The Moment Your Ego Dies (And Your Real Self Appears) with Raquel DaRowe

You can build a life that looks perfect on paper and still feel quietly trapped inside it. That’s where our conversation with Raquel DeRowe begins, with the moment she realized her “success” was an illusion and the simplest sentence changed everything: “I have a choice.” From there we follow the thread into what a soul-aligned life actually requires, not hustle or more achievement, but the courage to see the beliefs and blind spots that shape your identity from the subconscious.

Raquel shares how she guides people through ego over-identification, inner wounds, and the stories we make from painful experiences like “I’m not enough” or “it’s not safe to be me.” We unpack how triggers can act like a mirror, how nervous system regulation creates space to hear your own truth, and why compassion matters more than blame when you’re trying to change. We also talk rapid transformational therapy (RTT), hypnotherapy, and why getting to the root belief can create the kind of freedom that talk alone sometimes can’t reach.

We go beyond one-on-one healing into the power of community: women’s circles, solstice and equinox gatherings, full moon dance parties, movement, and singing as medicine. If you’ve been craving authenticity, purpose, and a practical path out of autopilot, you’ll leave with grounding questions you can try right away and a reminder that your capacity to be seen can expand faster than you think. 

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Singing As Medicine And Self-Trust

Raquel DaRowe 1:14

Now singing is such medicine for me because yeah, I just allow myself, it's not to sing to perform, it's to sing, you know, to enjoy. It's to sing to connect. It's sing to um express, right? It's sing to alchemize pain and suffering into art, you know.

Osha Rose, Host 1:34

Welcome back, everyone. This is The Super bloom Podcast. When we come together to share our stories where we are, as we are, we help each other wake up what is hiding beneath the surface in our lives and in our hearts. It's time to enjoy this precious life. So today, I'm gonna bring on Raquel. Oh, welcome. I am so excited to have you here. So Raquel DeRot's journey since leaving her corporate profession has led her through training as a hypnotherapist, rapid transformational therapy practitioner, life coach, classically trained Jeff. But at the heart of your work, she is helping people live a soul-aligned, extraordinary life. And I'm just I'm just curious what that means to you. Like just to start out there. But welcome, yay. Hello.

Triggers Point To Inner Wounds

Raquel DaRowe 2:22

So excited to be here. You have such a beautiful voice. I was just listening to you in that intro, and I'm like, oh, I love, love your boy. Thank you. So what that means to me is really helping bring awareness to these blind spots that um create this like mental and energetic prison, like confinement, that essentially block us from our true essence, like our soul, you know, like our just soul's expression, right? And the way I sort of explain it is like it's being like over-identified with the ego, you know, just like part of our identity that um was shaped in a certain way. And so I just help bring awareness to, you know, these like inner narratives and this, these constraints that literally like mold our and shape our identity. And so when people can see, you know, another way of me saying it is like I help you sort of see and understand like what you're not or who you're not in order to truly like connect with who you are. And it's just this journey of like knowing thyself on such a deep, intimate way and like level that at least for me and my journey, the more I get to know myself, the more I love myself. Like it's just it's such an expansive, beautiful journey of really like understanding all of like the coping mechanisms and behavioral adaptations and sort of these sort of things that I used to look at as like um undesirable qualities, right? And when I can trace it back to really like get why, you know, the the who, the where, the what, the why, it's so beautiful because typically like it just arose from past hurt and this deep compassion, this deep understanding, you know, it's like I can really be with myself, I can be with anything. And for me, that journey has been so expansive. It has been so beautiful to really like know myself on such a deep level, you know. It reminds me of this African proverb if there's no enemy within, the enemy without can do no harm. I'll just let that sink in for a second. Right? It's hard.

Osha Rose, Host 4:47

I was just gonna say it back like if there's no enemy within within the enemy without can do no harm.

