LOTE: Social Media

Episode 153: LOTE: Social Media

In episode 153 of the Sober Vibes podcast, it's LOTE week, and the Elledge sisters are discussing Social Media, then and now. Kimberly and Courtney talk about using social media in their active addictions and how they use it now.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

This is Courtney. This is Kimberly. You are listening to the show within the show Living on the Alledge.

Speaker 2: 0:09

Come live with us. We're talking about the road to recovery and sobriety and how to vibe and maintain a happy and healthy lifestyle.

Speaker 1: 0:22

Hey, welcome to the Silver Vibes podcast. Slash Living on the Alledge week sister sister.

Speaker 2: 0:30

What's up? Everybody? You know what it is.

Speaker 1: 0:33

This is episode 153. If you're new here, you're like what the hell did I just land on? What did I just press play on? This is Courtney Anderson and Kimberly Ellige, and we are the Alledge sisters. We share this monthly show within a show. We talk about addiction recovery. We talk about sisterhood of the traveling pants. We talk about nonsense. There's a lot of humor here. Thank you for people who have been with us since day one. You are the good people of the world. Everybody who listens to us is the good people of the world and we appreciate your support from the get.

Speaker 2: 1:12

We do the real ones, we out here.

Speaker 1: 1:15

The real ones. The real ones. Last time Kimmy and I spoke, I did say that when we would talk again we would have merch. I lied because Bitch. But really. Next time Sissy and I talk on this in November, the merch will be ready. Kim and I just have to do a couple. Kim's got to approve because this is a joint collab. I just need Kim's approval. She was jet-setting in October.

Speaker 2: 1:47

I have places to be. Y'all, I have places to be. We'll get that done. Kim and I have a scheduled Zoom meeting, very mature, and got to put the old stamp of approval so my sister doesn't just go renegade and throw some shit out there and I'm like because we have two totally different styles. So we got to join forces and I can't have this bitch out here put my name on something that is going to make us look like nerds.

Speaker 1: 2:12

It's got to be Well, make us look like nerds and then make the good people of the world look like nerds.

Speaker 2: 2:19

Yeah, y'all don't worry, I got you, because sometimes Courtney loses her mind.

Speaker 1: 2:25

Yes, yes, I do. This is very true.

Speaker 2: 2:28

I'm out here. I'm out here in the streets, I'm hip, I know what's going on. So I know Courtney's hip too. She's been at home. She's been pregnant for three years she hasn't been out here.

Speaker 1: 2:43

This is very true. You are hip. I am the last I don't know since 2020, I have been in sweatpants like a total slop kebab, and then in sweatpants, and then in maternity wear, and then still maternity wear post baby, and then just in fucking back to sweatpants.

Speaker 2: 3:07

Oh no, there was a few weeks where Courtney was putting herself together and she was wearing body suits and she looks so cute.

Speaker 1: 3:15

Yeah, well, yes, and I just have not. Yes, in the summertime I wore the same. I just made it easy, yes, and was putting my hair up and my makeup on and I was doing that, and then I don't know what happened in the last 40 days, but I got to get back to it.

Speaker 2: 3:32

Yeah, get back to it, those body suits you got. To make sure you get the right size, because it'll hurt your vagina. Give you camel toe.

Speaker 1: 3:40

Yeah, if you guys have not tried those nude N-U-U-D nude company, those are the best.

Speaker 2: 3:50

Yeah, I rock with those. Those are good. I fuck with those skims. Those are pretty good.

Speaker 1: 3:56

Yeah, I like to, like you can wear a bra and like your nips aren't going to like pierce through with the nude. So check it out. And to their very basic, like colors, which that's what I'm feeling more and more of these days.

Speaker 2: 4:08

I don't wear a bra. I love them. Bitches, Pierce you sure do.

Speaker 1: 4:12

Puzzle cut glass man. Before we dive into the episode, just to let you know that we are going to talk about social media today, but, kim, this episode's going to air on the last Thursday of the month. Did you have a good October? You turned 44. I turned 41.

Speaker 2: 4:32

Yeah, we love October, courtney, and I love us a Libra season. So, yep, I decided this year to switch it up and have a fun birthday, because my past birthdays were not so traumatic they were, you know, as you all know, I was in a shitty relationship, so my dude always managed to ruin my birthday.

