Confessions of a Recovering Micromanaging Perfectionist Martyr
As a mother of four and a self-proclaimed micromanaging - perfectionist - martyr, I constantly need to be reminded that control leaves me lonely, perfection can paralyze me, and caring for others over myself leads to resentment. Join me as I try to navigate being a structure-luvin' gal, in an absolutely chaotic household.
Episodes
352 episodes
Forreste Jolicoeur - People Pleasing
Ever switch bags to keep the peace? đď¸đ
Cousin Forreste shares an honest moment that unpacks way more than just Tupperware. This oneâs all about people-pleasing, overthinking, and learning to let go of the need to be liked. Youâll laugh, nod, a...
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Season 9
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Episode 35
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4:05
When Helping Hurts - Knowing Whoâs Ready for Healing
Is it our job to help someone heal if theyâre not ready? đžđ This weekâs chat with my future-vet daughter got me thinking about boundaries, burnout, and the fine line between being helpful... and being human. đ§ đś Tune in for a gentle reminder th...
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Season 9
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Episode 34
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3:54
Make Me - Being Forced To Do Things I Donât Want To Do
Some hills are just too steep to climb alone. đââď¸đ¨ Whether itâs a college sprint or a life moment that stops you cold, this oneâs about how asking for help (yep, out loud!) might be the bravest, strongest step of all. You donât have to do the ...
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Season 9
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Episode 33
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6:40
Overcorrecting - Caring Too Much About Kidsâ Feelings
Ever wonder if weâre swinging too far the other way when it comes to parenting? đŹ Letâs talk about choices, feelings, and aunts who smells like mothballsâin a completely loving way. â¤ď¸ A little discomfort can go a long way. Come hang with us fo...
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Season 9
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Episode 32
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7:08
Give Your Kid the Biggest Leg Up In Life - Teaching Manners
Can good manners really give kids a leg up in life? In a world where âpleaseâ and âthank youâ are becoming rare, weâre diving into how teaching respect and gratitude can open doors for your kids. From little phrases to big life lessons, it turn...
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Season 9
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Episode 31
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6:34
Does Parenting Get Easier? That Depends on Me
Ever feel buried under your kidsâ to-do lists? Letâs chat about a little parenting shift that could lighten your load and help your kids grow up a bit faster. In this episode, we explore how letting go of certain responsibilities can make paren...
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Season 9
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Episode 30
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5:01
Letting Go of One-Way Relationships - Finding Balance in Connection
Do you find yourself always reaching out but rarely hearing back? Letâs talk about one-way relationships and how to find balance without bitterness. In this episode, weâre diving into the tricky art of letting go (without the guilt) and focusin...
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Season 9
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Episode 29
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3:15
3 Things to Ask Before Responding or Sending Emotional Texts
Ever felt the urge to fire off a text in the heat of the moment? Yeah, me too. Before you hit send (or reply), letâs chat about three simple questions that can save you from potential regretâand maybe even preserve your sanity. Whether itâs emo...
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Season 9
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Episode 28
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6:20
The Lens of Beauty - Make Your Home Your Sanctuary
What if you didnât need chaos to justify a pause? In this episode, Christine Toner and Lisa Roche from The Lens of Beauty share a perspective shift that invites more ease, stillness, and beauty into your life. From home spaces to heads...
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Season 9
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Episode 27
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7:50
Winter Pace - The Art of Doing Something While Doing Nothing
Winter slows me downâand Iâm okay with that⌠mostly. But thereâs a fine line between restful and restless, and Iâve found a sneaky little way to keep from feeling like a total slug. In this episode, weâre talking about embracing the seasonâs sl...
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Season 9
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Episode 26
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3:41
Confessions of a Martyr - Falling Off the Wagon
Ever feel like you're stretched too thin? Same. This fall had me questioning my relationship with martyrdom and learning to prioritize my VIPs. In this episode, weâre talking about balancing the people on our "plane of life" without guilt, stre...
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Season 9
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Episode 25
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3:32
Happy Valentineâs Day - The Best Thing I Can Do For Love
Ever notice how some things feel huge in the moment but really arenât? Same. Over time, Iâve learned that if everything is heavy, nothing is heavy. In this episode, weâre talking about how to lighten up, address issues without the dram...