When Success Still Feels Empty

Raquel DaRowe 4:54

And I can just explain what that means to me. Yes, and what that means to me, because a lot of times we get triggered, we get activated by something someone says or some circumstance. And typically, if we're willing to look within, I also say life is a mirror. That's not my saying. It just, you know, it's just uh part of the universal laws, right? And when we're willing to sort of see what seed or what inner wound is being poked by like what something said, what someone said, or what is being mirrored to me, the enemy is essentially like if I don't already have that belief or that the way I view myself, if it's in alignment in some capacity vibrationally, energetically, what someone said, if it is in alignment, it activates me because it's like poking and touching at like a wound that I haven't integrated. Interesting, yes, yes, this is the way this is the way I see it. Yeah, right. And why I find this so powerful. And if I have done the work and have integrated, you know, all of these inner woundings, right? The I'm not enough, I'm not worthy, it's not safe to be me. For me, it's like I'm misunderstood, I'm insignificant, I'm a disappointment, like a lot of these things that I didn't consciously say to myself, but they were very much like made up the fabric of my identity and based on like past events where I was hurt and didn't, you know, have the capacity to really like make sense of a situation. If I am willing to look at the depths of like my pain and my suffering and see what did I make that mean about myself? I made it mean that I'm not worthy, I'm a disappointment, all the things, right? Is it true? And it's sort of mapping it back. No, it's not true. It's a story and the meaning that I created based on an experience, right? It's just been so profound for me to be able to go back and map back and bring light, bring awareness to these like massive blind spots, so I could see it's not true. I could see, you know, I made it up. And what's really important to me is not to negate the human experience, how terrifying, how difficult, how challenging it was. So it's holding both. It's holding and really embracing my humanity, right? If there's, you know, not that belief system or energetics like within ourselves, and if someone says something or does something, or like some sort of circumstance arises that could sort of activate it, it's been integrated. So it's not being poked and activated when someone says something. You know, the work is truly like knowing yourself so deeply, working through these inner woundings. So they, you know, it's not an area that can be like poked and activated. Like I'm grounded in myself, secure, I know who I am. You know, I'm not allowing others to determine who I am, right? It's essentially this, yeah, this beautiful journey and process of helping people bring to awareness of like who they're not, right? You're not your this your ego, you're not yeah. When you're asking, is this true? You can say no, or you can say yes. Sure, to help them really see how there is what happened. And then there are stories and meanings that we create based from like what happens.

Osha Rose, Host 8:07

And I'm happy to give an example of like Yeah, I'm like thinking of for you, or or even just to tie it back to this transition for you from kind of where you are today from this corporate world. Like, was there a moment where you realized this isn't true? Like as far as the work you were doing?

I Have A Choice Breakthrough

Fear Pulls Her Back To Corporate

Raquel DaRowe 8:23

It was well before, sort of it's actually what catalyzed and started my journey and deep self-understanding and like wanting to know and really like understand the root of suffering and really also understand freedom. The two spectrums of like, okay, I thought I had everything that I wanted, yeah, and yet I'm so unfulfilled. It was around 29 years old, uh, was engaged to be married, I had a great corporate job, I owned my own home, I just bought my dream car, all of these things. Like, I had checked the checkboxes of what I was like conditioned to believe was success. And here I found myself so unfulfilled. In my mind, I was like, there must be something wrong with me. So I started going to therapy because I was like, legit, there must be something wrong with me. Like, how is this so? What came to me just like a lightning bolt. I actually did not want to move forward with my engagement. Went to therapy and I allowed myself to truly be honest with myself. What do I want? Because for so long, I was in this job, like molded into this being of who I thought I should be. I was doing essentially like being the girl that I thought society and my family and everyone around me thought I should be. I was sort of ruminating, it was like hopelessness, helplessness, like what do I do? It was a couple months before our wedding date and just like looping thoughts, looping thoughts. Yeah, it was torturing myself. And finally, this like profound statement, which is so simple, I have a choice came through. And it hit me unlike, you know, it was just so profound. I was like, oh my god, yes, I do have a choice. And I just realized I had been living in this world where I don't have a choice. I should do this, I must do that, I have to do this, you know. And just so much shifted after that. So I ended my engagement. Wow, I left corporate, I enrolled in culinary school, I went on this three-week amazing safari trip with my mom and my sister and my friend. Yeah, just so much shifted, right? Because I was like, whoa, freedom, like amazing. Yes, I have a choice, right? I don't have to be this person who again, I thought I needed to be. Right? Yes, yes.

Osha Rose, Host 10:50

Um how was that for you? Like, was it just easy to have your whole life everything change like that? Because you were in this new mindset of I'm free, I have a choice, or was it were there moments?

Raquel DaRowe 11:01

Yeah, I mean, it was for sure like definitely moments of just the such profound freedom, just really joying action, yeah, and and making decisions and choices based on what I wanted, right? And like what brought me joy and enjoyment. Just testing it out. What does it feel like? What does it even feel like to take aligned action from a place of joy and true, like like heart-centered decision, right? After culinary school had finished, I was in this space where you know I paid for culinary school myself, and the the finances started to dwindle a little bit, fear started to kick in, right? And so then I found myself like going back into old ways and patterns of like, oh, this um woman from my previous advertising agency had reached out and she's like, you know, I'm working at this new advertising agency. I really feel like you would love it. It's so different, it's so fun. And I was like, Oh, I could do this. Oh my goodness. Yeah, I got baited back in, right? Fear kicked in. I was like, oh, but I'm so good at like I know what I'm doing, you know, and it's like a way to pay off my security totally, exactly. It's a way to have security and stability and all of the things. So I ended up taking the job, um, worked part-time, teaching cooking classes. And so I was like, oh, I have the best of both worlds. You know, I can start experimenting, you know, with teaching cooking classes and take classes that interested me. I ended up enrolling in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition Health Coaching Program. Um, and still, yeah, like it was like very much like still searching, you know, searching for my thing. And it was the energy of searching, right? Like I wanted to find my purpose. I wanted to find why I'm here. It was very much a journey. And and digging into, you know, what makes us who we are, right? And there was just this like wonder and curiosity again around understanding suffering, understanding freedom, and like there's just like a banana by your side.

RTT Hypnotherapy And The Subconscious

Osha Rose, Host 13:10

What do you think? Beautiful, beautiful.

Raquel DaRowe 13:14

That's why you don't have to eat it. That's that's all right. Just put it down. So funny. You just peeled a banana and she doesn't want to eat it. So she's she can peel a banana. Yeah, she's letting me know that. Um so funny.

Osha Rose, Host 13:29

You were in that searching mode and it's just beautiful.

Raquel DaRowe 13:32

Totally, yeah. It was searching for sure. Then I took a life coaching certification and started to uh on the side, you know, like less on the other side. You've got all these sides to record less of the the culinary and um teaching culinary classes and more in the coaching. It's like the next page. And it was still like I was super passionate about it, still am. It was just for me, I was like, I don't know that I want to make a career out of this.

Osha Rose, Host 14:01

You told me how to make those kale chips. I like everything you said, I just like embodied it. I could tell how much you loved it. I forgot that you were trained. Yeah.

Raquel DaRowe 14:09

Yeah. So glad I did it. How do you know if you truly are meant for something or truly enjoy it if you don't try it out? With the coaching, what I found is like, wow, I love this. It's still not my thing because I there's something so much deeper for me when I understood the subconscious. When I started to understand the power and the significance that our subconscious mind like sort of plays in the whole realm of like, you know, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, actions, results, like essentially that cascade of creation. I was like, yes, like, yes, this is it. And so for me, that journey began with taking this rapid transformational therapy training with Marissa Peer around hypnotherapy, but also like her specific methodology, um, which combines a lot of different types of therapies. Like hypnosis is like one of the tools, and then many other therapeutic practices are sort of like rolled into that. And so then I was like, yes, this feels so much more in alignment and powerful. And then the results I was seeing with my clients were just like so much more profound, actually getting to the root of feeling unworthy, you know, feeling not enough. And yeah, that has sort of just been the journey bringing in other tools to help enhance that. And for me, I've taken it more from like a spiritual soul path lens, right? And not so much like therapy, it's it's really again now coming back to like helping people see who they're not, right? You're not your ego, you're not your beliefs, you're not your thoughts, right? That a lot of people, including myself, for so long was over-identified with.

Osha Rose, Host 15:56

Can I have you repeat that to me? You are not your thoughts, you are not your ego.

