#7 Add+in: Personal Growth with Kasey

Kasey (Sister #1) and I map out her own personal quest for growth in her career!

Growth can be scary! We hold onto a lot of self-doubt and fear of imperfection.  We are misguided by others' opinions on what THEY think you need to do! What do YOU think you need to do?

LET THAT GO!

Kasey and I will relate to you, give advice to you, and cheerlead you along the way of this episode!

Personal growth can mean different things to different people. What do you want to grow? Your health, your career, your creativity, your social life?

Learn to ask yourself what you want and to trust in your self-knowing!

Also: shout out to Stay-at-Home moms and the complex navigating of when to bring YOU back into the growth equation.

1:02 Personal Growth

1:39 "What do I want to grow?" exercise

2:05 3 Tips on personal growth

2:50 Mapping out career growth with Kasey

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Chapters

• 1:02 Personal Growth
• 1:39 "What do I want to grow?" exercise
• 2:05 3 Tips on personal growth
• 2:50 Mapping out career growth with Kasey

Transcript

[00:11] Speaker A: Hey, guys, this is Jami on the Keep Them Healthy podcast highlighting personal growth in the ad and series of this week. It is my pleasure to tell you that I do have a sister on board today, and we will, in real time, indulge in her quest for personal growth in the career department. Before we get started, I just want to thank you guys for your support during this growth of mine in pursuing my passions. And also, please check on Instagram for content and updates and announcements at KeepemHealthywithJami. Or you can check out my website. Keepemhealthywithjami.com Gosh. Personal growth. All right. We can go on in so many different directions. You can grow your career, your health, your social life, your creativity. So let's just take a second. I want to urge you to do this for me and for yourself. Ask yourself in this moment, what do I want to grow? And just listen. What bubbles up? Acknowledge yourself knowing and accept your answer, even if it's unexpected. I encourage you to do this type of self questioning often because guess what? You're going to be surprised at how smart you are and how much you do know, what you need and what you want. We just don't take the time to ask ourselves. So a couple of points I want To make about personal growth before we.

[01:59] Speaker A: Go to talking with Casey, which you're going to love. Who doesn't love Casey? Number one, growth is a journey. It's not a destination. We evolve constantly. Number two, with growth, you learn by experience, not by bouncing thoughts in your brain. And number three, honor your actual needs. Honor where you are at. Honor what your body is telling you. We need to listen to ourselves and what we need, not what other people think we need. So without further ado, let's get to Casey. I hope you enjoy.

[02:49] Speaker B: Okay, so here we are in real time with I have the luxury of a sister who is in a moment where she spent the past seven years giving all of her mindbodyfold to her beautiful child. And her child is now in first grade. So she just is going through the process of, okay, I have space, I have time, and I'm ready to get back to my career, What now? So if we can welcome, Kasey. Glad to have you back.

[03:17] Speaker C: It's great to be back.

[03:18] Speaker B: So Casey recently called me and said to me, like, jim, I have to now do a career. And I don't even know what I like, what am I going to do? What I really want to do is create a flower shop. She's going off in all different tangents. So, Case, do you want to, like, take a minute and just kind of give us your head space where you finally realize, like, **** people say eventually they go to school and you have all this time, you get back to you and so now here you are. Why don't you give us your headspace in that moment?

[03:47] Speaker A: ****.

[03:47] Speaker C: Here I am. Yes. So for the past seven years, actually four and a half, I was full time till Sadie was about a year and a half years old. And then I made the decision that I'm done watching my kid through a phone. I want to spend time, I want to raise my child the way I always wanted to raise my child. So fortunately, I had Bartending to fall back to and I had my degrees. They weren't leaving me. So I said, hey, I'll just get back to it when the time is right, when she goes in the first grade and she's fulltime, well, we're here. And it's definitely my brain has been rattled with all these different thoughts of what I want to do, what can I do? My degrees are in something that are very broad because I didn't want to put all my eggs in one basket. So now it's just really finding the niche and it's hard, especially right now, right before this interview, I'm going for jobs right now. So looking them up on LinkedIn and indeed, and for some reason, I just don't feel like I'm getting what I need out of it.

[04:59] Speaker A: Well, Case, do you feel like you.

[05:01] Speaker B: Have some pressure from people being like, what are you going to do? And to feel like you need to know the answer right now, and does that stress you out? Is that scary for you?