Speaker 2: 4:56

It was just so convenient that that happened. So this year I was not going to have a bad day. So I grabbed a couple of my friends and we went down and sat on the beach in Miami and I just, you know, maybe overspent a little bit on seafood towers, but whatever you know, and I was down in Miami and it was like really cool, because I in the past, when I've been down in Miami, it looked a lot different. So this was like a mature girls vacation, you know, and I wasn't down in South Beach blowing lines wherever I could. So this was, it was nice.

Speaker 2: 5:35

It was nice to wake up and see the water and get some sun and just chill, go out. You know, I went out one night. I went to a club and then when it was time to go it was time to go, you know, and all my friends no, because I was like all right, I'm going to go and I was like you girls stay. And they're like no, we're actually ready, we want to wake up and do beachy things and not be a zombie.

Speaker 1: 5:58

So yeah, I think that's really key too, like when you surround yourself by good people who generally want the best for you, and to go on a girls trip like that too, and it's it makes it so much easier because, as we age, nobody really wants you know well, I shouldn't say nobody, but it you just don't want to waste time like that. It's just such a time waster.

Speaker 2: 6:19

Yeah, and especially when it's, you know, coming from Michigan, and then you just, I mean, you saw my vibe down there. It was beautiful and I wanted to get up and, you know, go and do things. Because that's why I flew down. I needed, I was very burnt out and I needed the elements for some healing. And I got in the water, rolled around in the sand, I saw a shark, it was awesome. So total success. So, yeah, so I was jet setting a little bit and I had fun. That was great. 44, let's fucking go. Let's go.

Speaker 1: 6:55

Let's do it to it. I hope you, the good people of the world, had an amazing October. Let's get ready for November. Sissy and I are going to talk about social media. We're going to have this little conversation because we really have not had a specific talk to this, because, as social media has played a big part in our world over the last decade, plus, I'm sure that there are listeners who probably and I see I kind of see it more and more nowadays too but I'm sure that there was some social media usage that embarrassed you. You might still hold some shame onto it. You might be like, oh my God, I can't believe that's out there, you know, and just kind of to forgive yourself, but also know that I mean, it's okay, it's what the times? Because I see a lot more people nowadays losing their minds on social media.

Speaker 1: 7:56

Oh my God, like losing it, losing it, and it's sad. It's so sad to see. It's just sad to see, yeah, because it's like a cry for help. Cry for help and you can clearly see that people are not well in using the platform to continue to receive attention, even in a negative light. I mean, here's like a stories from the street. Okay, this was for me of how, when I was hammered 3, 2012, I would be on being like Facebook. I would be in what Yuck, I hate Facebook.

Speaker 1: 8:42

Right, but you could tell I was hammered the night before of like posts Like I would wake up with, like ridiculous posts that I send or motherfucking people through DMs.

Speaker 2: 8:55

Yeah, I'm sure I got a couple of DMs getting motherfucked for no reason. I'd be like this bitch is off the chain.

Speaker 1: 9:01

last night Like right or like commenting on people's posts and it like it's just like a bunch of like M T A S. It makes sense. I used to stalk my aces through Facebook. There was. I remember waking up, I used to stalk my aces like legit and then stalk some of his family members. And I remember waking up and I had sent the family member a message and I was like, oh my God, so I had to block them all. So next time I went into a blackout that I would not have it so easily accessible. Yeah, I mean, you know. So there was one time too, kim used her social media.

Speaker 2: 9:50

Oh my God, when I was in Denver yes, oh yeah I fucking pretty much let the world know that I was ending a love affair with cocaine because I was on like a three day bender and I was like this, is it I thought it was in my right mind, it was a good idea to let everyone know that I was addicted to cocaine and that it was a rap, and that did not translate well the next day it was like what in the fuck?

Speaker 2: 10:17

I posted it on my Facebook wall, y'all. What? So I wake up to 100 texts and then all these messages and that post actually got me fired from a job. It did which one? I can't say the name because you got you, but the pizza one, oh crap. Yeah, it led to that because then they like started, you know, kind of watching behavior, because some little fucking are sent it to the owner of the company because everyone's a fucking snitch these days and yeah. So she was just kind of like watching the patterns of behavior. I mean it took a minute, but she definitely said that was the catalyst and you know we had gotten into it. So I just said you know it's time to part ways, obviously because that doesn't affect my job performance. But yeah, they were gunning for me, the haters, and so it definitely led to me like losing a job because I lost my fucking mind in a cocaine psychosis. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 11:16

I remember that post because I had some friends reach out to her like is Kim? Okay? I was like what are you guys talking about? And then I opened up Facebook. I was like, oh, all right, it didn't land. Well, I mean, I understood what you were saying.