Women’s Circles Dance And Song

Raquel DaRowe 16:01

Right. And then connect to who we truly are. You cannot help but love yourself when you truly connect to the essence and the truth of who you are, and not from a place of like fixing or not from a place like I'm not good enough. It's truly from a place of like expansion. Wow. I just feel like my capacity continues to expand and expand and expand. And it's just, I know that it's like it's part of the journey in evolution, and I want to like experience, you know, more, and I want to experience more of myself. I want to experience more of my true essence and my freedom and my, you know, creative potential. And now that has shifted very much into like just exploring, like I get to looking at life like a scavenger hunt, picking up on these like subtle synchronicities and these subtle clues and listening and saying yeah, when these clues totally like ignite something, right? And so when I did that recently with, I decided to take a Reiki class, but never thought that that would be something, right? And it's just follow the breadcrumbs, follow pings of joy and enjoyment. And I have no idea where that's gonna lead. Who knows? But I know it was like you need to be there, and I'm like, okay.

Osha Rose, Host 17:14

Yeah, I'm just showing up. Yeah, so now today, you don't just work one-on-one with people, there's there's other gatherings and circles, and where are you today? And you're superblooming. What else is it?

Raquel DaRowe 17:25

Yeah, so today I work one-on-one. I host monthly women's circles, I host equinox and solstice gatherings. You and I host these really fun full moon dance parties on the beach. I absolutely love group containers because they're so potent and powerful. We learn about ourselves through stories of others, right? Parts of ourselves that may be completely blind, like blind spots, right? When someone actually is authentic and they're open and they share what they've been going through. Nine times out of ten, it can relate. Like, wow, I can totally see myself. I see that story in that when we allow ourselves to truly be seen and heard and held by others, it's magic, it's so powerful. It's medicine, it's such medicine. I've just found, you know, especially going to like women's events where it's like we're dancing naked in the rain. I was doing topless yoga, right? Yes, yes, yes, yes, please. Yeah, just the like level of freedom and like, yeah, ecstasy in terms of just like wow, like joy, like bliss. There's just something when you have no clothes on, it's just I'm there's nothing to hide. There's nothing to hide, there's nothing to defend, there's nothing to protect. It's like this is me. This is me, right? There's just such magic, such medicine in group containers, and singing too.

Osha Rose, Host 18:48

I've I love your voice. You had mentioned mine, but I love that there's song in in your circles, but also beyond that, too, right?

Motherhood And Work Without Separation

Raquel DaRowe 18:55

Yes, so that, you know, we bring in singing, we bring in movement, yeah. And that for me, you know, movement dancing. Ever since I was younger, I you know, I both of my parents, my whole family, they were born in Portugal. And so we were always like very much immersed in the culture. And so dance for me was just a way that I expressed myself because when I was younger, I really like shut down my voice or just did not feel safe to be myself and safe to be heard and safe to be seen. And so dance for me, I always felt like free. And now singing is such medicine for me because um, yeah, I just allow myself, it's not to sing to perform, it's to sing, you know, to enjoy, it's to sing to connect, it's sing to um express, right? It's sing to alchemize pain and suffering into art, you know?

Osha Rose, Host 19:50

And so and I love that your daughter's in your arms. It's like this, she's part of all of this, right? This is her childhood coming with you and being part of this. For sure.

Raquel DaRowe 20:00

Yeah, she's she came to the last women's gathering with me. And so we did, yeah, song circles, grief circles, all different types of gatherings, and she was there for all of it. Witnessed women naked, you know, us just being like ourselves 100%, right? And it's just yeah, it's so important in my mind to immerse children in all of it, yeah, and not look at it. And it was something, you know, that was something I I did just have some like trouble integrating, right? Of like being a mom and also work. Like I did look at them as two separate things. And now that I've, you know, with wonder and curiosity of how can I really integrate that, right? How can I really not look at like my how I support and how I'm of service, look at that separately as you know, being a mom, right? And so, and for me, it is a little tricky because yeah, I have some confidential private one-on-one time, right? That I that is important to set aside, but there's also administrative stuff and other things that I can make time for with her, you know, and she can come to my office and play and do crafts while I, you know, just yeah, share about your super blueing.

Osha Rose, Host 21:17

Exactly.

