Ep. #40: Why You’re Still Stuck (Even After the Coach, the Journaling, the Tracking…

You’ve done the diets, the certifications, the PDFs. You’ve hired the “right” coaches, taken the supplements, followed the plans—and yet, something still feels off. In this episode, you’ll learn why your nervous system—not your willpower—is the root of what’s keeping you stuck. Let’s shift.

00:31 The Role of the Nervous System in Success

01:16 Common Mistakes and Misconceptions

02:28 The Importance of Nervous System Calibration

03:30 Deciding to Take Action

05:00 The Right Approach to Health and Success

06:09 Taking the Next Step

10:27 The Real Reason You're Stuck

11:14 Struggles Behind the Fitness Model Image

12:03 The Importance of Showing Up

12:30 Breaking Free from Performance

13:32 Facing Triggers and Building Resilience

15:01 Taking Action Despite Fear

16:52 The Power of Decision and Self-Care

Transcript

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Hello, this is Casey. And today it's, we're talking about the identity shift that created massive success for my body and business. Whatever life you've got going on. It's just based on like where your nervous system is. What if you're struggling with your weight, health, relationships, business, all that is, is in your, it's in your nervous system. So you would hire me for your body, your plan. Say, Casey, I wanna clear this low energy, mystery illness, and I wanna stay hot. I want to age well. I want all these things. You hire me for that'cause I can show you how to train your nervous system. But today we got some heat to talk about today. Like I already told you, this is the exact identity shift I did. This is the work that I did to get my, when my body and business boomed and that my success took off. I'm gonna share with you what I did. We're not even gonna, I'm not even gonna stay here for a long time, like we usually do and where I work and shit, but it's fire. And I'm gonna share with you exactly what I did to explode success when it comes to my body, my business, everything, because 40 years old told hysterectomy, I've got two kids. C-section, fucking overcome hypothyroid mystery illnesses. Doctors couldn't tell me what was going on. Pro fitness model. Been in the magazines, I'm an expert. Doctors come to me, I can. We heal the unhealable, we do all the magical motherfucking things and drinking coconut water. It's just so good that tropical swag, baby tropical swag. Alright here's one thing I did. If most of you are, most of you are feeling stuck as fuck inflamed broke you, you feel like something's wrong. You're still trying to figure out what's going on with your body. You're still trying to figure out, it is like you haven't cracked the fucking code. And a lot of you, you sit there and think, okay, let me go hire this practitioner. They have a, they're a nurse practitioner in this, or they're a physician in this, or they have a special certification, holistic whatever. You've journaled, you've done all the things. You've hired the best of the best, and that's the fucking problem is you don't need, you don't need another fucking diploma. You don't need another certification. You don't need another fucking diet. You don't need another, any of this shit, none of this. You need to calibrate up. You need to calibrate up. This is all in your nervous system. What do you mean, Casey? What do you mean? Okay, so here's what I want to go over and those of you on Facebook, I'm looking at you. Most of you're hiding behind. Checklists, PDFs, fucking all that you're looking for loving all the wrong places. Why does that just make me wanna drink whiskey and shoot guns? Man? Oh my god. So you're looking for PDFs, you're looking for the right thing. Just this one thing. Let me find this coach. And this person's more certified and this person's this. Oh, Jesus. Listen, that's the fucking problem. That's the problem is you are not doing the nervous system work. It's like putting a label. You're, it's like putting a label on a broken bottle and wondering why it's still leaking. That's what you're doing when you go hire somebody based on their certifications. When you go and hire somebody because they have a gut protocol or they're doing something specific with hormones, if you are not learning how to calibrate your nervous system and actually change and shift your identity, learning how to actually move forward healing while healing somatically. And addressing your nervous system, you're just gonna stay in the same fucking circle. You're gonna, but see, that's the thing is you're chasing surface level things. You can't continue to do that. You don't need to earn your next level. You don't need to earn your next level. You're already there. I know. You're like, Casey, what are you talking about? No, I'm not. You need to decide that you're already there and if you were already there, if you were already. At your next identity, the one that has the body, the energy. She's no longer struggling with libido. She's sexy as fuck. You belong there. And if you decide that you belong there and you take action out of that place, there you go. So if you've been circling my work and you've been looking at