The Good Girl Archetype Makes You Invisible Blocking Your Throat Chakra and Confusing Your Purpose

Do you walk into a room and feel like you have slowly turned into a ghost in your own life? Or perhaps you speak up in a meeting only to be talked over like you aren't even there. You aren't imagining it. The "Invisibility Cloak" of midlife is real, but today we burn it.

If you have spent decades "keeping the peace" and fixing everyone else by swallowing your own truth, your Throat Chakra is closed tight. That literal lump you feel in your throat when you try to set a boundary isn't a cold—it is your body screaming at you to stop being polite. The "Good Girl" conditioning has taught you to prioritize others' comfort over your own voice, leaving you feeling silenced and erased.

In this ferocious episode, Dr. Julie teaches you the "Lion's Roar"—a somatic release technique designed to physically clear the blockage between your heart and your mouth. We explore why society wants midlife women to disappear and why you must refuse to go quietly. You will learn how to dissolve the "Invisibility Cloak" and reconnect with the power of your own voice.

You are not invisible; you are blindingly bright. Press play to learn how to clear your throat, drop the "Good Girl" act, and demand to be seen.

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Welcome to the 12 days of Radiant's Reset. We are ditching the holiday overwhelm to take you from exhausted and trapped to radiant and free. This is your end of the year reconnection. So you walk into a meeting, you speak and someone talks right over you. You stand in line at the coffee shop and people look right through you like you're part of the wallpaper. You aren't imagining it. The invisibility cloak of midlife is real. But girl, today we burn it. Empowering brilliant women in healthcare over 50 to transform burnout and compassion fatigue into renewed passion. Reigniting your spark to create a life that energizes you every single day. I'm your host, Dr. Jules. Let's get to it. Are you finding it harder to be heard even though you have more wisdom than ever before? You need to listen to this episode right now for three reasons. We are breaking down the societal conditioning that tells women over 50 to fade away. I'm going to teach you how to use your voice to command attention again without apologizing. I'm also gonna explain the throat chakra block. Oh, those are real. I'll show you why this often manifests as thyroid issues, chronic sore throats, or a physical fear of speaking up. And finally, we're doing the lion's roar. This is a somatic exercise to physically release the words you've been swallowing for decades. So let's talk about the psychology of all this. There is a documented phenomenon called the Age of Invisibility, and y'all, for professional women like us, especially we healers, doctors, nurses, counselors, leaders, this loss of professional gaze feels like a death. It feels like a loss of identity. You spent decades climbing the ladder, and suddenly society decides you are no longer relevant. But here is the reframe. This isn't a demotion, it's an initiation. You my friend, are transitioning into the wise woman or the crone archetype. In ancient cultures, this was the most powerful phase of a woman's life. The crone doesn't need to be looked at. She needs to be listened to. The pain you feel isn't because you're disappearing. It is because you're trying to play by the old rules of being pleasing instead of the new rules of being powerful. So let's look at the energy involved in this. This lives in your throat, Chak. This is your center of truth, your authenticity. It is the bridge between your heart, what you feel and your head, what you think. And if you've spent the last 20, 30 years keeping the peace, biting your tongue, or staying polite in the face of disrespect, this chakra is constricted. It is closed, tight. I have clients that tell me all the time that they literally feel a lump in their throat. Maybe you are experiencing this, maybe you lose your voice when you're trying to set a boundary, y'all, that is your body telling you, girl, it is time to speak your truth. So how do we clear this blockage? Well, y'all, we've got to get loud. We are going to do a yoga breath that's called the lion's roar. And I warn you, you're going to look uber silly and I don't give a flip. Do it anyway. You need this. I want you to feel the release, so whatever you're doing, cleaning your house, driving your car, exercising, take a deep breath. In through your nose, open your eyes as wide as they possibly go. Stick your tongue out and I mean all the way out like you're trying to touch your chin. And on that exhale, I want you to make a loud guttural ha from your belly. Ready? Let's do it. Inhale, tongue out. Eyes wide. Ha. And do it again. Feel that vibration in your throat. That is you clearing the pathway. That is you refusing to be silent. You're not invisible sweet soul. You are blindingly bright, but you have to take that invisible cloak off. You need to know why you hid in the first place. Is it because you're a people pleaser or the invisible healer? I want you to go find out. Take my quiz that I've created for you. Watch your burnout, compassion fatigue, archetype, the um, it's in the show notes and girl, use your voice today. Remember together other we rise. If this episode hit home, don't just nod and move on. Give yourself what you actually need. Tap the show notes right now to grab your free Compassion Fatigue Cure Starter Guide, or. The burnout to Radiance Reset. And girl, if you know another woman healer who's running on empty, please share this episode.