Raquel DaRowe 21:18

Yeah, so that has really helped create even more freedom for me, you know, of like not looking separate. When I think back to my childhood, like I spent so much time at my parents' office. It's just for me part of the journey of like, how can I integrate it?

Osha Rose, Host 21:36

Yeah, yeah. What is this belief that I have? I think that, yeah, that's a perfect example of checking in because it's like she's here in my arm, she's here in my office. How could this not be true?

Raquel DaRowe 21:47

Yeah, that I that I can make it work, you know.

Getting Unstuck With Wonder Questions

Osha Rose, Host 21:50

Yes. And I have experienced that a lot too recently, just that comparison in my mind of what it was supposed to be like in corporate work where it wasn't professional to have your child involved. Or I mean, even the first season of this podcast, she's you can hear her in the background and it's all good because that was what I was talking about, how to calm the nervous system when your child's cry is, you know, turning it on to the spider-flight mode, you know, what do we do as um it's it's real life, right?

Raquel DaRowe 22:20

Because it's like for me, what I found is you can do all the work. Like I can, you know, even with like helping bring awareness to blind spots, it's one thing to have that awareness. The work is the practice, the work is when life happens, can I stay calm? Can I, you know, stay grounded? You know, it's like it's actually like all of these instances and circumstances integrating it and practicing.

Osha Rose, Host 22:46

So for you, like, is it the in those moments now when you still are checking in, you're growing, you're you're expanding, your world is still shifting. It sounds like you know, you're you're still exploring, you know, and discovering. Are there still moments of checking in? And um, like how do you do it? Like for somebody who feels stuck on autopilot and they don't want to get what's maybe one first small step they could take that's an example of something you still do, or whichever is more appropriate. appropriate to share, but like how how does yourself feel stuck again or more.

Raquel DaRowe 23:19

Yeah, totally. It's um for me, you know, what like when I say bring awareness to blind spots, it's like bringing awareness to again like like the lens in which we view ourselves. So it's so it is like for me one of the the massive ones is it's not safe to be me. Right. And that was that was huge when that came to my awareness. And that was I I did work with Peter Crohn. I I coached with him one-on-one. Well it was in a group container but he coached me one on one and he helped bring awareness to it's not safe to be me. Right. And so what I would say is like in I obviously knew the impact you know of that. That was like an example of like the root the genesis right if you find that there's just like you know stuckness that's typically like you know an inaction like just I don't know how to move forward. So it's like I'm not gonna do anything. It's and then it's just like asking who do I have to be or who am I being in order to be experiencing these results in my life. It's just a a process of curiosity and wonder you know is it um it's all up to me is it you know it's it's there is a you know a certain process but it's also just like yeah like what lens what perspective must I be looking through in order to create like this reality or the results that I'm experiencing.

Osha Rose, Host 24:52

Yeah asking yourself like how how am I creating this right now? Like how am I creating the sense of stuckness?

Raquel DaRowe 24:59

Totally and it's also what's so important is not from a lens of blame shame or guilt. It's truly from a lens of wonder and curiosity right because you know so the energetics is just so important. The state in which you are in and asking these questions are so important because the thing is is there's nothing wrong with us.

Osha Rose, Host 25:19

There's nothing any of us right and a lot of times we're doing that because hello I get like burst into tears like some of the things you're saying it's just like there's nothing wrong with us.

Raquel DaRowe 25:30

Yeah there's nothing wrong with us right and and for me that was like again a huge like I just that was a lens that was a perspective of like you know searching needing to fix and find it out because there was something wrong with me. And many of us if not like yeah a majority like have some sort of similar lens or perspective right that energetically it it impacts us. Yeah just sinking into that and just getting into more of a curiosity wonder state. It could be through breath work it could be through doing maybe yoga or some stretching and movement but any way you can really get into this more calm relaxed state right like a walk in nature for me it's like being totally singing dancing anyway like for me being out in nature is just so incredibly meditative and um calming it really is like balm for my nervous system. And so yeah so getting into that state and you know asking these wonder questions like oh I wonder you know again in curiosity of um how is like trying to connect the dots of like how must I be looking at something in order for it to be contributing to the thoughts I'm thinking how I'm feeling how I'm behaving or not behaving and then contributing to this the stuckness that is like what I'm experiencing.

