Confessions of a Recovering Micromanaging Perfectionist Martyr
As a mother of four and a self-proclaimed micromanaging - perfectionist - martyr, I constantly need to be reminded that control leaves me lonely, perfection can paralyze me, and caring for others over myself leads to resentment. Join me as I try to navigate being a structure-luvin' gal, in an absolutely chaotic household.
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Thriving vs. Surviving - Finding Better Light
Confessions post #400 đ Two identical plants. Same water. Same house. But one thrived⌠and the other barely survived. đż That small difference got me thinking about how environment, awareness, and tiny shifts can change the way we grow. In this ...
Family Spirit - Lessons From College Culture
A random 4AM thought led me down an unexpected path: what if families had their own version of college school spirit? đ In this episode, I reflect on the culture some universities createâand how that same sense of pride, loyalty, and belonging ...
Productivity and Guilt - Letting Go of Constant Busyness
For years I ran at full speed keeping life on track for our family. Now that things are quieter, something surprising keeps showing upâguilt when Iâm not being productive. đ In this episode, I reflect on learning (very slowly) to sit in a momen...
Confessions Conversations: Christine & Dave Part I
Sometimes life delivers news that stops everything. In this first Confessions Conversation, I sit down with my friends Christine and Dave to reflect on the moment their world shifted in 2019. What followed was fear, unexpected kindness, quiet s...
Hockey Community - Fierce Players, Fierce Families
My eighth and final high school hockey season has ended đâď¸ This episode is a small love letter to fierce girls on the ice, welcoming coaches on the bench, and the warm communities that grow in freezing rinks. Itâs about pride, gratitude, and n...
The Cost of Guilt - Learning My Value
Ever notice how guilt can sneak into even the smallest decisionsâlike spending money on yourself? đ¸ In this episode, I share a story about the quiet cost of believing I wasnât âworthâ the investment. From babysitters to yoga retreats, the lesso...
Life Balance Check-In â My Personal Scoreboard
After weeks of scoreboard talk, I started wondering if thereâs a kinder way to check in on how lifeâs really going. In this episode, I share a simple Life Balance Wheel Iâve been using to get a quick snapshot of my âgame of life.â Curiou...
Strong Game Energy - My Personal Playbook
Last week we talked about lifeâs unofficial scorekeepers âžď¸âŚ and that got my brain spinning. If life really is a game, what kind of player do I want to be out there? In this episode, Iâm sharing a few of the ârulesâ in my personal playbookâfrom...
Youâre Not My Scoreboard - Who Gets a Vote?
Ever feel like someone in your life is quietly keeping score? âžď¸ A recent conversation got me reflecting on opinions, boundaries, and those moments when it feels like someone else is calling balls and strikes in my life. In this episode, I shar...
Confessions Conversations: Julie Fitzpatrick
What happens after the life you planned quietly changes? đą In this gentle conversation, Julie shares pieces of her storyâdivorce, rediscovering her inner voice, and the slow process of rebuilding. Along the way, we explore quiet truths, friends...
Thirty-Somethings - Growing, Grinding, and Glowing
⨠A love note to all the tired 30-something legends: grinding, growing, and glowing (quietly) through the mayhem. Life in your 30s can feel like a group project with no project managerâstrong opinions, and the emotional bandwidth of a chewed-up...
Toxic Positivity - Why I Still Choose the Bright Side
đ§ď¸ Heard of âtoxic positivityâ? This episode unpacks what it really meansâwithout shaming the sunny side. âď¸ Come sit with a story about burnout, empathy, and finding the light (gently). đ No fixing, just a soft place to land.
Why Change Feels Bad - And What to Remember
đŻ Change doesnât always feel goodâand thatâs not a red flag. In this weekâs episode, we explore the messy middle of starting new things (and why itâs worth it). đđ From golf coaches to breastfeeding flashbacks, hereâs your humble reminder that ...
Pause Before Helping - 2 Questions to Consider
𧺠Thoughtful or over-the-top? This episode shares a moment where clean laundry led to a cleaner mindset. Two tiny questions made a big shift. đĄđ Before you help (again), take a moment with us. It might just save you a round trip to Resentment T...
The Final Reframe â Just Neuroscience and Kindness
Weâre closing out our self-talk series đ but this isnât goodbye, just a pause to reflect. This episode unpacks what happens when you swap âtruth-tellingâ for true kindnessâand how science has quietly had our backs all along đ§ ⨠One fina...
Parenting My Words - One Snarky Comment at a Time
Ever caught yourself saying âWhatâs a nicer way you couldâve said that?â đ Sameâexcept this time, I asked myself. This weekâs episode is about trading MamaDeâs Passive-Aggressive Playlist đś for something softer, clearer, and way m...
Outdated Self-Talk â Time for a Reframe
What if your most âhonestâ self-talk is actually holding you back? đ§ đ This week, Iâm sharing the surprising reframes that are helping me trade old truths for new pathways. Itâs not about pretendingâitâs about practicing a voice that helps, not ...
Confessions Conversations: Melissa OâHara
Ever snapped at âWhatâs for dinner?â đ˝ď¸đ¤ Yeah⌠same. This week on Confessions Conversations, my friend Melissa OâHara joins me for a raw + real chat about burnout, brain rewiring đ§ , and finding calm in the chaos. If youâve ever felt like the
Self-Talk 2026 - A Mindset Shift I Wasnât Expecting
New year, new neural pathways? đ§ ⨠This week kicks off our Self-Talk 2026 seriesâwhere weâre quietly rewriting those old scripts in our heads. If youâve ever felt like your inner voice is more critic than coach, youâre in good company. đŹđ Letâs ...
Happy Fend For Yourself Day!
đ Happy Fend For Yourself Day! đ This episode celebrates doing absolutely nothingâwith love, humor, and a dash of self-talk magic. đď¸ Whether you're lounging or traveling, this one's a cozy reminder that rest isnât lazyâitâs imperative. ⨠Kids,...
BONUS: Positive Self-Talk â Helmstetter Book Recap
Curious about What to Say When You Talk to Yourself? đđ§ This bonus episode offers a gentle, bite-sized summary of Shad Helmstetterâs classic book on self-talkâwhat it is, how it works, and why it matters đŹđ. If youâve been looking for ...
SelfâTalk WakeâUp Call â A New Voice Thatâs Changing Me
My kids gave me a wake-up call years ago đłâand it turns out, I needed another one! This episode explores how our self-talk đ§ becomes the soundtrack of our livesâand the power of softening the script đ. No pressure, no perfectionâjust one curiou...
Craving More Validation â See the Care Behind the Quiet
Ever feel like you're giving out standing ovations đ... and getting occasional golf claps in return? đŹ This episode peeks behind the silence to explore the many ways love shows upâespecially when praise isn't part of the package. From popcorn m...
All I Want for Christmas VIII - A Break from Being On Call
đ This season, I found myself juggling connection and controlâagain. A night out, a few unchecked texts, and a family FaceTime later, I realized the âhotlineâ I was running was one I created. Tune in for a reflection on presence, letti...
Learning to Prune â A Shift in Parenting Growing Kids
What if your own branches đż are crowding someone elseâs light? A gentle look at parenting growing kids, inspired by gardening âď¸, overgrowth, and the quiet gift of letting go đPosts referenced in this episode:
