer or psychic medium or you're seeking spirituality in whatever form works for you, this is a tool. This is supposed to be helping you build your own abilities, sharpen your own tools, become aware of what your intuitive self can do, and once you learn how to do that, you will be forever empowered. Yeah, do, and once you learn how to do that, you will be forever empowered. And so I think what I'm trying to say is I'm just sort of helping you put the empowerment back in yourself. Don't ever give your power over to anybody else. It's so true.
Sabrina Soto:It's so true. Just tap in. You know what? If you're listening to this, just be quiet for five minutes of your day.
Maryann DiMarco:Receive instead of reaching. I always say when can people get the book? They can get the book on amazoncom, barnesandnoble, adhachetbookscom. It's all over the place.
Sabrina Soto:The guidebook if you're listening to this and driving walking. Of course, as always, I put it in the notes how you can get in touch with Marianne. I am just lucky that I get to text you if I want to. That's because we're besties, and until next time, thank you, Marianne. Thank you so much for having me.
Maryann DiMarco:I love you.