Poem From The Turning Point

Osha Rose, Host 26:56

And what I'm hearing too is the answers will come. It's it's asking yourself the question but in that state of calm finding those those bombs for the nervous system I love that like the place in nature that just helps you relax so you can hear yourself answer that from a place of love and not shame or that you aren't aware of this answer already and you know just being open enough to listen because I wholeheartedly believe that like the answers are within it's just trusting that um sense of that you know and believing and and then listening that is it girl like we have all the answers within and that's why I just call myself a guide because I just hold that space and ask like the just powerful questions in order for these answers to come through.

Ego Death And Real Intimacy

Raquel DaRowe 27:45

Like it's not me telling anyone it's me just holding the space and asking really powerful questions in order for whoever I'm supporting to have these insights come through. With song with with spoken word and you have that that poem I would love to hear too these are these are the the parts that I feel also I mean you can say guide and I agree with that term but there's there's you you know there's your essence there's the the space that only Raquel can create I would love to hear the poem yeah okay um so yeah so this is a poem that came through that really describes talks about that moment back when I was 29 years old of like just being helpless hopeless what do I do you know and just like stuck I was like very stuck. And so it goes like this how can I be so unfulfilled I thought I'm doing what I'm told and doing my very best walking chartered paths towards this illusion of success while marking checkboxes towards his and hers esteem isn't it this way to living the American dream I went the college route then a successful title to boot how significant I must be engaged to be married a mortgage to be carried all wrapped in a pretty bow. Emptiness was inside that box that I would never let show if I have everything I thought I could want then why and how am I so blue? There must be something wrong with me a very subtle clue. And so after many nights feeling helpless hopeless and in despair I heard a message that brought some spaciousness and an answer to a prayer I have a choice were the profound words I heard. And not only did I hear those words every cell in my body felt them too that brought about massive relief from this full body proof you see I was living in a world where I don't have a say I should do this I must do that I have to swer the way a paradigm shift to have a choice and the ability to respond was the key to the prison I had locked myself in with my words as my want after revealing this blind spot my life shifted as a result from seeing through new eyes and so rather than playing out this lie it was time to let I don't have a choice burn to ashes and die.

Osha Rose, Host 30:33

Yes what is that poem called does it have a name let's see burn to ashes of the ego that was another huge profound shift for me was around like death of the ego and when I say death of the ego I truly see especially after my mother's um her soul leaving her body death like in a completely different way I truly see it as like the you know a new beginning right it's a just a transformation transmutation of energy right it is a portal into uh a different form right and so for me when I say you know and what came through is like embrace the death of the ego it's like allow it to integrate allow it to change form and shape the visual I got was like get the ego out of the front seat and like back you know not let it be the driver anymore and like in the back seat. You know and so it's very much like the energetics of that like not death it's bad you know you shouldn't have it it's like we're human we have egos and it's just about um embracing it and working with it and not letting it like overpower and overrun because Mila's asking for something. It comes to the death of the ego and like seeing you holding your beautiful child and knowing that you didn't marry the first man was that part of that opening and and seeing this this new life and this new human that ended up becoming your the husband you do have today and was that kind of the foundation as you were building and letting go of that old that second agency job like just to kind of bring the story yeah for sure I mean he I was still very much um in the world of it's not safe to be me.

Raquel DaRowe 32:25

You know when I met my husband and I was very um still you know it was this is all unconscious looking a certain way being a certain way in meeting him he was the first person that truly like cracked me open and and it was the first time that I felt true like intimacy but meaning like deep connection you know of like allowing someone in and truly you know seeing me he had shared his struggles with stuttering it was you know within a couple months us being together and I was like wait like you do this in relationships like you share like it was so foreign to legit it was so foreign to me that you actually like share these certain things with people especially like when you're dating it literally cracked me open and I felt so connected to him it that was just became the foundation of our relationship of just being like real raw open honest that even helped him not stutter he had his own judgment of himself for sure sharing with you in that beautiful yeah for sure. I mean it's not a he's done so much work on himself that it's not even an issue in his life anymore. And yeah that's like a you know just a a miracle and a journey in itself of that full self-acceptance and not identifying with the stuttering right and that's like yes goodness I could girl I could go on for like literally hours about that. But essentially the only point that I want to bring to that is the importance of not identifying with like our disease not identifying with like you know if we like happen to have some like in speech impediment that like I am a stutterer or like I am an alcoholic right I just I do not agree with like identifying with these certain things because then they become a part of who you are when I just don't believe that is helpful personally.

