For Love We Heal Podcast
If you are struggling with constant doubt and anxiety about whether you are in the right relationship, you’re not alone, and you’re in the right place! In this podcast, we delve into the complexities of Relationship OCD (ROCD), a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder characterized by intrusive thoughts, chronic doubt, reassurance-seeking, rumination, and intense anxiety and avoidance that show up in our romantic relationships.
I'll help you explore and understand the deeper roots of your Relationship OCD (ROCD), and ultimately, how to heal it. We will discuss topics like fear of making the wrong choice, fear of making mistakes, lack of attraction, numbness, hyper-fixation on flaws, breakup urges, guilt, jealousy, and more!
We examine how ROCD overlaps with attachment styles, especially fearful-avoidant attachment, and how our childhood wounds are at the core of this issue.
You’ll learn how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, healthy vs unhealthy relationships, and what real healing from Relationship OCD looks like, beyond coping. Through IFS (Internal Family Systems), Attachment-based Healing, and what I call the Conscious Relationship Framework, this podcast offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing roadmap for healing your way to love, peace, and wholeness.
Episodes
30 episodes
E30: Comprehensive Framework for Healing Relationship OCD (Part 4) Anxious Attachment & Fears of Loss
If you are terrified of losing your partner and that all of your thoughts about leaving are true, then this episode is for you. I break down the root cause of Anxious Attachment and give you practical steps for healing this side of your insecur...
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Episode 30
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39:13
E29: Comprehensive Framework for Healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) (Part 3) - Avoidant Attachment Healing with Grace McQueeny
Wondering why it feels like your truth that you're not in the right relationship? Why you struggle with break-up urges, emotional avoidance, disgust, or "grass is greener" mentality? In part 3 of the comprehensive framework series, we talk abou...
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Episode 29
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1:07:21
E28: Comprehensive Framework for Healing ROCD (Part 2) - OCD & Shame Healing with Grace Mcqueeny
Part 2 of this series involves understanding the root cause of OCD Obsessions and Compulsions. OCD is an adaptive response to anticipating and avoiding mistakes that will lead to attachment disconnection (abandonment) and being shamed. OCD orig...
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Episode 28
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1:07:11
E27: A Comprehensive Framework for Healing Relationship OCD from the Root with Grace McQueeny (Part 1)
Dive into this 4-part series where we break down our comprehensive framework for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root. Learn how Internal Family Systems Therapy, The Conscious Relationship Framework, and Attachment Healing can literall...
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Episode 27
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1:14:01
E26: Karena Got Engaged and Her Relationship OCD is Gone! (Part 2)
In this episode, I follow up with Karena from Episode 24, where a profound piece of IFS work allowed her to heal her wounds of failure, disappointment, and shame, leading to a sustained ending of doubt in her relationship. Karena is now happily...
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Episode 26
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34:29
E25: Relationship OCD (ROCD), Self-Betrayal, People-Pleasing and the Internal Rebellion - Rory's Session
If you are struggling with an internal pushback against your decision to commit to your relationship, then this episode is for you. In this episode, Rory opens up about her struggles with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and how, in the past, self-betra...
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Episode 25
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1:05:53
E24: Healing Relationship Anxiety (ROCD), Disappointment, Failure & Shame with IFS Therapy - Karena's Session
Right before Karena's engagement with her soon-to-be fiancé, we do this transformational session where we explore her fears and obsessions around commitment and potentially making a mistake. Karena's honest recount of her experience with Relati...
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Episode 24
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42:07
E23: (Part 2) Working with Love Addiction, Limerence, Guilt, Shame & Disorganized Attachment using IFS Therapy & Parts Work - Akiva's Session
Akiva joins me for a follow-up session after our first one, where we talked about her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment, & Relationship OCD, which you can find here:
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Episode 23
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55:40
E22: Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents, Highly Sensitive People, Co-dependency, Relationship Anxiety & Attachment Issues with Michelle Roehab
In this episode, I speak with trauma-informed coach Michelle Roehab on the impact that narcissistic parents have, particularly on highly sensitive and highly empathic children & adults, and how that shapes we way we navigate our relationshi...
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Episode 22
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1:03:00
E21: The Invisible Trauma of Parentification, Boundaries & Sacred Anger with Grace McQueeny
In this episode, Grace and I candidly discuss our personal journeys with parentification, a hidden trauma and role reversal where children take on inappropriate adult responsibilities. We share how this experience shaped our roles as the family...
