Let's Talk About Love, Sex & Infidelity
Todd Creager is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship coach with over 30 years of experience helping couples build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
In this podcast, Todd talks openly about love, sex, and infidelity with married and long-term couples who want real answers. Drawing from decades in practice, he shares practical advice, relatable stories, and honest guidance to help you work through challenges and create the relationship you actually want.
Whether you're dealing with communication breakdowns, intimacy issues, trust after infidelity, or just want to reconnect with your partner, Todd's warm, no-nonsense approach gives you tools you can use right away.
Episodes
268 episodes
#269 | Why Willpower Fails in Sex and Intimacy — And What Actually Helps
What if the part of you that shuts down sexually — or the part that keeps reaching for porn — isn't a character flaw? What if it's trying to protect you?In this solo episode, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Todd Creager explains w...
#268 | Why Betrayal Feels Like a Life-or-Death Trauma — and What's Really Happening Inside You
If you've discovered a partner's affair and wondered why the pain feels like it might actually kill you, you're not overreacting. In this episode, Todd explains exactly why betrayal trauma hits so deep — and what healing actually looks like.
#267 | Why You Keep Having the Same Fight — And How to Finally Stop
Do you and your partner keep circling the same argument, no matter how many times you've tried to resolve it? The problem might not be what either of you is saying — it might be who is actually doing the talking.In this solo epi...
#266 | The Civil War of Betrayal: Why You Love Them and Want to Leave at the Same Time
After discovering a partner's affair, many people ask the same question: Am I going crazy? You love this person deeply — and part of you wants to walk out the door. That contradiction isn't a sign something is wrong with yo...
#265 | The Venus Fly Trap: Love, Borderline Personality Disorder, and the Relationships That Change You
What draws someone back to a relationship they know is hurting them — and what does it take to finally walk away?In this episode, Todd sits down with author and spiritual counselor Stephen Paul Edwards, whose memoir The Venus Fly Tra...
#264 | Is It Insecurity—Or Is It Manipulation? How to Tell the Difference in Your Relationship
What if the "insecurity" you've been working so hard to reassure isn't insecurity at all?In this solo episode, Todd Creager—a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 30 years of experience—walks you through one of the most confu...
#263 | Why You Cannot Move On After Being Lied To: Cognitive Dissonance Explained
You know they lied. You've seen the evidence. So why can't you just move on?In this episode, Todd addresses one of the most painful experiences in relationships: loving someone who has betrayed your trust through infidelity or other seri...
#262 | Trust Your Gut: Recognizing Gaslighting in Your Relationship
Have you ever felt like something's off in your relationship, but your partner keeps telling you you're the problem? That knot in your stomach, that nagging sense that things aren't right—what if it's not your imagination?In this episode...
#261 | When Cheating Meets Denial: How Gaslighting Protects Infidelity
Have you noticed your partner acting differently but they tell you you're imagining things? You might be dealing with something more than just infidelity.In this episode, Todd talks about what happens when someone who's cheated uses gasl...
#260 | When Shame Makes You Disappear: How to Stay Present During Conflict
What happens when you shut down during a fight with your partner—when your chest tightens, your voice vanishes, and you feel small like a scolded child?Todd explains why some people collapse during conflict while others lash out. It's no...
#259 | Why Silent Punishment Hurts Your Partner and How to Repair Without Words
What happens when the person you love most goes quiet—not yelling, not fighting, just... gone?In this episode, Todd Creager addresses one of the most painful patterns in relationships: silent punishment. It's not always intentional. You'...
#258 | When Your Body Shuts Down During a Fight: Understanding the Freeze Response
What happens when you freeze up during a difficult conversation with your partner—when your mind goes blank, your voice disappears, and you can't find the words? Todd explains why shutting down isn't a weakness. It's your nervous system trying ...
#257 | Why Defending Yourself Pushes Your Partner Away (And What to Do Instead)"
Does every conversation with your partner turn into a back-and-forth where nobody feels heard? You're not alone—and you're probably not doing anything wrong. You just care deeply about being understood.In this episode, Todd breaks down w...
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256 | The Need to Be Right is Ruining Your Relationship
In this episode, relationship expert Todd Creager shares the real story of Sam and Barbara—a couple who came to him with "communication problems." But what they actually had was something deeper: a years-long Cold War fueled by the need to be r...
#255 | Why Bickering Becomes Your Default (And How to Break the Cycle)
Here's a podcast episode description optimized for podcast platforms and Todd's brand voice:Episode Title: How to Stop Bickering: The Real Problem Isn't CommunicationShort Description (for podcast apps that limit charact...
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#254 | How to Rebuild a New Identity After Cheating on Your Partner
In this revealing episode, relationship expert Todd Creager tackles the profound identity crisis that occurs when infidelity is discovered. If you've betrayed your partner, you're not just facing relationship damage—you're confronting fundament...
#253 | Why Did I Cheat? Understanding the Real Reasons Behind Infidelity (And How to Stop)
If you've been unfaithful to your partner, you're probably drowning in one question: "Why did I do this?" And if you're the betrayed partner, you desperately need to understand: "How could they do this to me?"In this episode, I'm talking...
#252 | What Kind of Therapy Helps You Heal Infidelity?
In today's episode, I'm diving deep into one of the most important questions I get: when there's been a discovery of infidelity, when do we need therapy? What kind of therapy? What makes sense?I'll be blunt with you - I think you always ...
#251 | Do I Need to Separate to Have Clarity After Infidelity?
One of the most common questions I get from betrayed partners: "Todd, do I need to separate from my partner to get clarity? Do I need to separate to have self-dignity?" And I completely understand why people ask this.When you discover in...
# 250 | What Boundaries Are Needed After Discovering Infidelity?
After you discover infidelity, everything changes. The sacred boundary around your couple has been ruptured by secrets, and now you need to rebuild it from the ground up. But what does that actually look like day-to-day?In this episode, ...
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#249 | Can You Really Forgive After Infidelity? Finding Your Way Back to Peace
One of the most painful questions I get asked: "Todd, how do I forgive my partner after they cheated on me?" It feels like a monumental task when you've been so hurt, so tossed around, so dishonored by your partner's secrets.Here's what ...
#248 | When a Person Who Betrayed is Becoming Trustworthy: Key Signs to Watch For
In this episode infidelity expert Todd Creager discusses one of the hardest questions you're grappling with right now: How do you know when your partner who betrayed you is actually becoming safe again? You thought they were trustwo...
#247 | Understanding Multiple Infidelities: Essential Insights for the Betrayed Partner
What happens when your partner hasn't just cheated once, but multiple times? If you're dealing with serial infidelities, I know you're asking yourself some really painful questions: "What's wrong with me?" "Why do they keep cheating...
# 246 | How Old Do You Feel? The One Question That Saved My 41-Year Marriage
Have you ever noticed how your partner can turn you into a defensive teenager faster than anyone else on the planet?Hi everybody, this is Todd Creager. Picture this: You're a successful adult who handles boardroom meetings, manage...
245 | The Hidden Truth About Infidelity: Why It’s Never Really About You (And What It Actually Reveals)
Todd's sharing a conversation that could completely change how you think about betrayal and recovery.He recently interviewed Lora Cheadle, a betrayal recovery coach and attorney who discovered her husband's 15-year affair. What drew him ...