Osha Rose, Host 34:20

We are unboxable.

Raquel DaRowe 34:23

Yeah we are just yeah we are limitless we are expansive to identify with certain things in that way I just feel like it's very limiting it does constrain our our capacity. Yeah I mean he really helped crack me open and for me you know I looked at it as like vulnerability but now authenticity and vulnerability I look at completely separately like because vulnerability to me was more of like I thought there was something wrong with me and like you know just that energetics of like oh I'm sharing something that like I really want you know yeah and it's like no hell no and so for me now it's just like yeah I just speak openly freely share because I'm just being me I'm just authentic and not from that space of like there's something wrong or I you know like oh this is vulnerable because I don't want people to know this about me or like I'm ashamed about it or I am guilty about it. Right.

Osha Rose, Host 35:17

Now you have women's circle supporting this all makes beautiful sense of I just I believe we are called to do the work that's in our soul that's in our mission and and the experiences we go through in life are part of what give us what we have to offer in those spaces.

Raquel DaRowe 35:36

A hundred percent I always say that I teach what I most need to learn. Right? It's like my messages is what like I most needed to learn in my life.

Osha Rose, Host 35:47

One other thing that you had mentioned you wanted to chat about um was perhaps yeah let me just finish up here the example of like when I truly felt my capacity to shift yeah don't go into that because that's I love to hear that very much related where I'm at right now in my life is like okay I'm capacity building right now like I'm I'm where I wanted to be and now it's like ooh I gotta hold this totally everything I've created is here yes it's so it's massive. Hello hello yep you wanted to talk to Aura?

Capacity Shift And Synchronicity

Raquel DaRowe 36:23

Okay hold on it's for you honey well then I can't do it with my the banana phone do you want to take this call or should I tell him you're busy nope sorry she's do you want to go get your banana phone should you call you back okay I told him you'll call him back to when I did the mastermind with Peter Crone and I got coached it was like the first session they helped bring to awareness just my sort of world that I was living in where it's not safe to be me. And that was about a little over a year ago and I realized that like safety was a huge sort of you know like yeah sort of part of like um what I like part of my journey to work through really um but I hadn't realized there was just something about the way he held space and I tend to intellectualize a lot and not truly allow myself to to like feel it's definitely just yeah just something I I usually am like very mindful of of like rather than intellectualizing and like being like logical of like really truly feeling something and the impact and that's also what I really help people do because you know rather than for me I found that I was like spiritual bypassing a little bit you know embracing my human experience and the true like terror and how much like fear and so feeling into that allowing into it right and when he brought this to my awareness I was like wow like yes and truly like holding space for that little girl like my terrified scared just yeah what that was like you know and really um being with these parts of myself that I abandoned for so long that I um you know again intellectualized like oh I'm 44 years old like I should be over that you know just like these things that we we do right um and so that was the first time when that came to my awareness of this beautiful process of having just so much love and compassion and like going to the depths of feeling the terror and really truly understanding what the younger me went through and how all of these like stories and you know these things that I made up were created. And and so before that getting in front of a group to like speak not so much like the women's circles but more so just like even when I was in advertising like getting up in front of a group I'd do it but the amount of energy it took and like preparing you know it was just exhausting exhausting right and I it's like sometimes I would just black out with so much fear that it was just not enjoyable.

Osha Rose, Host 39:19

Yeah enjoyable and so within the last year really like going through the journey of you know increasing my capacity to truly like feel safe to be seen her express like in my full authenticity you know like who I am video with you with one of your clients she's an influencer Sky Cowan's like that you that video it was you it was totally you so calm so grounded so centered I I actually watch it because it inspires me like the way you showed do the RTT work just what what you're doing in that state like I've never seen it done but yes I felt you in your authentic self.