Speaker 2: 11:29

Thank you. I was trying because I was like, okay, this is going to make me be accountable, right? And in my fucking state of mind it just yeah, it translated poorly. If I had a PR person who was in charge of me, she would have definitely have had to get ahead of that one and do some damage control.

Speaker 1: 11:47

And 1000%. You know, and I think that that is where because I'm sure a lot of people have used it whether you stalked an ex motherfuck, some people through DMs just wrote nonsense, like when the memories come up and I like, look at some of that stuff, I was like, oh, my god, I spelt nothing correct. And then you look at the timestamp and I was like, oh, that was at like 3am. Okay, you know, it's one of those things you do have to forgive because it's part of it. That's our world today, where we have we have this, these many machines of social media, and you know you can't let it, you can't let it continue to eat at you if you carry any shame. I know it sounds silly, but I wanted to do this one because it's just, it's such a big part of it, you know. Or like Snapchat, like God, god knows of pictures people have sent through that, like all of it God.

Speaker 2: 12:44

those delete, you know, Thank God. Those delete after 24 hours.

Speaker 1: 12:50

Did you know that, corny? I knew that they deleted, but I still think when you put a picture out there like it's out there forever.

Speaker 2: 12:57

Yeah, you can like Snapchat and stuff. Yeah, that age of social media is like tough. I'm glad I'm, like you know, Gen X, and when I was growing up we didn't have social media because, holy shit. But definitely like I, when like stories come up or like memories on Facebook, I'll read it and I'm like what in the fuck was I talking about? And that was like a younger version of me, but you can definitely tell that it was like drug and alcohol post, like a goddamn Hunter S Thompson book and it just it's wild. So I'm just like wow, like that is where I was at. And sometimes I think when those memories come up, it's like a good reference to where I used to be, Like it's appalling, it makes me want to just like crawl out of my skin. But that's also like the life I was living in, where I was at, you know. So it's it's wild and but I just let it ride and forgive myself. And yeah, but there's some that just did not translate well at all.

Speaker 1: 13:59

No, no. But. But you know again, it's. It's people hold. People hold the shame and the embarrassment with with many different things right, whether it's you fucking show up on a softball field hammered at your kids at your kids' game or you fucking went on a social media rampage and you hold some shame to that. But it's all just forgiving yourself little by little each day and moving forward.

Speaker 1: 14:27

And I do have to say, on the flip side of this, I am a big, big advocate, for if social media is fucking up your sobriety and your recovery journey, get off of it. It's. You know, if you're like, all right, I like to hang out on Instagram, I like to see the sober vibes and scrim page, I want just some recovery stuff, do that right. And if you have friends who trigger you because they were your drinking pals and you're like I don't want to see this anymore, you can mute their profiles until you want to see that. Now, when you mute somebody's profile, it's not blocking them, you're just not seeing their post. So that's a good one to do too. Or unfollow them all.

Speaker 2: 15:12

Yeah, if you're not ready to you don't want to look like an asshole or something. Yeah, yeah, yeah, right.

Speaker 1: 15:20

Just mute their post and it will never notify the person whether you know it. Just you just won't see their stuff anymore. So, because I know there's different generations that get offended, Stop following a person or your friends with on Facebook, yeah, and you can do the same thing on Facebook and Instagram too, you know, and it's just or open yourself up a Tic Tac and just follow, just follow the accounts where you don't have to follow anybody back. Just follow accounts that inspire you.

Speaker 2: 15:53

Yeah, and Tic Tac will set an algorithm to where you kind of like they'll guide you towards, you know liking some sober content and inspirational people and wellness, and that'll kind of be like the wave that you're on, which is cool. But also, you know, when I like with social media, it kind of made me sad for a little bit. I had to detach because I found myself like obsessively on it because I you know, this is right when I got out of jail and then looking at people's stuff and it made me like depressed because I was how old was I, courtney, when I got out of jail? 38? Yeah, six years ago, yeah, so you know, getting out of jail, all ankle, monitored up and having a parole officer and having to fucking sleep on your mother's couch, it was, and then which? It was fine, I was in that place, I put myself there, but then being at night, not being able to sleep, because you know when you first get so it's a mess, it's wild, so I'd just be up all night on like social media and then I was like looking at all these people who had to have like productive, like lives and you know, spouses and kids and all this, and I would like feel bad about myself.

