One Day You Finally Knew: For Folx Breaking Away
Women and non-binary folx have been conditioned to believe that we need to stay in relationships, jobs, environments & even conversations that don't serve us. We often stay put, choosing to grin and bear it, offering others the benefit of our continued presence, rather than make the choice to end things and start living our dreaming, rather than keep living the dreaming of others. Jessica Chasnoff, Psy.D. (she/her) is a psychologist and coach with nearly two decades of experience walking alongside folx in transition. One day she finally knew she needed to leave her marriage & start her life anew, despite her fears & the protestations of others. She's been ecstatically exploring her growing edges, which includes life as a joyful renunciant of romantic partnerships, choosing instead to partner with her beloved dogs, her community of dear heart friends, various forms of making art, and the amazing flora & fauna found in the Sonoran desert. Wishing to be a companion to more folx as they prioritize their own dreaming, she hopes this podcast will be an aid & a balm to you on your journey home, to yourself. *****The One Day You Finally Knew: For Folx Breaking Away podcast is mixed and produced by Jessica Chasnoff (she/her), a recovering perfectionist who is always on a learning curve. While she is a psychologist, this podcast is not psychotherapy and is not a substitute for mental health services. If you're struggling with mental health concerns, please reach out to a professional near you.Connect with Jessica:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_deepest_presence/Twitter: http://Twitter.com/@deepestpresenceFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100070192401240Website: https://www.DeepestPresence.com
Episodes
21 episodes
Break Away from Being Okay: 'Cuz No One's on Their Game Right Now
Psst. In this episode, Jessica lets you in on a little secret:No one is f**king okay right now. Okay? So let's just make it okay to not be okay. For our own self-care and self-compassion, as well as how we mo...
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Season 1
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Episode 20
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24:02
Break Away from New Year's Resolutions (Or Ever Being Resolute)
After taking a break from the pod for the last month of 2021, Jessica is back with the first episode of 2022, just in time to attempt to spare us all the external/internal expectations around making resolutions for the new year.What if ...
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Episode 19
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23:24
Breaking Away from Pushing the River
This is the last episode of 2021 before some time away to clarify the next steps for the podcast and book writing. While all of these projects have been exciting, Jessica is coming clean about how when we push the river, we run the risk of that...
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Season 1
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Episode 18
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29:40
Break Away from the Holiday BS
The fall and winter holidays are upon us, which can be a mixed bag for many of us. There might be much holly, jolly, and there might be a great deal of stress. Perhaps both. In this episode, Jessica reminds us that whether we're t...
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Season 1
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Episode 17
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26:55
Break Away from Should-ing On Yourself: Hit Pause on that To-Do List
We're all so fatigued by living in this world in the current state of affairs. Yet, we still have our to-do lists, waiting and constantly beckoning, despite having little energy to complete the tasks. A couple of episodes back, Jessica talked a...
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Season 1
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Episode 16
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25:35
Break Away from Being a Good Girl: Speak Your Truth, Witch
Remembering that courage means to take one's heart in their hands and fearlessness means you might be afraid but are doing it anyway, we can stay true to ourselves, despite the potential consequences. Sometimes those consequences ...
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Season 1
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Episode 15
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22:37
Break Away from Idiot Compassion: Let Your Fierce Flag Fly
The word compassion means to "suffer with" another, but that is often not what we're doing when we think we're offering compassion to someone who is behaving badly. In this culture of enabling and codependency, in our attempts to be lovin...
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Season 1
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Episode 14
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21:06
Break Away from Perfect: Just Get that Sh*t Done
Earlier in the week, Jessica saw a post of Sheryl Sandberg's quote: "Done is better than perfect," and it got her thinking about how we risk getting stuck and even shutting down if we keep picking at a thing endlessly in search of the mystical ...
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Season 1
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Episode 13
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23:03
Breaking Away From Overly High Expectations of Yourself (& Others)
Our families and our patriarchal society have taught us to have extremely high expectations of ourselves and others. And yet, both can lead to deep disappointment.What if the expectations we set for ourselves are so high that we must ev...
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Season 1
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Episode 12
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21:55
Can't Break Away from Mercury Retrograde
I love the Rumi quote, "Try something different. Surrender." I'm applying it here to this week's non-episode. Instead, you're just getting a little announcement.Mercury is retrograde.Everything electronic in my hou...
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Season 1
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Episode 11
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3:44
Break Away From The Binary: From Women To Folx
Before I begin describing this episode, I apologize for the dip in sound quality today. Something is wrong with either my microphone or my computer (computer wiz can't come to sort it out till Tuesday). I decided it was better to choose to reco...
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Season 1
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Episode 10
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20:43
Rest & Digest: Break Away From the Grind
During the annual week away in the mountains with the doggos, on retreat Jessica reflects on the need for rest, not just for proper digestion of physical food, but to digest new emotional, psychological, and energetic material. In...
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Season 1
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Episode 9
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29:59
Self-Care Isn't Selfishness
Thanks to the patriarchy, folx of all genders have been indoctrinated into the belief that women were put on this planet to nurture others. Moreover, when women choose to care for themselves, they're seen as selfish. Is it any wonder we're just...
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Season 1
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Episode 8
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22:26
If A Friendship Isn't Nourishing It's Time To Let It Go
Research has shown the importance of cultivating "sister of the heart" relationships and how they can improve our physical, emotional, and psychological health. But what happens when we realize a friendship is no longer nourishing us? In ...
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Season 1
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Episode 7
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24:04
Breaking Away From Negative Self-Talk: You Do It Bird By Bird
Negative thoughts about yourself come out of nowhere. You mind your own business, and before you know it, BAM! A giant, intrusive shitty thought about yourself has arrived. As soon as these thoughts show up, they shove themselves all up in your...
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Season 1
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Episode 6
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18:18
Break Away From Looking Away: The Sweet Spot Between Taking Too Much In & Checking Out
When something terrible in the world happens that isn't directly happening to us, we have a choice. We can look away, deciding it's too much pain to take in and feel. Or, we can keep looking, deciding to let the pain of the world pierce our hea...
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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27:41
Breaking Away From Not Being Yourself: The Little Girl Inside You Is Welcome At My Lunch Table
So many of us have a little girl that lives inside our hearts. A little girl who could not show the world who she was when we were young because she was misunderstood, told she was too sensitive, and potentially ostracized from peer groups and ...
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Season 1
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Episode 4
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22:39
Cultivating Patience For Your Process
Deciding to leave something (or someone) is a creative process. It doesn't happen overnight. We must sit and steep in the possibilities, spend the necessary time contemplating the actions, and only then can we make our move. The breaking ...
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Season 1
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Episode 3
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19:30
From the Desert With Love: A Hydration Meditation
The glorious monsoon Tucson is having this summer has Jessica thinking about hydration. After a good long soak, you can almost hear the desert flora and fauna sighing with relief. What would happen if we got to have our own sigh? If we sl...
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Episode 2
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5:52
Consent Is Not A Constant: Giving Yourself Permission To Change Your Mind
As women, we've been indoctrinated into believing the misogynist demand that once we've consented to something, we don't have the right to change our minds. But, consent is not a constant. If we listen closely to what our body is telling us, mo...
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Season 1
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Episode 1
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20:31