all this shit, but you're still sitting there. You're getting shiny object syndrome. Let me go hire this person with, they're given these PDFs and they're doing a call with me and they're they're a nurse practitioner and they're, they're a doctor and they're a guy that works with 500,000 women and their results show really good and it looks like they've got the structure. Jesus, right? They're not doing shit with the nervous system. These are the same people that are gonna go busy yourself. You're gonna spend thousands of dollars and busy yourself. Okay. And that's gonna make you think you're doing something. cause you're gonna get a little result. You're gonna be like, yeah, I do feel a little difference after a thousand supplements and all these fucking tests and you love the medical tests and all these things, but something's still gonna feel off and it's'cause you didn't address a nervous system. Like I said, it's like putting a label on a bottle that's cracked and you're gonna wonder why it's still leaking. This is a deep identity shift. Yes, it's trauma based, but here's the thing. That's all inside your nerve. It's all within your nervous system, so you have to learn how to train. I just got off a private call today with a lady, she's been chronically ill, all these things, and she gets on the call with me. She did one of my inner circle things. She we're finishing out her her calls. She starts to backtrack, go into the things, go into what's hard for her and all this. And I said, you're living in the past. You're living in the past. You're depressed. That's depression. Her nervous system, that's all she knew. Can you imagine if she continued to go and try to do surface level shit and heal her gut? She, it's, you're fucking using your gut. It's trauma is what it is. It's not your gut. Your gut is just responding to what's inside of your nervous system. And if you don't address what's in your fucking nervous system and reprogram your nervous system to be calibrated, to hold the frequency of a woman who believes in herself, that has the body that takes fucking action, that does finish out plans, but she finishes out plans that are sane. The reason you haven't finished a fucking plan is'cause it's a stupid ass fucking plan. Let's be real. The reason why you stopped the plans is'cause they were fucking stupid. They were way too restrictive. They took, you, took too many supplements. It was nothing that fit into your life, and you didn't do the identity work. You didn't do the nervous system work. So it's like you're slapping that. You're slapping pain on a rickety old barn. And wondering why the foundation is rotting is because you're not doing the nervous system work. And we're not talking about cold plunges. We're not talking about. Fucking chanting ohm or sitting in meditation. Sure, those things help, but it really is that simple. So you don't need, you don't need more information. You don't need to earn your next level. You need to decide that it's already happened and you're taking action from that. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. And out of that place you're like, Casey, but hold on. How, what do we, what do I do? Here's what you do. You go sign up for my shit. You go to the link in my bio and you do not sign up as the woman that you are right now. cause she doesn't sign up. Remember? She just keeps scrolling. She doesn't wanna spend money. She's afraid she'll fail. She's got a thousand, reasons why and not, she's got a busy life. She needs to do her research first. She's not gonna get results. She's gonna be sitting there on the weekends doing the same shit she did last weekend, commenting under the same post, wanting the same free fucking PDF. You need to go to the link in my bio. And when you sign up as the one who already has the results. The one who already has them. She's confident. She's certain, she knows it's different this time. What if it's not? Once again, would the version of you who's already certain, the one who's already created the body, would she be saying that? No. She'd be signing up, going, it's gonna be nice to be held. I, it's gonna be nice to be in a place that is specifically calibrated from me, not just some list to follow. It's actually for a living, breathing, holistic. Human body that honors my nervous system. And it's just me remembering who I was before I became a mom, who I was before I became trying to be something and pulled in a thousand different directions. It's who I was before I forgot or didn't even know how to live this life because my family told me I was just big boned. And that's just how it is. But this girl's saying something different and I like it. And I've never really done that before. And I know there's something here there's just a there's a decision that you make to start knowing that you're her. There's a decision that you make when you just say, you know what? I'm not gonna do what I've always done. I'm not gonna sign up for this thinking that I need to be saved, or I hope it works. And I go in half doubtful. I know this is different because Casey's saying that they do food and gut testing. They do hormone testing specifically for the adrenals that show where