[05:13] Speaker A: Do you feel like you know what.

[05:14] Speaker B: You want to do?

[05:15] Speaker C: Management was something that I always enjoy doing, whether it was in my work life or my family life. I like being around people. I like getting to know who the people I'm working for or with and getting to create a family, so to speak.

[05:32] Speaker B: If you were to start the process today of what you're just going to write down, like, what do I care about? What do I value? This is even outside of career, what would you say?

[05:43] Speaker C: Family, people that I love and that I can depend and trust on or in. I like being a mother and being that confidant for people that I'm surrounding myself with every day.

[06:01] Speaker B: So that's got a really tough, though, when you are applying and seeing you're sending out these applications to people that you don't know yet. So in my head, I'm thinking, all right, so that's what you value. I feel like you would be the type to be more of an in person, like, who you know, or like, you show up and you know, people kind of fall in love with you and they connect with you and they see that, see your personality and your energy and that commitment that you have two people. Do you want to shed light on that? Like, do you think that that would maybe be a target, being like, just getting out there and showing up some more and like, reaching out to people that you know that are already good people.

[06:41] Speaker A: Like you said, the genre of management.

[06:44] Speaker B: Can go so many different directions, so maybe that would be something you would consider.

[06:49] Speaker C: Yeah, I have done it with my other positions and going into I'm currently working part time getting back into I stopped the bar about a year ago. Yeah, a year ago. Wow. Yeah, and I had about six months to get my feet wet and just going back into that interview process and it was really nerve wracking for me, especially when a lot of sales positions are out there right now, were the past year, and sales was always something that was terrifying to me. Meanwhile, I was doing it for the past 15 years and not knowing it. So I put myself in a position, and it was a sales position, and I did it. And I'm accomplishing it right now. And I enjoy my time, but I want to get more involved with the things that I feel are positive for me to do, like the management, even like time managing budget, going to meetings and putting all whoever's in the meeting, putting all our brains together and figuring out the best situation possible. And I don't have that right now, so I want to get back to that.

[08:03] Speaker B: So this kind of cuts to my favorite line in regards to personal growth is clarity through action, not clarity through thought. And this is what I'm going to give you credit that you didn't give yourself credit for, is that Casey is a person of action. She got her job by showing up to the place and being proactive in, like, saying, hey, I am interested in this line of work, and got connected with the people, and they wound up hiring her. Because when you get to know Casey, there's a single person that does not fall in love with her personality, and so there's that, number one. But when I talk about clarity through action versus clarity through thought, is that you now have this mindset of being like, okay, well, I started in this role, and here's what's working for me, here's what's not, and I'm not, and I can give more, and I can grow more. So I'm looking now for the roles that I could do, the time management, the budget. Like, I have more to give, and the only way you know that is because you started and you realize this isn't enough, and I can give more. And that is what's so important, like the fact that because of your actions, you now are ready to build up and grow. And so I think that's important to share with everybody because we get so caught up in our fears and our self doubt and insecurities about like, oh, well, I haven't worked in seven years, and what can I do? But guys like, what can you do? You have time managed, you have run your children's lives, you fed and kept well and manage a house and all the things that we just neglect. And we think that's just, like, what everybody does. But guess what? Not everybody does that, and not everybody does it well. And also you learn and you're growing and you're evolving as a person every single day. So give yourself that credit and also just start you just show up. And once you start showing up for yourself, that's how you learn about yourself. And that's how you can get from Casey flying thought being like, oh, I'm just going to, like, show up and see what's out there to be like, nope. You know what? Actually, I really have a lot more to offer and this is where I want to go because I know I can give more. And I think that anything we take away from this conversation is that every single person has those self doubts and those anxieties and fear that they're not worthy enough or they can't people aren't going to hire them because they haven't been working or that type of mindset. And that's only holding us back because guess what? Those people aren't saying that a lot of people are like, cool. Like, she's been micro or multi managing so many people in this household, and she's ready and she has energy to give and she's excited and she knows that she can do these things. And I just think that if we can let go for a second and, like, find freedom in the fact that we have value and we can do these things and we can put our mind to it, that's what we want. If you want to manage Casey, like, you can do that. And I'm so grateful that you know that you can do that because I think there's a lot of people out there that want to do these things. Just don't ever take that step because of fear and feel like you're not getting hired or whatever that means. What do you think on that?