Speaker 2: 17:11

It would make me feel bad about myself. And then one night I just snapped out of it because I was like what? I just saw this bitch yesterday at the Westborn Market and she was saying like how you know, everything was going wrong and this and that. And then that day she like posted one big, happy family and I was like, oh, I need to realize and take this for like face value, because everything's not as it seems and this is like people's space where they like sell themselves and like the best version of themselves. So it made me like snap out of it. So I think the universe put her in my direction for a day for a reason, because I was really like going through it and like upset. And then I saw this post. So I was like this bitch is a liar.

Speaker 1: 17:55

Lies.

Speaker 2: 17:56

This is a liar. Oh my gosh. Can you hear in the background the lawn people?

Speaker 1: 18:01

No.

Speaker 2: 18:02

Okay, so it is. Yeah, I just had to like detach and kind of get off for a minute, so I think because it was making me feel like a loser.

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Speaker 1: 19:56

Yeah, and I mean that's you know, it's very it's. You can take it that way, absolutely. A lot of people take it that way, you know, and it's just so it is. It's you got to look at social media like anything else, take what you want from it and leave the goddamn rest. And if it's, if it's one of those things where you're like I just feel better not engaging with it at all than don't. Just, you don't have to. Nobody has to have a social media account, right?

Speaker 2: 20:26

No, you don't have to if you don't want one. I mean, these days it seems like if, if somebody tells you that they don't have one, people are like what, why, what's wrong with you? I don't like that narrative at all. It's not. Everyone is like interested so, or they have a job where they don't need social media, so it's okay. If somebody doesn't have one, it doesn't make them a fucking weirdo. Everyone relax, yeah.

Speaker 1: 20:53

I mean, there are some weirdos, though, where it's like what, you haven't signed up for one of them ever, right, yeah, that's like that. I can understand the case, because that's how I feel. I understand the case that if you've signed up for one throughout the years and then you're like this is not my jam and I'm just going to deactivate, but if you've never been on one of them because nowadays it's just so hard, like what, you don't have a LinkedIn account, right? Do you know what I mean at some point? Or the people who try to front I don't have social media, but then they fucking have fake accounts. That I don't like those people.

Speaker 2: 21:36

What? The? What do you mean? The fake accounts?

Speaker 1: 21:39

Like they'll lurk, they'll tell you they don't and then have a. They have a fucking. They'll have an account on there and just lurk at people stuff. Oh yeah, I have a, I have a. I mean guy friend, he does that. He doesn't have an account, but he has a fake account because he'll say stuff. He'll text me and be like stuff that I posted and I was like God, you're fucking, you are a psycho. Yeah, you're getting this off of my Facebook and fuck you in your fake account like present yourself, what friend is that?

Speaker 2: 22:13

Do I know?

Speaker 1: 22:15

Yes, you know Kevin. I won't say his last name, but Kevin Tall Kevin.

Speaker 2: 22:22

Present yourself.

Speaker 1: 22:24

But it's the true, you know cause. Then he'll be like how are those book sales going? I'm like you are the loser. Stop, and it is, stop lurking. But I do think, like with people who have never, never had one, it's tell me more of why, because I don't know if I've seen it before. It's the truth, okay.

Speaker 2: 22:41

Yeah, like even our boomer parents have one.

Speaker 1: 22:46

That's what I'm saying. I just think, like nowadays, you know, and mom, she loves Instagram because she finds more inspiration over there and like how to. She doesn't like Facebook because that's all political. But you know what I mean? Dad has no clue how to use it and no, but none of them has yet to listen to her podcast.

Speaker 2: 23:05

Which is good, because they would be pissed. Thank God, yeah, dad has it. I think dad because he's. I think dad uses his deliric. He just wasn't smart enough to get a ghost account, he totally does on his Facebook.

Speaker 1: 23:21

I blocked dad from Instagram because I was like I'm we're not going to do that. We're not playing this game. You can stay over there on Facebook.

Speaker 2: 23:30

Yeah, stay on Facebook. Yeah, he, I'll send dad something on instant. He likes it. He doesn't engage, he uses me off.

Speaker 1: 23:37

Yeah correct, accurate, so yeah, so I mean just social media is a beast, but I understand if people go on it and then they're like you know what I'm just done with it. I feel better because when I take breaks from social media I feel 10 times better and it's designed to get. There's an addiction out there to social media and you know I definitely have been in and out of those spouts with it and recently of being especially to with the first year of Collins life. I mean it was like almost a lifeline at some some points of the night, at 3am, you know, yeah, of course. Or just sitting at home with the dictator and just dude, someone, please talk to me.

