Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
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Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of forgiveness and letting go.
So, before we begin, can you just think about what number would you give out of 10 for how much you trust that Christmases in the future will be better? And just take a moment to explore the fears around that. What's your biggest fear? If you had a chance to write that down, the biggest fears? Mine was about being in my mom's presence, so it is about this having to, I don't know. Anyways, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. So so that would be great if everybody just focuses on a person. That can have them playing small or feeling small inside, or feeling constricted or feeling angry or whatever. That might be Okay.
Speaker 1:So just close your eyes now and imagine that person before you and just notice what happens to your body. Notice all the judgments, the criticisms, judgments, the criticisms, the expectations that come up. Notice the thought processes, notice what you want to do. Do you want to run away? Do you want to hide? And notice where you feel it in your body? So superconscious. Please treat this subject and all memories associated or related with or to this person Do a structure of associations procedure and then do a massive change, history and everything else needed Superconscious. Please take all positive examples of the body and free flow and create a template based upon these and apply it to the nervous system and repeat this procedure until all pain cycle responses are overridden. Superconscious, please, to a massive change history from birth to now, treating the trauma that caused the fixation of the threshold for mobilising the brain. Then treat the effects of the fixation by doing a massive change here, strain everything and treat the shadow memories In the conscious. Please treat the damaged memory in the association part and restore it to its normal function. Superconscious, please treat the trauma to the memory that runs the neurostructure near the right temple. Then do a massive change here through and everything else changes through and everything else. So we're going to just please treat the damage in the basic neurostructure of the behavior system by adding and removing associations that promotes the easy creation of amnesic parts. Then do a massive change history and everything else. Yes, superconscious, please ask the heart process to treat the cellular memories damaged by trauma, the support, easy creation of parts. Then do a massive change history and everything and treat the shadow memories. Superconscious, now treat all the interconnections of responses, of neural structures that we have addressed to provide a healthy neural condition and do a massive change history and everything with the new conditions and treat all the shadow memories. So again, when you're ready, just keeping your eyes closed for the moment, just imagine that person before you, just notice how your body and mind responds. Now, and when you're ready, just open your eyes. How was that for you? Did anybody have a shift from the beginning to the end?
Speaker 1:Yeah, these things can run very deep and sometimes we even dissociate around a person. So you might find that you know it's so difficult that you, you, you almost step outside yourself. You know you literally just shut everything down and function and, and that can make you know, that can. Just. That just means that some of this can take time and you might want to listen to the recording again if that's the case. But you'll be able to notice it a whole new way now because we'll have released whatever we will or won't have released. We will definitely have released some of the emotional trigger so that you'll be able to see it much more rationally. So it'd be interesting to see that that's often a coping response and that can often be developed, you know, way back in childhood. But yeah, it can make things. It can make you feel very unsafe at a nervous system level when you dissociate, because what you're saying is, this situation is so difficult that it cannot be here, you know. So the more that you can bring yourself back into presence as much as possible if that is what's going on then the more safe that you'll be able to feel and the more that you'll be able to deal with things from you know, from an embodied place.
Speaker 1:Okay, so if you just close your eyes and focus on all that comes up when you think of future Christmases and that fear of maybe loneliness or the co-parenting and all that might come with that, superconscious, please treat the complex predisposition structure Superconscious. Please treat the emotions in the statement what if life doesn't get better? Treat the content and the context and the key themes and then do a structure of associations procedure in all of these and then a massive change, history and everything else needed. So we're going to just please treat the floating fragments in the active experience and the subconscious fragments in the behavior system. So we're going to just please identify all the collages of how do I move forwards in the emotion system and treat the collages in the correct order. Treat the first collage, then follow the associations to the memory elements in memory two and three and treat each memory element in the correct order and, when finished, do a massive change history and everything after that and repeat this procedure for each.
Speaker 1:How do I move forward? Collage in the emotion system Superconscious, please ground and strengthen the nervous system and smooth out all emotional fields. Superconscious, please do a sentence procedure on. I trust that whatever comes, I can absolutely handle it and treat all the parts as they are triggered and then reinforce with as many positive coping behaviours, beliefs, memories and emotions as possible and then do a massive change history and everything else needed. Superconscious, please reinforce the emotion, memories of endless possibilities and treat any contrary parts, beliefs or memories and then repeat this process until there are no more contrary parts, beliefs and memories associated with the experiencing of endless possibilities.
Speaker 1:Treat all unfinished communications, unaligned intentions, expectations, assumptions, conflicts, judgments, resentments, blame, willful obsessions and projections that stand in the way of I trust that a better life is absolutely coming for me. Subconscious, please go back to the first time in life when the set point was developed for what is possible for my life and treat this set point from beginning to end. Okay, so again, just keeping your eyes closed for the moment when you feel ready. Just check in on all that comes up when you think of future Christmases and dealing with the co-parenting, or that loneliness when you're ready. Just open your eyes. How's that all feeling for you now? What's that old feeling for you now?
Speaker 1:And and the thing that can happen is, as we do all this processing, a lot of the difficult stuff is going to come upright, bubbling up to the surface, um, and that's the way that it goes out.
Speaker 1:You know, we have to kind of have some level of consciousness of it as it passes through. So you might find that there's all sorts of difficult thoughts and difficult emotions coming up, but it will all just be passing its way through, and I think you'll find that for you it's going to take about six hours for that to process fully, and then after that point you should feel a whole lot calmer about the whole situation. And and the the interesting thing is that as you respond with a new state of calm and and feel much stronger about the situation, he will respond differently too. You know, because your energies play off one another. And if you aren't there, aren't there kind of feeling helpless and feeling stuck and or whatever that might have been, then he, you know, he, he, he will have responded in a certain way to that energy that you're, you're presenting, so everything shifts in your favor as soon as you uh, you have a stronger energy about it.