Raquel DaRowe 39:59

I mean did you feel like that was an example of it for sure maybe you're not no it didn't and the thing is is I can sort of explain like the cascade leading up to that because I was um signed up for a talk at Common Crow. I prepared a presentation and I didn't obsess over it right and and that morning when I was getting ready for the presentation it was almost like I was anticipating anxiety and like okay like what this is so different than my normal being right and I prepared a talk that I was really excited about. Yes so um I was about to give this talk and I just found that my beingness my energy everything about you know just the the thoughts the feelings yes everything had shifted and in that moment I like began to pray because I noticed how significant this was and so I began to pray and I was like Divine creator please use me as a channel to serve like I felt my capacity shift I was like I'm ready like I am ready and that is when I got that text message from Sky Right what's so amazing is she saw me the way that like I hadn't seen myself yet right and it's like it was again the universe like okay I was asking like finally not finally it because it happened in perfect timing my capacity to hold for what I was asking for you know aligned with like what I was yeah asking the universe for there's no coincidence that she texted me in that moment right right of quantum entanglement right there is no time she you did this all at once and so I was like oh I forgot to silence my phone I wonder who that was oh it was literally in that moment where you were praying it buzz that like echo but you didn't look until after oh I it was in that moment everything okay it's everything so powerful support you if you're willing and open to be supported okay and ask it's like that is for me I want to say amen I'm like not to but to the source this divine this understanding that that is it ask and you shall receive it is already given yes you know after just like soaking in just this like significance of this moment feeling my capacity completely had shifted so then when I had looked at my phone it was Sky and she had reached out she had you know said I'm home I would love to work with you know essentially it was that like I want to work with you again this time I want to document it was really powerful I want to do an interview to really like understand how did that happen that we did that work and then I received the check for $5,000. Like what just happened totally it was it's her capacity shifted right to be able to hold and receive that her capacity has shifted since then too since with you for sure absolutely yes and so that's what's just so powerful. We all have blind spots including myself through a you know a different energetic frequency of like just wanting to know myself so deeply and intimately and and alchemize and transmute any sort of um you know just darkness or just these lies that have been in my psyche and my consciousness you know there's gold there's gold in that understanding exactly and that's what it is and so that is why I'm like I have found my thing it is just like it is I am so lit up and I learn so much from each person that I work with. It's like as their capacity increases I can feel mine. You know it is just so freeing and it is so it's like I feel so blessed to be able to support people in the way that I do getting better and better.

How To Connect And Support

Osha Rose, Host 43:58

I feel that way with what happened for me when you invited me to do the full moon circles with you on the beach. I almost didn't say yes right away there was just something in me that was like am I ready for this but then this other voice was like oh chat dancing on the beach you love this that's what you do all the time she's inviting you to do this with a bunch of people say yes like there was just this voice like you like yes was the only answer. And since then so much has shifted so I'm grateful to you for choosing to have a choice making those steps continuously doing the work that is joyful because it's the work to understand you. It's so beautiful that's human you've brought into this world because of choices you've made that's how to see you and my daughter this whole life is unfolding in ways that I could never have imagined you know I I imagine things and and with the experience and the way I feel I just it's my heart is so full. So thank you thank you so much Raquel this has been so wonderful and enlightening and inspiring and so powerful.

Raquel DaRowe 45:00

Yeah and I just wanted to say thank you and just send so much appreciation and gratitude to you. You know it's there's a a reason why I had asked you to do the full moon dance party right it's just you radiate this Joy, and you know, just your frequency is just pure love and joy and fun and excitement, right? And so I totally see that within you, and that is a superpower of yours, and it's really contagious. And so I just want to honor and acknowledge you for that. How your presence is just so contagious.

Osha Rose, Host 45:36

Thank you. And so, you know, if any of you are called to go deeper and you want to connect with Raquel, you can go to her website, RaquelDaro.com. And if you're local, you can enjoy some of these fun events. And I just I hope today's conversation inspires you too to just pause, reflect, take even one small step towards living in alignment with your truth so that you can experience a super bloom too. And so thank you all for tuning in. If you loved this episode, please share it with a friend, leave a review. It helps other people find these conversations. And so until next time, just keep listening to your inner wisdom and walking that path towards your most authentic self. Thank you again. Thank you. Yes, yes, we did it. Woohoo!