the nervous system is. Casey talks about nervous system and that is the root issue because as a human, like science proves that the root issue is within your trauma. It's within your subconscious patterns. We work on creating new neural pathways in the subconscious. We use ai, we use data, we use all the things. All the things, but you go in different this time. You don't need to keep earning and fucking healing your way. You're done. You're done with all that. You're fucking 40, you're 35. You are done with that shit. You know what it's like to fail and fall off and not believe in yourself. This is why your thighs look like they do. This is why you've got cellulite. This is why you're scared to spend money. This is why you're second guessing yourself because it's in the nervous system. You need to learn how to calibrate to become the woman that you want to be. She eats different. The reason why she's eating is different. The woman that you are becoming, the woman that you already are, she doesn't do diets to lose weight. She doesn't do diets because she's broken. She does. She eats a certain way because that's how she takes care of herself. That's how she has a hot ass. She doesn't show up to work out because she needs to burn 500 calories. That is such basic bitch shit. Like, when are you gonna stop counting your fucking steps? That is so fucking basic. She doesn't do that. She shows up, she decides it's enough. The boundaries in her life and the people, places, things and situations. She doesn't take. She doesn't tolerate shit anymore. She speaks what she feels. She's freed up a little bit. Next thing you know, she'll start shitting twice day, because when you're freed up your body, lets go of inflammation, it lets go. She stops being in paralysis of analysis and fucking anxiety because she's taken action. The business she's always wanted to build, she's taken action. She don't know how to do it. She's okay with being messy, and I'm gonna leave you with this. I'm gonna leave you with this. Whoever joined my face is like this because of a laser. Okay? And I'm not gonna hide from you. Why? I don't need to be perfect. You got something to say about it? Fuck off. You know what I'm saying? But I know you're not. Okay. I can't stop drinking coconut water. I'm just kidding. It was time for a snack, so I'm having some protein and some coconut water. My god. Okay. That is so good. Oh my god, it's so good. All right, here's the deal. You wanna know. My secrets. You wanna know my secrets, yes or no? Oh no. And this isn't some basic bitch fitness influencer trying to get you to click to get my free shit. Y'all already know what's up. If you want free shit, you can stalk my page.'cause you don't value your time, you don't trust yourself. You can go watch YouTube for free. You can go listen to my podcast. There, I've got a free seven minute video. It's in my link in my bio, but let's be real. You're here for fucking results. Results do not come with free shit. It's$22 to get started. Or you can go in, you can do a little bit more. It's all in the links in my bio. So there's nothing to hide here. Here's the difference, the reason why you're stuck. You're watching me. You're not taking action. The reason why your hormones are off, the reason why your fucking gut's not working. The reason why. You're a health coach, but something's still off. The reason why you've done a bunch of fucking diets and they haven't worked, and you're still, you still have fat arms, all these things. Here's the deal. How come it's not hard for me? Here's why. First of all, nothing's easy. What's hard for me personally is staying stuck. I don't like it. Okay? Number one, I'm not addicted to performing anymore. Most women try to look successful. They try to look a certain way. I've never been that way. Obviously I show up on live streams with my face fucked up from a laser. I'll show up with bruise, whatever it doesn't matter. I've got something to say. I don't want to just look the part. I've done that. I've been on stage fitness model in the magazines. I've looked the part. I was so unhealthy. My marriage was on the rocks. I had cystic fucking acne. I was obsessed. I was binge eating. I felt like a fucking prisoner. I was miserable and felt just like I, I felt Y'all know what it feels like to be on a diet. You feel like sad because you can't eat. There's this freedom, there's this you're in these constrained, it just doesn't feel good. I didn't like that, but I look the part that was in my twenties. Okay. I am 40 now. I created hot moms. My mid thirties. I created hot moms in my mid thirties. I've been doing this in since my early twenties'cause I started coaching people in 2008. It's 2025. I built something that actually works. I don't pretend online. If I'm sad, you're gonna know about it. I still show up. If I'm mad, you're gonna know about it. I still show up. If I'm happy you're gonna know about it and I still show up. Ask any of my Inner Circle people. Anybody that's worked with me in the inner circle in hot moms, my high ticket offers. Even in the ones, it's not. Those of you that get to watch, you get to watch my modules and you watch my evolution, I show up regardless. I