Speaker 2: 24:27

Right and TikTok was a lifeline for me during those first like pandemic months. Yeah, I mean, those people at home were fucking creative, creative. I mean it's actually for winter, because people get in the house and have to start getting creative again and get out them streets and the TikTok starts to get creative again.

Speaker 1: 24:46

Well, yeah, and that's the thing, that's what I'm saying with, like, social media, like what a blessing that it is right and, if you look at that, like it has enabled people to like very creative people, to fucking do some amazing things.

Speaker 2: 24:59

So yeah, but it's also it's a blessing and a curse, oh yeah, you know. But I'm glad that, yeah, that I it wasn't around when I was like growing up, but it was definitely around during those years of smoking crack, because I let everyone know and I mean everyone like it was wild. So my intention was there. It just did not land well.

Speaker 1: 25:28

No, it didn't. So that's kind of what we wanted to share today of just you know, if you have some shame and guilt around social media, of you know your performance on there and your drinking days, it's okay. It's okay, we've all been there.

Speaker 2: 25:47

It's okay. I'm going to do a social media detox in January. I just started off on a positive note, not that I don't utilize mine as positive, but I think it helps with like we've talked about before just like healthy habits. You know, because I'm guilty. I'm guilty, I am like an Instagram and TikTok horse sometimes, and sometimes I could be utilizing my time in a healthier way, and I just think for me it's will. Just it helps with like healthier habits. Yeah, that's why.

Speaker 1: 26:18

I'm so revived. I don't follow anybody back. I love you all dearly and I rather engage in comments and or DM and engage in that way, but I have to. That's why I set the boundary up there, as I do have in the past two years with it. It's I simply post for for that community and I don't want to get lost in the scroll because it's strictly to create over there and the only people I follow have been the sponsors for the show, and that's it. You don't follow me. Well, and follow my sister. I follow you on the from sober vibes, but that's. I almost just got offended but I mean, but yeah, but I said it like that, so I don't get lost in that scroll because it's so easy to and that's what people have to protect themselves of, of the protect yourself from the energy of a time sock, you know, and setting setting yourself up with appropriate boundaries with social media.

Speaker 2: 27:20

Yeah, and you know, like all of us addicts out here, we got to be mindful of what we're doing, because you can definitely get stuck in a you know like a little social media addiction and but if it's helping you stay out those streets and home and you need to do a little scrolling, that's okay too. Whatever, and if anything pops up from your memories where you're like holy shit, as it has a million times for my sister and I like it's okay, that's where you were at at that point in your life. It's a little reminder and that's not where you're at now. So no worries, yeah, no worries, no shame, everything is all good.

Speaker 1: 28:01

And that's the more change behavior of okay, you're no longer living with that active relationship with drugs and alcohol, the more you have to connect with that, to keeping like no, I'm not currently there, but that's why sometimes I think and I'm not trying to offend anybody, but keeping keep referring to yourself as an alcoholic. You're still stuck in that. You're still stuck with that mindset, like it's still a punishment where it's okay, yes, refer to yourself as that, so you get it. But then there's a point where you're like looking, you're like okay, but I'm like two, three years and I need to. I'm not an alcoholic anymore. This is the change. I am not. I'm not even drinking, you know. So it's identity work, yeah. And so the more you realize that you aren't in that drinking, you're not living that drinking life anymore, the easier it is for you to start forgiving yourself. And that's the change behavior I speak of.

Speaker 2: 29:09

Yeah, we're all so much more than addicts Like, yeah, these labels, it's, you know, yes, that is the case, but like every day, just I'm, you know, yes, you are, but you're so much more. I don't want my identity to be crack addict. I don't want that to be like my thing. Every time like I'm speaking, I just I don't. I'm like so much more, you know so. So I had to start like speaking to myself better, yeah, as opposed to just that being I'm not just that one thing. You know, it's, it's defined where my life is currently, but it doesn't define me.

Speaker 2: 29:48

So self talk is huge and words are powerful. I really believe words are like powerful and spells and the way what you put out is what's. You create your own reality. And you know, I really try to be mindful about the way I speak about myself because for so long my self talk was awful and a lot of times on my social media my self talk was awful, you know, is very self deprecating and just not not the best, and I wouldn't want my sister speaking about herself that way, or anybody I love or anybody. So why am I doing that to myself? So you really do got to switch up how you speak about yourself. So then you start believing. You're just not some, you know, just like you're more than your addictions. Oh, are we snapping?