[10:57] Speaker C: I think insecurities is what drives people, obviously in the workforce as well. But my piece of advice is know when you're ready to go full time. Know when you're ready to go part time or make the move, are you ready for it? Go through that thought process. Because even when I was doing my part time gig as a bartender, I was still putting myself out there, just, hey, maybe it could work out. Let's go for that interview and see where I'm at, where they're at, if we can come to an agreement and.

[11:31] Speaker B: Just get yourself out there again. I think you're right. And to say because here's one thing about home life and then starting your career. And whatnot is that? When you do decide you're like, I'm ready to start investing in what I want to do outside of the home, is that your responsibilities at home are still there. And so managing and knowing when you should be doing a parttime or fulltime, that's something that, again, clarity, interaction, you get started, and it's okay if you're like, whoa, that's too much and need to pull back. It's okay if you're like, wow, I'm thriving, and I think I might want more. Like, there's no shame in either situation. And I also want to honor stayathome moms. It is one of the toughest jobs. And cut to January and February. God bless us all, because those are the hardest months of being a stay at home mom. We got sick kids and we got cold weather and we got rain and all the things. But I also want to honor that, and I also want you guys to give yourself credit for the time and energy that you put in, because it is a value, even though it's something that we're just supposed to do.

[12:36] Speaker A: We are extraordinary.

[12:38] Speaker B: We can manage and take care of and be present for so many people and so many things. And so adding a career for yourself is not selfish, and it is something that if you're going to embark on it, is going to be a journey, and you're going to have to grow into it. And the only way you're going to know is if you get started. And also another thing, my final note in the mental situation of it is that if you're going to get started, you will not be perfect when you show up. So if you think that you're going to show up at that interview and you're going to be perfect for that job, then you're dead wrong, because you need to grow, and that takes time, and that takes steps, and that takes learning. And that is something that please do not hold yourself back from your growth because you think that you're not perfect enough to be where you're going. That's another thing that I just wanted to highlight.

[13:29] Speaker C: When you're a stay at home mom, the whole mom guilt comes into play, and especially when you're full time at it, because you're not going to be perfect. It's like a job interview. You're not going to be perfect every time. So make sure you still spend time for yourself. If it's not a job interview or going to say, oh, I just need to get out of the house and I need a job, no, that's not it.

[13:52] Speaker B: You just need to get out of.

[13:53] Speaker C: The house and go get your nails done or go take a run, I think it's important for you to spend the time where you're at in your life and what you can and what you're able to do and listen to yourself about that, because that's where I'm at. Yeah, it's go time. I'm getting back into my career, a career of who knows what, but in what I want to do and what I'm good at and what I have a passion for.

[14:22] Speaker A: I love that.

[14:23] Speaker B: I think it's okay not to know and I think it's okay to just get started and I also think it's okay to just sit and wait and think on it for a second before you're ready to make any changes. In case you're saying listen to yourself, honor where you're at and when you're ready to make the next step, don't do it alone either. Like find support, find friends that are going to encourage you. Make sure you surround yourself with people that can be cheerleaders and not be the ones questioning and being like, well, don't you feel bad about X, Y and Z? Well, who's going to do the laundry if you're going to be gone five days a week? And you know, those type of things. There's so much to this and I would love to continue this conversation and if you have any insight or something that you want to share that either like hit home or you're like, can we talk about this? When it comes to personal growth, specifically, casey and I talked about careers today, but personal growth can look so different. It's you want to be more creative, you want to be more social, you want to be healthier, there's so many different ways to look at it and you know, I hope that you took away just some confidence to be like, you know what, they can relate. They're like, oh, I was terrified, but I just had to put 1ft in front of the other and see where this leads even though I don't know, and just find grace in that too. So thank everybody and thanks Case, that was really good and I appreciate your insight and just your vulnerability and accepting that, like, you don't know, but you know that you will get it done.

[15:48] Speaker A: I feel like I walk around vulnerable.

[15:52] Speaker C: This is me, like it or leave it.

[15:55] Speaker A: Yeah.

[15:56] Speaker C: Hope you guys enjoyed this and yeah.

[16:00] Speaker A: Jamie will be back next Friday.

[16:02] Speaker C: Alright, see ya.