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Season 9
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Episode 24
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4:28
Expectations - Am I Setting People Up for Failure?
Ever thrown a perfect pass only to watch it drop? Maybe you're passing to a running back, not a wide receiver. In this episode, we dive into expectationsâhow they shape our relationships and sometimes set us (and others) up for failure. With Su...
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Season 9
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Episode 23
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5:05
Complain, Complain - When You Talk To Your Friends, Remember THIS!
Tired of being stuck in the same old box? This episode dives into the art of venting with intentionâshifting from endless complaints to actionable solutions. By tuning into your patterns and taking control of what you can change, youâl...
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Season 9
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Episode 22
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5:47
Being A Good Friend - Checking My Motivation
Whatâs your motivation when offering feedback? This episode explores how our personal agendas can influence our relationships. Learn how pausing to ask yourself this key question can strengthen your connections, empower others, and keep your fr...
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Season 9
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Episode 21
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3:23
Planning Ahead - A Self-Care Hack for After Holiday Mondays
Feeling the Monday holiday whiplash? Letâs prep for Take It Easy Tuesday! This episode is your guide to managing expectations after a long weekend. Whether itâs laundry, grocery runs, or simply resting, the goal is to keep things light...
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Season 9
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Episode 20
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3:07
Trouble Getting Your Ducks in a Row? 6 Steps to Gentle Motivation
Feeling stuck in slow-mo? This episode explores six gentle steps to help motivate without beating yourself up. Perfect for those struggling to "get their ducks in a row," itâs about patience, compassion, and baby steps. Whether you're nailing r...
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Season 9
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Episode 19
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5:17
Keely McCarthy - Building Support for Life
Ever feel like you need a little extra support to hit your goals? Join me as I share my cousin Keely Grace McCarthyâs take on "scaffolding"âa method to build the framework you need for growth. Letâs kick off the New Year with tools that empower...
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Season 9
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Episode 18
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4:27
Vacation Gone Wild - What Are We Doing to Ourselves?
Vacations are for letting loose, right? But what happens when our âvacation modeâ habits take overâlate nights, impulse buys, and ice cream for breakfast? This week, weâre embracing the chaos, silencing that inner critic, and exploring why givi...
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Season 9
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Episode 17
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5:06
To DO or DONâT - Whatâs the Most Loving Choice Today?
The holidays can be a whirlwind of to-dos, but what if we paused to ask: âWhatâs the most loving choice for me today?â This week, weâre diving into the art of balancing self-care with seasonal demands. From guilt-free gym skips to indulging in ...
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Season 9
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Episode 16
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3:50
Julie Fitzpatrick - An Exit Ramp Appears
Ever felt stuck in a situation where staying the course just doesnât feel right? This week, weâre exploring the courage it takes to find and follow lifeâs exit rampsâespecially in relationships. Whether youâre navigating a breakup, a divorce, o...
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Season 9
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Episode 15
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4:36
All I Want for Christmas VII - Separate Beds
Ever wondered why weâre still squeezing into the same bed when survival no longer depends on it? In this episode, weâre challenging sleep traditions and exploring how sleeping separately might actually save your sanityâand your relationship. Fr...
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Season 9
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Episode 14
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5:34
What Do My Actions Say? Practicing What I Preach
In this quick confession, weâre diving into an Emerson quote that hits home: "What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say." Itâs one I remind my kids of often, but today, Iâm taking a closer look at my own actions, especially w...
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Season 9
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Episode 13
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2:50
Making the Holidays With Family Easier - Donât Be Surprised
Why do family quirks still catch us off guard? This episode dives into the humor (and relief!) of letting go of surprise when loved ones show their âtrue colors.â Inspired by Dan Shayâs recent stories, weâre embracing family for who they areâqu...
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Season 9
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Episode 12
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3:20
Dan Shay - Why Am I Surprised?
Ever find yourself frustrated by the same things over and over? In this episode, Dan Shay, beloved teacher and fellow TeamConfessioner, shares a simple mindset shift he discovered on the golf course that helped him let go of frustrationâeven wh...
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Season 9
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Episode 11
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7:08
