The Way You Show Up
Most people are living a version of themselves that they never choose.
You've been showing up for your spouse, your kids, and your career—but you've been doing it on autopilot. You're living within a ceiling built by your past and sustained by your habits.
I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
New episodes every Tuesday.
Don't just exist. Show up.
Episodes
270 episodes
Why I Was Failing Every Morning... (And I Didn't Even Know It)
I have a PhD in performance psychology.I know, with absolute certainty, that the morning sets the tone for the entire day.And I have been fundamentally screwing mine up.Checking Slack before my feet hit the floor.
What To Do When People Won't Freaking Listen
Take the free assessment → https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment---------------------------------------------------You've said it once.You've said it twic...
The Way God Shows Up — Katie Simkins
Katie Simkins didn't grow up knowing Jesus.She didn't grow up in church. She didn't grow up with hope.At 16, doctors found 11 precancerous growths in her body. A group of strangers prayed over her. The scans came back completely c...
The Confidence Blueprint: How To Own Any Room
How can you own the room and speak with confidence?Nobody cares if your palms are sweaty. Nobody cares if your voice shakes. Nobody cares if you're secretly terrified.They care if you command the space you're in.In this epi...
God Is Not A Republican (Or A Democrat)
Talking to people who disagree with me politically has gotten hard.Like, really hard.Sometimes I feel like the world is going crazy and I don't know how to have a normal conversation anymore.So I brought in one of the smart...
What No One Is Telling You About Using AI
AI isn't intelligent.It's a calculator that learned how to talk.And we're treating it like a therapist, a best friend, a dating coach, even a parent.In this episode, I sit down with Jared Pratt, our resident AI expert at...
Why You Keep Losing Focus and Why Your Old Habits Are Keeping You Stuck
You keep going back to what's comfortable.And it keeps producing nothing.That's exactly what Peter did.In this video, I'm studying John 21 with you and breaking down why Peter, after witnessing the resurrection, went right b...
Did Jesus Really Raise From The Dead?
Did Jesus Really Raise From The Dead?If Jesus didn't raise from the dead, then nothing else in the Bible really matters. That's not just my opinion. That's what the Bible says about itself. So can we actually trust that the resurr...
The Biggest Mistake You Make When Friends Ask for Advice with Meredith Ball
Ever feel like you've become the unofficial therapist in your friend group? You're not alone, and I've been there too. Most of us make one critical mistake when someone comes to us with a problem: we try to fix it.In this episode, I sit...
For Anyone Who's Ever Struggled With Their Body... Listen To This
This conversation is one I've been so excited to share with y'all.I sat down with my friend Emily Allen, and she boldly shared her story of struggling with an eating disorder that started all the way back in middle school. What began as...
How To Stop Living Everyone Else's Vision For Your Life with Micheal Felker
You know that thing you keep saying you're going to do? The conversation you keep avoiding. The vision you have for your life that you keep putting on hold because everyone else needs something from you first.You might think it's balance...
How To Give And Receive Feedback with Dr. J.R. Briggs
Today we are tackling something that we all have to deal with, but very few of us actually know how to do well: feedback.In this episode, I am honored to be joined by leadership coach, speaker, and author Dr. J.R. Briggs. We are diving ...
The 4 Part Method That Changes The Way You Show Up
I'm back, y'all and SO much has happened since the last time we talked. In this episode, I'm sharing the updated science of attraction and influence and breaking down the PIES method: the four pillars that change the way you show up in every ar...
What I've Been Working On...
A year ago, I stopped. I stopped doing one of the things I loved the most. I stopped because I was overwhelmed. I stopped because I was chronically burnt out. I stopped because I started doubting my p...
The Truth About Trauma
Meredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma affects ...
Unlocking Learning Strategies and Decision-Making
Want to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience!
Understanding The Difference Between Male And Female Emotions
Is there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode!
10 Things You Can Do To Feel More Attractive
Feeling unattractive? You're not alone! Discover 10 uplifting strategies to reclaim your self-worth and feel fabulous again! Tune in to our latest episode and transform your outlook! What's your go-to feel-good strategy?
The 5 Step Method To Improving Your Communication
Discover the 5 step method we use to improve communication. Not only does this help with communication between us as spouses, but it can also be used in conversations with friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in between!Let’s dive i...
The Truth Behind Why You’re Not Reaching Your Goals
Understanding how to set meaningful goals can transform your self-esteem and overall happiness. This episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, exploring self-concordant goals that resonate with individual desir...
The All or Nothing Mindset is Ruining Your Diet - How To Actually Achieve Your Diet Goals
In this episode, we're diving deep into the truth about weight loss and fat loss, and sharing some of the most important lessons we've learned on our journey. We're going to be talking about our experiences with different diets, includin...
How To Set AND Achieve Your Goals For 2025
One of my favorite weeks of the year every year is the week between Christmas and New Years. I sit down and reflect on the last year and plan out my goals and dreams for the new year.In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to set at...
The 4 Part Framework To Stand For Your Marriage
Experiencing the highs and lows of marriage led me to a profound realization: attraction isn't just about the physical—it's a holistic process encompassing the Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual aspects. Last week I was able to sh...
Unpacking the Real Costs of Social Media with Chris Martin
What if the digital world was costing us more than we realized? In this episode, we sit down with Chris Martin, an insightful author who has navigated the depths of social media’s real costs. Chris shares his journey of writing a thought-provok...
How To Become More Attractive INTELLECTUALLY
This episode was recorded in 2022.Kimberly is joined by a very special guest, her husband, Rob! This was the second time Rob joined the podcast so if you missed the first episode, make sure you go back and listen to the episode about