Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary.
Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in! To learn more about Barb, go to https://higherpowercc.com/
Episodes
331 episodes
Five Ways to Keep the Focus on You to Create Internal Safety | Episode 327
The constant focus on things and people outside of your control is draining. I spent too many years of my life in this vicious cycle of external focus and validation, leaving me feeling like a fragmented, boundaryless version of myself. But all...
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Letting Go Without Falling Apart: Real Stories of Boundaries and Self-Care | Episode 326
Self-care is the very first personal boundary. It's the essential line between you and burnout, between you and your old perfectionism, and between you and the belief that your self-worth depends on what you produce. Many of us intellectually u...
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Episode 326
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From Flattened to Free-How to Escape the Bulldozer Cycle | Episode 325
The bulldozer cycle, in relation to people pleasing, is the concept of feeling perpetually flattened by the demands and needs of others, trapped in a hidden cycle that leads to burnout and frustration. I’ll be the first to admit that setting he...
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Why Experience Matters More Than Credentials (And How to Own Yours) | Episode 324
Too many of us get caught up in perfectionism, thinking that we have to meet every requirement before we're worthy and not to put ourselves out there until we're certain we won't fail. In my case, I was caught up in believing I was “too much” u...
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How the Victim Role Hijacks Workplace Meetings (and What to Do Instead) | Episode 323
Victim mentality shows up in all areas of our lives, but when it pops up in the workplace, it can derail an entire team of people and quietly take control over the workplace. Today, I want to peel back the curtain on how the victim role can tak...
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Episode 323
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Back to School, Not Back to Chaos- 5 Scripts for Sanity This Fall | Episode 322
The beginning of the school year is a difficult time for teachers and parents alike. Volunteer and extra curricular requests come in, calendars fill up, and before you know it, you’ve reached your capacity and your calendar is in chaos. Today, ...
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Why Boundaries are the Rules of the Road for Life with 10 Examples | Episode 321
The reason we have rules of the road is because they're social boundaries. They exist to prevent harm, to reduce accidents and to create flow. When everyone keeps the focus on themselves, staying in their lane, following the rules, respec...
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Episode 321
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The Planets Aligned with Guest Kelly Walker | Episode 320
Kelly Walker's story today is a powerful reminder that "the planets align" when we commit to our healing journey, even when it's terrifying.This week’s episode 320of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about when the planets align!
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Episode 320
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Why Mindset Matters More Than You Think: Boundaries, Recovery, and Belief | Episode 319
What we believe is real becomes real in its consequences. And when our beliefs are negative, self-depricating, or otherwise limiting, they can create barriers in our lives. But when we rewire our brains and our beliefs shift, our behav...
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Episode 319
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How to Go From Permeable to Protected- Building an Emotional Force Field | Episode 318
One of the most common themes I see in my clients (and something I have experienced myself) is that we literally feel other people’s feelings. We’re permeable to them because we don’t have a boundary. This week’s episode 318 of the Fragmented t...
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Episode 318
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Why Controlling Everything Still Doesn't Make You Feel Better | Episode 317
Many of us find ourselves in this delusional thinking that the outside world could give us satisfaction, if only things went our way. The truth? There is no external solution to internal pain, and it only brings you deeper into a victim mentali...
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Episode 317
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How to Backfill the Love You Didn't Get as a Child | Episode 316
Recovery showed me that I abused and neglected myself physically, psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually. I stayed in relationships and workplaces that were toxic, and I put up with abuse from bosses, colleagues, sweethearts, and others....
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Episode 316
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Keep the Focus on Yourself- The #1 Boundary Setting Rule | Episode 315
People tend to hear the motto “keep the docus on yourself” and think it means “be selfish.” That could not be further from the truth. It’s actually about stopping your focus on what other people, places, and things are doing (or not doing) and ...
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Episode 315
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How I'm Choosing Depth Over Hustle and What That Means for You | Episode 314
When I started this podcast, I had no idea that it would turn into such a meaningful part of my work and my connection to you all. What started as a place for me to share my lessons and experiences through recovery turned into a place for creat...
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Episode 314
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How to Go from Victim Mentality to Empowered Living - You Have Choices | Episode 313
Before recovery, I had no idea how many areas of my life I didn’t even perceive as having a choice in. I thought, ‘This is just the way it is; this is just how life works.’ But one of the greatest freedoms recovery has given me is learning that...
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Episode 313
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The Humbling Truth Behind My Need to Rescue and How I Got Out of It | Episode 312
For much of my life, I've known that one of my most hated human characteristics is arrogance. So, imagine my surprise when I learned in recovery that I was arrogant. Recovery also helped me understand that I hated it because it was something in...
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Episode 312
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Choosing Peace Over Panic- Why I Stopped Watching the News | Episode 311
When my homeless friend moved in with me, we often listened to music instead of NPR, which was typical for me at the time. I came to realize that replacing politics with music shifted my mood drastically. When I was no longer filling my ears wi...
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Episode 311
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It's Hard to Get Off the Ground When Your Wings Are Cut with Mark | Episode 310
For some of us who struggle with addiction, we’re using our addiction to fill some type of hole we’re feeling. Today’s guest, Mark, was using his compulsive, addictive behaviors in an attempt to fill a “God-sized hole” in his life. He shares wi...
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Episode 310
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How to Find Peace: Mastering Acceptance in Difficult Times [Replay] | Episode 309
Before recovery, I had heard all about the importance of acceptance, but my question still remained: How do I do it? It wasn’t just one thing that helped me but a series of lessons that helped me change my thinking, reduce emotional suffering, ...
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Episode 309
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How to Go Beyond 'Woe is Me'- Sylvia's Powerful Shift to Self-Ownership | Episode 308
Regardless of how long I have been working with clients as a boundaries coach, I am still amazed by the mind-blowing revelations my clients have as a result of working with me. Today, I am sharing one of these profound experiences by sharing a ...
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Episode 308
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Compulsive Overeating Recovery- Discovering Unconditional Love After a Food Slip | Episode 307
One of the most profound things I have worked on in my recovery journey is showing love to myself even after I make a mistake. So, when I had a recent experience where my unconditional love was tested after a slip-up with food, I had to share i...
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Episode 307
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How to Unpack Emotional Unavailability- My Journey to Feeling My Feelings (and Yours) | Episode 306
For years, I thought emotional unavailability happened to me, not something I actively participated in. Spoiler alert: I was dead wrong. Today, I'm pulling back the curtain on my journey from emotional unavailability to emotional a...
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Episode 306
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From Reactor to Responder- How to Break Free from Old Patterns | Episode 305
One of the promises of ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) is that we go from being a reactor to an actor in our lives. This means taking a proactive approach to our lives rather than reacting to what...
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Episode 305
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How to Handle Life's Demands Without Losing Your Shit | Episode 304
Changes in medicine, technology, currency, and so much more are happening at an exponential rate, and our ability to adapt is either going to make or break us. If you're able to adapt, you'll be able to thrive instead of just surviving or exist...
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Episode 304
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When Love Means Letting Go- How to Break the Cycle of Codependency | Episode 303
Codependency in relationships can be a complex cycle to break, especially when it comes to family members. We tend to tolerate toxic behaviors for the sake of love and loyalty. That’s why today I wanted to unpack some of the myths around loyalt...
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