The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast
You're in a good relationship with an amazing partner, yet your jealousy, anxiety, and constant overthinking gets in the way of your enjoyment. Instead of living your best life, you're stuck stalking, controlling, blaming, judging, comparing, and showing up as your worst self...
This is the Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast.
In this space, we get what it's like to have a crazy, grumpy girlfriend brain. To make up scenarios that hurt your own feelings. To misinterpret your partner in all the worst ways. To want to punish your partner for things they haven't even done. To always be prepared, just in case something goes wrong.
But this is also a space where we learn how to manage that crazy brain and all those triggering emotions with curiosity and compassion. Being a secure girlfriend is not something you're either born with or without. It's a skill that anyone can master at any point in their life.
You are a Secure Girlfriend in the making.
Let's get to work.
Episodes
135 episodes
113. Why You Should Aim for Girlfriend Excellence (Over Mediocrity)
"I just want to feel better." Sound familiar? Then you're a lot like my clients who struggle to dream big and go after their fullest potential.In this week's episode, I talk about the benefits of setting big goals, aiming high, and deci...
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12:37
112. What If It Turns Out I Was Right to Be Anxious?
I'm not taking any prisoners in this week's episode. It's time we have a serious conversation about "What if I'm right to be anxious and jealous?"I have a very firm belief about this thought and looking back at your past self, with 20/2...
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19:57
111. When Changing Your Thoughts Just Isn’t Working
Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings drive your actions. So if you want to change, you need to change your thoughts. Simple enough, right?Well... wrong. It CAN be that simple in very rare cases, but most of the time it r...
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30:27
110. Toxic Relationship Advice You Shouldn't Listen To: PART 2
Social media is full of shitty relationship advice that usually just perpetuates the anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, and confusion that grumpy girlfriends struggle with.The advice we talk about in this episode is not objecti...
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29:53
109. Stop Hugging the Cactus: When Your Thoughts Are Causing You Pain
Are the certain topics in your relationship that just keep causing you pain? Frustration? Anxiety? All you want is for reality to be different than it is... because YOU ARE RIGHT. Your thought is true. And reality is just not playing along....
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16:25
108. Triggered? Listen to This
This is a guided coaching episode that I recommend you listen to if you have been triggered by something in your relationship.The goal of processing a trigger like this is to flush the fight or flight response out of your system so you ...
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15:06
107. The Power in Being the Problem
Have you ever thought that your partner is the problem in your relationship? That their behavior is the problem that needs to be solved? Then this is the episode for you.We are never more disempowered than when we give someone or someth...
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21:42
106. Obsession vs. Love w/ Ron Cecil & Daniel Penner Cline
Do you ever feel obsessed with your partner? Does it feel good... or not so much? Could it even become unhealthy if it goes on for too long? A while back I got a question from a girlfriend who struggled to differentiate between her fee...
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1:21:23
105. After All I've Done for You!?
You've heard of people pleasing... saying yes to things you don't want to say yes to in order to manipulate people's thoughts and feelings about you. But what about retrospective people pleasing?In this week's episode, I dive into one o...
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20:31
104. Boundaries: A Grumpy Girlfriend Guide
No one has missed the importance of setting boundaries in life in order to stay safe and sound. But for a lot of grumpy girlfriends, this is an area of confusion, frustration, and trouble. Is it possible to set too many boundaries...
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27:29
103. Why Wanting to See It Coming Is Ruining Your Relationship
Is your brain constantly looking for signs that your relationship is about to end? Are you on high alert for signs your partner is cheating on you? No matter what your partner does, do you always interpret their actions in the worst possible wa...
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18:55
102. Stuck in Indecision? Create a Decision Container!
Spinning in indecision is the best way to waste time in your life and relationship. Yet we spin in indecision and struggle to make decisions because we are so afraid of making the wrong choice and wasting time. Ironic, huh?If y...
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8:41
101. 23 Thoughts to Make 2023 Your Least Grumpy Year Ever
Who we are, what we struggle with, and how we feel depends on the thoughts we think. So the only thing standing in between you and the girlfriend you want to be are the thoughts you repeatedly think and believe.Here are 23 thoughts for ...
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7:23
100. The Life of a Grumpy Girlfriend Boyfriend: Listener Q&A w/ Sonny
What is it really like to be the partner of a grumpy girlfriend? Pure misery? Or not so bad? Well, if you ask my boyfriend, it was a walk in the park. 'Cause he had no idea I was being grumpy, to begin with.To celebrate episode 100, I i...
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30:16
99. How I Overcame Anxiety & Stopped Overthinking: WWNPD?
A few years ago I was diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I've struggled with anxiety a lot as an adult. But... today, I don't struggle with anxiety anymore. I don't struggle with overthinking.In today's episode, I shar...
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13:41
98. When to Change the Circumstance
Week in and week out, we talk about thought work, processing your emotions, and adjusting the way you think about things in your relationship. This week, we are going to talk about situations when you might not want to do the thought work!<...
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15:37
97. Real Talk: How I Feel About My Relationship After 48h On TikTok
Phew. I have been feeling so overwhelmed and sick of relationship content on social media these past few days (weeks) that I just needed to come on here and vent to you guys.If I'm feeling this way and I'm not even struggling in my rela...
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24:10
96. What Will Other People Think?
Do you ever get into arguments with your partner about things they should or shouldn't be doing because you worry about what other people will think? Then this episode is for you.Without being fully aware of it, other people's opinions ...
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21:42
95. 7 Relationship “Truths” That Fuel Your Anxiety
It's time to dive deep into relationship truths and assumptions operating in our subconscious minds. These truths were made up to create false safety and control in monogamous relationships, but what they're really doing is just fuelling your r...
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26:28
94. How to Fix Your Problem With Intrusive Thoughts
Intrusive thoughts are the worst. They just pop up out of nowhere and ruin your mood completely. I know you've tried not to think about the thoughts when they pop up, I know you've tried to police your brain... it just doesn't work.In t...
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14:21
93. Let's Practice Getting Cheated On
Welcome to your worst nightmare. In this week's episode, we are going to walk through the experience of finding out your partner has been cheating on you and see what happens.A lot of girlfriends ruin their good relationships because of...
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18:45
92. Fictional Coaching: Movie Night at Jack & Christine's
Christine is looking forward to a mid-week movie night with her love, Jack. But her brain has decided to put a halt to those plans. She starts getting grumpy and subconsciously chooses to run with it by gathering more and more evidence during t...
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37:44
91. Wanting Something vs. Having a Manual for Someone
We're allowed to want things from our partners and relationships, and we can be sad if we don't get them. But we also shouldn't have a manual for our partners and base our emotions on what they do or don't do.What exactly is the dif...
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16:48
90. Fast Forward & Let It Go
Have you ever gotten upset about something in your relationship and later realized that it wasn't even a problem, to begin with? You're not alone. I myself had an experience just like this a few weeks ago.In this week's episode, I share...
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20:48
89. Why We Prefer Fate, Intuition, & Gut Feelings Over Choice
Do you ever wish that your gut would just tell you what to do? Do you ever put your life in the hands of “fate” rather than making a decision? Do you ever refer to something being a need and therefore out of your control rather than asking for ...
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