Speaker 1: 30:40

You are more than your addictions. That is going to be the board for this, for this, for this episode. Well, I think we're going to leave it at that. We're going to leave it at that. So, november, there will be merch.

Speaker 2: 30:55

Yep. And not like some boomer merch that my sister put. Oh no, don't worry guys, I got us, Because if I let this bitch run with it I'd be like, oh my God, what? What is that? And we came up with, like our pretty excited about the logo because we came up with it, and it's, you know it's cool, yeah, so there'll be a new logo for the Living on the Elige series going in November.

Speaker 1: 31:22

So that will. You'll just see the logo pop up and we're excited. We're excited. Good things coming, coming down the path with the sober vibes Living on the Elige moving forward. If you haven't yet, please rate, review and subscribe to the show. All of my free resources are in the show notes below and also, too, if you are interested in coaching or come join the fix. Those links are in the show notes below. Kimmy has a meeting she's leading this Sunday For your self care. Sunday Self care.

Speaker 2: 31:58

Sunday. I'm glad you reminded me.

Speaker 1: 32:00

Thank you, well, yeah, so that's I will say on this right now. It will be Kimmy and Leah's meetings will always now be the last, the last week of the month. So November I started doing just sharing with you, but in November it's going to be all meetings are going to be on Wednesday nights, and then they will. They'll be the first three Saturdays of the month at 1030am Eastern Standard Time and then Kimmy will do the Sunday at noon Eastern Standard Time. So you can check that out on the calendar. There's always the calendar up for the fixed meetings and it's a very cool app and inside there's personal development, sober support, sober check ins, mocktails, all of that jazz and a supportive community. It's $35 a month. So come join, come join and get your support on.

Speaker 2: 32:57

Yeah, it's a positive space according to a really really good job with it and it's cool.

Speaker 1: 33:02

I really is yeah, I'm gonna, I and I'm gonna keep adding in circles. And we'll definitely get one for some health and fitness, if you want accountability and in that journey as well.

Speaker 1: 33:17

So yeah, I'm gonna sign up for that one, super, super excited, because we'll run some challenges into that, you know. So, all right and to, there's a book club, and the book that we're reading for October and November, like this book, is blowing my mind. So which one? It's called in the flow, the one that I told you about cycle thinking and more women need to do, of working with their second cycle, and we have not been doing that for a long time. So grab that book, because it's a good one. I will link it in the show notes below.

Speaker 2: 33:52

Yeah, I'm just gonna borrow it from you.

Speaker 1: 33:56

I will. This one I need to keep, so I'll just, I'll just send you on.

Speaker 2: 33:59

What is your problem? Keep it for what? Because it's worse with her books.

Speaker 1: 34:04

Because they're fucking powerful man and you think about it like any problem that comes up in your life. You could go to the fucking bookstore or on Amazon and be like somebody has a solution for this. Somebody wrote about their expertise and skill and fucking explained all about this. Yeah, and I will give it back after you. Let me borrow it? No, because in there it tells you what foods to be eating during each phase I needed as a reference.

Speaker 2: 34:34

See, guys, this is that shit. She's the worst share ever. It always has been.

Speaker 1: 34:41

You still have books that I've given you that you have not even read yet. What's one? There's five of them. I'm coming over, coming over and right and writing your bookshelf. Well, I'm coming over because I got to see your new crib still and we're just gonna hang out. And I'm just coming over by myself. I'm leaving the dictator at home.

Speaker 2: 35:01

Oh my God, that's great. I'll bring the TV from upstairs to downstairs and we can have a little Bravo day. Great, please, that sounds nice, and then I'll order you all of your life's treats via Uber Eats and you'll see how I live on this side.

Speaker 1: 35:14

I know Kim sent me. Kim sent me crumble cookies for my birthday and God, those were so good.

Speaker 2: 35:21

Yeah, they're pretty. Courtney didn't know about crumble cookies. Those things are. Those shits are lit. I love them.

Speaker 1: 35:26

Yeah, they're good. All right, we'll stop talking. We hope you enjoyed this episode of Living on the Allege. Like I said, please rate, review and subscribe to the show so you never miss an episode. Thank you so much for listening. Stay healthy out there and keep on trucking.

Speaker 2: 35:41

Bye everybody. Be good to yourself.