show up poor, I show up happy, I show up rich. I show up hot. I show up. Hot mess. I show up. I fucking show up. I don't try to make you think my life's fucking perfect. I show up crying, looking a fucking mess. I, I just show up. I'm done performing. I stopped performing early on in high school. I was like, fuck this shit. But it's been an evolution ever since I was performing last year. There was an aspect of me that was always performing. I thought that me being on camera was performing, but performing is not that. Performing is doing things you think that's gonna make you worthy, like women perform all the time. They. They're martyrs, they're, they, they perform the good mom. They do everything for the household. They're, doing all these things, but meanwhile putting themselves last, it's performance because it's trying to receive love. You have no fucking boundaries. You feel bad about taking self time for yourself, saying you always got something going on that's performance based and you're fucking tired. So I stopped that because I was like, you know what? Nobody's more important than me. Period. So I'm not gonna bend and take it in the ass from some client, some bitch online that doesn't like what I've got to say. I'm not going to change how I speak. I'm not going to walk on eggshells.'cause my husband may get mad. I'm not going to not say something to I'm done with that shit. There's a level of freedom to that. So number one is I worked on stop performing. Number two, I've regulated my nervous system versus outsourcing my power. Let me tell you what that means. You and most women run from triggers. How do I know? Why aren't you signed up right now? Oh, you're scared, you're triggered. I don't run from that. I lean into it and I do it anyway and I find out why I was scared and I fucking grow some call it not being a pussy and it's not pussy like vagina. If you actually look up. What coward means. It's not even, it's, it is a Lina, it's this long word. It's really cool. So don't get your, don't clutch your pearls. Ladies, I'm not talking about your Yani. So most women, and this is the funny thing, is when you go hire, doctors and you go and hire fucking, holistic whatever, what do they know about sitting with themselves? Because most of you run from it. It's why you're eating your fucking emotions. You're not eating saying that you're just disciplined. You're fucking in restriction hard. It's the way you control things running from shame. So you are just gas the fuck out, doing everything for everybody. You feel like you just are running around in chaos. Yeah.'cause you're running from shame and grief. You don't know how to sit with your feelings, your fucking emotions. You, you run from your triggers. Me, I sit in that shit. I sit in it. You doubt yourself. Guess what I do? I transmute my doubt into fucking money. I transmute my doubt into money. I do the self-doubt. Neutralizer, I have tools. I give you these fucking tools. By the way, you seek more certifications, more diets, more things you seek more healers. Let me go get, let me go get Reiki, somebody psychic, come here. I calibrate my energy, and then I take action. Ba, all these tools are in hot moms. It's all here for you. I move when it's messy. You wait till you feel confident. You wait till you feel like you've got the money. You wait till you feel ready to show up. You wait till you feel a certain way. You wait till you, you wait till the fucking, the Christ comes for the second. You're waiting for. You're just waiting. I show up, messy as fuck. I launch it anyway. I show up live with my face looking like this. Anyway. I reach out anyway. I go to the gym anyway. I, it's not force because when you're forcing and you're not, and I need and reciprocity with yourself. With your, with yourself, yeah. You're gonna pay for it. That's called adrenal fatigue.'cause you're still trying to do, you're still trying to do all the other things. You're still trying to perform for love and attention and feeling important because if you speak up and actually do what you wanna do, people may fall away and have a problem and get angry with you. Oh my God. God forbid you sit with anger, you're terrified of anger. Just be the nice girl, be nice. Now it just comes out as passive fucking aggression, and you're wondering why people, and just people are a certain way. You're terrified of anger and you're wondering why you have inflammation. You're wondering why your thyroid's fucked. It's'cause you have resentment and you don't know what to do about it. I know confidence comes from movement. I told a lady just now, I said, you think I need your money? I'm gonna go get, I'm gonna, I have money. I'm gonna, I'm gonna create money. I don't need your money. I know you're fucking stuck right now. And she knows it. And she goes, I know, and I know I've worked with her for a year. She's evolved. She's at our next level. And I, she goes I need, I said, you need to fucking take action and book your call. cause when you, when her package comes with a session with me. And she goes, yeah, you're right. You're fucking I said, God, yeah. When you get ready for your next level, this is what it feels like. I know that though. You're gonna wait till you feel confident, until the fucking something your period, the moon goes into Virgo, Jesus Christ. Huh? You've gotta fucking move. You've gotta fucking move. I've built a habit of showing up regardless. My mom could die. My dad could die. My kids could go in. Whatever could happen. cause it's go it's just life. I show up fucking anyway. I will always take care of myself. I'll always take care of myself because I'm the most fucking important person on this planet. You are the most fucking important person on your planet. I know this the difference in us, though, the reason why you don't have what you want is that. I've built a habit on continuing to do the hard fucking things. I go through the same shit you do. I have a fucking vagina. I did not come from, go to school and be a good little girl and here's a bunch of, your mommy has lots of love for you. No, none of that shit. How you got way better fucking, stories than I do. We're not here to talk about the paint Olympics, everybody's got something to say about that, but. When the ground is shaking, I will still show up. This type of resilience can be created. It can, but you've got to fucking get uncomfortable. I lean in. You girls run from it. Your higher self doesn't run from it. She signs the fuck up and she goes, let's go. cause nobody's gonna come fucking save you. You're not special. Sorry. I don't care what they told you. And that's, you don't think you're special either. That's why you're not taking action. cause if you knew how fucking unique and special you are, how everything you want is on the other side of you deciding to be her and to create it, that's what you're scared of. You're scared of your power because you know what's gonna happen. You're not gonna get to keep your shitty little friends and your dynamics are gonna change and you don't like that. So stay the same. That's fine. I'm not talking to you. I'm talking to the ones that know I'm talking to them. Lastly, if I've decided, I don't hope anymore, hoping, wishing, waiting, sitting back and manifesting and letting it just fall into your lap because all these things get, grow the fuck up. That is such a wounded, feminine way of being. Let me just relax into the thing and you still gotta show up. Okay. You still femininity? Do you know what birthing a child is like? It is everything, but sitting back and just allowing the baby to just come out, you have to quote labor. Okay? So don't gimme that bullshit either. I don't sit there and I don't journal endlessly. I don't do the same thing every day. I don't wait for signs. I create the signs. When you're sitting there waiting for a sign, you know you're in a bad place. I'm waiting for a thing. I'm waiting for a thing. Take action. The things will hap you. You are the sign. So I've decided that this life, this body, this income, this family, everything, you have to create it the way you want it. Your hair looks good. Oh, most women have not made that decision yet. They're still consuming content, wanting free fucking guides. They're scared to lean into their triggers. Me, I lean into the triggers. I know how to sit and transmute. I know what to do with the things. Am I perfect? No. Am I human? Do I still go through things and have resistance? Yeah. And I tell you all about it. And inside of hot moms, I give you all the fucking tools. Most of you right now will tell you right fucking now are you eating like shit? Yeah. You think you're eating good? You're not. You're not eating enough. You're not eating enough carbs. You need the food and gut test. Your hormones are fucked. I don't care what your doctor says, your adrenals are shit, and your thyroid's off. Your IGFs probably low too. Now, beyond that, you've got fuck tons of trauma. Fuck tons that you don't even know about. That you have no fucking idea. That's why nothing's working. That's why you don't feel stuck. The only way to not feel stuck is not waiting until you get the money. Not waiting until you feel right. That's like saying, I'm gonna go to the gym and get in shape. I need to do that first before we sign up. Jesus, just once again, that's like slapping a fucking label on a. A bo a broken bottle, wondering why it's still leaking. If you don't address your nervous system, you are wasting your fucking time and you are in resistance, dressed up as logic, dressed up as yeah. Just being logical because this person has a certification of whatever. What? Okay. Gotcha. Gotcha. I'll see you in about three years. That's how that works. And that's it. That's it. That's all it is. So I became. I beca, I became, I'm becoming the woman who grants myself permission. I show up, I pay up, I create, and I have created an environment where I have the resources and tools I have created. I didn't have that at first, so I had to create that too. Okay, so if you need money, then get in money codes. I show you how to create money and how to be better with money. I show you how to create the body You want the nervous system that can hold it, the relationships, the blood work, the energy, it's all fucking here. Go to the link in my bio. Get started for$22. There's nothing else I have to say. Bye.