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Episode 21
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1:21:31
E20: Working through Relationship OCD (ROCD), Perfectionism, Co-dependency & Anxious Attachment with IFS Therapy- Erin's Session
In this session, Erin shares her journey of dealing with Relationship OCD (ROCD), attachment insecurities, and the challenges of seeking external validation in her relationships due to co-dependent patterns. She discusses her pattern of anxious...
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Episode 20
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36:58
E19: Working with Love Addiction, Limerence, Guilt, Shame & Disorganized Attachment using IFS Therapy & Parts Work - Akiva's Session
In this episode, I help Akiva unpack and do a piece of healing around her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment & Relationship OCD using the Internal Family Systems Therapy Model. Watch Akiva go from a ...
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Episode 19
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1:11:17
E18: Profound Change from Avoidant Attachment to Openness with IFS Therapy - Kleo's Session & Exploring Relationship OCD (ROCD), Disorganized Attachment, Avoidant Attachment, Inner Resistance & more!
In this episode, Kleo shares her journey of navigating Relationship OCD (ROCD) and Disorganized Attachment. During our session, we worked on helping Kleo connect with her avoidant parts, something she had long resisted due to the intense...
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Episode 18
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50:46
E17: Chronic Anxiety, ROCD, Disorganized Attachment & Abandonment Healing - Andriy's Session
In this episode, I help Andriy explore a chronic anxiety that he's been experiencing for most of his life, in addition to Relationship OCD and Disorganized Attachment. By focusing on this anxiety, Andriy was able to connect with a one and a hal...
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Episode 17
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35:55
E15: Relationship OCD (ROCD), Infatuation, Limerence & Disgust - Grace's Session
In this powerful episode, I sit down with Grace, who courageously shares her journey of living with and healing from Relationship OCD (ROCD). Grace captures the wild oscillation between fantasy, infatuation, and limerence and intense disgust, a...
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Episode 15
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1:08:44
E16: Relationship OCD (ROCD) and the Shame that Fuels it - Emily's Session
In this session, Emily shares her struggles with ROCD that began in her early years. We explored themes of guilt, shame, and the fear of making mistakes, which are deeply rooted in her past experiences, including family dynamics and personal re...
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Episode 16
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54:56
E14: "Two Weeks in, She Became Hideous," ROCD, Disorganized Attachment - Devin's Story
In this episode, Devin discusses his experiences with Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (ROCD), which often manifests as feelings of disgust or lack of attraction towards his partners. He describes how these feelings can be sudden and ...
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Episode 14
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1:28:07
E13: Working Through Relationship OCD, Attraction and Intelligence Themes - Molly's Session
In this conversation, Molly shares her journey with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and how it has impacted her relationships, particularly with her husband. She discusses the patterns of infatuation and fear of commitment, the role of attachment, and ...
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Episode 13
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54:28
E12: Fearful Avoidant Attachment, Numbness & Disconnection - Christine's Session
In this episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, Christine shares her journey with Fearful Avoidant attachment. She discusses the complexities of emotional connection, the impact of trauma, and the role of intuition and spirituality in her heal...
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Episode 12
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1:05:55
E11: Harmony's Journey with Relationship OCD
In this conversation, Harmony and I discuss her personal journey with relationship OCD, exploring the impact of her past relationships, self-sacrifice, the importance of self-advocacy, and the challenges faced in her current relationship. We de...
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Episode 11
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1:05:36
E10: Navigating Cheating OCD, Guilt & Shame - Annuziata's Session
In this episode, Annuziata shares her personal journey with Relationship OCD, detailing her experiences from a young age and the impact it has had on her relationships. She discusses the feelings of guilt and self-doubt that arise, particularly...
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Episode 10
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1:08:44
E9: Healing the Shamed, Confused and Embarrassed Child - Colleen's Story
The main themes in the conversation with Colleen Herman revolve around her journey with relationship OCD (ROCD) and attachment issues. Colleen shares her experiences of anxiety and self-doubt in relationships, often feeling torn between staying...
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Episode 9
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46:24
"My mind bullied me to leave my relationship" - Lekha's Story
In this episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, Alex Bishop and Chandralekha delve into the complexities of relationship OCD, attachment issues, and the impact that anxiety and shame have had on her relationships. Chandralekha shares her...
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Episode 8
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1:02:47